You don't have to march in Pride to make a difference for LGBTQ people. Here's how.
You don't have to be at a Pride march to make a difference.
In June 1969, a group of New Yorkers decided they'd had enough.
Patrons of the Stonewall Inn, an LGBTQ bar in Greenwich Village, stood up to police officers who'd reportedly been repeatedly harassing and targeting them for their sexual orientations and gender identities. The demonstrations that ensued sparked the beginning of the modern LGBTQ civil rights movement.
The exterior of the Stonewall Inn in New York City. Photo by Stan Honda/AFP/Getty Images.
The Stonewall Inn riots inspired President Clinton to declare June "Gay and Lesbian Pride Month" in 1998. In 2009, President Obama expanded on the recognition, deeming it "Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Pride Month," as it remains today.
This June feels different though.
After years of having an ally in the White House, President Trump's administration — unchecked by a GOP Congress — is threatening to roll back rights for LGBTQ people. It's crucial we stand in solidarity.
If you can make it out to a Pride march in your area, excellent. But even if you can't (or just despise big crowds), you can still support the movement.
1. Help buy a bus ticket for a friend so they can go to the March for Equality in Washington, D.C.
LGBTQ Pride marches are happening in cities from coast to coast. But the most notable one this year will unfold in the nation's capital on June 11. The Equality March for Unity and Pride is mobilizing queer people and their allies in support of LGBTQ rights under a new administration that wants to take us backward.
You can do this anywhere, but if you happen to know someone in New York City who is interested in going but doesn't have the travel funds, you can buy them a bus ticket on Grindr's "Pride Ride" to D.C.
2. If you're visiting the East Coast this summer, treat yo'self to a scoop of big, gay ice cream.
There's nothing explicitly gay about the tasty treats at the Big Gay Ice Cream Shops in New York City and Philadelphia, of course. But the company, which started as a food truck in 2009 before expanding into storefronts, has been a proud supporter of the Ali Forney Center, a nonprofit that helps homeless LGBTQ youth.
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When you scream for (big, gay) ice cream, you're also helping the business raise awareness and resources for young people in need. And that's a big, gay win-win.
3. Snatch up one of these glorious Pride shirts in support of LGBTQ youth in need.
Through an initiative created by Represent, 100% of profits from these shirts will benefit The Trevor Project, which focuses on suicide prevention efforts among LGBTQ youth, as well as the NOH8 campaign, which utilizes social media platforms to promote equality.
4. Or, if you're a basketball fan, maybe these Pride shirts are more up your alley.
Photo courtesy of the NBA/WNBA.
The NBA and WNBA partnered with GLSEN, an organization helping to make our schools safer and more inclusive for LGBTQ students, to create Pride shirts for every pro team. A portion of the proceeds will benefit the nonprofit.
A critical component in ensuring classrooms are inclusive is recognizing the accomplishments of LGBTQ people throughout history.
5. Commit this month to reading just one Wikipedia entry a day on LGBTQ history and queer pioneers.
School curriculums often gloss over the history of, and challenges faced by, marginalized groups. The LGBTQ community is no different.
Lt. Dan Choi, who came out as gay in 2009 while serving in the armed forces, became a pioneer in ending the military's homophobic "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy. Photo by Mark Ralston/AFP/Getty Images.
Each day in June, take 10 minutes to read up on a famous LGBTQ figure or moment in history. Your teammates at the next trivia night will thank you for it.
6. Now that you're up on your queer history, email a local school or school district and ask that the students there are too.
Last year, California became the first state to mandate LGBTQ-inclusive curriculums in its history and social science requirements. As Vice reported, it may set off a chain reaction too, as other states look to include more diverse perspectives and historical figures in their classroom instructions.
Send an email — or attend a school board meeting or bring it up at the next PTA meeting — to get this issue on the radar in your city, if it's not already.
7. Drop in to a restaurant or store that supports its LGBTQ employees — and avoid the places that don't.
The Human Rights Campaign releases a Corporate Equality Index each year studying and ranking businesses based on how supportive their workplace policies are for LGBTQ people.
Many different factors — including if a company highlights LGBTQ protections in its anti-discrimination policies or if it offers transgender-inclusive health care benefits — are considered in the index.
Even if you're not marching in Pride, the way you spend your dollars makes a difference.
8. If you're not LGBTQ and new to this whole Pride thing, set aside 30 minutes to start learning about being a good ally.
Is your child — or your mom or dad — LGBTQ? What about a colleague or friend at school? Do you want to be there for transgender people in your community, but not sure where to start? GLAAD compiled helpful guides for allies to do their best supporting the LGBTQ people they know and love.
Photo by Yana Paskova/Getty Images.
