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This viral set of tweets about becoming a U.S. citizen will bring a smile to your face.

Journalist Roger Bennett joined the ranks of the more than 700,000 people who will become American citizens in 2018.

Bennett, who co-hosts NBC Sports Network's "Men in Blazers" show and podcast, grew up in the United Kingdom. Though he's lived in the United States for some time (he got married here in 2000), it wasn't until 2014 that he committed to becoming a citizen. The process was long and tedious, but on June 1, he realized that goal.

On Twitter, Bennett shared a powerful story about the many feelings he had about becoming a U.S. citizen in current times.

He begins by sharing the story of his great-grandfather who tried to emigrate to the U.S. in the 1890s only to mistake Liverpool for New York. "That family tale always made me feel deeply connected to America," he wrote.

Growing up, his view of America, communicated through pop culture, inspired him to chase his own dreams.

He even used his bedroom to display his patriotism, painting three of the walls red, white, and blue.

After graduating from college, those dreams brought him to Chicago, due in part to his love of John Hughes films — which honestly seems as good a reason as any to choose Chicago.

On the day of his naturalization ceremony, Bennett put a fine cap on his family's 130-year journey, calling it the achievement of his lifetime.

He hopes that future generations of his family will think of him and how he was the one who moved the family to America. He doesn't even care if they remember his name.

Naturally, he celebrated his citizenship as any freshly minted American would: with a Budweiser.

He grew up dreaming of an idealized notion of America, and while it may not always live up to the model as it existed in his mind, it's a country he loves. His journey is like that of so many immigrants, just people chasing their dreams and hoping for a better world for their families. Immigrants are what make America great, whether they arrived here in the 1890s (as Bennett's great-grandfather intended) or today.

When we turn our back on immigrants, whether a starry-eyed dreamer like Bennett or someone fleeing persecution in their home country, we turn our back on our own history. Patriotism means pushing the U.S. to live up to the ideals burned into Bennett's memory, not edge toward isolation.

Welcome and congratulations, Roger Bennett, American citizen.

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Naming twins is an art. Here are some twin names people say are the best they've ever heard.

With twins, all the regular pressures of having a baby are doubled, including choosing a name.

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Are you in favor of rhyming twin names? Or is it too cutesy?

Having twins means double the fun, and double the pressure. It’s a fairly known rule to name twins in a way that honors their unique bond, but that can lead to overly cutesy pairings that feel more appropriate for nursery rhyme characters than actual people. Plus, it’s equally important for the names to acknowledge each twin’s individuality. Again, these are people—not a matching set of dolls. Finding the twin baby name balance is easier said than done, for sure.

Luckily, there are several ways to do this. Names can be linked by style, sound or meaning, according to the baby name website Nameberry. For example, two names that share a classic style would be Elizabeth and Edward, whereas Ione and Lionel share a similar rhythm. And Frederica and Milo seem to share nothing in common, but both mean “peaceful.”

Over on the /NameNerds subreddit, one person asked folks to share their favorite twin name pairings, and the answers did not disappoint.

One person wrote “Honestly, for me it’s hard to beat the Rugrats combo of Phillip and Lillian (Phil and Lil) 💕”

A few parents who gave their twin’s names that didn’t inherently rhyme until nicknames got involved:

"It's the perfect way! Christmas cards can be signed cutely with matching names, but when they act out you can still use their full name without getting tripped up.😂"

"The parents of a good friend of mine did this: her name is Allison and her sister is Callie. Their names don’t match on the surface, but they were Alli and Callie at home."

“Alice and Celia, because they’re anagrams! Sound super different but have a not-so-obvious implicit connection.”

This incited an avalanche of other anagram ideas: Aidan and Nadia, Lucas and Claus, Liam and Mila, Noel and Leon, Ira and Ria, Amy and May, Ira and Ari, Cole and Cleo…even Alice, Celia, and Lacie for triplets.

Others remembered name pairs that managed to sound lovely together without going into cutesy territory.

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“I know twin toddler boys named Charlie and Archie and they go so well together,” one person commented.

Another wrote, “Tamia and Aziza. I love how they follow the same sound pattern with the syllable endings (-uh, -ee, -uh) without being obnoxiously matchy matchy.”

Still another said, “Lucy and Logan, fraternal girl/boy twins. I think the names sound so nice together, and definitely have the same 'vibe' and even though they have the same first letter they aren't too matchy-matchy.”

