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Teacher starts period in front of class, turns into a lesson


Teachers are almost always teaching even when it's not in their lesson plan.

Those that were born to be teachers find teachable moments everywhere and one woman found herself in one of those moments. Though this one was likely just a bit more personal than she probably would've liked.

Emily Elizabeth posted a TikTok video about how she found herself in a predicament in front of her classroom full of 10 and 11-year-old kids. The teacher explained that she was noticing a lot of commotion and whispering among the little girls in her class while she was wearing white pants. After reminding the girls to stay on task, the whispering continued, prompting Emily to be more direct.

That's when one of the girls asked to speak with her privately dropping the bomb that no one that gets periods wants to hear in public.


"She goes, 'I'm sorry Ms. Emily, but I just want to let you know that I think you might have got your period,'" the teacher recalls.

But instead of freaking out or being flustered, Emily decided to swallow her embarrassment and use the moment as a teachable experience. She promptly told the concerned girls that it was fine and that she had a change of clothes that she could wear. Just before excusing herself, the boys noticed something was wrong so they curiously asked. Emily informed them that she had gotten her period and while she was annoyed, she was perfectly fine.

One of the boys even sent her an email double checking that she was okay in a less public way. The sweet reaction from her class warmed her heart and the hearts of viewers.

"That boy who emailed...his parents must be incredible," one commenter says.

"You set an excellent example! And to not hide it from the boys who asked because that would have spoken SO LOUDLY to the boys and girls about normalizing periods," another writes.

"The email, you sound like an amazing teacher with an amazing group of kids," someone says.

You can watch Emily tell the entire story below:

@emilyelizabeth.w

Let’s normalise talking about periods for girls AND boys … trying to find the silver lining 😅 #fyp #melbourneteacher #teachersoftiktok #teacherlife

This article originally appeared on 10.2.23

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Let's face it, a lot of guys are a little out of the loop when it comes to understanding women's bodies.

It seems that either they didn't pay much attention in sex education class or maybe they needed to take it for an entire year just to get the basics down. However, in some cases, men aren't taught about these issues at all.


A study published in the Journal of Adolescent Health found that "in 2011–2013, 43% of adolescent females and 57% of adolescent males did not receive information about birth control before they had sex for the first time."

A lot of men are in the dark on the topic of menstruation as well.

RELATED: Male athlete gets roasted for comparing period pain to skinned knees

"Boys' early learning about menstruation is haphazard," researchers Katherine Allen, Christine Kaestle and Abbie Goldberg, wrote according to Popular Science. "The mysterious nature of what happens to girls contributes to a gap in boys' knowledge about female bodies and to some negative views about girls."

However, after having heterosexual relationships with women, men tend to gain a proper understanding of menstruation. But for those who don't foster these relationships, the misunderstandings may endure.

"For the men who do not make that transition," the researchers write, "the myths and mystery from boyhood remain."

Sadly, the burden of educating these men falls on the women in their lives.

Twitter user @brownandbella asked her followers, "What is the dumbest thing a man ever said to you about sex, reproductive health, menstruation, etc?" and the responses were both hilarious and disconcerting.

As we said, a lot of guys are clueless about mensuration.

Evidently, men are having a hard time locating the "click."

They can be pretty clueless about sex, too.

Some guys need to learn more about pregnancy.






A Twitter user, who says their friend teaches elementary school sex ed, recently shared student questions — and they were adorable.

Some of the best questions included:

"Wouldn't it be just as good if a boy had a baby for a change?" (Yes!)


"Are you sure that someone knows how to get a baby out of there?" (Yes!)

"If you intercourse longer is the baby born bigger?" (Good question!)

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First of all: VIRGINIA.

Second of all: How awesome is it that kids are asking such good questions and having myths busted right from the beginning?

I'm especially excited for the child who will soon learn that "intercoursing" does not take 24 hours.

The questions are delightful, and they drive home an important point: Early sex ed is important.

Kids won't ever stop having questions about sex and keeping the answers from them can lead to confusion.

The American Academy of Pediatrics says that developing healthy sexuality is an important part of development. Starting the discussion early helps kids gain both knowledge and autonomy over their bodies and can help them avoid risky or exploitive behavior.

A 2014 study published in Global Public Health found that kids as young as 10 benefit from learning about sex, gender identity, and contraception. Learning about sex and gender at the very beginning of puberty (or earlier) allows kids to view sex ed not just as risk prevention, but a safe space to learn about consent, their bodies, and its changes.

If we truly want to provide today's youth with all the tools they need to be safe and healthy, it's imperative that they learn about sex outside of just abstinence and risk-avoidance. And the best way to do that is by having frank and open discussions about sexuality. It may feel uncomfortable for adults, but for kids it will make a world of difference.

