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How a group of 'badass' nuns became the heart and soul of a beloved Los Angeles film festival

"Film is the great connector."

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Nuns from the The Sisters of the Immaculate Heart of Mary march in a 1960s protest

On July 16th, 2025, the 29th annual LA Shorts International Film Festival opened in Downtown Los Angeles at the Regal LA Live Theater. An Oscar- and BAFTA-qualifying event, opening night of the two week festival featured a red carpet, a slate of four acclaimed short films, and pulled in a crowd of over one thousand attendees.

Four hundred seventy films will be showcased between July 16-28, including only one feature film in the sea of shorts: Rebel Hearts, a 2021 documentary directed by Pedro Kos, screened for free on Saturday, July 19th.

The Rebel Hearts film website shares:

"In 1960s Los Angeles, a trailblazing group of nuns, The Sisters of the Immaculate Heart of Mary, bravely stood up to the patriarchy of the Catholic Church fighting for equality, their livelihoods, and their own freedom against an all-powerful Cardinal who sought to keep them in their place. Their bold acts of faith, defiance and activism turned the Church upside down, helping to reshape our society in ways that continue to resonate today. From marching in Selma in 1965 to the Women’s March in 2018, they challenged the notion of what a nun and a woman were supposed to be.

Anita Caspary, Helen Kelley, Pat Reif, and iconic pop artist Corita Kent were devoted to a life of service, not only to other but to themselves—forming a community that empowered each sister to live up to her fullest potential. Their desire to bring the church into modern life was met with forceful opposition at every turn. As each of them discovered their own talents and voices, they full stepped into their roles as leaders in a movement that is still making waves.

The Sisters of the Immaculate Heart of Mary became the Immaculate Heart Community (ICH), an inclusive ecumenical community based in Los Angeles that has sponsored opening night of the LA Shorts Film Festival for the last three years.

I attended both opening night and the July 19th screening of Rebel Hearts courtesy of IHC and was moved by the film that was artful, informative, and filled with grace as it followed the sisters who merely wanted two things: to serve Christ and to live their lives as their authentic selves.

"We may seem like strange bedfellows," said Sherry L. Purcell, IHM, Ph.D., president of Immaculate Heart Community, as she addressed the crowd on opening night. "What do a bunch of nuns have to do with a film festival?"

Today, however, Immaculate Heart is no longer a community of nuns. "We are a community without walls," says Purcell. One that welcomes women and men, gay, straight, and all LGBTQ, and all religions and faith practices to fight injustice against immigrants, the environment, women, BIPOC, and the unhoused. "We are anti-racist. We strive to strategically impede practices that disrupt human development. We are for diversity, equity, and inclusion," Purcell continued to warm applause.

Founded in 1997 by Robert Arentz, the LA Shorts International Film Festival is one of the largest, most prestigious, and longest-running short film festivals in the world. It's connection with IHC, however, began just a few years ago thanks to Pam Hope, Immaculate Heart's director of mission advancement. A longtime friend of Arentz, Hope told Upworthy she reached out to him in hopes of helping IHC become "more relevant" with young people in Los Angeles.

"Pam got us connected with the film festival my first year as president and I thought, 'Oh, this is kind of a leap,'" Purcell told Upworthy. "But then I could see it. I could see what we needed to do to open people's hearts through stories."

 LA Shorts, Immaculate Heart, IHC, film festival, films Immaculate Heart Community sponsors opening night of the LA Shorts International Film FestivalKathryn Ross

"On opening night they select and show justice films," Hope noted. "Films that speak to current issues and raise awareness for what's going on in the world and our community." This year, opening night featured four shorts:

  • Como si la tierra se las hubiera tragado an animated short on femicide and gender-based violence in Mexico directed by Natalia León that won the jury award at the Sundance Film Festival.
  • The Letter, a documentary from German director Oliver Würffell that tells the story of his how his great-grandfather was executed by Nazis for refusing military service.
  • Classroom 4, a documentary directed by Eden Wurmfield on the prison system that won Best Documentary at Aspen Shortsfest.
  • Walud, a German-Syrian film directed by Daood Alabdulaa and Louise Zenker about Amuna, a woman whose husband, an ISIS fighter, takes a young second wife.

Rebel Hearts fits right in as it tells a story of fighting for social justice, human rights, and progressivism in spiritual communities.

Under the control of Cardinal McIntyre, who served as archbishop of Los Angeles from 1948 to 1970, the sisters were told when they could talk, when and how they could pray, and how they could dress. They were also used as free labor for the various grade schools Cardinal McIntyre holds a legacy for building across LA County, often forced to teach bloated classroom sizes with little to no training (save for the college degrees they worked on simultaneously to carry out their teaching jobs).

