Emily Shiffer

  • Gardener shares ‘revolutionary’ way of starting seeds indoors using recycled packaging
    A "seed snail" is a compact way of getting your garden started.Photo credit: GrowVeg/YouTube

    As spring approaches, gardeners begin planning what they want to plant and when. Often, they starting seeds indoors rather than outside. Usually, seeds are planted in trays or small cups and nurtured into seedlings before being transplanted outdoors once the danger of frost has passed.

    Seed starts require space, though, and not everyone has it in abundance. That’s why a “revolutionary” method of starting seeds using recycled packaging materials has people excited. Using the “seed snail” or “seed sushi” method, you can grow far more seedlings in a much smaller area than with traditional trays or cups.

    When you start seeds, they need to be spaced far enough apart that their roots don’t get entangled, which is why traditional seed starter trays have small compartments. The seed snail keeps seedlings’ roots separate while allowing them to grow in a compact space.

    Benedict Vanheems, author of GrowVeg: The Beginner’s Guide to Easy Vegetable Gardening, demonstrates how to make the seed snail using different kinds of packaging materials. However, he says bubble wrap is his “absolute favorite.”

    “This, with its air pockets, helps to create a slightly sturdier roll so it sits firmer,” Vanheems says in a YouTube clip. “And the air pockets will also help to insulate the roots from swings in temperature, which our seedlings will much prefer. Bubble wrap is flexible, retains moisture well, and can be reused time and again.”

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    Bubble wrap isn’t an obvious gardening tool, but it’s useful. Photo credit: Canva

    However, he acknowledges concerns people may have about microplastics and offers a solution. First, he cuts the bubble wrap into long strips about three inches wide. Next, he cuts a strip of baking parchment twice as wide. He then folds the parchment in half and wraps it over both sides of the bubble wrap. This ensures the soil never touches the plastic while still providing the temperature-regulation benefits of the bubble wrap.

    Vanheems adds water to the potting mix to make it very moist. Depending on the size of the seeds you plan to use, you’ll cover the strip of packaging with between 1/2 inch and 2 inches of soil. Pat the soil down fairly firmly, and leave an inch or two uncovered at the end.

    After you roll up the “snail,” use painter’s or masking tape to secure it. Then it’s ready for you to add your seeds according to the individual seed instructions. Vanheems doesn’t recommend sowing the seeds before rolling, as they can get moved around and dislodged. He also gives tips for retaining moisture in the snail rolls, from misting or light watering to keeping them covered with clear plastic.

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    Traditional seed trays take up more space than a seed snail. Photo credit: Canva

    Vanheems showed what the seedlings looked like once they had developed roots and shoots. This method allows long, deep roots to grow, making it easy to separate the plants after unrolling the snail.

    Some seedlings may need more soil added to the roll once their roots begin to grow. Simply unroll the snail, sprinkle more soil over the roots, and reroll. Easy peasy. The main thing to watch with the snail is that it stays moist, since it uses less soil per seedling than traditional trays.

    Both amateurs and pros are loving the idea in the YouTube video comments:

    “Your method is a LOT cheaper than buying these expensive plastic containers in the DIY garden market that barely survive one year in the garden. I surely will give it a try. Thank you!”

    “I just ran across these a few days ago and I’ve already got a bunch of them going! This is going to be a game changer! I’m using disposable shower caps to cover the ones that need it – they’re infinitely reusable as long as you don’t break the elastic.”

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    Once your seedlings grow large enough, you can transplant them. Photo credit: Canva

    “I tried this ‘seed snail’ method with my Sweet Peas last week and I’m officially a convert! The vertical root growth is incredible, but the real win for me was the space saving—I fit twice as many under my grow lights than I usually do. If you’re tight on indoor space, this is a total game-changer. Great tutorial!”

    “I’ve been wondering how to go about growing a large number of native plant plugs without having to buy more plastic. Using this technique I’m going to stretch my supplies to grow even more seeds in a single season. Thank you so much for the tip. You weren’t kidding when you said it would change the way you do things. I’m officially converted.”

    “A little advice from an old nurseryman, when handling tiny seedlings, it is much safer to handle them by their leaves, not the stems. Even a finger can damage a very sensitive seedling stem and can cause damping off that will kill the seedling. The seed snail idea is brilliant and I will start using it myself. It has several advantages but the best for me is the unrolling and the easy removal of the seedlings without damage to their root systems. Thank you!”

