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Need help with a rude kid? Teachers share 9 ways to deal with kids who make rude comments.

Parents, if your kid is acting rude, take some tips from the pros.

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A girl sticking out her tongue.

Few things are more frightening for parents than raising a rude and entitled child. Younger kids just say whatever is on their minds, so you can change their behavior by letting them know that their words can hurt people’s feelings. But when kids get older and know better, many go through a phase where they challenge their parents and teachers by seeing how far they can push things by being inappropriate.

Once kids are intentionally rude, you’ve got to nip it in the bud before it becomes an ingrained part of their personality.

This is a challenging phase for parents because there are many ways to respond to a child's rude comments. You can ignore them and hope they stop because their behavior isn't getting them any attention. Or you can react and show them that being rude can get a rise out of someone.

A group of teachers has come to the aid of anyone who wants tips on handling their child’s rude behavior. A Redditor who is a teacher having difficulty dealing with rude students asked the teachers' subforum for help and they shared many creative and effective ways to handle the situation. “I like kids, but they can definitely be brutal. I’m rather sensitive, but I don’t know what to say to kids that insult others/me besides ‘that’s not nice’ or ‘that hurts people’s feelings,’” the teacher wrote in the post.

The responses showed that there’s more than one way to handle a rude child, whether it’s a witty comeback or digging down deep and talking with the child about the root cause of their anger.



Here are 9 ways teachers say they deal with kids acting rude.

How do I stop my kid from being rude?

1. Quick comebacks

"I have kids of my own so I have years of experience either with great comebacks or just agreeing with them. I had a student tell me I’m annoying. I told him that I guess he better hurry up and finish what he was doing so I could stop annoying him. I had one tell me I was fat and I replied all the better to squish him with."

"So my first year teaching... One day, I wore an empire waist shirt that I loved. And this asshole in the back of the classroom, who's been a jerk all period, goes, 'Yo, Miss! Are you pregnant?' To which I turned around and replied, 'No I'm just fat. Can we please move on now?' He never gave me problems after that. (I did throw out that shirt, tho.)"

"I found the best way to deal with rude students is to evenly inform them exactly how their behavior comes across, and ask them if that was their intention. They're usually too surprised you aren't being reactionary to lie."



2. Explain why

"I had a little one (1st grade) poke my stomach and ask if I was pregnant. My aid gasped and I chuckled. I told him I was not pregnant and, while it did not hurt my feelings, that asking that question could hurt some people. When he asked why I told him it makes people feel like you think they are fat and some people can’t have babies and it really hurts them because they want babies but can’t have them. He hugged me and said sorry. He then told his friends not to ask people if they were pregnant because it hurts them. I have found calmly telling children why it is rude helps. This doesn’t work as well with older kids though."

"Depending on what is being said, I usually tell them what they said is rude and that’s not how we talk to people. So if they say you’re fat, you say it’s not kind to comment on someone’s weight or size, don’t do it again. It’s ok to tell them they’re being rude and to use their manners. Kids of all ages are capable of understanding that."

3. Consequences

"Tell them they are free to say whatever they want, but they should recognize that there are consequences as well. For example, people won't want to be friends with someone who is rude!"

4. Think sheet

"I don’t know what the consequence structure at your school is but for my school we would typically do a 'think sheet' if something like that happens. Kid has to write about how what they did was wrong and how to not do it again. Parent gets an email home and the sheet gets added to the kid’s file."



5. Get to know them

"If rude behavior is something that you've been dealing with all year, I'd also make a point to focus on the kids who are the worst at having bad attitudes and getting to know them better. Try spending a few minutes a day with them and get to know them, once they realize you care about them, they may be more inclined to be polite."

How to respond to a rude child

6. Are you trying to hurt me?

"Honesty is the best way. 'That’s a hurtful thing to say. Are you trying to hurt me right now?' But not taking things personally from kids is like, a requirement for the job."

