We need to listen to autistic people’s critiques of their portrayal in Sia’s ‘Music’

When the trailer for Sia’s directorial debut movie “Music” was released in November, the Australian singer faced intense backlash from people in the autistic community who felt that the portrayal of an autistic character played by Maddie Ziegler (who is not autistic) was problematic. Advocates also expressed concern about the use of harmful restraint techniques…

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When the trailer for Sia’s directorial debut movie “Music” was released in November, the Australian singer faced intense backlash from people in the autistic community who felt that the portrayal of an autistic character played by Maddie Ziegler (who is not autistic) was problematic. Advocates also expressed concern about the use of harmful restraint techniques shown in the trailer.

At the time, Sia engaged in heated public debate with her critics on social media, ultimately ending with the statement, “I really hope you see the movie (s)o you can be less angry.”

Now the movie is out, and autistic people are commenting on the full film—and they are definitely not any less upset.

The Autisticats is a group of autistic young people who share their experiences with being autistic (among other things) online. On their Twitter account, one of them offered a “detailed & chronological review” of the film.


First they shared images and a clip from the film that show the exaggerated mannerisms of the autistic main character, in addition to a scene with strobing lights and overwhelming visuals that would be difficult for many autistic people to sit through.


Their explanation of what was problematic continued in the thread:

This performance is a caricature of autistic body language. It’s unsettling, and insincere. And it is deeply reminiscent of the exaggerated mannerisms non-autistic people often employ when bullying autistic & developmentally disabled people for the ways we move.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with the ways autistic people move, or the ways we make facial expressions. Some of us roll our eyes and put our teeth over our lips as a stim or just because it’s comfortable. But we do those things naturally. Maddie Ziegler does not.

The fact that Ziegler is not autistic, and the fact that her performance is so heavily exaggerated, turns the entire movie into one long display of mockery. I know that ‘wasn’t Sia’s intention.’ But it doesn’t make things any easier to stomach.

Two other things I want to touch on: 1. The strobing lights and colors in the dance scenes are extremely overstimulating, and could cause seizures in people with photosensitive epilepsy (common in autistic people) 2. The restraint scenes are still there, without a warning.

I was under the impression, according to Sia’s apology and accompanying promise, that: A. There would be a warning at the beginning of the movie regarding the danger of restraint, or B. That the restraint scenes would be removed from the film entirely. That isn’t true so far.

If this thread prevents just 5 other people from watching this movie, it will have been worth it. I know people are curious. And I also know it’s not my responsibility to bear the burden of watching this film for the community. But I want to serve the greater good.

I want to be able to provide my perspective from as informed a position as possible, and I couldn’t do that without actually watching the film. I’ll be writing my review and posting it when it’s done. I don’t know if this was a good idea. I just want it to be worth something.”

With the film receiving two Golden Globe nominations—one for best motion picture, musical or comedy, and one for best actress in a musical or comedy (for Kate Hudson’s performance)—the controversy is extra heightened, and many people from the autistic and disabled community are weighing in. A petition requesting the Golden Globes to rescind the nominations due to the movie being “severely ableist” and contributing to “harmful stereotypes of autistic people” has been signed by nearly 50,000 people so far.

According to Vanity Fair, Sia has said that a disclaimer will be placed at the beginning of the film that reads: “MUSIC in no way condones or recommends the use of restraint on autistic people. There are autistic occupational therapists that specialize in sensory processing who can be consulted to explain safe ways to provide proprioceptive, deep-pressure feedback to help w meltdown safety.” She also said that future releases of the film will have the restraint scenes removed.

https://www.twitter.com/AKwritesnow/status/1360333585933365252

Though Sia has defended her good intentions in the casting and directing of the film, she has also apologized repeatedly for the film’s portrayal of autism. “I listened to the wrong people and that is my responsibility,” she wrote on Twitter, “my research was clearly not thorough enough, not wide enough.” She has since deleted her Twitter account.

More details about the making of the movie have come out that indicate there were some red flags even in the midst of filming. Sia said that Maddie Ziegler herself, who played the role at age 14, broke down crying one day and told Sia she was afraid people were going to think she was making fun of autistic people. Sia reassured her that she wouldn’t let that happen.


What Sia should have done is seen the teen’s discomfort as a sign that perhaps there was something problematic in the way the role was being played and sought more advocates in the autistic community to consult about it.

https://www.twitter.com/EvelKneidel/status/1360434248793096192

Though “Music” certainly isn’t the first movie to have a neurotypical actor portraying a neurodivergent character, the issue has been brought up so many times following other films and society has become so much more aware that it’s quite clear that the issues in this film could have been remedied with more meaningful inclusion of autistic people in the filmmaking process.

Grappling our way toward becoming a more accepting, respectful, and truly inclusive society is a messy process. Let’s listen and learn from these responses and conversations so that harm to already stigmatized communities can be avoided in the future.

  • Margaret Hamilton cracked up a live audience sharing how she was cast as the Wicked Witch
    Margaret Hamilton played Almira Gulch and the Wicked Witch of the West in "The Wizard of Oz."Photo credit: Public domain
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    Margaret Hamilton cracked up a live audience sharing how she was cast as the Wicked Witch

    Margaret Hamilton’s superb acting made the role iconic—but her nose helped, too.

    As one of the first iconic villains to hit the big screen, the Wicked Witch of the West lives in our collective memory. Those who’ve seen the original 1939 film The Wizard of Oz can hear the witch’s high-pitched cackle. We can recite her menacing line: “I’ll get you, my pretty! And your little dog, too!”

