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Before we jump to conclusions about what someone should or shouldn't do if they're in a violent relationship, it's important to first understand how abusers trap their partners into a cycle of abuse. I thought I knew where this GIF set was going, but the last one completely blindsided me.



If you are in an abusive relationship, a crisis counselor is one of the best and safest people to help you create an exit strategy. Do not tell your abuser you're leaving and be careful about who you notify of your plans so you can get out safely.


You can visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline website to speak with a crisis counselor or call 1-800-799-7233.


Side note: This GIF set uses female pronouns when referring to victims and male pronouns to refer to abusers. While incidents involving female victims and male abusers are more common, it's important to note that domestic violence also occurs in same-sex relationships, and women can be abusers and men can be victims. While this content isn't gender-neutral, it's still important despite the oversight. OK. Carry on!

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