    You can follow GrowVeg on YouTube for more cool gardening tips.

  • ‘Millennial Parenting Whisperer’ shares the most important moment to have with your child
    A mom talking to her son and Dr. Becky Kennedy.Photo credit: Canva and Business Wire

    Parents spend 18 years raising their children (and sometimes more), so it’s hard to pinpoint the exact moment that matters most in their upbringing. Is it helping them with homework when they’re struggling? Inspiring them to get back up after failure? Or is it the example you set when interacting with loved ones?

    According to Dr. Becky Kennedy, dubbed the “Millennial Parenting Whisperer,” the most important moment comes after you’ve messed up as a parent.

    Kennedy, known online as “Dr. Becky,” is a clinical psychologist and the founder and CEO of Good Inside, a parent-coaching platform designed to “help you solve current challenges and get ahead of future ones.”

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    Dr. Becky Kennedy. Photo credit: World Economic Forum/Flickr

    On a recent episode of What Now? With Trevor Noah, Dr. Becky shared why repairing relationships is the most important thing a parent can do. Even though she is one of America’s most popular family psychologists, she often falls short of perfection and loses her cool, just like any parent. But these moments of imperfection matter because they allow her to grow with her child—and that’s invaluable.

    “I mean it with such honesty that my kids don’t have some Dr. Becky person as a mom,” she said. “I also mean equally that I wouldn’t wish that upon anyone. I mean, we learn the most in our relationships when people take responsibility for their behavior, when people repair. I wouldn’t want to deprive my kids of that opportunity, and that’s such [an important] part of healthy relationships.”

    Why repair is so important in relationships

    “After all, there’s almost nothing within our interpersonal relationships that can have as much impact as repair,” Dr. Becky said in a 2023 TED Talk. “Repair is the act of going back to a moment of disconnection. Taking responsibility for your behavior and acknowledging the impact it had on another. And I want to differentiate a repair from an apology, because when an apology often looks to shut a conversation down, ‘Hey, I’m sorry I yelled. Can we move on now?’ A good repair opens one up.”

    Dr. Becky shares how to repair a relationship with a child

    “I often think about three elements: name what happened, take responsibility, state what you would do differently the next time. It could come together like this:

    ‘Hey. I keep thinking about what happened the other night in the kitchen. I’m sorry I yelled. I’m sure that felt scary. And it wasn’t your fault. I’m working on staying calm, even when I’m frustrated.’

    A 15-second intervention can have a lifelong impact.”

    Dr. Becky’s advice should be uplifting to parents everywhere because no one is perfect—not even Dr. Becky—and we will all lose our cool at times. But when it happens, it gives us the opportunity to teach our kids the most important interpersonal skill: how to repair a relationship that has ruptured.

    When we learn how to repair our relationships, we can ensure they won’t fail at the first sign of trouble. Instead, stronger relationships have the potential to stand the test of time.

  • Timeboxing: The science-backed productivity method that can double your output
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    Timeboxing: The science-backed productivity method that can double your output

    Science says to do lists actually make you less productive. Here’s what works instead.

    Have you ever heard of timeboxing?

    Probably not. It’s a powerful productivity method used by some of the world’s most successful people, but many of us are completely unaware of its existence. That’s our loss: in a survey of 100 productivity techniques, timeboxing was ranked the most useful.

    This article dives into timeboxing, and why it’s such an effective technique—and why it remains underused by the general public. By the end, you will have the tools to incorporate timeboxing into your daily routine.

    What is timeboxing?

    It’s simple. Timeboxing is a time management technique in which you set a specific, fixed time limit for a single task. You then commit to focusing on it exclusively during that period. It’s like setting up a personal one-on-one with your to-do list. When the allocated time is up, you stop and move on to the next scheduled task. What if you’re not done? Too bad. You move on to the next task, regardless of whether the previous one is fully finished.

    Think of it as setting healthy boundaries for yourself and your work. By enforcing this strict, self-imposed deadline, you naturally eliminate distractions and sharpen your focus. You channel all your energy into completing the task within that set timeframe. It turns a vague goal like “work on the report” into a specific action like “spend the next 45 minutes writing the introduction to the report.” Genius. 

    Why does it work?