    Margaret Hamilton played the role in the film when she was 35 years old. Even though she was only on screen for 12 minutes, her performance was unforgettable. While speaking to a live audience in her later years (exact time and place unknown), Hamilton shared the story of how she was cast, showcasing her delightful personality in the process.

    Hamilton said she had done about six pictures for MGM before the opportunity to appear in The Wizard of Oz came along. Then she shared the details of that conversation with the audience:

    “One day, my agent called and said, ‘Maggie, they’re really kind of interested in you for a part in The Wizard of Oz.’ And I said, ‘Oh gosh. Think of that,’ I said, ‘I loved that story from the time I was four years old. What is it?’ And he said, ‘Well, the Witch.’ And I said, ‘The Witch?!’ Then he said the final thing, he said, ‘Yes, what else?’”

    The audience burst out laughing.

    “I thought, ‘Well, that’s kind of an exciting part.’ But jeez, I had my, you know, my eyes on something else. I don’t know what it was exactly, but I didn’t think about the Witch. However, I ought to because I’d had that nose quite a long while.”

    The audience busted up again.

    A scene from the 1939 Wizard of Oz film with Glinda, Dorothy, and the Wicked Witch
    Margaret Hamilton wore a prosthetic nose tip and a prosthetic chin in the film. Photo credit: Public domain

    The fact that she totally owned her prominent nose, a signature feature few in Hollywood would embrace today, is so refreshing. It’s especially notable considering the Wicked Witch was originally conceived as a bit more glamorous and beautiful in the film. Producer Mervyn LeRoy said he didn’t want the character to be hideous, as he didn’t want to “scare children away from the theatre.”

    Hamilton is by no means hideous. But when LeRoy changed his mind about the character’s look, she fit it perfectly. When she tested for the role, she wore “the oldest, crummiest-looking clothes I could find, some dirty things that sort of hung on me like a Mother Hubbard, and then a little shawl.”

    “There was no witch’s hat,” she said, “and I really looked more like an old hag. And I cackled and screamed and said a few lines from the script.”

    The Wicked Witch of the West was born.

    And scare children she did. People in the comments shared how terrified they were of her when they were kids:

    “This woman scared the absolute s__t out of me when I was a child.”

    “Gave me nightmares. Her and those flying monkeys. Yow!”

    “Her witch scared the hell out of me as a child, and even as a man I still found her frightening.”

    “That scene in the tornado where she turns from Almira Gulch on the bicycle, into the witch on the broomstick was absolutely terrifying when I was 6 years old.”

    “She made the witch utterly terrifying! Job well done no doubt.”

    “She scared me so much as a little kid. I was amazed to discover later that she had been, of all things, a *kindergarten teacher*!”

    That’s right, this terrifying witch was a kindergarten teacher when she wasn’t acting.

    She frightened audiences for generations. In fact, Hamilton’s appearance as the Wicked Witch on Sesame Street in 1976 was prohibited from airing after parents complained that their children were frightened. (Though Hamilton’s appearance wasn’t nearly as scary as her character in the film, the Sesame Street audience was very young.)

    However, she also appeared on Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood as herself. Talking to Fred Rogers, she explained how she viewed the character of the Wicked Witch of the West:

    “Sometimes the children feel she’s a very mean witch, and she does seem that way. But I always think two things about her: She does enjoy everything she does, whether it’s good or bad, she does enjoy it. She also is what we sometimes refer to as ‘frustrated.’ She’s very unhappy because she never gets what she wants, Mr. Rogers. Most of us get something we want along the line, but as far as we know that witch has never got what she wanted…”

    She also dressed up as the Witch, but without the green makeup, showing kids that it was really just a nice lady in a costume all along.

    Despite the fear she evoked with her most famous role, people loved Hamilton’s real-life character. Patty Duke, who worked with her on The Patty Duke Show in the 1960s, called Hamilton “the gentlest soul you could ever meet” in her memoir.

    Folks in the comments on her casting story shared the same sentiment:

    “A friend of mine had the opportunity to meet and have lunch with Mrs. Hamilton in Manhattan in the mid – 70’s after she had retired. He told me she was one most humble, kind, and sweetest lady you could ever meet….and insisted on picking up the check for their meal.”

    “My mother met her in the late 60’s. She said she was nicest, sweetest person she had ever met.”

    “She was my mother’s kindergarten teacher.”

    Margaret Hamilton in 1929 (left) and in 1973 (right). Photo credit: Public domain

    “I met Margaret Hamilton while I was working at a drug store in Beverly Hills as a teenager in the early 1970s. The other young staff and I crouched down and marched around her chanting the Wicked Witch theme from the movie. Ms. Hamilton laughed and was so kind to us.”

    “She’s so naturally charismatic. Not even acting, just being herself and telling a story and I was captivated. No wonder her performance was so mesmerizing. She’s just an awesome lady.”

    “I remember her when I was a child and not just from the film. She was on Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood as herself to show everyone she was a nice person and that the witch was just a character she played. She seemed like such a kind person.”

    Hamilton died in 1985 at age 82. She is remembered today both for the characters she portrayed on screen and for the character she exemplified in real life.