The film focuses heavily on four key women who also narrate the events through a series of interviews: the late Anita Caspary, Ph.D. (Sister Mary Humiliata), who was the Mother General of the Immaculate Heart of Mary Sisters, the late Helen Kelley, Ph.D., (Sister William), who was the president of Immaculate Heart College, the late Pat Reif, Ph.D., a professor at Immaculate Heart College, and the late Corita Kent (Sister Mary Corita), famed pop artist who began as a sister and educator and gained the most attention and pushback from the Cardinal.

Though righteous and progressive in the face of archaic tradition, the efforts of these women and hundreds of other sisters were met with extreme resistance from the powers in charge during the 1960s. In a 2021 review of the film, Variety noted that though some victories such as the "groundbreaking outcomes" of the Second Vatican Council (1962-1965) which "sought to modernize certain Church traditions for a 20th century public" were won, the film shows how their resistance ultimately led to some 300 sisters asking to be released from their vows, thus leading them to found the "secular" Immaculate Heart Community in 1970.

Fifty-five years later, the community is thriving with 40 original members. One member, 94-year old Lenore Dowling (who attended the festival's opening night and whom Hope dubs "a badass"), is just as active in the community as ever. She can be seen in the film's opening scene marching with sign in hand at the 2018 Women's March in Los Angeles and most recently demonstrated with other community members during a No Kings March in June 2025.

After the film screening, I sat down with Sherry L. Purcell, Pam Hope, and Mary Kirchen (a current member of the IHC who just missed joining the Sisters in the late 60s) to talk more about the community, the legacy of Rebel Hearts, and the future of Immaculate Heart Community.

Upworthy: Given today’s political climate, how do you see what IHC went through in the 60s and 70s in comparison to what we’re facing today, specifically in America?

Sherry L. Purcell: I’ve been president of the community for two and a half years and I really do feel that what they did, the work they did in the 1970s, was very prophetic for our times. We are a “community without laws.” We’re not nuns, we don’t live in convents, we’re inclusive—we have men, women, gay straight, everyone—and our faith-based practices are inclusive of everybody. We also have a very active justice and social justice orientation in our work, so we commission justice for women, for the environment, for immigrants and indigenous people, the unhoused. We even have a commission called 'Anti-racism and Spiritual Transformation,' so our members are very active in those movements and with other organizations doing similar work.

[In the film] Anita Caspary was asked, “What do you think the impact would be on the Roman Catholic Church what we’re doing? Is this going to be a problem further in the church? Her response was that this actually might be the solution to bring life back into the church, which is the way we see our “community without laws.” We are founded in Christianity, but we honor all faith traditions and much of the practices we do in our prayer life reflect that. In terms of today, there are a lot of people who have turned away from organized religion and are looking for spiritual life and growth in a community of believers and people. People are also oriented around social justice. That’s who we are and I think we have something to offer people. When we come together as a community, we come together with that commonality of love and wanting to do good in the world.

Mary Kirchen: There’s something that touched me when I was watching again: There're several snippets that stand out. (Helen) Kelley talked about “rocking the boat” and being in a boat that “desperately needed to be rocked.” It’s interesting because in church architecture, churches themselves are built like boats, and the word “ecumenism” has to do with that symbolism, and so we’re in a boat together, right? Just like Jesus was on a boat in Galilee…and so that symbolism was interesting because the boat needed to be rocked and the boat still needs to be rocked.

I think one of the boundaries is being rooted in Jesus. We talk about Christianity, but I think there’s a slight difference in being rooted in Jesus and what’s happening in Christianity right now. Corita was asked how she felt about what happened [to the Sisters], and she said she didn’t want to talk about it, but she was the one who asked [the Cardinal and the archdiocese], “What would Jesus do?” when the Sisters were being questioned and scrutinized. In our goal statement we talk about being rooted in Jesus and united with the people of God, and that's why. It's a relationship, not a religion.

Upworthy: [Sherry] referred to the IHC and the film festival as sort of “strange bedfellows” at opening night. You’ve sponsored opening night of the festival for the last three years, so do you feel this is a chance to connect with a more secular space and crowd without being overtly spiritual? How do you view the connections you’ve made and what do you hope to see from it?

Pam Hope: In the Immaculate Heart community, the values in the work are ever present. We want to reach out to people who aren’t affiliated or who don’t feel they have a spiritual home, and many have that yearning (for spiritual community) and art is a really great connector. The secular nature of this short film festival is actually a great place because a lot of the films have deeper meaning, speak to social justice and highlight that—and we have that in common.