I have success with the 'how do you think that makes (person) feel?' Or the 'can you find a different way of saying that that doesn’t have hurtful language.' Of the student is more recalcitrant, a simple 'try again.' with direct eye contact can be effective. If all that fails, then leave the scene with a statement like 'that’s unfortunate you felt the need to use that kind of hurtful language. I’d love to keep talking with you, but i can’t if you’re going to talk to me that way..' walk away or start talking to another student."

7. Three questions

"Remind them quite calmly that they’re speaking to a human being and that it’s worth considering what they’re about to say by asking themselves three questions: 1. Is it true? 2. Is it necessary? 3. Is it nice? No to any of those questions = don’t say it.
Ignore it."

"I'm not sure about kids that young, but something I do a lot with middle and high schoolers is just say ok and move on (if it’s towards me, towards other kids requires more attention. I’ve found that most of the time they are just looking for the reaction they get from it and by just saying ok and going back to whatever you were doing before then it really throws them off and suddenly they feel less ok about it. I’ve even had some kids get somewhat embarrassed because they were expecting the class to have a good laugh at my expense but instead they just looked like the jerk that insulted the teacher in front of the whole class."



8. Model your reaction

"I think that it's really important to model with kids. When a child insults you, it's an opportunity to show all the kids how to react to an insult. How would you like to see them react in that same situation?"

"Just an example, but you could stop the class and say 'Guys, eyes on me for a minute. I want to talk about something. Somebody just told me that I'm chubby and annoying. How do you think that made me feel? Right, that made me feel [how you felt]. Has something like that ever happened to you? How did you feel? What's a good way to respond? What can you do to make something like this better if you hurt someone's feelings?' There's a million ways to turn it into a teachable moment."

9. Examine their hurt

"Pull out the healing edge: leaning in 'Has someone hurt you and made it feel like you have to talk that way, or otherwise you'll get hurt again?' Because almost always that's exactly what has happened. And speaking aloud their wound in front of them will completely flip their world. Either they will stop messing with you because they don't want their hurt spoken aloud or you'll find them approaching you after class and maybe bursting into tears as they relate something that has been weighing on them heavily and you're the first person that has recognized their wound but not stabbed it further."

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'Wheel of Fortune' fans left shocked after contestant wins $50,000 solving impossible puzzle

“How in the world did you solve that last one?” asked host Ryan Seacrest.

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That was quite impressive.

Listen, while we all love a hilarious Wheel of Fortune fail, watching an epic win can be just as entertaining. And that’s exactly what recently happened on The Wheel when a contestant named Traci Demus-Gamble made a winning puzzle solve so out-of-nowhere that it made host Ryan Seacrest jokingly check her for a hidden earpiece.

In a clip posted to the show’s YouTube account Friday, Jan. 17, Demus-Gamble waved to her husband who was standing on the sidelines before going up to the stage for her next challenge: guess a four-word “phrase.”

Demus-Gamble wasn’t off to a great start, as only two of her given letters (“T” and “E”) made it to the board. And the odds didn’t improve much after Demus-Gamble, admittedly “nervous,” gave the letters “M,” “C,” “D,” and “O” and only two of those letters showed up once on the board.

“Again, not too much more, but who knows, you’ve had a lot of good luck tonight,” Seacrest said. “Maybe it’ll strike you.”

Then, all in under ten seconds (more like in 1.5 seconds), Demus-Gamble correctly guessed, “They go way back” like it was nothing.

Watch the incredible moment below:

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As the audience cheered, Seacrest playfully circled Demus-Gamble, as though searching for an earpiece that must have fed her the winning guess. Down in the comments, people were equally floored.

“Now THAT was an amazing solve.”

“Wow! That was impressive!”

“I couldn't solve that one to save my life, but Demus-Gamble got it like it was nothing.”