  • People shared the ‘one question’ they’d ask God if they could, and the responses are profound
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    People shared the ‘one question’ they’d ask God if they could, and the responses are profound

    Throughout human history, we have had a lot of gods, at least 18,000, to be specific. Most people believe in just one and forget about the other 17,999 that have fallen in and out of favor over the millennia. If we focus on the major god of the Abrahamic religions—Christianity, Judaism, and Islam—we, as mortal…

    Throughout human history, we have had a lot of gods, at least 18,000, to be specific. Most people believe in just one and forget about the other 17,999 that have fallen in and out of favor over the millennia. If we focus on the major god of the Abrahamic religions—Christianity, Judaism, and Islam—we, as mortal humans, still have many questions that remain unanswered in their holy books.

    For example:

    If you love us, why do you send a big percentage to hell?

    Why do you allow evil to happen?

    Who killed John F. Kennedy?

    Why do you only cure diseases that we can’t see? (And never cure amputees or burn victims?)

    Why do churches ask for money? Can’t you just make a bag of cash magically appear when the rent is due?

    Why is shellfish an abomination when it’s so damn tasty?

    lobster, lemon, lobster dinner, garnish, seafood, shellfish,
    A lobster ready to eat. Photo credit: Canva

    The problem is that humans can ask all the questions we like, and the big answer we usually get is: “God works in mysterious ways.”

    Well, a group of folks on Reddit wouldn’t accept that as an answer, so they got together and listed all the questions they would ask God if they had the chance. Many people questioned whether we truly have free will, while others wondered where God is when tragedies happen. It’s great food for thought, and just maybe God will one day pop into the comments section and sort things out.

    1. The question of evil

    “Are you willing to stop evil, but unable? Or are you able to stop evil, but unwilling?”

    2. Can I have a do-over?

    “Can I start all over again and retain my memories, please?”

    3. Where did you come from?

    “How were you created if you’re the creator?”

    This is a big question, and for many religious people the answer is simple: God is eternal and the “uncaused cause” of everything else. This rubs determinists the wrong way because they believe that everything must have a prior cause.

    4. The Fieri conundrum

    “Why did you allow Guy Fieri to create Donkey Sauce?”

    For the uninitiated, Donkey Sauce was popularized by Guy Fieri on his TV show Diners, Drive-Ins and Dives. Although it may have a bizarre name, it’s basically a mayo-and-garlic sauce that often features Dijon mustard, lemon juice, and Worcestershire sauce.

    5. The big three

    “I have no singular question, I have three that are combined…

    How can we have free will if you’re omniscient (all-knowing). You knew what colour my pajama pants were before I put them on tonight, yet I’m supposed to have made that decision myself with my own free will? That doesn’t make sense if you already knew.

    If you’re omnipotent (all powerful) then how could you make a stone so powerful that you couldn’t lift it… if you couldn’t, you’re not all powerful, if you can… then you’re not all powerful.

    If you’re all-loving then why is there so much pointless suffering?”

    6. Why such a poor communicator?

    “Why do you make yourself in a way that makes it so humanity has to follow a thousand-year-old book. Why can’t you just give us monthly updates or some sh*t via our phones. Seems a lot more effective.”

    7. The pizza predicament

    “Why is pizza such an unhealthy food? It should be something you consume all the time to stay in shape and fight cancer.”

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    A whole pizza. Photo credit: Canva

    8. Yeah, really

    “Child cancer? WTF dude.”

    9. More evidence would be nice

    “Why don’t you just give us a clear evidence, before blaming us for not believing in you?”

    “If you have a plan for us and know everything that will ever happen, why do you blame us and condemn people to suffer forever for the crime of not doing what you wanted us to do when you already knew everyone who was going to was going to do that and counted on it?”

    10. A corgi question

    “Did you just put all the creation points in cuteness and herding skills when you made the corgi, or was there another plan for this dog?”

    @walnutthefluffycorgi

    Thinking about getting a corgi? Here are 3 potential cons of owning one! #corgi #fluffycorgi #pembrokewelshcorgi

    ♬ Fluffy Pancake – Oneul

    11. *taps watch*

    “Where have you been?”

    12. How hot?

    “Could you microwave a burrito so hot that you yourself could not eat it?”

    It seems that God would probably be able to eat a burrito cooked as hot as it can get, because that would only reach 212°F, the boiling point of water. Microwaves cook food by making water molecules vibrate, so once the temperature reaches the boiling point, the water turns into steam rather than getting any hotter.

    13. Why are we here?

    “It’s one of life’s great mysteries isn’t it? Why are we here? I mean, are we the product of some cosmic coincidence, or is there really a God watching everything? You know, with a plan for us and stuff. I don’t know, man, but it keeps me up at night.”

    14. Is it all about suffering?

    “The weird thing about this for me is wondering what I’d do next. like if god really answers ‘to suffer, it’s fun for me to watch you all be miserable’ do you just … go to work the next day”

    15. Reincarnation

    “What’s my soul’s goal so I can stop reincarnating already?”

    reincarnation, soul, spirit, death, afterlife, religion,
    Reincarnation. Photo credit: Canva

    16. The apple

    “All this over a piece of $&@%ing fruit?!?”

    17. The most important question

    “Are my cats and dog happy?”

