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The 4 Terrifying Dating Secrets Abusers Are Counting On You Not Knowing

Before we jump to conclusions about what someone should or shouldn't do if they're in a violent relationship, it's important to first understand how abusers trap their partners into a cycle of abuse. I thought I knew where this GIF set was going, but the last one completely blindsided me.

The 4 Terrifying Dating Secrets Abusers Are Counting On You Not Knowing



If you are in an abusive relationship, a crisis counselor is one of the best and safest people to help you create an exit strategy. Do not tell your abuser you're leaving and be careful about who you notify of your plans so you can get out safely.


You can visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline website to speak with a crisis counselor or call 1-800-799-7233.


Side note: This GIF set uses female pronouns when referring to victims and male pronouns to refer to abusers. While incidents involving female victims and male abusers are more common, it's important to note that domestic violence also occurs in same-sex relationships, and women can be abusers and men can be victims. While this content isn't gender-neutral, it's still important despite the oversight. OK. Carry on!

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If the past year has taught us nothing else, it's that sending love out into the world through selfless acts of kindness can have a positive ripple effect on people and communities. People all over the United States seemed to have gotten the message — 71% of those surveyed by the World Giving Index helped a stranger in need in 2020. A nonprofit survey found 90% helped others by running errands, calling, texting and sending care packages. Many people needed a boost last year in one way or another and obliging good neighbors heeded the call over and over again — and continue to make a positive impact through their actions in this new year.

Upworthy and P&G Good Everyday wanted to help keep kindness going strong, so they partnered up to create the Lead with Love Fund. The fund awards do-gooders in communities around the country with grants to help them continue on with their unique missions. Hundreds of nominations came pouring in and five winners were selected based on three criteria: the impact of action, uniqueness, and "Upworthy-ness" of their story.

Here's a look at the five winners:

Edith Ornelas, co-creator of Mariposas Collective in Memphis, Tenn.

Edith Ornelas has a deep-rooted connection to the asylum-seeking immigrant families she brings food and supplies to families in Memphis, Tenn. She was born in Jalisco, Mexico, and immigrated to the United States when she was 7 years old with her parents and sister. Edith grew up in Chicago, then moved to Memphis in 2016, where she quickly realized how few community programs existed for immigrants. Two years later, she helped create Mariposas Collective, which initially aimed to help families who had just been released from detention centers and were seeking asylum. The collective started out small but has since grown to approximately 400 volunteers.