Other honorable mentions included: Colton and Calista, Caitlin and Carson, Amaya and Ameera, Alora and Luella, River and Rosie, and Eleanor and Elias.

One person cast a vote for shared style names, saying, “If I had twins, I would honestly just pick two different names that I like separately. I tend to like classic names, so I’d probably pick Daniel and Benjamin for boys. For girls my two favorites right now are Valerie and Tessa. I think Val and Tess would be cute together!”

Overall though, it seems that most folks were fans of names that focused on shared meaning over shared sound. Even better if there’s a literary or movie reference thrown in there.

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“My mom works in insurance, so I asked her. She’s seen a lot of unique ones, but the only twins she remembers are Gwenivere [sic] and Lancelot... bonus points... little brother was Merlin,” one person recalled.

Another shared, “If I had twin girls, I would name them Ada and Hedy for Ada Lovelace and Hedy Lamarr, both very early computer/tech pioneers. Not that I’m that into tech, I just thought it was a brilliant combination.”

Other great ones: Susan and Sharon (think the original “Parent Trap”), Clementine and Cara (types of oranges), Esme and Etienne (French descent), Luna and Stella (moon and stars), Dawn and Eve, plus various plant pairings like Lily and Fern, Heather and Holly, and Juniper and Laurel.

Perhaps the cleverest name pairing goes to “Aubrey and Zoe,” since…wait for it… “they’re A to Z.”

It’s easy to see how naming twins really is a cool opportunity for parents to get creative and intentional with their baby naming. It might be a challenge, sure, but the potential reward is having the most iconic set of twins ever. Totally worth it!


This article originally appeared last year.

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People agree these 10 behaviors seem like signs of intelligence, but really aren't

"Having an opinion on everything."

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Maybe the folks who do these things aren't as smart as they think they are.

We’ve all come across people that have immediately struck us as intelligent. There are, undeniably, certain quirks or traits that immediately give off an air of knowing more than the average joe.

However, there are just as many behaviors assumed to be signs of intellect, that really aren’t. Or even if they do historically denote a higher IQ, people hijack these traits in an effort to seem smarter. In an age of blatant misinformation and fake experts…iknowinghow to spot the difference seems more vital than ever.

That's why the answers to this question, “What is NOT a sign of intelligence, but people think it is?” posed on Reddit, could be helpful. Or at the very least, it’ll give you a boost of vindication for not thinking that one guy at trivia night was the genius everyone else thought he was.

Below are the 10 most popular themes we pulled.

Having an opinion on everything

“Smart people that I know refrain from giving opinions on things they don't know. Partly because they have good awareness of what they actually know…I also think that the more intelligent you are, the more you recognize the nuance in every subject, and therefore it becomes more difficult to state a flat-out, black and white opinion.”

“The absolute inability of some people to simply say ‘I don’t know’ is astounding. They’ll speculate vague scenarios for an hour without even being able to explain where they believe they are getting their hunches.”


Challenging or contradicting everything people say

“I have a colleague that does this and I've started to disengage and let them dig their own hole because some of the contrarian positions she takes is just plain stupid.”

“I’ve noticed a lot of people who are like this tend to also have a self-righteous attitude.”

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"Telling it like it is”

“In my experience people who ‘tell it like it is’ are generally on the lower side of intelligence and ‘how it is’ is a very simplified and juvenile understanding if not based on outright falsehoods.”

“When people tell me they’re brutally honest I just assume they enjoy the brutality more than the honesty.”

“It’s a sign they don’t have the intelligence to say anything with tact or differentiate between what should and shouldn’t be said.”

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Talking fast with a lot of words

Many referred to this as gish galloping, which is a debate technique used to overwhelm an opponent by presenting an excessive number of arguments, without regard for their accuracy or strength, with a rapidity that makes it impossible for the opponent to address them in the time available.

“I transcribe audio for a living. I find a lot of people who talk fast don't actually say more. There's a lot of repetition, filler words and phrases, and they very rarely have well organized thoughts/conversations so they're just harder to follow. I know some people just talk like that so I'm not mad at them, and sometimes people who talk like that are still actually geniuses and it's because their brain is moving faster than their mouth is, but usually not.”

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Having confidence

“I’ve seen people who are, well, not stupid, but certainly not the smartest people in the conversation, get treated like geniuses because they have the confidence and presentation side of things nailed.”