  • Musician reimagines Darth Vader’s iconic theme song if he’d ‘gone to therapy,’ and it’s strangely beautiful
    Avishai Darash swaps out the minor chords for major chords and transforms Darth Vader’s theme song.Photo credit: @avishaidarash/Instagram & Wikimedia Commons
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    Musician reimagines Darth Vader’s iconic theme song if he’d ‘gone to therapy,’ and it’s strangely beautiful

    When it comes to villain songs, few are as instantly recognizable as “The Imperial March,” better known as Darth Vader’s theme from Star Wars. The G minor key, one of the darkest in classical music, plus the relentlessly steady rhythm, reminiscent of a military march…it’s all so bombastically, unapologetically evil-sounding. It also helps that composer…

    When it comes to villain songs, few are as instantly recognizable as “The Imperial March,” better known as Darth Vader’s theme from Star Wars. The G minor key, one of the darkest in classical music, plus the relentlessly steady rhythm, reminiscent of a military march…it’s all so bombastically, unapologetically evil-sounding.

    It also helps that composer John Williams used the Star Wars franchise to introduce the cinematic world to the Wagnerian leitmotif—a concept well known in opera, where recurring bits of music act as a character’s calling card. In Vader’s case, viewers would hear the tune whenever he slaughtered innocents and enforced the Empire’s tyranny, making it pretty much synonymous with bad guy behavior.

    But composer and pianist Avishai Darash wondered what that dastardly march might sound like if things had played out a little differently—namely, if Vader had, as Darash put it, “gone to therapy,” done away with his imperial ways, and been the dad Luke and Leia deserved.

    The result: a revamped theme song (using major keys, of course) that feels like it belongs more in the world of Jane Austen than sword fighting in space.

    Instead of dread and looming danger, the melody suddenly feels light, warm, and oddly wholesome, like something you might hear while strolling through a sunlit garden rather than watching a galactic conquest unfold.

    “Maybe Luke just wanted to hear ‘I’m proud of you, son,’” Darash quipped in the comments.

    Viewers react

    The clip, which racked up 92,000 views, inspired a ton of funny (and punny) comments from Star Wars fans:

    “Episode V: The empire loves you back.”

    “I bet this Vader knows how to French braid Leia’s hair.”

    “The love is strong with this one.”

    “It evokes images of Darth Vader skipping whimsically through a meadow.”

    “Luke, I am your caregiver 😶‍🌫️”

    “Well that’s a major plot twist 🍿”

    “You are not a Jedi yet… but your journey is valid and I admire the hard work- keep going, I’ll always have your back, Mom’s getting Starbucks, what’s your order?”

    “Luke, I am your emotionally and physically present father.”

    A specialty for Darash

    This isn’t the first time Darash has taken a well-known character song from a movie score and completely reimagined it. In fact, turning famous themes on their heads has become something of a specialty for him.

    For instance, in this video he imagines Clark Kent as just your average Joe, with no Superman alter ego. Suddenly his life feels far more grounded and ordinary.

    Or this one, where Vito Corleone “just ran a family restaurant” and “paid his taxes,” rather than being a mob boss, making him a “good father” instead of a “Godfather.”

    Or this one, which imagines what would have happened if the Titanic had never sunk and Jack and Rose had lived happily ever after. Less tragedy and a lot more hope, but it still tugs at the heartstrings.

    After seeing these, isn’t it nice to know that in this complicated life there are a few simple things we can rely on? Two plus two equals four. Blue and red make purple. Major chords sound happy; minor chords do not. You don’t have to be a music genius to understand that on a visceral level.

    Now, what if the dinosaurs from Jurassic Park were actually cute and cuddly rather than wild and carnivorous? That’s the cover I’m waiting to hear. 

  • A driver lost consciousness on the highway. A stranger pulled a heroic PIT maneuver to stop his car.
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    A driver lost consciousness on the highway. A stranger pulled a heroic PIT maneuver to stop his car.

    Unless someone is a trained professional, you never quite know how you’ll react in an emergency. San Antonio, Texas, resident Rene Villarreal-Albe recently witnessed a potentially deadly situation and responded quickly. The man was driving down the highway with his wife when he noticed something strange. A car was swerving in and out of traffic…

    Unless someone is a trained professional, you never quite know how you’ll react in an emergency. San Antonio, Texas, resident Rene Villarreal-Albe recently witnessed a potentially deadly situation and responded quickly.

    The man was driving down the highway with his wife when he noticed something strange. A car was swerving in and out of traffic before hitting a barrier on the side of the road, only to swerve back into speeding traffic. Realizing something was likely seriously wrong, the couple decided to pull closer to the erratic vehicle.

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    A man gets out of a damaged car. Photo credit: Canva

    They were right. The driver of the vehicle was not only in trouble but also completely unconscious. With no one else in the car to help, Villarreal-Albe had to make a split-second decision. He knew that if he didn’t stop the car, it could seriously injure or kill someone. So he decided to stop it himself.

    Villarreal-Albe is a welder, not a police officer. He isn’t trained in vehicular maneuvers to immobilize a moving vehicle. But that didn’t stop him from trying.

    San Antonio, good Samaritan, car accident, wholesome, heroes
    A damaged car on the side of a highway. Photo credit: Canva

    “I was just really worried about his well-being,” Villarreal-Albe told KENS 5. “Seeing his state like that, it’s terrible. I don’t wish that upon nobody.”

    The man essentially mimicked a maneuver often seen on television used by law enforcement. It’s called a PIT maneuver, which stands for Precision Immobilization Technique, according to the Federal Law Enforcement Training Centers. The technique has been used since the 1980s.

