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Listen to 1 man explain why he has a hard time being a feminist.

Like many men, Ben is a feminist learning to reconcile what it means to openly support women's equality in 2015.

Are men afraid to be called feminists?

Many men don't disagree with the concepts of feminism, but they're trying to figure out where they sit within the feminist movement. Should men embrace feminism?

Men can sympathize, but can we actually understand what women go through?

We don't experience inequality and objectification the same way women do. Men have never had the right to govern their own body threatened, you know? Women are paid 78 cents to every man's dollar, and legislatures around the country consistently attempt to regulate their bodies. These are issues men do not face.


Feminism is for anyone who believes both sexes deserve the same respect.

Should the struggle against the oppressor contain only the voices of the oppressed? If you think that feminist issues are only about women, that's not true! Feminism DOES apply to men! It should contain men + women's voices because BOTH are oppressed by the system of patriarchy. An unequal society puts an unnecessary amount of pressure on men, even if it's not nearly as much as it disempowers women.

Men, think about it for a second. We're expected to be the most powerful and winningest (I know it's not really a real word, but you get my point) man of all.

You don't have to be a woman to be a feminist.

You don't have to be gay to support gay rights or a person of color to stand up for racial equality. Because beyond being an ally, these issues touch on larger themes that put our whole society at a disadvantage. And we can only fix it by being united against oppressive powers.

So what's Ben's problem with feminism?

I called Ben to ask about his "problems" with feminism. He told me it's not so much a problem with feminism as it is that men don't (or won't?) understand it.

"My only problem with feminism is that every man does not self-identify as one. I'm a feminist and I wanted this video to answer questions for other men to hopefully normalize the word 'feminist' for other men." — Ben Acheson

Check out Ben's full video below. He's really good at giving us a look at what a lot of men think about being called a feminist. I showed this video to a couple of female coworkers, and they all had the same series of responses:

1. "He's a jerk."

2. "Oh wait, he's actually making really good points." Then,

3. "I wish all men were like this."

If you're short on time, check out 1:14 for the answers to some great thoughts and questions.

10/10. The Mayyas dance.

We can almost always expect to see amazing acts and rare skills on “America’s Got Talent.” But sometimes, we get even more than that.

The Mayyas, a Lebanese women’s dance troupe whose name means “proud walk of a lioness,” delivered a performance so mesmerizing that judge Simon Cowell called it the “best dance act” the show has ever seen, winning them an almost instant golden buzzer.

Perhaps this victory comes as no surprise, considering that the Mayyas had previously won “Arab’s Got Talent” in 2019 and competed on “Britain’s Got Talent: The Champions.” But truly, it’s what motivates them to take to the stage that’s remarkable.

“Lebanon is a very beautiful country, but we live a daily struggle," one of the dancers said to the judges just moments before their audition. Another explained, “being a dancer as a female Arab is not fully supported yet.”

Nadim Cherfan, the team’s choreographer, added that “Lebanon is not considered a place where you can build a career out of dancing, so it’s really hard, and harder for women.”

Still, Cherfan shared that it was a previous “AGT” star who inspired the Mayyas to defy the odds and audition anyway. Nightbirde, a breakout singer who also earned a golden buzzer before tragically passing away in February 2021 due to cancer, had told the audience, “You can't wait until life isn't hard anymore before you decide to be happy.” The dance team took the advice to heart.

For the Mayyas, coming onto the “AGT” stage became more than an audition opportunity. Getting emotional, one of the dancers declared that it was “our only chance to prove to the world what Arab women can do, the art we can create, the fights we fight.”

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5 easy ways to practice self care

Because taking care of yourself should never feel like a chore

Sometimes in the hustle and bustle of day-to-day life we forget the important things: like taking care of ourselves. While binge watching your favorite show and ordering take out can be just the treat-yourself-thing you need, your body might not always feel the same. So we’re bringing you 5 easy ways to practice self-care that both you and your body will thank us for.

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Three people engaged in conversation at a party.

There are some people who live under the illusion that everything they say is deeply interesting and have no problem wasting your time by rambling on and on without a sign of stopping. They’re the relative, neighbor or co-worker who can’t take a hint that the conversation is over.

Of all these people, the co-worker who can’t stop talking may be the most challenging because you see them every day in a professional setting that requires politeness.

There are many reasons that some people talk excessively. Therapist F. Diane Barth writes in Psychology Today that some people talk excessively because they don’t have the ability to process complex auditory signals, so they ramble on without recognizing the subtle cues others are sending.

It may also be a case of someone who thinks they’re the most interesting person in the conversation.

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