This mom's viral post perfectly explains the importance of having mom friends.

It's a common scenario for too many new parents, usually moms:

The baby is here. Yay!

Those first couple of weeks are a magical whirlwind. It's hard, but exciting as you start to become a new kind of family.


But pretty soon, monotony sets in: feed the baby, change the baby, put the baby down, try to clean up or catch up on sleep (never both), repeat.

Visitors come and go, but mostly the days can be lonely. Repetitive. The same.

One mom recently opened up on Facebook about having a hard time with the transition, and about the "mom friends" she didn't know she needed.

Or "mummy friends" as she calls them.

Gylisa Jayne explains in the now viral post that she never wanted to be in a mom clique, sitting around talking about brands of diapers and the hottest educational toys for babies. It all just seemed so ... cliché.

But being a mom turned out to be harder than she thought, and despite her husband's best efforts, Jayne longed for someone who understood exactly what she was going through a little better:

"The ones that had been there, done that. The ones that were fumbling through for the first time — just like me. ... The ones proving you didn't need to lose yourself along the way. That you'll find a new you as you go.

The ones who needed me just as much as I needed them.

I made them laugh, and they made me howl with our observations of this bizarrely fabulous and horrendous journey.

There was no clique, just women loving women — despite what you might have heard.

I had love left over for my partner again then. Because he might not get it — but there were scores of women that did.

So I didn't want 'Mummy Friends'...

I needed them."











Here's the full post:

I never wanted ' Mummy Friends'. I didn't want to sit in noisy soft plays, or talk about different coloured shit. I...

Posted by Gylisa Jayne on Monday, July 31, 2017

More than half a million American women will suffer from postpartum depression this year.

That's an extremely conservative estimate, with so many more new moms not reporting symptoms or merely not recognizing them. Even putting aside medical diagnoses, being a new parent is just damn hard, and we all need a little help getting through it.

Jayne writes that anyone looking to grow their support group should be open to meeting new friends online.

"My first ' mum group' experience was actually all online through Facebook," she writes in a message. "We are going to meet for the first time this year, and they were the ones that were there through all the early days. Without those ladies I don't know how I'd have coped."

She adds that dads, of course, need support too.

"It's a massive taboo for men to even talk about their struggles and even more so in fatherhood," she says. But that shouldn't stop them.

So get out there, new parents, and find someone who gets what you're going through. Just because you have someone else to take care of now doesn't mean you should stop taking care of yourself.

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On an old episode of "The Oprah Winfrey Show" in July 1992, Oprah put her audience through a social experiment that puts racism in a new light. Despite being nearly two decades old, it's as relevant today as ever.

She split the audience members into two groups based on their eye color. Those with brown eyes were given preferential treatment by getting to cut the line and given refreshments while they waited to be seated. Those with blue eyes were made to put on a green collar and wait in a crowd for two hours.

Staff were instructed to be extra polite to brown-eyed people and to discriminate against blue-eyed people. Her guest for that day's show was diversity expert Jane Elliott, who helped set up the experiment and played along, explaining that brown-eyed people were smarter than blue-eyed people.

Watch the video to see how this experiment plays out.

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Cadbury has removed the words from its Dairy Milk chocolate bars in the U.K. to draw attention to a serious issue, senior loneliness.

On September 4, Cadbury released the limited-edition candy bars in supermarkets and for every one sold, the candy giant will donate 30p (37 cents) to Age UK, an organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for the elderly.

Cadbury was prompted to help the organization after it was revealed that 225,000 elderly people in the UK often go an entire week without speaking to another person.

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Young people today are facing what seems to be greater exposure to complex issues like mental health, bullying, and youth violence. As a result, teachers are required to be well-versed in far more than school curriculum to ensure students are prepared to face the world inside and outside of the classroom. Acting as more than teachers, but also mentors, counselors, and cheerleaders, they must be equipped with practical and relevant resources to help their students navigate some of the more complicated social issues – though access to such tools isn't always guaranteed.

Take Dr. Jackie Sanderlin, for example, who's worked in the education system for over 25 years, and as a teacher for seven. Entering the profession, she didn't anticipate how much influence a student's home life could affect her classroom, including "students who lived in foster homes" and "lacked parental support."

Dr. Jackie Sanderlin, who's worked in the education system for over 25 years.

Valerie Anglemyer, a middle school teacher with more than 13 years of experience, says it can be difficult to create engaging course work that's applicable to the challenges students face. "I think that sometimes, teachers don't know where to begin. Teachers are always looking for ways to make learning in their classrooms more relevant."

So what resources do teachers turn to in an increasingly fractured world? "Joining a professional learning network that supports and challenges thinking is one of the most impactful things that a teacher can do to support their own learning," Anglemyer says.

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A new program for teachers that offers this network along with other resources is the WE Teachers Program, an initiative developed by Walgreens in partnership with ME to WE and Mental Health America. WE Teachers provides tools and resources, at no cost to teachers, looking for guidance around the social issues related to poverty, youth violence, mental health, bullying, and diversity and inclusion. Through online modules and trainings as well as a digital community, these resources help them address the critical issues their students face.

Jessica Mauritzen, a high school Spanish teacher, credits a network of support for providing her with new opportunities to enrich the learning experience for her students. "This past year was a year of awakening for me and through support… I realized that I was able to teach in a way that built up our community, our school, and our students, and supported them to become young leaders," she says.

With the new WE Teachers program, teachers can learn to identify the tough issues affecting their students, secure the tools needed to address them in a supportive manner, and help students become more socially-conscious, compassionate, and engaged citizens.

It's a potentially life-saving experience for students, and in turn, "a great gift for teachers," says Dr. Sanderlin.

"I wish I had the WE Teachers program when I was a teacher because it provides the online training and resources teachers need to begin to grapple with these critical social issues that plague our students every day," she adds.

In addition to the WE Teachers curriculum, the program features a WE Teachers Award to honor educators who go above and beyond in their classrooms. At least 500 teachers will be recognized and each will receive a $500 Walgreens gift card, which is the average amount teachers spend out-of-pocket on supplies annually. Teachers can be nominated or apply themselves. To learn more about the awards and how to nominate an amazing teacher, or sign up for access to the teacher resources available through WE Teachers, visit walgreens.com/metowe.

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One of the major differences between women and men is that women are often judged based on their looks rather than their character or abilities.

"Men as well as women tend to establish the worth of individual women primarily by the way their body looks, research shows. We do not do this when we evaluate men," Naomi Ellemers Ph.D. wrote in Psychology Today.

Dr. Ellers believes that this tendency to judge a woman solely on her looks causes them to be seen as an object rather than a person.

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