Yeah, so, it’s totally annoying when my cat (you can call her Camille) makes muffins on my favorite chair. But, I can live with a shredded chair. What I can't live with is a cat in pain.
Judy Vaughan has spent most of her life helping other women, first as the director of House of Ruth, a safe haven for homeless families in East Los Angeles, and later as the Project Coordinator for Women for Guatemala, a solidarity organization committed to raising awareness about human rights abuses.
But in 1996, she decided to take things a step further. A house became available in the mid-Wilshire area of Los Angeles and she was offered the opportunity to use it to help other women and children. So, in partnership with a group of 13 people who she knew from her years of activism, she decided to make it a transitional residence program for homeless women and their children. They called the program Alexandria House.
"I had learned from House of Ruth that families who are homeless are often isolated from the surrounding community," Judy says. "So we decided that as part of our mission, we would also be a neighborhood center and offer a number of resources and programs, including an after-school program and ESL classes."
She also decided that, unlike many other shelters in Los Angeles, she would accept mothers with their teenage boys.
"There are very few in Los Angeles [that do] due to what are considered liability issues," Judy explains. "Given the fact that there are (conservatively) 56,000 homeless people and only about 11,000 shelter beds on any one night, agencies can be selective on who they take."
Their Board of Directors had already determined that they should take families that would have difficulties finding a place. Some of these challenges include families with more than two children, immigrant families without legal documents, moms who are pregnant with other small children, families with a member who has a disability [and] families with service dogs.
"Being separated from your son or sons, especially in the early teen years, just adds to the stress that moms who are unhoused are already experiencing," Judy says.
"We were determined to offer women with teenage boys another choice."
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Alexandria House also doesn't kick boys out when they turn 18. For example, Judy says they currently have a mom with two daughters (21 and 2) and a son who just turned 18. The family had struggled to find a shelter that would take them all together, and once they found Alexandria House, they worried the boy would be kicked out on his 18th birthday. But, says Judy, "we were not going to ask him to leave because of his age."
Homelessness is a big issue in Los Angeles. "[It] is considered the homeless capital of the United States," Judy says. "The numbers have not changed significantly since 1984 when I was working at the House of Ruth." The COVID-19 pandemic has only compounded the problem. According to Los Angeles Homeless Services Authority (LAHSA), over 66,000 people in the greater Los Angeles area were experiencing homelessness in 2020, representing a rise of 12.7% compared with the year before.
Each woman who comes to Alexandria House has her own unique story, but some common reasons for ending up homeless include fleeing from a domestic violence or human trafficking situation, aging out of foster care and having no place to go, being priced out of an apartment, losing a job, or experiencing a family emergency with no 'cushion' to pay the rent.
"Homelessness is not a definition; it is a situation that a person finds themselves in, and in fact, it can happen to almost anyone. There are many practices and policies that make it almost impossible to break out of poverty and move out of homelessness."
And that's why Alexandria House exists: to help them move out of it. How long that takes depends on the woman, but according to Judy, families stay an average of 10 months. During that time, the women meet with support staff to identify needs and goals and put a plan of action in place.
A number of services are provided, including free childcare, programs and mentoring for school-age children, free mental health counseling, financial literacy classes and a savings program. They have also started Step Up Sisterhood LA, an entrepreneurial program to support women's dreams of starting their own businesses. "We serve as a support system for as long as a family would like," Judy says, even after they have moved on.
And so far, the program is a resounding success.
92 percent of the 200 families who stayed at Alexandria House have found financial stability and permanent housing — not becoming homeless again.
Since founding Alexandria House 25 years ago, Judy has never lost sight of her mission to join with others and create a vision of a more just society and community. That is why she is one of Tory Burch's Empowered Women this year — and the donation she receives as a nominee will go to Alexandria House and will help grow the new Start-up Sisterhood LA program.
"Alexandria House is such an important part of my life," says Judy. "It has been amazing to watch the children grow up and the moms recreate their lives for themselves and for their families. I have witnessed resiliency, courage, and heroic acts of generosity."
The battle between millennials and older generations isn't exactly a generational war—it's more a case of mistaken generational identity. A decade ago, whining about millennials being young adults unprepared to make their way in the world at least made sense mathematically. But when people bag on millennials now they end up looking rather foolish.
A marketing researcher with a doctorate in social psychology wrote an op-ed for the Chicago Tribune titled "Post-pandemic, some millennials finally decide to start #adulting." And when the Tribune shared it to Twitter, their since-deleted tweet read, "Writer Jennifer Rosner predicts COVID-10 lockdowns will force easy-breezy millennials to grow up."
Interestingly, the writer of the op-ed is a millennial herself, but she repeats generalizations about her entire generation that seem like they mainly apply to her own social circle. Read it yourself to decide, but regardless, the tweet of the op-ed itself set off a firestorm of responses from millennials who are tired of being painted as irresponsible young people who don't know how to "adult" instead of what they actually are.