    The secret to timeboxing lies in its simplicity. By allocating a fixed period to a specific task, you avoid open-ended to-do lists. No vague goals to “get it done today.” You’re left with clear, defined work.

    The method was popularized by Marc Zao-Sanders in his December 2018 article in the Harvard Business Review, “How Timeboxing Works and Why It Will Make You More Effective,” and has since changed how millions of people organize their days.

    Where timeboxing comes from

    The origins of timeboxing date back to the mid-1900s. In November 1955, British naval historian Cyril Northcote Parkinson published a satirical essay in The Economist with a now-famous observation: “Work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion.” The illustration that accompanied it was a drawing of a woman focused on a single task—sending a postcard—who spent the entire day doing it.

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    Parkinson’s Law gives us a sharp, accurate insight into human behavior. Photo credit: Canva

    This concept, known as Parkinson’s Law, is a sharp, accurate insight into human behavior. Give a task with no clear deadline, and it will expand to fill all available time.

    The concept of timeboxing first took formal shape in the 1980s, emerging as a practical solution to the problem Parkinson observed. The term “timebox” was first documented in 1988 as a central component of Scott Schultz’s Rapid Iterative Production Prototyping method. Just a few years later, in 1991, IT consultant James Martin championed this idea in his influential book, Rapid Application Development.

    This structured approach to time management soon became a core element of Agile software development methods like Scrum. Instead of letting projects drag on indefinitely, developers began using fixed-length “sprints”—in essence, timeboxes—to complete specific chunks of work. This shift brought predictability and focus to what was often a chaotic process.

    While timeboxing originated in software engineering, its power wasn’t limited to coding. The practice has since been widely adopted for personal productivity, and it’s supported by fascinating science that explains why it works so well across so many tasks.

    What the research says

    A significant 2021 meta-analysis published in PLOS ONE examined 158 studies involving 53,957 participants to determine whether structured time management is effective. The results even caught the researchers off guard.

    They found that time management increased life satisfaction by 72%, whereas job satisfaction rose by only 19%. Researchers also discovered that “time management may primarily enhance wellbeing rather than boost performance.” What does that mean? Essentially, the main advantage of managing your time well is not just higher productivity, but a more fulfilling and meaningful life.

    The psychological reasoning behind timeboxing is even more important. Research by psychologist Roy Baumeister shows that decision-making is a limited resource that gets used up. Every moment you spend wondering “what should I work on next?” uses up the same mental energy you need for your most important work. Timeboxing removes those small, repetitive decisions completely. Your past self, during the planning stage, decides for you, so your current self can just focus on doing the work.

    Then there’s the cost of distraction. Gloria Mark’s research at the University of California, Irvine, found that it takes an average of 23 minutes and 15 seconds to fully regain focus after being interrupted. Timeboxing creates protected windows where interruptions are explicitly blocked, preserving the deep focus that makes real progress possible.

    How timeboxing flips the traditional approach

    Most people organize their work—and life—around to-do lists. The issue with these lists, as Zao-Sanders points out in his HBR article, is that they lack a system for when tasks should be done or how long they should take. Tasks often remain on lists forever, growing and shrinking, getting delayed, mainly because there’s no sensible limit.

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    Timeboxing moves tasks from a list to your calendar. Photo credit: Canva

    Timeboxing moves tasks from the list to your calendar. Each task is assigned a specific start time, an end time, and a clear goal. Your calendar becomes more than just a schedule: it offers a full view of how your time is really used. It becomes a record of what you’ve achieved and a tool for understanding how long things truly take.

    This shift matters beyond just personal productivity. When your timeboxed calendar is visible to colleagues, it becomes a tool for coordination. Teams can plan around each other’s focus periods. Shared visibility decreases the constant flow of “quick questions” that disrupt the workday.

    The people who already live by it

    Some of the most demanding schedules in the world operate on timeboxing principles. Both Bill Gates and Elon Musk reportedly divide their days into five-minute blocks: a hyper-detailed version of the same core practice. Jack Dorsey, former CEO of Twitter and Square, used a broader approach called “day theming,” dedicating each day of the week entirely to a specific business function. Author Cal Newport has estimated that “a 40-hour time-blocked work week produces the same amount of output as a 60+ hour work week pursued without structure.”

    These are not coincidences. Each of these approaches follows the same basic idea: when something has a place, attention goes there.