“In my life, I have met some truly intelligent people…I am not one of those people, but I was given the gift of presentation. Without question, my career has been built upon appearing, sounding and looking like I am one of those people. It is honestly scary how willingly people will give you power and responsibility for essentially being a good actor.”

“Just because people are able to speak confidently, it doesn't necessarily mean they have anything of substance to say.”

“This misconception is 90% of politics.”

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Writing a book

“Any fool can spew some crap into a word document and ‘publish’ it as a book. If you see some expert on TV and their only credential is ‘author of…’ you should be very skeptical.”

“My wife is an editor, trust me, some people who write books are barely literate. I feel like she has as much a hand in writing some of these books as the author does. Especially when it needs a heavy developmental edit.”

“Following some authors on social... has been eye opening.”

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Wearing glasses

Historically, glasses have been associated with brainy activities like studying and reading, hence why so many smarty pants characters in pop culture sport a pair of specs. And interestingly enough, there was a study in 2018 that indicated there was some truth to the stereotype. However, now that all of our eyes are glued onto screens for the majority of the day, which has a collective effect on our vision, I’d wonder if those stats would still hold up.

Some glasses-wearing folks in the conversation certainly had opinions on the matter.

“Can confirm, I wear glasses and I’m the dumbest person I’ve met.”

“I have glasses and I don’t mean to put myself down but I’m not as smart as people think I am. lol. It’s exhausting.”

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Labelling emotions as ‘irrational’

“If people ever studied neuroscience they’d learn that our emotional processing system is literally right next to our memory system, and highly connected with our decision making and memory consolidation. Emotions are in part an evolutionary design that makes us so intelligent. When the links between these are impaired our ability to make rational, logical decisions is impaired.”

“I find the people who think they’re really logical and detached often tend to be highly emotional individuals who just struggle with other people’s emotions and their own emotional regulation. They are the kind of people who shut themselves down and then break out in a rage. Obviously not everyone, but it seems to be common in some people with autism and other conditions that affect the ability to emotionally regulate to see logic as disassociated from emotions.”

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Being cynical

“Being miserable or trying to tear down every idea or opinion that comes your way doesn't equate to being intelligent or even interesting.”

“The most intelligent people I've met in life have been extremely optimistic and excited during conversations.”

“I’ve always called cynicism a low form of analysis. You do need to be somewhat smarter than average to challenge existing constructs. However, true intelligence is shown by taking the next step, which is formulating alternatives. Being cynical alone is actually buying into an existing structure without imagination—it is simply recognizing that something that someone else created is bad.”

“It’s fine to think of the potential negative outcomes to events, or possible negative motivations of people so you can be aware to watch out for them but if you’re realistic about actual probability, none of that will hold you back from being optimistic.”

“Most of the stupidest people I've met have also been the most mean spirited and pessimistic.”

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Speaking with a British accent

Okay, this was a funny one, but a pertinent one nonetheless.

“Lol, Americans don't even differentiate between different British accents. They think a brummy accent - which to UK ears sounds like borderline brain damage - sounds smart.”

“It's only a sign of a very specific kind of intelligence... namely MI6”

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Passenger on 274-day cruise is surprised to learn the one word you can't say on the ship

"It's like saying 'Macbeth' in a theater."

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There's one word you can't say on a cruise ship.

There are some things you just don't say. You don't yell out "bomb!" on an airplane, make jokes about carrying weapons while going through security, or, as Michael Scott from The Office knows, loudly proclaim that a boat you're currently on is sinking.

Those are all pretty obvious examples, but sometimes etiquette and decorum are a little more subtle. If you're not experienced in the ways of the venue you're in, you might not know all the unspoken rules. And you might find out the hard way. Cruise ships, for example, have their own very specific set of rules and regulations that guests should abide by.

On December 10, 2023, Royal Caribbean’s Serenade of the Seas set sail on the Ultimate World Cruise—a 274-day global trek that visits 11 world wonders and over 60 countries.


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This incredible trip covered the Americas, Asia Pacific, Middle East, Mediterranean and Europe with a ticket price that ranges from $53,999 to $117,599 per passenger.

With such a unique and incredible offering, it's understandable that Royal Caribbean wanted to invite plenty of influencers to help them get the word out.

Aboard the Serenade to the Seas was popular TikToker Marc Sebastian, who documented his experience throughout the journey. In one video with over 4.3 million views, he revealed what he’s learned over his first few weeks aboard the ship; the biggest was the one word you’re not allowed to say.

