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Jacalyn Wetzel

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Mom in tears after another parent calls about daughter's lunch

People say having children is like having your heart walk around outside of your body. You send them off to school, practices, or playdates and hope that the world treats them kindly because when they hurt, you hurt. Inevitably, there will be times when your child's feelings are hurt, so you do your best to prepare for that day.

But what prepares you for when the child you love so much winds up accidentally healing your inner child. A mom on TikTok, who goes by Soogia posted a video explaining a phone call she received from a parent in her daughter's classroom. The mom called to inform Soogia that their kids had been sharing lunch with each other.

Soogia wasn't prepared for what came next. The classmate's mother informed her that her son loves the food Soogia's daughter brings to school and wanted to learn how to cook it, too. "I was like, 'thank you for my food'? Like, what is she talking about? Did she find my TikTok? 'F**k, I"m mortified.' But that wasn't the case," Soogia recalled, hardly being able to get the story out through her tears.

That may seem like a small thing to some, but the small gesture healed a little bit of Soogia's inner child. Growing up as a Korean kid in California, Soogia's experience was a bit different than what her children are now experiencing.

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"I guess I just never thought that my kids would be the generation of kids that could go to school and not only just proudly eat, but share their food with other kids that were just so open and accepting to it," Soogia says through tears. "Knowing that they don't sit there eating their food, feeling ashamed and wishing that their fried rice was a bagel instead, or something like that. And I know, it sounds so small and it sounds so stupid, but knowing their experience at school is so different from mine in such a positive way is just so hopeful."



At the end of the video, she vowed to send extra food in her daughter's lunch every day so she could share her culture with the other kids.


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These kids, man. They’re really something else. #culturalappreciation #breakingbread #sharing #

Soogia's tearful video pulled on the heartstrings of her viewers who shared their thoughts in the comments.

"Soogia! It will never be small. Your culture is beautiful & the littles are seeing that every day. You've even taught me so much. I'm grateful for you," one person says.

"Beautiful! I can see your inner child healing in so many ways," another writes.

"Welp. Now I'm sobbing at the airport. This is beautiful," someone reveals.

"These Gen Alpha babies really are a different, kinder generation. I love them so much," one commenter gushes.

Ultimately, the story is a wonderful reminder that everyone has a backstory and that a simple gesture like appreciating someone's culture or history can mean far more to them than you'll ever know.

This article originally appeared last year.

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Gen X has been designated the 'worst grandparents.' Sadly, their explanation makes sense.

The latch-key generation doesn't hate their family, they're burnt out.

Gen X designated the 'worst grandparents' by Millennials

Generation X, typically the children of Baby Boomers born between the years of 1965-1980 tend to have a complicated reputation depending on who you ask. Some view them as a feral generation never to be spoken of poorly without consequence, while others view them as innovators pushing us into the future. But in recent years, Gen Xers have been dubbed the "worst grandparents" by social media users.

This multi-year conversation started when a video went viral calling Gen X out for being "terrible" grandparents, claiming that they never want to help with grandchildren. It didn't take long before other Millennials piled on to air their own grievances about Gen X grandparents. Most people criticizing the "new grandparents" were genuinely perplexed as to how they did not want to be more involved in the lives of their grandchildren.

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Kylie Muse reveals in a video that she felt neglected by her Gen X parents growing up, saying, "It's quite a common theme for Gen X parents to be neglectful in some capacity and it's just crazy to me how more of them haven't learned from the past 20 to 30 years, instead of these grandparents seeing their kids having kids as an opportunity to restore the health in their relationships with their kids by showing up and helping them during the hardest transition of their lives, they would rather double down and compromise their relationship with that next generation. All for the sake of hyper-individualism and pride."

@kylies.muse Gen x grandparents and their beloved empty nest 🥴 just say you hate having a family 😭 #grandparents #grandparentsoftiktok ♬ original sound - Kylie ꩜

The critique coming from the younger generation is not lost on Gen X, and they started coming out in force to respond with such vigor you'd think John Hughes had just announced the re-release of The Breakfast Club. It would seem that some of the people complaining of the lack of involvement have not considered that Gen X could have valid reasons for not immediately jumping in to take on grandparenting in the way some expect. A man by the name of John S. Blake gives a candid look into why Gen X was neglected as children and, in turn, became hype-independent at an early age.

"As a Gen X who's been on this earth long enough to have some hindsight I can tell you this, being independent at a young age is not a flex, what it actually means is capitalism is so brutal that our parents were forced to neglect their own children to stay alive. My generation was struggling so much that we had to leave our children unattended in order to produce enough so that we could afford to exist," Blake says.