    How to get started

    You don’t need a sophisticated app or a complete calendar overhaul to start timeboxing. The core method has seven steps:

    1. List your tasks. Write down everything that needs to be done—big projects, small administrative items, emails, and all of it.
    2. Set clear goals for each task. Specify what “done” looks like. “Work on the report” is too vague. “Complete the executive summary section” gives you a clear target.
    3. Estimate the time, then add a buffer. Most people consistently underestimate how long tasks take (psychologists call this the planning fallacy). Add a 25–50% buffer to your initial estimates.
    4. Schedule blocks of time on your calendar. Assign particular start and end times to each task. Think of these blocks as scheduled meetings.
    5. Work without interruptions. When a timebox starts, close unrelated tabs, mute notifications, and focus solely on the task at hand.
    6. Stop when the time is up. This discipline keeps the system working. If a task isn’t finished, evaluate how many more timeboxes you’ll need and reschedule — don’t let it spill over into the next block.
    7. Review and adjust. At day’s end, evaluate how your estimates aligned with reality. This data sharpens your future planning.

    One practical tip: keep your blocks under 90 minutes. Research on cognitive rhythms shows that sustained, high-quality focus has a natural limit. For larger tasks, schedule multiple 60–90-minute sessions throughout the day or week instead of a single marathon session.

    Start small, then build

    The biggest mistake people make when adopting timeboxing is going all-in right away. Timeboxing your entire week from the start often feels overwhelming—and people give up before it proves useful. Begin with two or three timeboxed tasks each day. Allow yourself a couple of weeks to fine-tune your estimates and develop the habit of focused work before expanding the system.

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    The key to effective timeboxing is not overwhelming yourself. Photo credit: Canva

    If you’re unsure where to start, try this: select your top three tasks for tomorrow, estimate how long each will take, add a buffer, and schedule them on your calendar tonight. That’s all. One week of this practice will reveal more about how you work than months of vague intentions.

    The 2021 meta-analysis found that the effects of time management on well-being persisted even when performance improvements were small. That means even imperfect timeboxing—estimations that are off, occasional overruns, days that don’t go as planned—still make a difference in life satisfaction. The structure itself has value, regardless of whether you carry it out perfectly.

    Your calendar awaits

    Parkinson’s Law has been shaping your schedule for years, whether you realize it or not. Tasks grow, focus scatters, and days slip away between intention and action.

    Timeboxing gives that time shape: a start, an end, and a purpose. The research clearly shows that the practice provides benefits beyond the office: reducing stress, increasing life satisfaction, and giving a sense of control over how your days unfold.

    Your to-do list will always have more on it than any single day can hold. What timeboxing offers is a way to stop fighting that reality and start working with it, one focused, bounded block at a time.

  • In 1973, the Bee Gees sang an unplugged medley tribute to the Beatles. It’s gorgeous.
    The Bee gees playing a medley of Beatles hits in 1973.Photo credit: via Midnight Special/YouTube

    By 1973, the Bee Gees’ career had hit a low. After a series of hits in the late 1960s and early 1970s, including “To Love Somebody,” “How Can You Mend a Broken Heart,” and “I Started a Joke,” the band was in a rut. Their latest album, Life in a Tin Can, and single “Saw a New Morning” sold poorly, and the band’s popularity declined.

    On April 6, 1973, the Gibb brothers (Barry, Robin, and Maurice) appeared on The Midnight Special, a late-night TV show that aired on Saturday mornings at 1 a.m. after The Tonight Show with Johnny Carson. Given the lukewarm reception to their recent releases, the Bee Gees decided to change things up and play a medley of hits from their idols, The Beatles, who had broken up three years before.

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    The Beatles were the biggest band on Earth in their heyday. Giphy

    The performance, which featured five of the Fab Four’s early hits, including “If I Fell,” “I Need You,” “I’ll Be Back,” “This Boy,” and “She Loves You,” was a stripped-down, acoustic performance that highlighted the Bee Gees’ trademark harmonies.

    “When you got brothers singing, it’s like an instrument that no one else can buy. You can’t go buy that sound in a shop. You can’t sing like The Bee Gees because when you got family members singing together, it’s unique,” Noel Gallagher, who sang with his brother Liam in Oasis, said according to Far Out.