    The Good Samaritan used his truck to the best of his ability to force the runaway SUV to stop. It worked. Shortly afterward, a licensed-vocational nurse who witnessed what happened joined the couple. The unnamed nurse jumped out of her car and immediately began CPR on the unconscious man.

    “This lady started CPR right away, and he lost color, but he came back, and that made it worth it,” Villarreal-Albe said.

    In a separate interview, the unnamed nurse explained why she pulled over, sharing that several other motorists stopped to help as well.

    “I just felt that I need to stop, so I pulled over to the side, and I put my hazards on, and I ran over there,” she told KENS 5. “I just immediately started CPR, and I was going at it for a little bit, and I was doing mouth-to-mouth. I was able to see the color come back to him, and he was in and out. He was gasping for some air.”

    The other Good Samaritans were the ones who pulled the man out of the car and laid him on the ground. This allowed the nurse to begin chest compressions, though it was her first time ever performing CPR on a real person. Within minutes, she became fatigued. Thankfully, another woman trained in CPR took over, giving the nurse a break. Between the two women, they were able to continue CPR until an ambulance arrived.

    There’s no word on what caused the man’s medical emergency, but the extraordinary teamwork of a group of strangers saved his life. He is still recovering in a San Antonio hospital.

  • Gen Z has fallen in love with Bumpits and, just like that, early 2000s pouf hairstyles are everywhere again
    Gen Z has fallen in love with Bumpits.Photo credit: TikTok/@katie.org (with permission)
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    Gen Z has fallen in love with Bumpits and, just like that, early 2000s pouf hairstyles are everywhere again

    Gen Z is obsessed with the 2000s and 2010s, which they’ve labeled the “last era of sweet delusion.” They’ve also latched onto a number of Millennial fashion trends, including low-rise jeans. There’s no doubt that Gen Z has established plenty of its own fashion trends, from suits with shorts to barrel jeans. But the generation…

    Gen Z is obsessed with the 2000s and 2010s, which they’ve labeled the “last era of sweet delusion.” They’ve also latched onto a number of Millennial fashion trends, including low-rise jeans.

    There’s no doubt that Gen Z has established plenty of its own fashion trends, from suits with shorts to barrel jeans. But the generation is also embracing a ’00s hair trend that has Millennials shook: the hair pouf, a bubbly bouffant style popularized by celebrities like Laguna Beach star Lauren Conrad and Jersey Shore standout Nicole “Snooki” Polizzi.

    Now, Gen Z is getting a little extra help from one iconic volumizing hair accessory: Bumpits.

    Gen Z is bringing back Bumpits

    On TikTok, many Gen Zers are showing off the results of their 2000s hair transformations using Bumpits. Inspired by French actress Brigitte Bardot’s legendary bouffant style, Gen Z is also putting its own twist on how it uses Bumpits.

    Hairstylist Stephanie Angelone told Bustle that Bumpits are coming back with Gen Z in a “more lax way.”

    @katie.org

    Replying to @emma liz this was a great way to start off the series and we should bring these back #fyp #hair #bumpit #asseenontv

    ♬ Yacht Club – MusicBox

    “Millennials used dozens of bobby pins to pin their pouf into place, which made it very defined, almost like an updo,” she said. “Gen Z prefers micro claw clips so it’s easy and effortless.”

    Gen Zers are documenting themselves trying out Bumpits in different styles, from half-up, half-down ‘dos to simple hair-down looks. Many note that it takes multiple tries to get it right, but once they do, they love the results.

    @abbimae_

    Bringing back the Bump It Take 2!! 🥲 any help would be greatly appreciated, I never had one as a child so I’m still learning 😂 #bumpit #bumpitup

    ♬ original sound – Abbi-Mae💌

    TikToker @blackhairedbrat noted, “While figuring out how to secure everything, I realized it’s essential to tease all the hair up to hide the Bump-It properly. Otherwise, it might lead to an embarrassing peek-a-boo of the hidden accessory!”

    Once she figured it out, she was a happy camper: “So far, I’d give this a solid 7 out of 10. It’s definitely something I would use, especially for those blessed with thick hair.”

    The history of Bumpits

    Bumpits were invented by Kelly Fitzpatrick-Bennett and made their debut in 2009 on the now-defunct As Seen on TV channel. Fitzpatrick-Bennett claims that more than 10 million units were sold.

    In an interview on Fran Drescher’s talk show, she explained that her career as a hairdresser inspired her to create Bumpits after clients came in wanting hair like Jennifer Aniston’s on Friends—but didn’t have the volume for it.

    Bumpits featured an over-the-top commercial with dramatic clips of women struggling to achieve volumized looks that seem to be cemented in Millennial memories.

    “Are you exhausted from dealing with flat, lifeless hairstyles? Do you find yourself using an entire can of hairspray just to achieve that voluminous look? It’s time to ‘bump it up’ with the iconic Bumpit!” the commercial said.

    Millennials react

    On Reddit, Millennials shared their personal experiences and funny stories wearing Bumpits back in the day:

    “Ooof, I totally used to use these 😬To be fair, I was in cosmetology school and that hairstyle was popular at the time. One Saturday a bunch of my classmates and I went out to a bar after school and I ran into a guy I had a HUGE crush on. He is extremely tall and when he bent down to give me a hug, his chin hit the bump-it HARD, it scratched his chin and rammed the bump-it into my scalp. Embarrassing and painful and I’m sure the reason we never dated. I stopped wearing them shortly after that, but I still have them around here somewhere.”