Pro tip: Do this before breaking out any rainbow attire.
9. Drink some delicious wine while supporting queer artists and LGBTQ youth in need of stable housing.
In honor of Pride month, City Winery Chicago worked with four LGBTQ artists — Kelly Boner, James Schwab, Tennessee Loveless, and Sierra Berquist — to design the labels for its "Playing with Labels" campaign.
Photo courtesy of Dustin DuBois/City Winery Chicago.
With each bottle purchased, $10 goes toward Project Fierce Chicago, a nonprofit that provides supportive transitional housing to homeless LGBTQ youth in the Windy City. Can't make it to a Pride march in person? Drink up!
10. Paint your nails rainbow colors.
They'll serve as a great conversation starter with family or friends. You can mention Pride and what the month means to you.
Plus, they'll look great.
11. Choose one lesser known LGBTQ advocacy group and commit a monthly gift to support its work.
But there are many other groups working under the radar that deserve our attention too.
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If you're interesting in making donations, consider contributing to organizations like Fierce, Trans Lifeline, ACT UP, and the Sylvia Rivera Law Project, focused on more niche (but still crucial) issues facing the LGBTQ community, often with much smaller budgets.
12. There's a decent chance you have at least one Facebook friend who's in the closet. Write a supportive post noting that you're there for them, any time.
When you aren't open about your sexuality or gender identity, coming out can be a very scary thing for many LGBTQ people — especially if you have few (or no) accepting family members or friends.
Sharing a Facebook status letting any of your friends who are in the closet know that you're a person they can talk to really could change their life.
13. Set your calendars: Most midterm elections are Tuesday, Nov. 6, 2018, and the LGBTQ community needs you to show up.
Midterms never get the same media fanfare as presidential election years, even though, in many ways, they're of equal consequence. You'll have to do some digging on the candidates in your state vying for office in order to get a good understanding of who they are and what they'll fight for.
Mayor Peter Buttigieg is the first openly gay mayor of South Bend, Indiana. Photo by Derek Henkle/AFP/Getty Images.
There are many crucial issues that need our attention — climate change, fighting poverty, creating jobs, criminal justice reform — but LGBTQ rights is an issue on the ballot too. If you can't make it to a march, the least you can do is commit to learning about how your candidates plan to help (or harm) LGBTQ people in your area and keep their stances in mind on Nov. 6, 2018.
14. Make it a goal: For the next kid's birthday on your calendar, buy them a book or movie that's LGBTQ-inclusive.
The entertainment and toy selections available for kids need to get better at diversity, particularly when it comes to LGBTQ representation.
Reading fairy tales like "Promised Land" and watching short films like "In a Heartbeat" and "Rosaline" — all stories for kids that feature same-sex love interests — will help young queer people understand they have a place in this world, while teaching straight and cisgender kids that their LGBTQ peers are deserving of love and respect.
Photo courtesy of "Promised Land."
15. Learn about a pressing LGBTQ rights issue in your own backyard and follow a local Facebook group to stay up to speed.
Think local: What challenges does the LGBTQ community face in your city or state?
Just last month, legislators in Texas approved a bill that would deny trans students the right to use the bathroom that corresponds with their gender. Lawmakers in North Carolina recently tried to reverse marriage equality in the Tar Heel state. Across the country, LGBTQ rights issues are being sorted out and decided by local school boards.
It only takes a few minutes to find some local LGBTQ Facebook groups and follow them so you can stay plugged in to what's happening in your area and fight for what's right.
16. Share this powerful video about a transgender girl and her loving family.
Some of your friends on Facebook might be more hesitant (or outright against) watching it. But that's the whole point.
When we elevate stories that put ourselves in the shoes of someone with different life experiences, we tend to build bridges. It makes sense that when someone knows an LGBTQ person and hears their story, they're far more likely to support LGBTQ rights.
17. If you live in a state that's debating a bathroom bill, make sure to call your rep — preferably more than once.
So-called "bathroom bills" — which stop trans children and adults from using the restroom that corresponds to their gender — puts people who are already more at-risk of violence in even more uncomfortable and dangerous situations. These bills are born from fearmongering and myths about transgender people.
If you live in one of the 15 states where a bathroom bill is in the works, call your representatives in Washington and voice your concerns.
Rainbow flags and festive parades are important in unifying the LGBTQ community every June. But they're only one component of what it means to celebrate Pride.
This June, acknowledge all the positive change that's happened since those first rioters fought back outside the Stonewall Inn nearly 50 years ago. Then, commit to helping push that progress forward while fighting the forces trying to stall it, however you can.
We all play a part in ensuring equality.
Photo by Wojtek Radwanski/AFP/Getty Images.