"So here's [what] I've learned about cruising since I've spent 18 nights on this floating retirement home with a Cheesecake Factory attached. First, number one, you're not supposed to talk about the Titanic," he says in the clip.

Titanic! It's the ultimate taboo when you're on a giant ship traversing the ocean. Even after all these years, it's still too soon to make even lighthearted comparisons or jokes.

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“Who knew that? I didn’t,” Sebastian said. “I brought it up to an entire room of people having lunch that our ship is only 100 feet longer than the Titanic — when I tell you that utensils dropped. Waiters gasped. It’s dead silent.”

Sebastian was flabbergasted. "It wasn't in the... handbook," he joked. "Not that I read the handbook, clearly."

After the unexpected reaction, his cruise friend told him, “You’re not allowed to talk about the Titanic.” It makes sense.

Who wants to be reminded of the tragedy that killed around 1,500 people while sinking one of the most impressive engineering feats of the era? More experienced cruisers chimed in that they were familiar with the unique piece of etiquette.

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"When I went on a cruise, my mom told me saying Titanic was equivalent to screaming ‘bomb’ at an airport," Mikayla wrote in the comments.

"It’s like saying Macbeth in a theatre, it’s an unspoken rule" another commenter added.

"I’m sorry you’re telling me you had a Harry Potter like experience saying Voldemort at Hogwarts but it was the titanic on a modern day cruise I’m cryingggg" joked another.

Later in the video covering little known cruise facts, Sebastian admits he was surprised to learn that cruise ships have godmothers and that the pools are filled with seawater.

In an update from June of 2024, Sebastian explains that he only stayed on the cruise for 18 nights. He was not booked to stay throughout the entire voyage, and for him, that was a relief.

He initially jokes that he was kicked off the boat for saving a penguin that had jumped aboard. But in the end, he admits he was more than happy to deboard early.

"I walked off that ship not a happy man," he said, saying the ship was overstimulating and stressful. In another video, he films as the ship navigates the Drake Passage, one of the most notoriously dangerous and choppy stretches of water in the world. It looks stressful indeed, to say the least.

Cruising isn't for everyone, let alone for 274 days straight! But now Sebastian knows the golden rule for his next cruise.

This story originally appeared last year. It has been updated.

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Productive people share 2-minute daily habits that help them focus and de-clutter their brains

Small change, big gains.

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Productive people share their 2-minute daily habits for more better productivity.

Being productive requires your focus, determination, and discipline to get things done and achieve your personal and professional goals. Productive people excel at finding ways to minimize distraction and effectively use the 24 hours in each day. Luckily, becoming more productive can happen in two minutes or less.

A group of productive people in the subreddit r/Productivity put their brains together to respond to member erddre23, who asked: "What’s one '2-minute' habit that genuinely changed your week?"

They openly shared their tips and tricks for becoming more productive (and in return, happier) in a short amount of time. These are 15 two-minute habits from productive people to consider adding to your daily routine.

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"Create a not-to-do list. Stick all the things that are in your head but you're not going to do on there. Great way to focus and declutter my brain. I use it as a brain dump, when looking at my tasks. So it’s things that I consider need doing but on closer inspection can just be dropped. Basic premise is, there’s way too much to do, I over estimate how important things are, only a select few things really matter." - Serious-Put6732

"Even quicker .. try BJ Foggs 'Maui Habit'. Soon as your feet hit the ground after you wake, tell yourself 'today is going to be a great day' and 'feel' it." - Different-Ad8308

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"Starting with just 2 minutes on a big task makes it way less scary, and once I start, i usually keep going for hours. my procrastination usually kicks in when things feel too big to even begin." - Alternative_Owl5866

"Anything you want to start, but feel like is too big of a task, break it down in the simplest, easiest form. If you haven’t built up the motivation to read that book, then just read 5 words of the book (I’m serious). focus on consistency - just do." - babatundaeeeee

"Honestly, just taking 2 minutes every morning to jot down the top three things I really want to get done that day has totally changed my week." - sarthakdesigngrow

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"Don’t look at your phone within the first 2 mins of waking up." - Deep-Explanation1024

"For me it’s washing dishes right after I eat takes way less time than I think, and my kitchen never feels like a war zone anymore." - felipemsimon0