But perhaps one of the most heart wrenching explanations comes from an elder Millennial who goes by the name Amazing Dea. In response to another Millennial who asks about Gen X being let off the hook, Dea shares, "Being as though you look like you might be a younger Millennial, let me go ahead and enlighten you. Generation X and older Millennials had to live through more than just this pandemic. We had the crack epidemic, we had the AIDS epidemic and let me tell you something, it was scary as f***."

Dea went on to explain that there were apartment complexes burned due to high populations of people with AIDS living in them and how they would witness people go from being completely normal to being addicted to crack in a matter of weeks. It seems that depending on socioeconomic status, Gen Xers lived wildly different lives with the common theme being growing up entirely too fast at an extremely young age.

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Another person kindly breaks down the confusion over why Gen X isn't rising to the occasion of being award-winning grandparents. In response to the criticism she replies, "We grew up in a different time, first of all. A lot of us, meaning me, Gen X, I was raised by boomers. A lot of us did not get raised by our grandparents. We were like the feral kids, like by 7 and 9 years old we were actually babysitting our brothers and sisters, alright."

The woman explains further in the video that Gen X doesn't want to raise their grandchildren or simply be babysitters, that there's a difference between expecting grandparents to be involved and expecting them to be babysitters.

@that1crazy72 Let’s take it a step further. You share DNA with your grandkids they are part of you not everyone gets the privilege of being a grandparent so if you are one take that as a blessing #genxgrandparents ♬ original sound - That1crazy72

In many of the response videos shared by Gen Xers, they certainly seem to love their grandchildren and children alike, but there's a discrepancy in expectation. The consensus of the forgotten generation seems to be that they had adult responsibilities much too early, were exposed to adult life experiences at a young age, and were often left to their own devices for long periods of time while also being told that their voices didn't matter.

While the argument seems to be around their lack of involvement as grandparents, they appear to be saying that they want to enjoy the freedom they didn't have as children, while being valued as a person and not a babysitter. In many follow up videos, Gen Xers gushed over their grandchildren and how they loved when they were around. It's just that they draw the line at raising them. Maybe for some, their experiences with their own childhood isn't enough to move Gen X out of the "worst grandparents" category, but for others it provides much needed context.

Study finds dogs developed specific trait to manipulate humans.

People and dogs go together like spaghetti noodles and pasta sauce. The four-legged face lickers have been man's best friend since well before the wheel was invented. Dogs evolved from the grey wolf, likely after realizing that scavenging food from nearby camps was easier than going out and chasing down smaller prey. This method took way less energy exertion for the dogs, and since humans could make fires by then, sticking nearby was just smart planning.

If you've ever seen a wolf in real life, though, you know they're pretty intimidating. They don't look much like the dogs we've all come to love at all. In fact, they look like if you make the wrong move they'll attack and likely eat you, so it's not surprising that the wolves who decided to adopt humans needed a way to make people feel safe and empathetic to their plight. Thus, their proximity to humans resulted in the evolution of expressive eyebrow muscles.

The discovery that dogs developed the use of their eyebrows in order to essentially manipulate humans into feeling positively towards them is blowing people's minds. This scientific hypothesis recently went viral after a woman shared a video of her staring blankly ahead with superimposed text that reads, "I just learned that dogs evolved an eyebrow muscle to bond with humans."

@hannahosburn4 So if we all get Botox will that go away or no
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"So my dog constantly looks concerned on purpose??" someone says.

"The way my dog be doing the side eye + eyebrow combo at me makes me think he wants to judge me instead of bonding," another person writes.

Many people think dogs developing eyebrows to mimic human expression is adorable while others are skeptical, insisting that the trait came from selective breeding or to "trick other animals into thinking they were asleep." Although it's unclear how eyebrows would deceive other animals into believing dogs were sleeping when closing their eyes, this use would likely be more effective. Enter the Internet's favorite debunker, Hank Green, who goes on to confirm that science does in fact believe that dogs developed eyebrow muscles for connection with humans.

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"June 2019 'Evolution of Facial Anatomy in Dogs' show that the domestication transformed the facial muscle anatomy of dogs specifically for facial communication with humans. A muscle responsible for raising the inner eyebrow intensely is uniformly present in dogs but not in wolves," Green reads from the study. "This resembles an expression humans produce when sad, so its production in dogs may trigger a nurturing response."