Abstinence-only sex education is making a comeback.

The Department of Health and Human Services is shifting away from comprehensive sex education — in which abstinence is only one component of instruction — and toward a model that emphasizes delaying sex.

If you're there thinking, "Wait, what?" You're not the only one.


Jimmy Kimmel, (almost) everyone's favorite late-night comedian, had a lot to say about the issue. Buckle up, folks, it's going to get bumpy.

Kimmel, who's no stranger to calling out controversial issues, found it hypocritical that the Trump administration is asking to earmark $75 million to champion the euphemistically titled "sexual risk avoidance education" considering the latest of the president's many scandals.

So the comic did what he does best, lighting up Trump's plan with his own abstinence-only pamphlet.

The video’s funny, but here’s something a little less hilarious: A focus on abstinence-only education is terrible for teens.

Organizations receiving Sexual Risk Avoidance Education funding, for instance, would have to teach teens about contraception from a theoretical rather than a practical perspective. Huh? Exactly. Instructors will still present the idea that birth control and barrier methods exist somewhere out in the real world, but non-prescription contraception won’t be distributed or even demonstrated.

Basically, we’re going to have a lot of this:

GIF from "Mean Girls."

(Thank god for YouTube, right?)

There's loads of research to back up how much abstinence-only education doesn’t work.

Data shows that abstinence-only education doesn’t actually decrease pregnancy rates among teens. It does the opposite.

And while opponents of comprehensive sex ed think teaching kids about disease prevention and contraception encourages early sexual activity, the flip side is that not teaching these ideas doesn’t make teens less fascinated with sex. It just leaves them confused and without the knowledge they need to make educated decisions about sex.

Laura Lindberg, co-author of a 2017 report that confirmed abstinence-only programs didn’t reduce either teen pregnancy or delay the age of sexual activity, put it bluntly to NPR, "We fail our young people when we don't provide them with complete and medically accurate information."

That’s especially evident in the case of Sen. Bill Cassidy (R-Louisiana), whose staunch support of abstinence-only education didn’t prevent the pregnancy of his own 17-year-old daughter in 2014.

Another study found that teens who received abstinence-only education were less likely to use condoms while still engaging in sexual activity.

So what actually reduces rates of teen sex and pregnancy? Comprehensive education and affordable contraception methods.

But being transparent with teens about safe sex is only one piece of the puzzle.

Teaching teens they should wait until marriage can be particularly stigmatizing. As Dr. Terez Yonan, a physician specializing in adolescent medicine told Teen Vogue, the heteronormative framework such programs are based on alienates and sidelines LGBTQ youth. "It isolates them," she said. "They don’t learn anything about how to have sex with a partner that they’re attracted to and how to do it in a safe way that minimizes the risk of STDs and pregnancy."

Abstinence-only education also often provides teens with information on relationships and consent that marginalizes and puts pressure on young women.  As Refinery 29 points out, these programs "engage in teaching affirmative consent and violence prevention in ways that perpetuate gender stereotypes, such as putting the onus on young women to be in control of young men's sexual behaviors."

But even if the above weren’t true (and all of it is), abstinence-only education is behind the cultural curve in general. Marriage rates are dropping as priorities and cultural ideas about the role of marriage change. Many are waiting until they’re older to get married or deciding not marrying at all. According to 2015 statistics, the average age of first marriage was 27 for a woman and 29 for a man in America.

Are we really expecting teens to wait until they’re almost 30 to figure out the right way to unroll a condom (there’s a reason we need the banana demonstration!) or that lube is a must in the bedroom?

Abstinence-only education, while ostensibly well-intentioned, is also often terrifying.

Take this clip from the 1991 movie "No Second Chance" for instance. It intercuts a teacher threatening an entire classroom with death by venereal disease with grainy stock footage of a man loading a gun.

"What if I want to have sex before I get married?" One nervous student asks.

"Well," the teacher says, leaning in close, "I guess you just have to be prepared to die."

It hasn’t gotten much better. While the fashions have changed, a 2015 episode of "Last Week Tonight" made it clear that the message remains the same: Sex before marriage is dangerous, shameful (especially for young women), and morally repugnant.

If we really want to give today’s youth a chance at a bright and healthy future, it’s going to come from frank and open discussions about sex, sexuality, and healthy relationships — not by scaring them into celibacy.

Of course, if we need another idea for how to prevent teens from having sex early, Kimmel has some words of wisdom.  

"I didn’t need abstinence education when I was a teenager," he quipped. "I just played the clarinet."