    A year later, the Bee Gees performed in small clubs, and it looked like their career had hit a dead end. Then, at the urging of their management, the band began to move in a new direction, incorporating soul, rhythm and blues, and a new, underground musical style called disco into their repertoire. Barry also adopted a falsetto singing style popularized by Black singers such as Curtis Mayfield and Marvin Gaye.

    This unlikely change for the folksy vocal group catapulted them into the stratosphere and they became the white-satin-clad kings of disco.

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    In the late ‘70s, the band had massive hits, including songs featured on the 40-million-selling Saturday Night Fever soundtrack: “Stayin’ Alive,” How Deep is Your Love,” More Than a Woman,” Jive Talkin’,” and “Night Fever.”

    In 1978, the band made a significant misstep, starring in a musical based on The Beatles’ music called Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band, produced by Robert Stigwood, the man behind Saturday Night Fever and Grease. The film was a colossal bomb, although the soundtrack sold well.

    The Beatles’ George Harrison thought the Bee Gees film was about what happens when you become successful and greedy.

    “I just feel sorry for Robert Stigwood, the Bee Gees, and Pete Frampton for doing it because they had established themselves in their own right as decent artists,” Harrison said. “And suddenly… it’s like the classic thing of greed. The more you make the more you want to make, until you become so greedy that ultimately you put a foot wrong.”

    Even though the Bee Gees’ Beatle-themed musical was a flop, former Beatle John Lennon remained a fan of the group. He sang their praises after the public’s growing distaste of disco resulted in a significant backlash.

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    John Lennon was a fan of the Bee Gees. Giphy

    “Try to tell the kids in the seventies who were screaming to the Bee Gees that their music was just the Beatles redone,” he told Playboy magazine in 1980. “There is nothing wrong with the Bee Gees. They do a damn good job. There was nothing else going on then.”

    The Bee Gees historic career ended when Maurice passed away in 2003 at 53. Robin would follow in 2009 at 62. Barry is the final surviving member of the band.

    This article originally appeared last year.

     

  • 5 ‘core’ childhood memories your kid will cherish forever, according to a psychologist
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    There’s a popular trend where parents often share they are creating “core memories” for their children on social media posts, whether it’s planning an elaborate vacation or creating an extra-special holiday moment. While it’s important for parents to want their kids to have happy childhoods, sometimes it feels presumptuous when they believe they can manufacture a core memory. Especially when a child’s inner world is so different than an adult’s.

    The concept of “core memories” was made mainstream in 2015 thanks to Disney’s Inside Out. In it, “core memories” are born from moments and experiences that majorly shape a part of the main character, Riley’s, personality. The experience(s) can be grand or benign; the point is these moments are ultimately forming Riley into the person she is. Seems pretty hard to manufacture such a moment, but parents are certainly trying.

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    Carol Kim, a mother of three and licensed Marriage and family Therapist, known as Parenting.Resilience on Instagram, recently shared the “5 Things Kids Will Remember from Their Childhood” on her page. The fascinating insight is that none of the entries had to do with extravagant vacations, over-the-top birthday parties, or Christmas gifts that kids could only dream about.

    According to Kim, the five things that kids will remember all revolve around their parents’ presence and support. “Notice how creating good memories doesn’t require expensive toys or lavish family trips. Your presence is the most valuable present you can give to your child,” Kim wrote in the post’s caption.

     

    1. Quality time together

    “Taking some time to focus only on your child is very special. Playing games, reading books, or just talking can create strong, happy memories. These moments show your child that you are present with them.”

    2. Words of encouragement

    “Encouraging words can greatly impact your child during both good times and tough times. Kids often seek approval from their parents and your positive words can be a strong motivator and source of comfort…. It can help kids believe in themselves, giving them the confidence to take on new challenges and keep going when things get tough.”

    3. Family traditions

    “It creates a feeling of stability and togetherness … Family traditions make children feel like they belong and are part of a larger story, deepening their sense of security and understanding of family identity and values.”

     

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    4. Acts of kindness

    “Seeing and doing kind things leaves a strong impression on children. It shows them the importance of being kind and caring. They remember how good it feels to help others and to see their parents helping too.”

    5. Comfort during tough times

    “Knowing they can rely on you during tough times makes them feel secure and build trust. … Comforting them when they’re struggling shows them they are loved no matter what, helping them feel emotionally secure and strong.”