In the abstract of the study, it says the scientists hypothesize "that dogs with expressive eyebrows had a selection advantage and that “puppy dog eyes” are the result of selection based on humans’ preferences." According to the study, dogs rely heavily on eye contact to communicate with humans and are better at the tools humans use to communicate more than other domesticated animals, including chimpanzees. This is the reason dogs will look to where you're pointing if you're making eye contact with them or use their name so they're aware you're communicating with them.

@hankgreen1 #stitch with @Hannie O Did dogs develop eyebrow muscles to communicate with humans? #askhank ♬ original sound - Hank Green

"Recent research suggests that eye contact between humans and dogs is crucial for dog−human social interaction. Dogs, but not wolves, establish eye contact with humans when they cannot solve a problem on their own," the study reads. "Eye contact also helps dogs to know when communication is relevant and directed at them, as dogs tend to ignore human pointing gestures when the human’s eyes are not visible."

Eye contact between dogs and humans known as "mutual gaze" creates an oxytocin loop between the two species, meaning both human and dog are getting the love chemical flooded into their brains when they look at each other. This is the same chemical that releases between humans and their infants. However, this oxytocin feedback loop does not happen with wolves and humans, leaving researchers to hypothesize about how this occurred.

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"Selection processes during domestication must have played an important role whereby dogs hijacked the human caregiving response. The most likely evolutionary scenario is that dogs’ ancestor must have, to some extent, expressed characteristics that elicited a caregiving response from humans. Humans then consciously or unconsciously favored and therefore selected for those characteristics, leading to the analogous adaptations we see in dogs today," the researchers suggest.

So yes, your dog did raise her eyebrow at you when you did that weird thing. Are they judging you? Probably not. They're likely just trying to decipher if the weird thing you did was some new communication tool they need to be aware of. At any rate, you can now confidently thank those wolves that somehow got humans to feel sorry for them thousands of years ago for your dog's sad puppy dog eyes when you refuse to share your sub sandwich.

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The question seems to be who actually did the domesticating, ancient humans or ancient grey wolves? Probably a little bit of both since dogs sure do love their humans and we love them right back.

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Family stages an intervention for pit bull that only misbehaves when Grandma is around

“I’m noticing that when your mom is at work, your behavior is getting worse.”

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Family stages intervention for their misbehaving dog

Dogs are toddlers in little furry bodies, or at least that's how they behave sometimes. They constantly get into things they shouldn't and act like they're hyped up on a batch of Pixy Stix when they are excited about something. Their uncontrollable zoomies can have dogs crashing into walls, furniture, and people without a care in their tiny dog world.

Just like toddlers, pit bulls' behavior can change depending on who supervises them. In one family, a pit bull named Bishop Ace keeps giving Grandma a run for her money any time she's charged with babysitting him. Jayla doesn't have any human grandchildren, and Bishop Ace is her only granddog, so you'd think he would be nicer to his grandma, especially since he knows how to behave.


Turns out that the pittie has exquisite manners with his mother, Shauna. He loves cuddling with her and listens the first time he's asked to do something, but as soon as mom goes to work, Bishop runs amuck.

But Shauna doesn't believe her sweet little dog could ever do anything as wild as grandma reports, which is exactly why grandma started recording Bishop's hijinks. This is what seems to have led to an intervention with the hyperactive pit bull.

"We want to have a conversation with you," Jayla says. "Because I'm noticing when mom is at work, your behavior is getting worse. You don't listen when grandma says 'drop it,' you run."

Bishop Ace refused to make eye contact for much of the intervention, and when Grandma was done speaking, Shauna gave the obviously guilty dog scratches and denied that it was him causing the problem. Even with the video evidence, Bishop Ace is still his mama's baby and can do no wrong in her eyes, so all of Grandma's intervention efforts never work. But if you want to see some adorably hilarious "bad dog" shenanigans, you can check out the video from The Dodo below.

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The commenters loved how Bishop interacts with his family, even if he is mischievous. "I love this! The look on his face during the intervention is priceless! He looks over at his mama like, 'I don’t know what this woman is talking about!' When mama was holding him like a baby he was looking up at grandma like, 'Just wait until she leaves!'" Andi wrote. "I love how he acted like that wasn't him in the video when Mom was looking at the phone and showing him how he was acting. This was just too hilarious, and it was so sweet how grandma was holding him and singing Amazing Grace, and he was so peaceful and relaxed," KWeaver added. "Love this video—especially the mock intervention. Grandma is awesome. Bishop just knows which play buttons to push," Jenny wrote in the comments.

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This article originally appeared two years ago.