Mary Kirchen: As a human being, I am in relationship with creation and I get to do that. And in a sense of thinking about that relationship, there’s something bigger...and I call that something God. The relationship here opens dialogues about our identities and who we are, makes way for deeper conversations. It’s an opening to an opportunity, and film is an opportunity.

Sherry L. Purcell: I think the creativity that comes through these films ultimately will have so much power to speak to the love we’re trying to bring forward. Look at Rebel Hearts…we couldn’t tell that story that same way if not through film, if not on the screen.

Mary Kirchen: It's the power of films. Film is the great connector. One of the gifts of having experienced change—because change is our partner—is to be a convener. Our relationship in the traditional education fashion has changed: we don’t have teachers in schools much anymore, but we create a different model and we’re still convening people and asking them, what is the root of why you’re coming together? Art and film allows us to do that.

Upworthy: Though the women of Rebel Hearts fought so hard for their rights, they still ended up leaving the Catholic church in the end. Some could look at that as a failure, but then this community came out of it, so was it a failure? Was it a victory?

Sherry L. Purcell: Well that speaks to the prophetic nature of the community. They were bucking the male hierarchy saying women can’t be involved, women have to essentially be enslaved in the church structure, and these women said, “Hell no! We’re going to do something different” and we’re still here 55 years later and we have something valuable to offer to people, to the world turning away from the traditional church. In fact, just last year, Nellie Scott, the director of the Corita Arts Center in the Arts District of downtown Los Angeles called me and said the center had been invited to the Vatican and they wanted to do an exhibit of Corita’s art at the Venice Biennale. It was held in a women’s prison and they showed Corita’s artwork there and the imprisoned women were able to act as docents. Nellie got to meet Pope Francis, who recognized the power of Corita’s artwork...so even though [Corita's] gone, she's not really. She’s alive and kicking too.

Mary Kirchen: It's also about the importance of being joyful. Yes, there’s tough things happening, there are injustices people experience, and that causes confusion of spiritual identity: Why are we doing this? Why does it matter? If you don’t witness with integrity, why the hell are you doing it? At one point in the film, priests from the Vatican tell the Sisters to just pretend they're following the rules to avoid the wrath of Cardinal McIntyre, but not actually do what they say they're doing. But they had integrity. The decision was made, and every person who made that choice signed not only the document saying she wanted to be released from her vows, but the documents that claimed the identity of what was going to happen going forward. Unfortunately I didn’t get to sign that because I wasn’t a nun then, but I remember.

Pam Hope: I know so many other sisterhoods and religious groups point to us as being pioneers. Without Immaculate Heart, others said they would have “stayed in their habits,” stayed “cloistered,” and wouldn’t have had such a social justice bent. The impact has definitely been seen in modern religious activities, especially in the Catholic church.

Mary Kirchen: One of the affirming things is for us to understand how we are seen [by the world]. That’s what helps us. Again, it's a relationship with God and with God's people.

Sherry L. Purcell: The work we’re doing today stands on the shoulders of the women who formed the organization in the 70s. They were rebels and I think we aspire to be rebels.

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Today, Immaculate Heart Community still has many irons in the fire. They currently host a Lunch and Learn Lecture series that invites local leaders of social justice initiatives to their building in Echo Park to speak about issues and efforts for change in Los Angeles and beyond. They are also soon launching a "Power Up with Prayer" initiative that invites people of all faith traditions to pause at noon every day and pray for the country.

As for the LA Shorts International Film Festival, IHC plans to continue sponsoring the event's opening night and making connections within the industry. "Moving forward, we hope that our involvement with the film festival will be a year-long presence rather than a keystone moment of the festival itself," Hope noted.

"Last year, we gave awards to five short films that Bob [Arentz] flagged as really highlighting social justice," added Purcell. "This year, we want to do the same thing but expand it even after the festival. We're going to invite filmmakers who have received awards to join with us and talk about their films, showcase related films, and start a dialogue about the issues they tackle."

Learn more about becoming a friend of the Immaculate Heart Community on their website and Instagram, and stream Rebel Hearts on HBO Max.

Golden Years

7 'old people' sayings that are actually solid life advice at every age

"Make all your words sweet because tomorrow you may have to eat them."

Elder wisdom can come in handy.

With age comes wisdom, or at least we hope it does. As we get older, we collect life lessons that we can pass along to younger generations, sometimes with lengthy stories and sometimes with quippy sayings.