“There's only one way to describe this to me: 😦”

At the end of the clip, Seacrest opened the envelope to reveal that Demus-Gamble’s puzzle solve won her $50,000, earning her a total win of $78,650. Certainly not chump change.

As for her winning strategy—Demus-Gamble assured no cheating was involved. “I just dug deep," she told Seacrest. We’ll say.

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People's wrong answers to this 'easy' LSAT question are why public discourse is so hard

The basic reading comprehension and critical thinking question almost feels like a litmus test.

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LSAT questions start easy and get harder as the test progresses.

Public discourse can be great when it's done well, when everyone brings thoughtful, well-informed opinions to the table and puts forth cogent arguments backed up by evidence. We don't all have to agree on everything—differences in perspectives and priorities are important ingredients in a democratic society—but the quality of the actual arguments themselves matter.

Since the advent of social media, public discourse has not been so great, especially on the internet. The written nature of online discussions seems like it would lend itself to fewer misconceptions and better understanding, but it doesn't. People draw erroneous and illogical conclusions all the time, and it often feels like reading comprehension and critical thinking skills are hard to come by. According to an unintentional social experiment on X, there may be some truth to that.

An X user (@sarahpatt08) shared a photo of a question from the LSAT, the test people have to pass in order to be admitted to law school, and asked if people found the question easy or difficult. The instructions are partially cut off but appear to indicate that you are to choose the best answer based only on the information given, avoiding assumptions that are not directly supported by the passage.

The question reads:

"Physical education should teach people to pursue healthy, active lifestyles as they grow older. But the focus on competitive sports in most schools causes most of the less competitive students to turn away from sports. Having learned to think of themselves as unathletic, they do not exercise enough to stay healthy.

Which of one of the following is most strongly supported by the statements above, if they are true?

(A) Physical education should include noncompetitive activities.

(B) Competition causes most students to turn away from sports.

(C) People who are talented at competitive physical endeavors exercise regularly.

(D) The mental aspects of exercise are as important as the physical ones.

(E) Children should be taught the dangers of a sedentary lifestyle."

These kinds of reading comprehension and reasoning questions are common to tests like the LSAT and the SAT. One way to tackle them is to start eliminating the answers that are not directly supported by the text. Starting from the bottom:

(E) is not supported because the text doesn't say anything about a sedentary lifestyle actually being dangerous, and this answer doesn't include anything the passage is focused on (competitive sports turning kids who aren't competitive away from exercise).

(D) is not supported because while competitiveness could be considered a mental aspect of exercise, it's not always. And there's nothing in the text to support the idea that mental and physical aspects of exercise are equally important.

(C) is not supported because the text doesn't say anything about talent. Someone could be competitive and enjoy competitive sports but be totally untalented, and being talented at something doesn't necessarily mean you do it regularly.

(B) is not supported because there is no indication from the passage that most students (in general) aren't competitive, only that most of the less competitive students turn away from sports.

(A) is the answer most supported by the passage because the crux of the argument in the passage is that noncompetitive students are often turned off of physical education by the emphasis on sports in most schools. Therefore, the most logical conclusion is that having more noncompetitive activities would get more kids involved in physical education.

For some people, the correct answer was simple and obvious. For others, not so much. Some people made what they thought were strong arguments for (D). Others insisted it was (E). Not many said (C) but there were a handful on the (B) train. And those who knew the answer to be (A) were taken aback by how many people came to different conclusions.

And therein lies one answer to why our public discourse often feels like it can't get anywhere. Answering a reading comprehension and reasoning question like this correctly is easy for some people. Some think it's easy but then get the wrong answer, and some see multiple answers as equal contenders for "best." Everyone believes they're the ones thinking critically and using logic, but many people fail to recognize the assumptions they make when reading and the biases and unsupported ideas that slip into their reasoning.

The most supported answer based on the text is (A). Is that what you got?

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London man finds a mysterious egg, incubates it, and launches a Pixar-worthy journey of love

When Riyadh found an abandoned egg, he had no idea that it would change his life.