@chitribopinions Seems like you called an entire generation "easy-breezy" and got ratioed. https://t.co/sYuVcenUKf— Claude Walker (@Claude Walker)1619056810.0
First of all, the oldest millennials are turning 40 this year The youngest are 25—either well out of college or well into grad school. And yet, they've been thought of as the youngest adults for the past 10-15 years, even as they've aged into full-on adulthood.
they call us millennials because we’ve been alive for a thousand years— Matt Pearce 🦅 (@Matt Pearce 🦅)1619044930.0
The struggle of millennials is not that they don't know how to be adults. It's that the financial reality of the world in which they came of age made it much harder to get established than previous generations, with two recessions, stagnant wages, rising costs of living, and crippling debt from skyrocketing tuition costs.
the oldest millennials are 40. the youngest millennials are 25. these op-ed columnists need to get a fucking grip a… https://t.co/2aQXbY364Q— Jeanna Kadlec (@Jeanna Kadlec)1619026617.0
easy breezy means, "everything I have will be blown away with a big enough medical bill"— yeah but (@yeah but)1619024172.0
Nonetheless, most millennials are 30-somethings who are in the midst of careers, paying mortgages, raising kids, and other extremely adult things. And they're doing it with less security and stability on a basic level than previous generations experienced. They are resilient because they have to be. They are resourceful because they have no choice.
What they, as a generation, are not? Easy breezy.
@chitribopinions The pandemic rolled in, and Boomers lost their collective minds, screaming at grocery store worker… https://t.co/YoukFrq6r4— Cate Eland (@Cate Eland)1619023974.0
A good chunk of the parents who have had to figure out childcare for their young kids during a pandemic or learn on the fly how to help their children with virtual school while also managing their own careers from home? Millennials.
@tindsaylurner This is also another great example of people not realizing that millennials are 35, and are the peop… https://t.co/CbYkZS7TGX— Emily Galvin-Almanza (@Emily Galvin-Almanza)1619018717.0
Seriously, the oldest millennials were early in their career years when the 2008 recession hit, and the youngest millennials are at that stage now, during this pandemic recession. Those lucky middle-millennials may have had an easier time finding a job—maybe—but they're still dealing with wages that haven't kept up with costs of living increases while trying to getting their families started.
"Easy breezy millennials" got hit with the worst job market since the Great Depression bc government let Wall Stree… https://t.co/7Yrh0oqh7N— Walker Bragman (@Walker Bragman)1619030587.0
Oh yeah, and they're inheriting a crescendoing global climate crisis to boot. Easy breezy!
The millennial curse is seeing that the tracks are out, having nobody listen, and being too late to stop the train anyway...— Walker Bragman (@Walker Bragman)1619030911.0
The responses were swift and fierce.
Well, everyone is entitled to their opinion. Excuse my millennial self while I go back to cramming a days' work b… https://t.co/SR2EylXe83— Jonathan Wong (@Jonathan Wong)1619047740.0
And some of them were simply, wryly hilarious.
@chitribopinions Once again, "millennial" is not a synonym for "cohort of young people I don't like." Millennials a… https://t.co/2tAVqig0Fe— James Greene (@James Greene)1618926015.0
@tylerevansokay @Learnonaut The year is 2045. A millennial, on the first day of retirement, opens the News app on h… https://t.co/s2ZcXRLKCm— Steve Watts (@Steve Watts)1619020896.0
@chitribopinions Seriously, the "Millennials are young and irresponsible" narrative is as old and tired as Millennials themselves— John Stone (@John Stone)1618983267.0
What I love about thinkpieces re: millennials is how they act like we're all still carefree and in our early 20s, m… https://t.co/8l4DnUTRYi— John Epler (@John Epler)1619026065.0
how millennials actually live https://t.co/JA0lWDYy05— Allison Kilkenny (@Allison Kilkenny)1618936208.0
Every generation has its share of struggles and every generation thinks the generation before and after it is somehow flawed, but it's those generalizations themselves that are the biggest problem. Sure, there are generational differences born of changes in the world, social pendulum swings, and reactions to our own upbringings, but to blame a generation for circumstances they can't control is pretty crappy and to lump them all together as lazy or entitled or "easy breezy" is as inaccurate as it is rude.
I'm not a millennial—solidly Gen X here—but the millennials I know are great people. Leave them alone unless you've got a solution to the challenges they're facing beyond "stop buying avocado toast" and "save up money from your underpaid job for a house you can't afford." And for the love of all that is good and holy, stop talking about them like they're doe-eyed college students. Time to give them the full respect we give all "real" adults. They've definitely earned it.
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