"Mine - breathing morning practice. Breathe in, breathe out. Before starting my daily routine. Technically, it's for calming down... but it's also the foundation for something bigger, like mindfulness. The practice helps me relax, set a positive tone for the day, and visualize the big picture, among other things" - EpicTale_Production

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"Literally two minutes. I stretch my neck in three directions on each side for 20s." - SgtRevDrEsq

"Journaling, nothing too complicated: just starting my morning with some pep talk (I get too lost in my head sometimes) and reminding myself of things I need to get done (e.g. drink more water, stretching every time I take a bathroom break, work on a report). To-do lists stopped working with me for years now, but these mental reminders somehow keep me on track for the day. It feels like executing a code in my brain that helps me be more conscious of my actions and makes me less inclined to live on autopilot." - Dry-Key-9510

"Making my bed every morning. I know it’s cliche but it’s legit changed my life." - Jealous-Function-105

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"I get gas on the way home instead of on the way out. NOTHING pisses me off more than urgently needing gas when I’m on a time crunch, which I often am 🤣." - Acrobatic-Beach-5581

"Getting tomorrow ready before going to bed. I pick out which clothes to wear. I set out a place setting for breakfast. I'll put the chips and fresh fruit in my cooler, for tomorrow's lunch. Doing this makes the morning easier to breeze through." - LordBofKerry

"I started doing pushups just as a means to get exercise in my downtime. I started with 10 pushups a day. Now I’m doing 75 a day. I’ve been doing this for such a long time that not doing pushups feels weird now." - ChickyBoys

"Define your vision, hang it on a wall, and read it every morning for two minutes. It's way easier to prioritize and say no if you know exactly where you're going and keep reminding yourself of it." - CarpenterFlat3590

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5 pieces of financial advice from older generations that are officially obsolete

The economic landscape has changed. A lot.

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What made financial sense decades ago doesn't necessarily make sense now.

Economics can be complicated, but there's one simple truth that's undeniable—today's financial landscape looks vastly different than it used to. Not only has the economy shifted in ways that make basic living more expensive, but the way money even works has changed a lot in just one generation.

Cash is out. Crypto is in (maybe, sometimes, depending on who you ask), and credit cards have become the standard form of payment for everyone. No one balances a checkbook anymore, and young people don't even know what that means. Sewing your own clothes used to be a way to save money, but now the cost of patterns and fabric have made sewing a somewhat expensive hobby, not a frugal hack.

A lot of the financial wisdom previous generations held dear simply doesn't apply anymore, as evidenced by people's responses to a question, "What financial advice from our parents' generation is officially dead?"

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Here were some of the most common responses:

1. Get a college degree because it'll guarantee you a good job

"My parents didn’t say this but plenty in their generation did: “It doesn’t matter what your degree is in, just get a degree and there will be plenty of jobs available when you graduate.”

"The Millennial experience was being told we have to go to college; find something you enjoy doing and expect jobs in it; don’t worry about loans, there’s plenty of money out there. And then being yelled at and mocked when we come out with debt, dumb degrees and shitty jobs."

"My parents told me to just get a college degree and not worry about finding the perfect major. For them, just having a college degree opened doors. My advice to my son will be to be very intentional in the degree he chooses. Today you need to make sure your college degree will lead to employment."

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Current reality: With the cost of college tuition skyrocketing over the past few decades and wages not keeping up with cost of living expenses, "college will guarantee financial comfort" simply isn't true anymore. A college degree might result in a well-paying job, but it might not. Indeed reports that Bureau of Labor Statistics data shows that "on average, those with four-year degrees still earn more than their trade school-educated counterparts," but with trade jobs being in high demand and some of them earning high salaries, college isn't necessarily the best path to financial success for everyone.

2. Keep a stash of cash under your mattress or in a shoebox

"The old classic 'shoebox under the bed' has been dead for a while, but people still do it. If you want to keep a couple hundred bucks in cash for an emergency, knock yourself out.

But my mother in law has like 20k stashed in my wife's childhood room and has had it there for years and years. Absolutely kills me but she won't even consider any other options."

"I had a friend who had $15k in cash stashed in her house, and then she got robbed. Of course, the thieves found the cash. Guess what homeowners' insurance doesn't reimburse you for when your house gets robbed? They paid her back $1000 of the $15k and that was it."

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"Back when I was doing finance at a car dealership I had a couple come into my office, finish all the paperwork, and then set $27,000 in a plastic shopping bag on my desk. I about crapped my pants. They had been carrying this bag of money throughout the sales process. I advised them to never do that again. They just hated banks."