    “I felt indignant at the time that they didn’t make them for red hair…My perspective has changed somewhat in hindsight.”

    “I had one, didn’t work.”

    “Used these RELIGIOUSLY during the time ‘Jersey Shore’ was coming out. Even used one for my prom hair 😭😭😂😂.”

    “I could never get mine to not be visible. I have fine hair and had lots of it at the time, but no matter how I tried, I couldn’t get the blessed thing hidden completely.”

    “I still have mine 🤣🤣🤣.”

    “Being a HS cheerleader in 2008-2010 in the Midwest, these were EVERYTHING.”

    “This trend was so awful. It brings back hilarious memories.”

  • 12 times people completely misunderstood what an acronym or emoji actually means
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    12 times people completely misunderstood what an acronym or emoji actually means

    Communication has always been a hit-or-miss reality, even before the Internet. Misunderstandings, misreadings, and misinterpretations happen. But the age of emojis and online-only acronyms has opened up even more opportunities for miscommunication, sometimes resulting in mortifying hilarity. A thread on X highlights misuses of modern acronyms and emojis, largely revolving around the letter “F.” (Fair…

    Communication has always been a hit-or-miss reality, even before the Internet. Misunderstandings, misreadings, and misinterpretations happen. But the age of emojis and online-only acronyms has opened up even more opportunities for miscommunication, sometimes resulting in mortifying hilarity.

    A thread on X highlights misuses of modern acronyms and emojis, largely revolving around the letter “F.” (Fair warning here that many of these contain f-bombs.) It starts with someone who thought “JFC” stood for “just for clarification.”

    JFC ≠ Just For Clarification

    Imagine putting JFC in a professional email without knowing that the common meaning is “Jesus F____ing Christ.” As in, “JFC, we’ll go over that at our meeting next week.” Has a whole different feel, doesn’t it?

    LOL no longer means Lots of Love

    A super common acronym confusion is LOL. In modern online usage, it means “laugh out loud.” However, the acronym predates texting and social media. Traditionally, LOL was used to say “lots of love” at the end of a letter.

    Those two different usages create some very awkward interchanges, such as when a person responds with condolences: “So sorry for your loss. LOL”

    Hard Pass ≠ Hard to Pass on

    This one isn’t an acronym or emoji, but it has become a common slang term. In modern usage, “hard pass” means “Nope, nope, nopity nope. I immediately and absolutely do NOT want to do that thing.” So imagine how embarrassing it would be if you used “hard pass” to respond to a party invitation, thinking it meant, “It’s hard for me to pass on this, but I’m afraid I have to, so sorry.”

    Hopefully, the person receiving the “hard pass” RSVP knew the person well enough to know they may be confused about the phrase, because ouch.

    FTW = several things

    Sometimes an acronym takes hold in a specific time period or subgroup of people, then later takes hold with a whole different meaning.

    Enter “FTW.” Apparently, the punk rockers of the 80s and 90s would use FTW to mean “F___ The World.” But the acronym gained traction among online gamers to mean “For The Win.” The latter has since spilled over into popular culture, but for some folks, the older meaning still comes to mind first.

    However, there’s another FTW (usually written as F.T.W.) for bikers. Even that has more than one meaning, as some use it to mean “Forever Two Wheels” and others use it for “Forever Together Wherever.”

    WTF can be a minefield of misunderstanding

    Rearrange the letters of FTW and we have WTF, which has been a great source of confusion. The commonly understood (and most vulgar) usage is “What The F___.” But people have misread it or misunderstood it to mean various things, including:

    Why The Face?

    Welcome To Facebook!

    Where’s The Food?

    Well That’s Fantastic!

    WOW That’s Fantastic!

    One person shared a hilarious tale about that last one:

    “My kid told his 8th grade science teacher that WTF! written on his notebook was for ‘WOW! That’s Fantastic!’ The teacher was so excited to finally learn what it meant he was using it all the time! I swear this is the truth: he shouted ‘WTF!’ at a class tour at the Smithsonian. He graded tests & if kids got an A, he wrote WTF! At the top of their paper. He finally found out the other meaning and had to apologize to the whole school. My kid got a week detention.”

    F/U ≠ follow up (though it could)

    In a professional email, you can be pretty sure f/u stands for “follow-up.” But you can never be 100% sure…

    FFS is not the same as FCFS

    Sometimes, one letter makes a world of difference. FFS is generally understood to mean “For F___’s Sake.” Add a C to make FCFS, and you have “First Come First Served.”

    So yeah, using FFS instead of FCFS gives a Facebook Marketplace listing a whole different vibe.

    GFY ≠ Good For You (unfortunately)

    It’s the “F” that really gets people in trouble with the acronyms, isn’t it? At this point, it’s probably best to assume that any acronym that uses an F is potentially vulgar to avoid something embarrassing.

    For instance, it’s understandable that one might interpret GFY as “Good For YOU.” Wholesome and sweet and totally the opposite of the more commonly understood “Go F___ Yourself.” (Is there someone we can petition to change this one? Good For You is so much better.)

    Oh, the emojis

    People also shared ways emojis have been misunderstood and misused. For instance, the poop emoji looks an awful lot like chocolate softserve ice cream. Apparently, more than a few people have thought that’s what it was and used it in texts accordingly. Imagine the possibilities there.

    The tearful emojis have also been a source of confusion, with some people thinking the cry-laughing emoji is just crying. Imagine sending the cry-laugh emoji in a text expressing sorrow for someone’s loss.