    Kim’s strategies are all beautiful ways to be present in our children’s lives and to communicate our support. However, these seemingly simple behaviors can be challenging for some parents who are dealing with issues stemming from their pasts.

    “If you find barriers to providing these things, it’s important to reflect on why,” Kim writes in the post. “There could be several reasons, such as parenting in isolation (we’re not meant to parent alone), feeling overstimulated, dealing with past trauma, or struggling with mental health. Recognizing these challenges is the first step to addressing them and finding support.”

    This article originally appeared last year.

  • 6th-grade teacher quits rather than remove harmless sign from her classroom
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    Alright, that’s it. We’ve finally had enough in this country. In a move that’s long overdue, we’re finally cracking down on… *checks notes*…basic human kindness?

    The orders have come straight from the top. Being nice to people who are different than you is now bad. Creating environments that are welcoming and inclusive of everyone? Also bad. What’s most disturbing is just how far these mandates are trickling down—all the way into our schools.

    A 6th grade teacher in Idaho was recently told by school administrators to remove a controversial sign from her classroom. She refused.

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    Earlier this spring, world civilization teacher Sarah Inama at Lewis and Clark Middle School was told that one of the posters in her class was inappropriate. The school asked her to remove it.

    Initially, she complied, but upon reflection and discussion with her husband, decided that it didn’t feel right. She needed to take a stand. So Inama put the poster back up and left it visible for all to see, even after administrators warned her she could lose her job over the noncompliance.

    Finally, among growing outcry and threats of termination, Inama decided to resign rather than remove the poster. She bravely decided to stick up for her controversial beliefs, even though she knew her personal opinion may not be popular.

    Just wait until you see the outrageous sign. Here it is:

    Seriously, that’s it. The sign reads “Everyone Is Welcome Here” and shows hands of different colors. This is the poster that was deemed not appropriate for the public school environment.

    The district’s chief academic officer Marcus Myers clarified that, “The political environment ebbs and flows, and what might be controversial now might not have been controversial three, six, nine months ago.”

    Inama’s sign was said to have violated the school’s “content neutral” policy, which prohibits any speech or messaging that might reflect personal opinions, religious beliefs, or political ideologies.

    What’s hard to believe is that a sign meant to show kids that they are welcome in Inama’s classroom somehow reflects a “personal belief” that the school won’t tolerate. The sign made no mention of religion or LGBTQ+ identities or political ideologies; and it was still deemed too woke. That’s extremely frightening.

    Inama received an outpouring of support from the community, but it wasn’t enough to change the district’s mind. After her resignation, she didn’t hold back, sharing her resignation letter with local news.

     

    “This will be my last year teaching in the West Ada School District, and it saddens me to leave under these circumstances,” Inama’s letter begins.

    “I cannot align myself nor be complicit with the exclusionary views and decisions of the administration. It is deeply troubling that the people running this district and school have allowed a welcoming and inclusive message for my students to be considered controversial, political, and, worst of all, an opinion.”

    “I hope for the sake of the students in your district that you can remember the core values of public education,” she concludes. “To serve all citizens, foster an inclusive and safe learning environment, and protect your staff and students from discriminatory behavior.”

    And now, the education system has lost a talented and passionate teacher because of it. But at least Inama hasn’t gone quietly, and with millions of outraged supporters all over the country and now world, we probably haven’t heard the last of this case.

    This article originally appeared last year. It has been updated.

  • The 13 signs that someone is ‘dangerously good’ at reading people
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    The 13 signs that someone is ‘dangerously good’ at reading people

    “You feel comfortable talking to them, and you find yourself sharing things with them that you don’t typically share.”

    Some people are just naturally good at reading others. They pick up on subtle cues, body language, tone of voice, and facial expressions that go over other people’s heads. They are adept at seeing past other people’s words and cuing into the energy or emotions behind them.

    People who are great at reading others have a significant advantage in being creative, building relationships, and building teams. But where does it come from? Why does it seem like some people have an extra social muscle that others just don’t?

    Some posit that people who are adept at reading others often come from backgrounds where they grew up with chaotic parents or family members. To preserve themselves, they become keen observers of subtle clues to protect themselves against abusive outbursts.

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    This makes them excellent students of tone of voice, body language, and emotional states so that they can defend themselves.