Adages like "A penny saved is a penny earned," or "Early to bed, early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy, and wise," have been part of our collective treasure chest of life advice for generations, but the aphorisms that spring from the experience of our loved ones and mentors are often the most meaningful.

Someone shared that they'd read and appreciated this old man's advice: “My grandpa once told me 'if you get on the wrong train, get off at the nearest station, the longer it takes you to get off, the more expensive the return trip will be.' He wasn’t talking about trains.” The person asked for more tidbits of wisdom from old folks and people started sharing sayings they heard from their elders growing up.

Here are some of the best "old man advice" sayings and how they can be applied in a person's life.

"You might miss what’s ahead of you if you keep concentrating on what’s in the rear view mirror."

Another commenter put it another way: "Don't look behind you, you aren't going that way." This adage is about not dwelling on the past. Many of us have a tendency to spend more time mentally in the past, rehashing old memories or being nostalgic for what once was, than we do in the present or looking forward to the future. There's nothing wrong with a little reflection, but if most of our focus is in the past, we miss out on the present. Rear view mirrors are for quick glances, not where our focus should be.

"Do the right thing, even if nobody is watching."

This saying is about good character and true integrity. If you notice someone drop a $20 bill and no one is around to see but you, do you give it back to them or do you pick it up and keep it? If you realize that a store didn't charge you for an item, do you point it out and make it right or do you allow the mistake to remain? There are opportunities each day for us to choose between right and wrong, and those choices really speak to who we are if they are made without anyone else knowing.

 integrity, right, wrong, right thing, doing good lisa simpson help GIF  Giphy  

"Be nice to everybody you meet on the way up the ladder. You'll see the same faces on the way down "

Don't get cocky and don't burn bridges you think you won't need to return to. There's value in being kind for its own sake, but there's also the reality that being kind also makes people like you. When people like you, they're more likely to lend you a helping hand, and you never know when you're going to be in a position to need one. It's also a good reminder that you're not inherently better than anyone else just because of where you are in life. We're all constantly in flux, so it's important to stay humble and kind.

In other words, "Make all your words sweet because tomorrow you may have to eat them."

"One of the most powerful negotiating tools is silence."

The power of silence in general is often underrated, but it can be an especially useful tool in a negotiation. Some people are so uncomfortable with silence that they will make concessions simply to avoid it. And sometimes the best response to an unreasonable demand is to just say nothing and stare, letting the other party come to the realization themselves. It takes calm confidence to simply be quiet and let the silence fill the room, which can feel surprisingly intimidating.

"Always listen to your gut, even if you can’t explain it."

Ah, the strange and mysterious sense of intuition that we can't really describe but know when we feel it. Whether it's getting a creepy vibe about a person or a little voice telling you to do or not do something, those "gut instincts" can serve us well. Of course, if we are prone to anxiety, our instincts can sometimes be confused with anxious thoughts, but "go with your gut" is solid advice anyway.

 gut feeling, listen to your gut, go with your gut, intuition, discernment  Listen To It Season 1 GIF by The Roku Channel  Giphy  

“It doesn’t matter what path you’re on if it’s the wrong mountain.”

Sometimes people trying to find their way end up hitting roadblock after roadblock, which may mean they just haven't found the right path yet or might mean they need an entire overhaul of their life. That might look like switching career paths entirely, rather than trying to find a job in your field that fits. It might mean changing majors in the middle of your studies when you find yourself not enjoying any of your classes. It might mean finding a new community or reevaluating your relationships.

"The harder I work, the luckier I get."

Several sayings line up with this one, like "Luck is the intersection of preparation and opportunity," and "Luck favors the prepared mind." There's a lot to be said for fortune and hard work going hand in hand. If we expect good things to just land in our lap, we will likely be disappointed, but if we move in the direction of things we want to happen and do the work of preparing for good things to come our way, "luck" frequently seems to follow.

 luck, hard work, lucky, good luck, napoleon dynamite  Napoleon Dynamite GIF by Ben L  Giphy  

Finding a saying that resonates can be really helpful when we're facing a specific challenge in life, especially when we commit it to memory and repeat it often.

This article originally appeared in March.

Culture

Gen X is the 'most stressed' generation but studies show they're also the toughest

The 'Coolest Generation' is dealing with the rigors of middle age with their trademark adaptability.

via Wikimedia Commons

Gen X is the most stressed generation, but also the best equipped to deal with it.

It's official: People are more stressed out than ever. Technology, a wildly unpredictable economy, political division, and changing family dynamics have us all on edge, and it's doing a number on our mental health. But there is one group that, for at least the past decade, seems to be taking on more than their fair share of the stress.

