A White Woman Reads Letters From Women Of Color Who Want You To Stop Calling Them Exotic

I’ve had it happen. A lovely person tries to say something nice, giving me “the compliment that wasn’t.” Don’t be that person. Here’s a quick primer on what’s cool and what’s really really not.

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Aug 25, 2014

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