    To those who aren’t brilliant at reading others, these people’s skills seem mysterious at best. So, a Reddit user posed a question to the AskReddit forum to see what other people have noticed about people who are great at reading others. “What’s a sign that someone is dangerously good at reading people?” they asked. They received over 1,300 replies, and we compiled the best.

    Here are 13 signs that someone is “dangerously good” at reading people.

    1. You immediately overshare

    “You feel comfortable talking to them and you find yourself sharing things with them you don’t typically share.”

    2. They’re hard to read

    “They themselves are typically hard to read.”

    “Or better yet people think they are reading you and know you but all they know is what you want them to think they know.”

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    3. They’re neutral observers

    “Observe the person. It helps if you’re naturally empathetic. You can tell when they’re being sincere or when there’s motivation. You can hear it in their voice when they’re nervous, jealous, or uncomfortable. You can see it in their face. You can feel when their energy pauses, dips, or spikes. The key is to be neutral yourself. If you’re not invested in the outcome of the interaction at all, you can read others better.”

    “My mom is the one who tipped me off to this. She said it was the key to learning about our lives when we were preteens and teens. She said she was careful not to ever react in big ways to anything we said, especially if it was negative, because if she did we would be more likely to stop providing info. If she acted neutral, we’d keep talking.”

    4. They had unpredictable parents

    Some people who grew up with unpredictable parents become hyper-observant of micro-expressions. When coupled with empathy and a good memory, they can ask good questions at the right time, or pick up on unspoken emotions (or intentions/danger). This can be a blessing and a curse.”

    “This is exactly how I got good at reading people. If I found myself unable to predict what my father was going to do next, there’s a good chance bad things happen to me. It’s born out of necessity.”

    5. They know you before you open your mouth

    “They clock your mood or thoughts before you’ve even said anything. They would ask really specific questions. Not nosy, just oddly on point. Also, watch how fast they adjust. You’re all fired up, and they’re calm and grounding.”

    6. They’re accurate

    “When they say something about you that you’ve never told anyone, but it’s scarily accurate… like ?? How do you know that, that’s when you know they’re built different.”

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    7. They may sabotage themselves

    “People who are highly intuitive, very observant and understands people dynamics usually at the expense of knowing themselves well at times.”

    “OH MY GOD. This. This this this. This is exactly my wife who is by far the best people person I’ve ever seen…and she’s terrible at understanding herself or solving her own problems.”

    8. They understand receptivity

    “Children and animals like and trust them. They are constantly aware of the receptivity levels of others.”

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    9. They ask the right questions

    “When they ask lots of questions to people, especially when they’re based off observations.

    You usually don’t ___ and i see now you’re ___, is everything alright?

    Since you’ve been dating your partner, I’ve noticed _____. What’s up?

    I’ve noticed when you feel like ____ you usually do _____, and you’ve been doing ____ lots recently, how come?

    NEVER in a way which sounds or is judgemental, is always evidence based, and as a result people are often willing to open up and elaborate more without fear of being judged. My friends do this and I try so hard to learn from them.”

    10. They don’t show it

    “One of the biggest signs that someone is exceptionally skilled at reading people is that they don’t show it. People who are truly skilled observers mask their awareness and let others underestimate them while they quietly collect insight. They downplay their intuition and pretend to guess poorly. Also, they ask or say things that are psychologically strategic.”

    11. You don’t know them, but they know you

    “You feel super close to them, very comfortable sharing anything with them and consider them a close friend. In retrospect, you realize you know next to nothing about them beyond the surface.”

    12. They can make friends with anyone

    “I had a friend who was insanely good at reading people. He once told me ‘if I want you to be my friend, you will.’ I believed it too. He could be friends with anyone.”

    “That’s kinda creepy ngl, smacks of the Machiavellian type more than the empathetic type.”

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    13. You’re afraid to lie around them

    “You feel like you’re talking to a raven and you’re scared to lie.”

     

    This article originally appeared last year.

  • Georgia police department shared a  warning about kids bringing adult drinks to school. Only problem is it wasn’t real.
    A lunch box with a Cutwater can inside.Photo credit: Apple Photos Clean Up

    It’s getting harder to distinguish adult drinks from kids’ drinks these days. In recent years, adult beverage makers have created new versions of traditionally “soft“ drinks and made them “hard,” whether it’s seltzer, kombucha, soda, lemonade, or juice boxes. So, it’s easy to be fooled when reaching into the back of the fridge for a kids’ drink and finding a Cutwater 11% ABV Lemon Drop Martini instead.