Generation X, people born between 1965 and 1979, are America's goofy middle children sandwiched between the much larger Baby Boomer and Millennial generations — both of whom get a lot more press. Gen X prides itself on being individualistic, nonconformists committed to a D.I.Y. ethic whether that means writing a punk 'zine or launching a tech start-up.

(If you just asked yourself "What's a 'zine?" you're clearly not a member ofGen X.) It's a generation marked by an aloof cool where any personal slight can be written off with a "whatever" and one that's deathly afraid of taking anything too seriously. It's a generation that was so put off by the corporate, commercial culture of the '80s it rebelled by wearing second-hand clothes and ironically embracing low-brow '70s culture.

 gen x, gen z, millennials, generations, generational differences, culture, 1980s, 1970s, 1990s, childhood, adulthood Gen Xers are a particularly proud generation.  Giphy  

It's the generation of hip-hop, Tiger Woods, Quentin Tarrantino, the re-birth of punk rock, John Cusak movies, and Atari. Not a bad resume at all!

A big reason Gen X is so self-reliant is that it's the generation hardest hit by divorce. According to a 2004 marketing study it "went through its all-important, formative years as one of the least parented, least nurtured generations in U.S. history."

Gen X was the first generation that experienced both parents working outside the home. But, unfortunately, at the same time, childcare centers and afterschool programs had not yet emerged to a significant extent. That's why you hear so much folklore about 80s kids being allowed to run feral throughout the neighborhood or even the whole time. This is the "come home when the streetlights come on" generation, and it shows.

Now, the "Coolest Generation" finds itself somewhere between 42 and 56 and is hitting middle age. Unfortunately, that means it's now the most stressed generation in America.

Although, in true Gen X fashion, many refuse to let anyone see they're stressed.

An extensive study by Penn State showed that stress began to hit Gen X sometime in the last decade. The 2012 study discovered that Gen X had an average stress level of 5.8 (out of ten) while Millennials (3.4) and Baby Boomers (4.4) were a lot calmer.

 gen x, gen z, millennials, generations, generational differences, culture, 1980s, 1970s, 1990s, childhood, adulthood For such a chill group of people, Gen X has to deal with a lot.Eric Nopanen/Unsplash

It's not just the anxieties of hitting middle age. An even more recent study shows that the trend hasn't changed in the last decade as all of the generations have aged. In 2021, 22% of Gen Xers admitted to daily struggles with stress followed by Millennials (17%), Gen Z (14%), and Baby Boomers (8%).

The APA's Stress in America Report from 2023 indicates that Gen Z may be coming for the throne soon, though, with major financial and loneliness issues weighing them down.

 gen x, gen z, millennials, generations, generational differences, culture, 1980s, 1970s, 1990s, childhood, adulthood Watch and learn, Gen Z.  Giphy  

A big reason for the stress is having to take care of multiple generations. Many Gen Xers have to care for their aging parents as well as their children who are just starting to make their way in a world that's become much harder to afford. And that's to say nothing of Gen X's own money worries. Even though they're starting to reach retirement age, many members of the generation are woefully far away from having enough money saved up. One estimate says the average Gen Xer is about $400,000 short of what they'd need to comfortably retire. Talk about a stressor!

Gen X may have aged its way into the most stressful part of its life, but things could be a lot worse. There's no group of people better equipped to deal with stress.

When executives at Nike studied Gen X it found the generation's hallmarks are "flexibility," "innovation," and "adaptability." "They have developed strong survival skills and the ability to handle anything that comes their way," the study says.

Gen Xers may think that's just a bunch of corporate B.S. However, it's true. Gen X grew up during the AIDS epidemic, the end of the Cold War, the Challenger disaster, the late '80s and early '90s crime wave, 9/11, the Great Recession, COVID-19, and managed to survive after "My So-Called Life" was canceled.

 gen x, gen z, millennials, generations, generational differences, culture, 1980s, 1970s, 1990s, childhood, adulthood It was a very sad day when "My So-Called Life" was pulled off the air.  Giphy  

We've survived tough times and we'll make it through these as well. Just got to follow the advice of Gen X's poet laureate, Tupac Shakur: "And it's crazy, it seems it'll never let up, but please, you got to keep your head up."

We can also look forward to grabbing a big box of popcorn and enjoying the massive Millennial meltdown that happens when they hit middle age. It's not going to be pretty.

This article originally appeared four years ago. It has been updated.

