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Here's an inside look at the viral skeletons video that brought joy to the Internet.

Remember those dancing, kissing skeletons that made us all smile? Here's what you didn't see.

We at Upworthy have been honored to support the "Love Has No Labels" campaign.

Their first video caught millions of people off-guard, but it left them with nothing but the good feels. With part two of the video, they're introducing us to the stars, who smile as they share their stories of true love. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

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There are two very profound messages behind all this cuteness.

The first one is fairly obvious. They say “love has no labels." I buy that 100%. True love isn't something we express with modifiers. And though we're all different and each of our relationships is unique, when we really feel love, we can all feel it with the same endless depth and intensity.


The second message might be a little harder to catch. Like love, it's not something we can really measure. It's an inner tide that pushes and pulls us to behave in certain ways. And like love, it's something that takes work. That something is called implicit bias.

"Implicit bias is the bias in judgment and/or behavior that results from subtle cognitive processes (e.g., implicit attitudes and implicit stereotypes) that often operate at a level below conscious awareness and without intentional control."
National Center for State Courts

They say it's what's on the inside that counts. But what's on the outside still matters.

Whether we realize it or not, our implicit biases cause us to judge others before we even have a chance to know them. We're constantly making prejudgments based on all of those traits — those labels — that, as this campaign so delightfully illustrates, have nothing to do with our capacity to love, be it race, religion, gender, age, disability, or anything else.


Via the Kirwan Institute

The real-world effects of implicit bias are bigger you may know.

It affects people's ability to make friends, to find jobs, or even to just go about their day in peace. And as we've come to learn, when implicit biases seep into areas such as policing and justice, things can get very sad and very ugly.

But don't feel guilty about implicit bias. We're all human, and no one is exempt.

However, if one of your living objectives is to be a "good" person — a kinder and more humane person — that's where the work comes in. Old habits may die hard, but ingrained, unconscious prejudice can be even more difficult to uproot.

This is arguably among the most important challenges for humanity to overcome. The better we get at identifying and addressing implicit biases — both as individuals and communities — the more we can focus on, well, love.

Want to get started now?

Take this quiz on the campaign website. With each response, you'll learn a little more about how implicit biases play out in real life and ways to avoid playing into the stereotypes.

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An emotional and strong Matt Diaz.


Matt Diaz has worked extremely hard to lose 270 pounds over the past six years.

But his proudest moment came in March 2015 when he decided to film himself with his shirt off to prove an important point about body positivity and self-love.

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Community

Man uses social media to teach others ASL so kids don't experience what he did as a child

Every child should be able to communicate in a way that works best for them.

Man teaches people ASL so no child experiences what he did

People start communicating from the moment they enter the world usually through cries, faces, grunts and squeals. Once infants move into the toddler phase the combine all of their previous communication skills with pointing and saying a few frequently used words like "milk," "mama," "dada" and "eat."

Children who are born without the ability to hear often still go through those same stages with the exception of their frequently used words being in sign language. But not all hearing parents know sign language, which can stunt the language skills of their non-hearing child. Ronnie McKenzie is an American Sign Language advocate that uses social media to teach others how to sign so deaf and nonverbal kids don't feel left out.

"But seriously i felt so isolated 50% of my life especially being outside of school i had NONE to sign ASL with. Imagine being restricted from your own language," McKenzie writes in his caption.

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Family

Wife says husband's last name is so awful she can't give it to her kids. Is she right?

"I totally get we can’t shield kids from everything, and I understand the whole family ties thing, but c’mon."

A wife pleads with her husband to change their child's name.

Even though it’s 2023 and schools are much more concerned with protecting children from bullying than in the past, parents still have to be aware that kids will be kids, and having a child with a funny name is bound to cause them trouble.

A mother on Reddit is concerned that her future children will have the unfortunate last name of “Butt,” so she asked people on the namenerds forum to help her convince her husband to name their child something different.

(Note: We’re assuming that the person who wrote the post is a woman because their husband is interested in perpetuating the family name, and if it were a same-sex relationship, a husband probably wouldn’t automatically make that assumption.)

"My husband’s last name is Butt. Can someone please help me illuminate to him why this last name is less than ideal,” she asked the forum. “I totally get we can’t shield kids from everything and I understand the whole family ties thing, but c'mon. Am I being unreasonable by suggesting our future kid either take my name, a hybrid, or a new one altogether?"

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Joy

Bus driver comes to the rescue for boy who didn't have an outfit for school's Pajamas Day

“It hurt me so bad…I wanted him to have a good day. No child should have to miss out on something as small as pajama day.”

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One thoughtful act can completely turn someone's day around.

On the morning just before Valentine’s Day, school bus driver Larry Farrish Jr. noticed something amiss with Levi, one of his first grade passengers, on route to Engelhard Elementary, part of Jefferson County Public School (JCPS) in Louisville, Kentucky.

On any other day, the boy would greet Farrish with a smile and a wave. But today, nothing. Levi sat down by himself, eyes downcast, no shining grin to be seen. Farrish knew something was up, and decided to inquire.

With a “face full of tears,” as described on the JCPS website, Levi told Farrish that today was “Pajama Day” at school, but he didn’t have any pajamas to wear for the special occasion.
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Memories of testing like this gets people fired up.

It doesn't take much to cause everyone on the internet to go a little crazy, so it's not completely surprising that an incorrect answer on a child's math test is the latest event to get people fired up.

The test in question asked kids to solve "5 x 3" using repeated addition. Under this method, the correct answer is "5 groups of 3," not "3 groups of 5." The question is typical of Common Core but has many questioning this type of standardized testing and how it affects learning.

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Joy

There are over 30 years between these amazing before-and-after photos.

"It's important for me for my photography to make people smile."

All photos by Chris Porsz/REX/Shutterstock.

Before and after photos separated by 30 years.


Chris Porsz was tired of studying sociology.

As a university student in the 1970s, he found the talk of economics and statistics completely mind-numbing. So instead, he says, he roamed the streets of his hometown of Peterborough, England, with a camera in hand, snapping pictures of the people he met and listening to their stories. To him, it was a far better way to understand the world.

He always looked for the most eccentric people he could find, anyone who stood out from the crowd. Sometimes he'd snap a single picture of that person and walk away. Other times he'd have lengthy conversations with these strangers.

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