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When Riyadh found an egg, he had no idea how much it would change his life.

The story of Riyadh and Spike starts like the opening to a children's book: "One day, a man was walking along and spotted a lone egg where an egg should not have been…" And between that beginning and the story's mostly sweet ending is a beautiful journey of curiosity, care, and connection that has captivated people all over the world.

Irish author Riyadh Khalaf was out walking in Devon, England, when he came upon an egg. "We just found what we think is a duck egg," Riyadh says in a video showing the milky white egg sitting in a pile of dirt. "Just sitting here on its own. No nest. No other eggs."

Thinking there was no way it was going to survive on its own, Riyadh put the egg in a paper cup cushioned with a napkin and took it home to London, which entailed two car rides, a hotel stay, a train ride, a tube ride, and a bus ride. He said he used to breed chickens and pigeons, so he had some experience with birds. Knowing the egg could survive for a while in a dormant state, he ordered an incubator on Amazon, and the journey to see if the egg was viable began.

Even though it was "just an egg," Riyadh quickly became attached, and once it showed signs of life he took on the role of "duck dad." Every day, the egg showed a drastic change in development, and Riyadh's giddy joy at each new discovery—movement, a discernible eye, a beak outline—was palpable. He devoured information on ducks to learn as much as he could about the baby he was (hopefully) about to hatch and care for.

Finally, 28 days later, the shell of the egg began to crack. "I could see this very clear outline of the most gorgeous little round bill," Riyadh said—confirmation that it was, indeed, a duck as he had suspected. But duckling hatching is a process, and one they have to do it on their own. Ducklings instinctively know to turn the egg as it hatches so that the umbilical cord detaches, and the whole process can take up to 48 hours. Riyadh watched and monitored until he finally fell asleep, but at 4:51am, 29 hours after the egg had started to hatch, he awakened to the sound of tweets.

"There was just this little wet alien staring back at me," he said. "It was love at first sight."

Riyadh named his rescue duckling Spike. Once Spike was ready to leave the incubator, he moved into "Duckingham Palace," a setup with all of the things he would need to grow into a healthy, self-sufficient duck—including things that contribute to his mental health. (Apparently ducklings can die from poor mental health, which can happen when they don't have other ducks to interact with—who knew?)

"My son shall not only survive, but he shall thrive!" declared the proud papa.

Riyadh knew it would be impossible for Spike to not imprint on him somewhat, but he didn't want him to see him as his mother. Riyadh set up mirrors so that Spike could see another duckling (even though it was just himself) and used a surrogate stuffed duck to teach him how to do things like eat food with his beak. He used a duck whistle and hid his face from Spike while feeding him, and he played duck sounds on his computer to accustom Spike to the sounds of his species.

"It's just such a fulfilling process to watch a small being learn," said Riyadh.

As Spike grew, Riyadh took him to the park to get him accustomed to the outdoors and gave him opportunities to swim in a small bath. He learned to forage and do all the things a duck needs to do. Throughout, Riyadh made sure that Spike was getting the proper balanced nutrition he needed as well. Check this out:


After 89 days, the day finally came for Spike to leave Riyadh's care and be integrated into a community of his kind "to learn how to properly be a duck." A rehabilitation center welcomed him in and he joined a flock in an open-air facility where he would be able to choose whether to stay or to leave once he became accustomed to flying. Within a few weeks of being at the rehabilitation center, his signature mallard colors developed, marking his transition from adolescence. Spike has been thriving with his flock, and Riyadh was even able to share video of his first flight.

This is the where "And they all lived happily ever after" would be a fitting end to the story, but unfortunately, Spike and his fowl friends are living in trying times. The rehabilitation center was notified by the U.K. government in December of 2024 that the duck flock needed to be kept indoors for the time being to protect them from a bird flu outbreak and keep it from spreading.