Popular

I showed my Gen Z kids 'Dead Poets Society' and their angry reactions to it floored me

"Inspiring" apparently means different things to Gen X and Gen Z.

Robin Williams played inspiring English teacher John Keating in "Dead Poets Society."

As a Gen X parent of Gen Z teens and young adults, I'm used to cringing at things from 80s and 90s movies that haven't aged well. However, a beloved film from my youth that I thought they'd love, "Dead Poets Society," sparked some unexpectedly negative responses in my kids, shining a spotlight on generational differences I didn't even know existed.

I probably watched "Dead Poets Society" a dozen or more times as a teen and young adult, always finding it aesthetically beautiful, tragically sad, and profoundly inspiring. That film was one of the reasons I decided to become an English teacher, inspired as I was by Robin Williams' portrayal of the passionately unconventional English teacher, John Keating.

 

The way Mr. Keating shared his love of beauty and poetry with a class of high school boys at a stuffy prep school, encouraging them to "seize the day" and "suck all the marrow out of life," hit me right in my idealistic youthful heart. And when those boys stood up on their desks for him at the end of the film, defying the headmaster who held their futures in his hands? What a moving moment of triumph and support.

My Gen Z kids, however, saw the ending differently. They did love the feel of the film, which I expected with its warm, cozy, comforting vibe (at least up until the last 20 minutes or so). They loved Mr. Keating, because how can you not? But when the movie ended, I was taken aback hearing "That was terrible!" and "Why would you traumatize me like that?" before they also admitted, "But it was so gooood!"

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The traumatize part I actually get—I'd forgotten just how incredibly heavy the film gets all of a sudden. (A caveat I feel the need to add here: Gen Z uses the word "traumatize" not in a clinical sense but as an exaggerative term for being hit unexpectedly by something sad or disturbing. They know they weren't literally traumatized by the movie.)

But in discussing it further, I discovered three main generational differences that impacted my kids' "Dead Poets Society" viewing experience and what they took away from it.

1) Gen Z sees inspiring change through a systemic lens, not an individual one

The first thing my 20-year-old said when the credits rolled was, "What? That's terrible! Nothing changed! He got fired and the school is still run by a bunch of stodgy old white men forcing everyone to conform!" My immediate response was, "Yeah, but he changed those boys' individual lives, didn't he? He helped broaden their minds and see the world differently."

  o captain my captain, dead poets society Individual impact isn't as inspiring to Gen Z as it was to Gen X.   Giphy  

I realized that Gen X youth valued individuals going against the old, outdated system and doing their own thing, whereas Gen Z values the dismantling of the system itself. For Gen X, Mr. Keating and the boys taking a stand was inspiring, but the fact that it didn't actually change anything outside of their own individual experiences stuck like a needle in my Gen Z kids' craw.

2) Gen Z isn't accustomed to being blindsided by tragic storylines with no warning

To be fair, I did tell them there was "a sad part" before the movie started. But I'd forgotten how deeply devastating the last part of the movie was, so my daughter's "Why would you do that to me?!" was somewhat warranted. "I thought maybe a dog would die or something!" she said. No one really expected one of the main characters to die by suicide and the beloved teacher protagonist to be blamed for his death, but I'd somehow minimized the tragedy of it all in my memory so my "sad part" warning was a little insufficient.

 

But also to be fair, Gen X youth never got any such warnings—we were just blindsided by tragic plot twists all the time. As kids, we cheered on Atreyu trying to save his horse from the swamp in "The Neverending Story" only to watch him drown. Adults showed us "Watership Down" thinking it would be a cute little animated film about bunnies. We were slapped in the face by the tragic child death in "My Girl," which was marketed as a sweet coming of age movie.

Gen Z was raised in the era of trigger warnings and trauma-informed practices, while Gen X kids watched a teacher die on live TV in our classrooms with zero follow-up on how we were processing it. Those differences became apparent real quick at the end of this movie.


3) Gen Z fixates on boundary-crossing behavior that Gen X either overlooked or saw as more nuanced

The other reaction I wasn't expecting was the utter disdain my girls showed for Knox Overstreet, the sweet-but-over-eager character who fell for the football player's cheerleader girlfriend. His boundary-crossing attempts to woo her were always cringe, but for Gen X, cringe behavior in the name of love was generally either overlooked, tolerated, or sometimes even celebrated. (Standing on a girl's lawn in the middle of the night holding a full-volume stereo over your head was peak romance for Gen X, remember.) For Gen Z, the only thing worse than cringe is predatory behavior, which Knox's obsessiveness and pushiness could arguably be seen as. My own young Gen X lens saw Knox and said, "That's a bit much, dude. Take it down a notch or three." My Gen Z daughters' lens said, "That guy's a total creepo. She needs to run far the other way."

 run, red flag behavior Gen Z is much more black and white about behaviors than previous generations.  Giphy Red Flag Run GIF by BuzzFeed 

On one hand, I was proud of them for recognizing red flag behaviors and calling them out. On the other hand, I saw how little room there is for nuance in their perceptions, which was…interesting.

