15 hard truths that once people accepted them, their lives got so much better
"Not all friendships last."
A woman learns a harsh truth about her friends.
A significant part of adulthood is realizing that many uncomfortable truths are indeed real, even if we wish they weren’t. At first, these harsh truths may dampen our spirits and make us feel that the world is a bit colder. However, understanding some of life's hard lessons opens us up to greater possibilities and can help us overcome the obstacles holding us back.
Harsh truths help us realize when relationships aren’t as great as they can be. They also prevent us from having too much faith in people and institutions that will ultimately disappoint us. Knowing dark truths can also help us appreciate the things that are truly beautiful, honest, and good. A Redditor named Rare_Can_5418 asked the AskReddit forum, “What difficult truths, the sooner you accept them, the better your life will be?” and received over 6,500 responses. Many of them were centered around harsh truths about relationships and the fact that even if we do our best in life, we can still end up with the short end of the stick.
The key is to keep going and never let failure get you down.
Here are 15 of the “difficult truths” that made people’s lives a lot better.
"Comparison is the thief of joy."
"You can be sweetest, juiciest peach on the tree. But some people don't like peaches."
Psychologists refer to perceiving that inanimate objects have feelings as anthropomorphizing. Psych Central says that humans project feelings onto objects to relate to them more deeply. "People generally anthropomorphize to make sense of events and behaviors they experience. Further, attributing emotions, attitudes, mental states, faces, and values to non-human things can help you feel connected to something," Sarah Barkley writes in a PhD-reviewed article.
"Surprisingly though, the ones that last are not necessarily the best (or even good) ones."
"You can do your best with someone and still be the villain in their story."
"We judge ourselves by our intentions. We judge others by their actions."
"In psychology, this is called fundamental attribution error."
The Fundamental Attribution Error is a psychological phenomenon where we assume someone's actions reflect their personality without considering the situation. It's like when we blame someone's driving skills for being in an accident instead of the curvy road.
"Nice people aren't always good people."
11. Nobody is thinking about you
12. No one is coming to save you
"No one is coming to save you, so you have to do it all yourself."
"And once you internalize this and do it, your self-esteem will be through the roof."
13. Nobody knows what they're doing
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