There's a big conversation happening over whether parents should have sex when their kids are home
It's healthy for kids to see their parents be romantic and affectionate — though there's a limit.

The prompt was simple:
"Y'all ever got chewed up by Twitter?"
A user that goes by micah (@Shadowized) replied even more simply: "oh boy"
Then they shared a screenshot of an old Tweet that had ignited discussion and controversy over a year ago.
And what happened? The same Tweet started a firestorm — again!
The polarizing opinion that got everyone in a tizzy?
"Having sex when your children are in the house is weird. full stop. if you want to have sex that bad do it when no one's in the house. have someone babysit your kid. rent a hotel. they don't need to hear that because it can be incredibly traumatic. do better."
Though the category was "controversial Tweets", at least a handful of people agreed with the sentiment
A not-insignificant number of people chimed in to say that they agreed — sex when your kids are home is weird, traumatic, gross. You name it.
Some folks mentioned hearing or seeing their parents having sex with lots of different partners during their childhood which, admittedly, is probably a lot for a kid to process.
But it didn't take long for Twitter, or now X, to start "chewing" Micah up. Again.
A user name Sarah wrote:
"no couple should just stop having sex and being intimate because they had kids and if you can’t do it quietly or think you’re gonna “traumatize them”, then have fun renting hotel rooms once a month and planning out your sex based on if a babysitter is gonna be there for you or not on a friday night"
Another joked: "these kids can't know that you love each other. It'll traumatize them for life."
Micah clarified later in the thread that all the people commenting were missing the original context of the hot take.
"The context was that a child woke up sobbing because she heard her mother screaming during sex. she was terrified and thought something was wrong!" Micah wrote, referencing an old viral TikTok that made light of that poor child's horror.
But it was too late. The Tweet was already off and running — steamrolling its way to over 23 million views (and counting).
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Who knew people had so many strong opinions about parenting? And sex? And trauma?!
So... is getting caught having sex by your kids really traumatic? Or is it just kind of embarrassing?
Almost everyone has a story about hearing or, unfortunately, seeing their parents having sex when they were a kid — a story they wish they could forget.
When people live in close quarters together for years and years, it's bound to happen!
Expecting parents to keep the romantic side of their relationship a secret is unreasonable, unrealistic, and — if we're talking about overnight babysitters and hotel rooms — financially laughable.
To Micah's original point, though, there's obviously a line.
If you're screaming so loud that your child wakes up and thinks you're being murdered, maybe tone it down a tad!
But it's fair to ask just how hard parents should really be trying to stay discrete.
Limited research shows that parents who love each other can have a profoundly positive impact on their children later in life.
Allowing children to witness that affection and love in the form of "I love you's" and kisses and physical touch is a good thing and helps promote healthy emotional development, even if it makes them a little squeamish.
Maybe it's even a good thing for them to know, on some level, that you do have sex — even if you'd rather them not see or hear it. But if you get caught every once in a blue moon? They'll be fine — as long as you talk to them in an honest and age-appropriate way.
After all, it'd be way more traumatic to grow up in a household that demonizes sex than one that discusses it openly.
As for the original poster, Micah, they're taking all the discourse in stride.
"as much as i don’t 100% agree with the way i worded things i’m keeping this tweet up because it’s really funny to see people get mad!!!"
If that's the goal, then mission accomplished!
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Mom is totally humiliated after her kindergartner tells the teacher what she does for work
She was clearly mortified.
A mom is embarrassed by her child.
One of the great joys and stresses of parenting is that you never know what will come out of your child’s mouth. When you have young, inquisitive kids, they can say really inappropriate things to people without realizing they were being rude or possibly offensive. TikTok influencer Aurora McCausland (@auroramccausland), known for her DIY cleaning tips, recently told a funny story on the platform about how her son believes she makes a living. The problem was that she heard about it from her child's teacher.
Mom is embarrassed by her child
“The other day, I went and picked my five year old up from school and when I get to his classroom his teacher pulls me inside and says, ‘Hey, today he wanted to tell us about what Mommy does for work and said that Mommy makes videos in her bedroom but only when I'm [he’s] not at home,” McCausland recalled.
Given her body language while telling the story, McCausland was clearly mortified after hearing what her child said to his teacher. It makes it look like she may be posting videos to adult sites while her child is at school, which most people wouldn’t want their son’s teacher to know about.
The good news is that another teacher was there to clarify the young boy's comments by adding, “I think she makes TikTok videos.” The uncomfortable situation was a great invitation to chat with her son about what she does for a living. “So I have to have a conversation with my son about how he tells people what I do for work,” she finished her video.
The funny video went viral, earning over 1.7 million views on TikTok, and inspired many people to share the times when their children had funny ways of explaining their careers. The commenters were a great reminder to parents everywhere that if your child says something embarrassing, it's ok, just about everyone has been through it.
Moms share their most embarrassing moments
A lot of parents spoke up in the comments to show McCausland that she's not the only one to feel embarrassed in front of her child's teacher.
"My son told everyone that we were homeless (because we don’t own our home, we rent)," KBR wrote.
"I work in ortho.. my daughter told her teacher I steal people's knees bc she heard me talking to my husband about a knee replacement," Aingeal wrote.
"My son told a teacher we were living in our car over the summer. Camping. We went camping," Kera wrote.
"In kinder, my son thought Red Bull was alcohol and told his teacher I liked to have beer on the way to school," Ashley wrote.
My niece told her teacher her mom and dad work at the wh*re house. They work at the courthouse," Ellis wrote.
"My husband works as a table games dealer at a casino. Kindergartener, 'Daddy's a Dealer!' We now start every school year clearly stating he works at the casino," CMAC
"My son said we lived in a crack house…There’s a tiny chip in the wall from the doorknob," KNWerner wrote.
"My dad is a hospice chaplain and officiates a lot of funerals. My son and nephew were asked by their preschool teacher if their papa was retired or had a job. They told her his job was to kill people," Tiffyd wrote.
"My son said "my dad left me and I'm all alone" to a random person at the zoo. My husband was just at work," Shelby.
"I am now in my 70s. In my gradeschool, during the McCarthy era, I told my teacher my dad was a communist. He was an economist," Crackerbelly wrote.
"In Kindergarten, my daughter told her teacher that mommy drinks and drives all the time. Coffee. From Starbucks," Jessica wrote.
"Well I once told my kindergarden teacher a man climbs over our fence to visit my mom when her husband is not home... It was a handy man who came to fix gates when they were stuck," Annie wrote.
Ultimately, McCausland’s story is a fun reminder of how children see things through their own unique lens and, with total innocence, can say some of the funniest things. It’s also a great warning to parents everywhere: if you aren’t clear with your kids about what you do for a living, you may be setting yourself up for a very embarrassing misunderstanding. So, even if you think they know what you do ask them as see what they say, you could save yourself from a lot of embarrassment.
This article originally appeared last year and has been updated.