"That 20k invested in an S&P index fund at a yearly average return of 10% would be $134,550.00 after 20 years. Left in a shoebox it’s…. 20k."

Current reality: A federally-insured bank is the safest place to keep your money. The need for actual cash has become less and less relevant as credit and debit cards are accepted almost everywhere, and keeping a large amount of cash around is risky. If cash is stolen, there's nothing you can do about it. If someone steals from your bank account, there are protections in place. Plus, keeping lots of liquid cash means missing out on investment returns.

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3. Be loyal to your company—it'll pay off

"'Loyalty pays off in the end' and 'Don’t change workplaces; try to stay at one place for your entire career' also 'Only change positions if it’s a vertical move. Don’t change positions if it’s a lateral move.' None of this is true any longer."

"A lot of people believed this at my last job. So much so that many stayed on for 20+ years. Earlier this year, this group became known as ‘highly tenured’ and was offered a voluntary retirement package. In many individual instances (such as mine) it wasn’t exactly ‘voluntary’. Maybe loyalty meant something at one time but definitely not anymore!"

"'Stick it out and put in your time' at a job you hate. The implication being, of course, that if you work hard for an employer and stay the course, you’ll be better for it. Those days are over.

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Current reality: Millennials and Gen Z have gained a reputation for "job hopping," whereas previous generations were rewarded by staying with the same company long-term. But even in 2014, Forbes reported that “staying employed at the same company for over two years on average is going to make you earn less over your lifetime by about 50% or more.” Current wisdom says that job hopping will help you earn more.

4. You shouldn't be living with your parents after college

"I feel like the conventional wisdom about moving out on your own has changed since I was a kid. When I was growing up it was understood if you were still living at home past your early 20s/college graduation that meant you were failing at life. These days I know people in their 40s still living at home because they can't afford to move out in today's environment."

"Yup. I know a few people who have adult kids living with them because they can’t afford to live on their own after college. Rentals in my state are absolutely insane, and when you combine that with college loan repayments? Forget it."

"As someone who is living at home in her thirties the stigma has dropped like a rock since COVID. I was given more shit for living at home at 22 than I was at 32. My parents had a car accident this year and the doctors were over the moon there was an adult kid at home to sort everything out."

"That's one practice I am grateful my immigrant parents never assimilated, and the fact I have a good relationship with them. Their was no expectation to move out until I was engaged / married. Multi-generation households make so much sense when it comes to saving money and pooled resources."

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Current reality: According to data from Sallie Mae, 64% of college grads are still living with their parents within the first two years of graduation, and 35% are still at home between three and five years post-grad. Living at home has become a financially wise and socially acceptable decision—it no longer means you're a lazy loser without the ability to support yourself.

5. Stay away from stocks (or even 401Ks)

"The advice from my depression-era parents. Stay away from stocks, they will always crash and you will lose your shirt. Guaranteed."

"My boomer mother: 'Putting your money in a 401k is gambling. You might as well take it to the casino or throw it away.'"

"My grandmother refused to try to understand why we had 401ks that were invested in stocks. 'All those Wall Street crooks do is steal your money!' She also couldn't understand why we didn't just keep all our money in a savings account in the bank, even when we explained that our bank savings account was only giving us .03% interest."

"That was also the advice I got from basically all my coworkers when I first started work after college in 2009 regarding a 401k. I had enough sense and luck to ignore them and still contribute, but I did put less in than I could have. I don't think I would have been able to retire yet, but would have been much closer than I am now."

401K, investing, investments, retirement, savings Investing for the future looks a bit different now than it did a couple of generations ago. Photo credit: Canva

Current reality: Some people who advise against investing in the market came from the Great Depression or felt the sting of some other major downswings in the stock market during their lives. For sure, all kinds of investments are risky to varying degrees, but in the absence of pensions, if you ever want to retire, investing is pretty much the only way to do it. The stock market isn't the only way, of course, but it does have an average 10% return overall over the past century. And 401Ks aren't necessarily tied to the stock market; there are lots of safer ways to invest your retirement funds these days.

One commenter wrote of our elders' financial advice that's aged like milk, "Almost all of it. Because the world their advice is based in no longer exists." That's really the crux of it. We can look to our parents and grandparents for all kinds of wisdom born of experience, but when it comes to financial advice, best to look to the experts who have a better understanding of our current economic landscape.

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