Building an entire building for a flock of ducks is not a simple or cheap task, so Riyadh called on his community of "daunties" and "duncles" who had been following Spike's story to help with a fundraiser to build a "Duckingham Palace" for the whole flock. Riyadh's followers quickly raised over £11,000, which made a huge difference for the center's owners to be able to protect Spike and his friends.

All in all, Riyadh and Spike's story is a testament to what can happen when people genuinely care. If Riyadh had left that egg where it was, it may not have made it. If Spike hadn't survived and been moved to the rehab center, the ducks there would be in greater danger of the bird flu due to the costs of building an indoor shelter for them. Despite the ongoing bird flu threat, the story really does have a happy ending.

Thank to Riyadh for sharing Spike's journey with us. (You can follow Riyadh on Instagram here.)

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5th grader makes her dad proud by getting suspended from school for the best reason

“A good lesson in ‘do the right thing in spite of the consequences’”

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Dad couldn't be prouder of what his little girl did that got her suspended.

A dad shared a story about his daughter on Reddit that’s been getting some traction online. He shared that he got a “dreaded call” from his daughter’s school, telling her that she was suspended. When he found out why, he couldn’t be prouder.

“Some of my daughter's classmates were using Google translate to taunt another classmate that doesn't speak English, saying him and his family will be deported now. I won't go into details, but my daughter did just enough,” said the dad. “Needless to say, I'm so incredibly proud of her. She was the one who stood up and stopped it by the means she thought was right.”

Girl with "stop bullying" written on her handsThe girl did more than just write on her hands.Photo credit: Canva

The father shared that even the school didn’t seem to want to punish her daughter, but felt that they had to do so because of the school’s strict rules and “zero tolerance and all that.”

Other fathers threw in their two cents on the situation in the comments section:

“Good job raising a great daughter.”

“You take that star stand up citizen of a kid out for ice cream, a movie, and a giant tub of popcorn.”

“A good lesson in ‘do the right thing despite the consequences’.”

To that comment, the dad replied, “100%. And she took the "consequences" on the chin, too. I'm going to do my part to make sure she knows she's not in trouble. I'm taking the next 3 days off work, too. And we're going to live it up.”

The fellow dads continued to praise the father’s reaction and his daughter’s actions, offering suggestions for activities for the daughter’s three-day break from school.

Doing the right thing isn’t always easy and often has consequences that don’t benefit the “hero” of a situation. Sometimes the right thing is defending the harassed personally, like this young girl did for her classmate. Other times it’s to peacefully but firmly protest, much like in the Civil Rights movement and the “good trouble” that the late John Lewis described that often ended with protesters getting arrested.

Person offering their hand to lift someone upOffering your hand to help someone doesn't always come with a reward.Photo credit: Canva

However, doing the correct thing doesn’t always end with a loving dad rewarding you for your actions. The range of consequences for doing the right thing varies from suspension from classes for performing schoolyard justice to death sentences carried out to now-historical figures that we celebrate today.

Susan B. Anthony is celebrated as a person who fought against slavery and battled for women’s rights, including the right to vote, but was often scorned, ridiculed, and arrested for her “disruption.” In Nazi Germany, pastor Dietrich Bonhoeffer vocally protested anti-Semitism in his country and was executed for his part in a failed plot to assassinate Adolf Hitler. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was often vilified during his time for his actions to fight for Civil Rights, and was ultimately assassinated. Their actions weren’t rewarded, but they had a major impact for actual change while inspiring others to follow in their footsteps to do what is just.

Martin Luther King Jr. participating in a protestMLK got into a lot of trouble for doing the right thing.Photo credit: Wikimedia Commons

You don’t need to do big gestures like these people did to defend the weak and do what’s right. This young girl just saw something wrong and proceeded to do what action she felt was right to correct the wrongdoing. For you, your response to something that isn’t right depends on your resources and ability. If you’re a person with a specific set of skills, you can use your skills to help the victimized. For example, a contractor could assist people who have lost their home to a disaster or a lawyer can provide legal counsel to a person being unjustly imprisoned. If you’re financially fortunate, you can donate money and time to a foundation that’s actively fighting an injustice you see. If you’re neither of these things, you can still just step in to say, “Hey, stop!” whenever you see a form of bullying at school, work, or at home. You won't get rewarded, in fact you'll sacrifice money and time, along with other hassles. But it'll bring some good along with the trouble.