To be clear, I don't think my Gen Z kids' reactions to "Dead Poets Society" are wrong; they're just different than mine were at their age. We're usually on the same page when it comes to these kinds of analyses, so seeing them have a drastically different reaction to something I loved at their age was really something. Now I'm wondering what other favorite movies from my youth I should show them to see if they view those differently as well—hopefully without "traumatizing" them too much with the experience.

This article originally appeared in January.

A teacher challenged her student to find Duran Duran. She never expected the student to actually pull it off.

Imagine this: you're a fourth grade language arts teacher in Dallas, and like many Gen X-ers, your obsession with Duran Duran never waned. So much so that you still have dolls of each member of the band in the classroom and, according to Austin Wood's article for the Lake Highlands Advocate. Even an old telephone in case (lead singer) Simon LeBon calls.

This describes Miriam Osborne, a fourth grade teacher at White Rock Elementary in the Lake Highlands district of Dallas, Texas. Wood shares in "White Rock E.S. student, inspired by teacher, meets Simon LeBon" that one of Osborne's students, 10-year-old Ava Meyers, was getting an early pickup for Christmas break, since her family was heading to the U.K. for a holiday wedding. As they were saying their goodbyes in the hallway, Osborne kiddingly said to Meyers, "Find Duran Duran."

Cut to: Ava and her family, including her mom Zahara, fly across the pond to find themselves in the Putney neighborhood of London. After a day of sightseeing, Zahara shares, "I was just Googling things to do in Putney, and the first thing that popped up was 'Simon Le Bon lives in Putney from Duran Duran.'”

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Zahara did a little sleuthing and found Simon's house, thinking perhaps a Christmas stroll by the home would be exciting. But, according to the article, Ava felt they could do better. She and "an 83-year-old relative named Nick, who apparently has courage in droves, went to the door and tried a knock. Zahara was initially hesitant but assumed Le Bon would be away on vacation, so she figured it was harmless. Le Bon’s son-in-law answered, his wife came to the door next, and following a few moments of getting pitched the idea by Nick, agreed to get her husband 'because it was Christmas.'"

And just like that, Simon LeBon appeared in the doorway. He warmly greeted Ava and her family and even took pictures. "It was just crazy," Ava exclaimed.

But possibly more excited was Miriam Osborne, back in the States. She proudly shared the photo (which had been texted to her) with many of her friends and even encouraged Ava to recount the story to her classmates when they returned from the break. Wood shares, "Osborne’s connection to the band goes back to her childhood in El Paso in the ’80s. As the daughter of a Syrian immigrant, she says she had trouble fitting in and finding an identity. Some days, she and her brothers would travel across town to get records from a British record store."

Miriam explains she used her babysitting money to buy her first Duran Duran record. "And so I had been a fan, literally, for 43 years—my entire lifetime."

Osborne's love of Duran Duran, and many '80s bands in general, nostalgically connects her to a throughline for her life that she tries to impart onto the students as well. "Music is a connector, and it connected me to a world that I didn’t always fit in as a child. It helped me find people who I still love to this day, and it’s a big part of this classroom with me and the students I teach, because everybody has a story, and there’s something really incredible about hearing something and it taking you to a happy moment."

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As for Ava? She's now taking guitar lessons. And perhaps one day, she can become so famous and inspirational, a teacher sends a student off to find her on a Christmas vacation in the future.

This article originally appeared in March.

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Wil Wheaton's locker room story is a perfect example of why homophobic jokes are a problem

His thoughts came as a response to Dave Chapelle's controversial stand-up performance.

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Wil Wheaton | Wil Wheaton speaking in 2018.

Comedy can be uplifting. And it can also be downright destructive. The rise of cancel culture has made us take a hard look at what we normalize for the sake of a good joke. And with Dave Chappelle’s controversial comedy special, The Closer, which includes jokes that can be perceived as cruel or homophobic jabs by the LGBTQ community and allies.

At the same time, comedy is supposed to be disruptive, is it not? It’s meant to be audacious, bawdy, outrageous. And let’s not forget it’s often said sarcastically, meaning we don’t really believe what what's being said … right? Wil Wheaton has previously given a brilliant take on how to separate the art from the artist. This time though, he’s confronting the art itself and what makes it problematic.