    Recently, the South Fulton Police Department in Georgia shared a post about a Cutwater Lemon Drop Martini can in a lunch box. For the uninitiated, Cutwater drinks have double, and sometimes triple, the alcohol content of the average can of beer. With sweet flavors like Tiki Rum Mai Tai, Strawberry Margarita, and Rum Mojito, some mistake them for kids’ drinks.

    To call attention to the problem, the South Fulton Police Department posted a pretty hilarious warning on Facebook, urging parents to watch what their kids bring to school:

    “Say Twin…🧃

    Before you send them babies off to school…
    🗣️CHECK. THE. LUNCHBOX.

    That is NOT Capri Sun.
    That is NOT Apple Juice.
    That is a whole ‘Parent had a long night’ starter pack.

    Now little Johnny done pulled up to 3rd period talking about: ‘Who want fruit snacks?’ knowing good and well he got a Lemon Drop Martini in the zipper pocket.

    🗣️ TIGHTEN UP TWIN!

    We know mornings can be hectic…
    But your child shouldn’t be the only one in the cafeteria with a beverage that requires an ID.

    Quick Parent Checklist:
    • Homework ✅
    • Lunch packed ✅
    • Alcoholic beverages ❌❌❌

    If it says 12% ABV… it does NOT belong next to a PB&J.

    Check the lunchbox before the school resource officers gotta do inventory at recess.”

    ‘Say Twin’ has become a local catchphrase

    The department’s use of “Say Twin” in its messaging has been a hit with locals. “‘Hey twin!’ It’s a term of endearment that’s here that has just taken off, especially in Atlanta,” South Fulton Mayor Carmalitha Gumbs told Atlanta News First. “It’s bringing light to real issues that we’re facing in our community. We’re meeting residents where they are, so they can actually get it.”

    The police department clarifies “confusion” around the story

    After the story went viral, media outlets began poking around and asking South Fulton schools about the incident to find out where it happened. However, it didn’t. After the initial post, the South Fulton Police Department admitted the story wasn’t true.

    It posted a clarification in the comments:

    “Important: This did NOT happen in the City of South Fulton or in Fulton County Schools.

    We’re sharing this because media outlets have started contacting local schools asking where it happened, and we don’t want any confusion in our community.

    The real takeaway here is awareness. Across the country, there’s growing concern about alcoholic drinks being packaged to look like non-alcoholic ones and even being placed near them in stores, which can lead to honest mix-ups.

    Friendly reminder to:

    • Double-check lunchboxes and backpacks
    • Keep alcohol stored safely and out of reach
    • Talk with kids about only drinking what a trusted adult gives them

      We appreciate y’all helping us spread awareness and keep our community safe 💙

    Was the update a clever backtrack after getting caught creating a fake story? Or was the original post a playful way to educate parents about a real problem the department never expected to be taken seriously? That’s for the people of South Fulton to decide.

    The post inspired some hilarious comments

    Even though the story was later proven false, the comments on the post are still pretty hilarious.

    “Idk about y’all, but those 12% ABV be hitting pretty hard with that Smuckers Uncrustable on a hot summer’s day on the lake,” one person wrote.

    “That kid was trying to get a little turnt at school today,” another added.

    Some folks in the comments thought the drink may have been for the kid’s teacher. One joked, “… it was really sent for the teacher as a peace offering.”

    Kids mistaking adult beverages for soft drinks is a real problem

    A teacher in the San Antonio, Texas, area made a big mistake last summer, proving South Fulton’s warning wasn’t entirely unwarranted. The educator accidentally handed out Hard Mountain Dew drinks to students on the last day of seventh grade. One child went to the hospital after ingesting a Hard Mountain Dew Baja Blast Pineapple. The student drank nearly half a can and felt disoriented while at school.

    “He says it tasted a little different,” Aaron Corso, the boy’s father, shared with KENS 5 News. “But he didn’t think too much of it. Because he doesn’t drink too much soda. He hardly drinks soda at all.” 

    This story from Texas and the warning out of Georgia are reminders to parents everywhere to be mindful of where they store alcoholic beverages, especially those that resemble soft drinks.

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