    The size of emojis can make deciphering them a little tricky, which is why a couple of people thought the middle finger emoji was simply a pointer finger. Woops.

    And some emojis are simply confusing, period. No one seems to agree whether the two hands together emoji means praying hands or high five. And unfortunately, the search function doesn’t help because it comes up when you search “pray” and also when you search “high five.”

    Considering that entire wars have begun over miscommunications, it’s kind of important that we are generally on the same page about what things mean. But at least in the fast-changing era of online communications, we understand such confusion is bound to occur on occasion and are able to laugh about it.

  • Boomers and Gen Xers share 30 things they don’t miss from the ’80s and ’90s
    Boomers and Gen Xers discuss the things they don't miss from the 1980s and 1990s.Photo credit: Images via Canva
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    Boomers and Gen Xers share 30 things they don’t miss from the ’80s and ’90s

    Nostalgia is all about remembering how things were in the “gold old days.” But sometimes, upon further reflection, some things really sucked in the past despite how rosy our colored glasses made them look. Boomers and Gen Xers are reminiscing on the things they really don’t miss from the 1980s and 1990s. Over on Reddit,…

    Nostalgia is all about remembering how things were in the “gold old days.” But sometimes, upon further reflection, some things really sucked in the past despite how rosy our colored glasses made them look. Boomers and Gen Xers are reminiscing on the things they really don’t miss from the 1980s and 1990s.

    Over on Reddit, member pizzagamer35 posed the question to Boomers and Gen Xers: “What is something you do NOT miss from the 80s-90s?”

    Boomers and Gen Xers had plenty of throwback experiences and products they are happy to never come across again. These are 30 of the most nostalgic responses from Boomers and Gen Xers about things they don’t miss about the ’80s and ’90s.

    landline, landline phone, 90s phone, phone call, retro phone
    Saved By The Bell Laughing GIF Giphy

    “Long distance phone bill.” —gohdnuorg

    “Having to wait until after 7pm or whatever so you could call your long distance friends because it was free after that.” —raz0rbl4d3

    “Answering the landline and having no idea who’s calling. Just raw, unfiltered anxiety.” —Fit-Interview-3886

    “Not having GPS.” —recrysis

    “Smoking or non smoking and still be in the smoking section.” —Less-Lengthiness4863

    smoking, smoke, cigarettes, smoking section, smoking 90s

    mothers day smoking GIF Giphy

    “Using those Noxzema pads to burn and dry out my pimply face. It had a smell, too.” —poizon_elff

    “Waiting for JPGs to load one line at a time.” —timmayd

    “Those hair ties with the two giant plastic beads on them that EVERY mom used to tie up their daughter’s hair in pigtails. God forbid she lose her grip on one while she was already ripping your soul out through your scalp.” —Honey-Badger-90

    “Third degree burns from metallic seat belt fasteners.” —JLMTIK88

    “Not being able to use the internet if someone needed the phone line to be free.” —Joshawott27

    internet, internet 90s, dial up internet, old internet, slow internet

    Girl 90S GIF Giphy

    “Satanic panic.” —Historical_Spot_4051

    “Buying a CD and realizing all the songs suck, except for one, maybe two.” —11B-E5

    “Batteries and flashlight bulbs. Holy crap they were crap. I still remember seeing the little LED light on our shitty car radio and asking dad what kind of light that tiny dot was. He told me it was a diode and diodes kinda ‘last forever’. I immediately wondered why the hell we weren’t developing that tech.” —snoozieboi

    “Shoulder pads.” —Thin_Apartment_8076

    shoulder pads, shoulder pad, 80s shoulder pads, 90s shoulder pads, vintage style

    Mc Hammer Dancing GIF by Jukebox Saints Giphy

    “Ordering pizza by calling the restaurant and yelling your order to a guy in a noisy kitchen. Missing an episode of your favorite TV show (or forgetting to tape it if you had a VCR) and not being able to see it until summer reruns, or maybe never.” —Imaginary-List-4945

    “Terrible contact lenses.” —MandatoryMatchmaker

    “To contribute something small: manual computer defragmentation. It took several hours and you couldn’t do anything else.” —rena-vee

    “Pay Phones that gave you limited talk time.” —Aggravating-Iron9804

    pay phone, payphone, payphones, payphone, 90s phone

    Season 3 Marge GIF by The Simpsons Giphy

    “Gym class. Boys were expected to know how to play sports. My dad taught me how to fix tractors and cut firewood, but he didn’t teach me sports because no one ever taught him. The gym teacher didn’t teach us sh*t. When we f*cked up or didn’t know what to do, the jocks would laugh and the teacher would join in the fun.” —Fluffy-Cupcake9943

    “The ‘heroin chic’ body type.” —Heartbreak_Star

    “Panty hose.” —Kitty-haha

    “Aqua net=hair that absolutely did not move! And you could see little hairspray bubbles .” — IAmTheBlackStar1979

    “Having to rewind VHS tapes like it was a part-time job.” -—Repulsive_Corgi_6187

    vhs, vhs tape, vhs rewind, rewinding vhs, vhs rewinding

    Animated GIF Giphy

    “Waiting by the radio for your song to play so you can record it on tape.” —mycrml

    “Serial killers. They just can’t exist at the same level anymore. Plus we got all the lead out of stuff. So now people are 100% normal. 100%.” —PrimeNumbersby2

    “Manual roll up/down windows in cars.” —Human-Average-2222

    “Carpeted bathrooms. someone shared a bunch of pictures of them on some nostalgia account and i could smell the pictures through my phone .” —GoblinHeart1334

    “Busy signal on the phone.” —crjconsulting

    This article originally appeared last year. It has been updated.