Wheaton is best known for playing Wesley Crusher on Star Trek: The Next Generation and Gordie Lachance in Stand By Me. He is also a voice actor who has worked on Teen Titans and League of Super Heroes.


For anyone who genuinely doesn't understand why I feel as strongly as I do about people like Chappelle making transphobic comments that are passed off as jokes, I want to share a story that I hope will help you understand, and contextualize my reaction to his behavior."Wheaton started off his story by sharing how he used to play ice hockey when he was 16, and one night enjoyed a warm welcome as a guest goalie. After a fun practice, Wheaton joined his teammates in the locker room.

Before I tell you what happened next, I want to talk specifically about comedy and how much I loved it when I was growing up… One of the definitive comedy specials for me and my friends was Eddie Murphy's Delirious, from 1983. It had bits that still kill me… Really funny stuff.

There is also extensive homophobic material that is just…appalling and inexcusable. Long stretches are devoted to mocking gay people, using the slur that starts with F over and over and over. Young Wil, who watched this with his suburban white upper middle class friends, in his privileged bubble, thought it was the funniest, edgiest, dirtiest thing he'd ever heard… And all of it was dehumanizing to gay men… I didn't know any better. I accepted the framing, I developed a view of gay men as predatory, somehow less than straight men, absolutely worthy of mockery and contempt. Always good for a joke…


 

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…A comedian who I thought was one of the funniest people on the planet totally normalized making a mockery of gay people, and because I was a privileged white kid, raised by privileged white parents, there was nobody around me to challenge that perception. For much of my teen years, I was embarrassingly homophobic, and it all started with that comedy special.

Here Wheaton pivots back to the locker room:

So I'm talking with these guys…We're doing that sports thing where you talk about the great plays, and feel like you're part of something special.

And then, without even realizing what I was doing, that awful word came out of my mouth. ‘Blah blah blah F****t,’ I said.

The room fell silent and that's when I realized every single guy in this room was gay. They were from a team called The Blades (amazing) and I had just ... really fucked up.

"'Do you have any gay friends?" One of them asked me, gently.

"Yes," I said, defensively. Then, I lied, "they say that all the time." I was so embarrassed and horrified. I realized I had basically said the N word, in context, and I didn't know what to do. I wanted to disappear. I wanted to apologize, I wanted to beg forgiveness. But I was a stupid sixteen year-old with pride and ignorance and fear all over myself, so I lied to try and get out of it.

"They must not love themselves very much," he said, with quiet disappointment.

Nobody said another word to me. I felt terrible. I shoved my gear into my bag and left as quickly as I could.

 


That happened over 30 years ago, and I think about it all the time. I'm mortified and embarrassed and so regretful that I said such a hurtful thing. I said it out of ignorance, but I still said it, and I said it because I believed these men, who were so cool and kind and just like all the other men I played with (I was always the youngest player on the ice) were somehow less than ... I guess everyone. Because that had been normalized for me by culture and comedy.

A *huge* part of that normalization was through entertainment that dehumanized gay men in the service of "jokes". And as someone who thought jokes were great, I accepted it. I mean, nobody was making fun of *ME* that way…so…

This stuff that Chappelle did? …For a transgender person, those "jokes" normalize hateful, ignorant, bigoted behavior towards them. Those "jokes" contribute to a world where transgender people are constantly under threat of violence, because transgender people have been safely, acceptably, dehumanized. And it's all okay, because they were dehumanized by a Black man……Literally every queer person I know (and I know a LOT) is hurt by Chappelle's actions. When literally every queer person I know says "this is hurtful to me", I'm going to listen to them and support them, and not tell them why they are wrong…


In 1996, Murphy apologized for the homophobic jokes he made in his earlier stand-up specials. “I deeply regret any pain all this has caused. Just like the rest of the world, I am more educated about AIDS in 1996 than I was in 1981," he said, according to The Independent. “I think it is unfair to take the words of a misinformed 21-year-old and apply them to an informed 35-year-old man. I know how serious an issue AIDS is the world over. I know that AIDS isn’t funny. It’s 1996 and I’m a lot smarter about AIDS now.”

Wil Wheaton brings up some powerful points. While this is a complex issue, the insidious nature of dehumanizing jokes is pretty blatant. At some point, we have to ask ourselves: Is it really worth harming someone else for the sake of a joke? When put that bluntly, the answer, I hope, is a resounding no.

This article originally appeared four years ago.