Essentially, be bold and fight for others like this little girl. You might not get three days worth of fun in the end, but it’ll make the world just a little bit better.

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Woman gives friend hilarious book of all the actors and shows she has mispronounced over the years

Salon Dion? No, it's Celine Dion.

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Celine Dion, Ludacris, and Alix Earle.

Do you have one of those friends who is “information adjacent” about many topics? Meaning that they come close to getting the name of an actor or TV show correct but fall short in the most hilarious way possible. Or, are you that person who can’t quite remember the name of a book, or you flub the occasional figure of speech?

If so, you’ll probably appreciate the super creative gift that TikTok user Kayla Foscarota, a 28-year-old teacher from Massachusetts, made for her friend Kellie. It’s an elegant-looking self-published book with all the names of famous people, movies, books, and TV shows that she has been mispronouncing over the years. Kayla even gave it a cover resembling the Apple Notes app, which is probably where she has been writing down all these mispronunciations over the years.

"For years, I've been writing down all of the things my friend Kellie confidently says, almost right but very wrong," Kayla opens the video.


The gift is a fantastic way of telling Kellie she loves her despite the fact that she has a pretty awful memory. The book features some epicly wrong pronunciations of celebrity names, such as “Lucifer” for Ludacris and “Salon Dione” for Celiene Dieon. Kellie also thought that model Alix Earl was “Earl Jones,” clearly, it was a mix-up with recently-deceased “Star Wars” star James Earl Jones.

The video received over 17 million views and even attracted the attention of Earle, who posted the most popular comment: “I will now be going by Earl Jones,” the Sports Illustrated model joked.

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THE LIST #funnyvideo #funnymoments #fyp #foryoupage #alixearle #hbomax #itendswithus #viraltiktok #fyppppppppppppppppppppppp #colleenhoover #ludacris #aubreyplaza #gameofthronestiktok #willferrell #sharpobjects @Alix Earle @HBO @Colleen Hoover @It Ends With Us @Celine Dion @Ludacris @Game of Thrones @Brooke Shields @WillFerrellOfficial

The video inspired a slew of commenters to share some of the funniest mispronunciations they’ve ever heard.

"Once, my mom said, 'I need to decompose,' when she meant decompress."

"This reminded me of when my brother referred to the Bermuda Triangle as the 'Bahama Pyramids.'"

"A friend of mine said backward therapy instead of reverse psychology."

"With my sis, 'Fix It Mike' = Wreck It Ralph."



"My bff once said, 'Ur making me unconscious' (self-conscious)."

"My sister is a master in this: she once referred to Stockholm Syndrome by naming it Helsinki Complex."

"An old coworker brought doughnuts to the office and said, 'I have perversions.' He meant provisions."

"My ex-boyfriend called fraternal twins nocturnal twins."

"Me when my cousin calls The Rock, The Brick."

"I work with a woman who very insistently calls Sydney Sweeney 'Sweeney Todd.'"



"My fiancé doesn’t let me live down that I forgot the word for ankles and called them 'foot wrists.'"

"My late grandmother thought it was Leonardo De Capuccino. May she rest in peace."

"My friend said white as a goat instead of white as a ghost."

Kayla, Kerrie, and millions on TikTok have had a great laugh over Kellie’s mispronunciations. But the video has an even deeper, sweeter side. There’s nothing more wonderful in a friend than someone who truly listens to you. Kayle took things a step further, and she not only listened to Kellie but took notes. Now, that’s true friendship.

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