  • Gen X has been designated the ‘worst grandparents.’ Sadly, their explanation makes sense.
    Gen X designated the 'worst grandparents' by MillennialsPhoto credit: Canva
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    Gen X has been designated the ‘worst grandparents.’ Sadly, their explanation makes sense.

    Generation X, typically the children of Baby Boomers born between the years of 1965-1980 tend to have a complicated reputation depending on who you ask. Some view them as a feral generation never to be spoken of poorly without consequence, while others view them as innovators pushing us into the future. But in recent years,…

    Generation X, typically the children of Baby Boomers born between the years of 1965-1980 tend to have a complicated reputation depending on who you ask. Some view them as a feral generation never to be spoken of poorly without consequence, while others view them as innovators pushing us into the future. But in recent years, Gen Xers have been dubbed the “worst grandparents” by social media users.

    This multi-year conversation started when a video went viral calling Gen X out for being “terrible” grandparents, claiming that they never want to help with grandchildren. It didn’t take long before other Millennials piled on to air their own grievances about Gen X grandparents. Most people criticizing the “new grandparents” were genuinely perplexed as to how they did not want to be more involved in the lives of their grandchildren.

    Gen X; Gen X grandparents; absent grandparents; Gen X worst grandparents; Millennials; worst grandparents; Gen Z
    Family baking fun in the kitchen. Photo credit: Canva

    Kylie Muse reveals in a video that she felt neglected by her Gen X parents growing up, saying, “It’s quite a common theme for Gen X parents to be neglectful in some capacity and it’s just crazy to me how more of them haven’t learned from the past 20 to 30 years, instead of these grandparents seeing their kids having kids as an opportunity to restore the health in their relationships with their kids by showing up and helping them during the hardest transition of their lives, they would rather double down and compromise their relationship with that next generation. All for the sake of hyper-individualism and pride.”

    https://www.tiktok.com/@kylies.muse/video/7392694727436406046

    The critique coming from the younger generation is not lost on Gen X, and they started coming out in force to respond with such vigor you’d think John Hughes had just announced the re-release of The Breakfast Club. It would seem that some of the people complaining of the lack of involvement have not considered that Gen X could have valid reasons for not immediately jumping in to take on grandparenting in the way some expect. A man by the name of John S. Blake gives a candid look into why Gen X was neglected as children and, in turn, became hype-independent at an early age.

    “As a Gen X who’s been on this earth long enough to have some hindsight I can tell you this, being independent at a young age is not a flex, what it actually means is capitalism is so brutal that our parents were forced to neglect their own children to stay alive. My generation was struggling so much that we had to leave our children unattended in order to produce enough so that we could afford to exist,” Blake says.

    But perhaps one of the most heart wrenching explanations comes from an elder Millennial who goes by the name Amazing Dea. In response to another Millennial who asks about Gen X being let off the hook, Dea shares, “Being as though you look like you might be a younger Millennial, let me go ahead and enlighten you. Generation X and older Millennials had to live through more than just this pandemic. We had the crack epidemic, we had the AIDS epidemic and let me tell you something, it was scary as f***.”

    Dea went on to explain that there were apartment complexes burned due to high populations of people with AIDS living in them and how they would witness people go from being completely normal to being addicted to crack in a matter of weeks. It seems that depending on socioeconomic status, Gen Xers lived wildly different lives with the common theme being growing up entirely too fast at an extremely young age.

    Gen X; Gen X grandparents; absent grandparents; Gen X worst grandparents; Millennials; worst grandparents; Gen Z
    Three generations smiling by the sea. Photo credit: Canva

    Another person kindly breaks down the confusion over why Gen X isn’t rising to the occasion of being award-winning grandparents. In response to the criticism she replies, “We grew up in a different time, first of all. A lot of us, meaning me, Gen X, I was raised by boomers. A lot of us did not get raised by our grandparents. We were like the feral kids, like by 7 and 9 years old we were actually babysitting our brothers and sisters, alright.”

    The woman explains further in the video that Gen X doesn’t want to raise their grandchildren or simply be babysitters, that there’s a difference between expecting grandparents to be involved and expecting them to be babysitters.

    @that1crazy72

    Let’s take it a step further. You share DNA with your grandkids they are part of you not everyone gets the privilege of being a grandparent so if you are one take that as a blessing #genxgrandparents

    ♬ original sound – That1crazy72

    In many of the response videos shared by Gen Xers, they certainly seem to love their grandchildren and children alike, but there’s a discrepancy in expectation. The consensus of the forgotten generation seems to be that they had adult responsibilities much too early, were exposed to adult life experiences at a young age, and were often left to their own devices for long periods of time while also being told that their voices didn’t matter.

    While the argument seems to be around their lack of involvement as grandparents, they appear to be saying that they want to enjoy the freedom they didn’t have as children, while being valued as a person and not a babysitter. In many follow up videos, Gen Xers gushed over their grandchildren and how they loved when they were around. It’s just that they draw the line at raising them. Maybe for some, their experiences with their own childhood isn’t enough to move Gen X out of the “worst grandparents” category, but for others it provides much needed context.

    This article originally appeared last year. It has been updated.

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