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17 ridiculously simple money habits, according to a former investment banker

Nischa Shah cracks the personal finance code.

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Nischa Shah is our financial freedom guru.

Small actions lead to significant results. Take Nischa Shah, for example, who left her six-figure investment banking job and built a million-dollar content business instead. Her viral YouTube video, “17 Habits That Made Me Rich,” has racked up nearly 3 million views, in which she divulges the practical daily habits that gradually transformed her finances.


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“The key to getting rich isn’t life at the extreme, like waking up at 4 a.m.,” Shah explains at the video’s start. “It’s about forming micro-habits: tiny habits that you follow consistently. These small habits compound over time and not only have a big impact on your finances, but also on your physical, mental, and emotional well-being.”

Shah's approach is refreshing. Her success stems from manageable, everyday practices that anyone can adopt, rather than radical lifestyle changes or complex strategies. She recommends smart, consistent habits that seem minuscule in the moment, but add up over time. Read on for Shah’s top tips:

17 game-changing financial habits, according to Nischa Shah

1. Create more than you consume

Shah highlights research from Thomas Corley’s Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals, which shows that 67% of wealthy people watch less than an hour of TV daily, while 77% of those struggling financially watch significantly more.

Another interesting stat from Corley: only 6% of the wealthy watch reality television, compared to 78% of the poor.


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“The wealthy are not avoiding watching TV because they have some superior human discipline or willpower,” he writes. “They just don’t think about watching much TV because they are engaged in some other habitual daily behavior — reading.”

The takeaway here is that active creation trumps passive consumption. Whether it’s launching a YouTube channel, writing stories, or learning to code through interactive apps, spending even 15 minutes daily on creative activities builds valuable skills and experience.

2. Create distance from negative people

Motivational speaker Jim Rohn claims that we are “the average of the five people we spend the most time with,” meaning that we are greatly influenced by those around us.


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Shah recommends keeping your distance from negative people who gossip, complain constantly, or bring toxic energy to the table, as these influences can subtly derail your process. Instead, surround yourself with like-minded people who discuss building wealth and solving meaningful problems.

3. Create an 'I can do this' file

Over the past two years, Shah has developed a powerful habit: creating a personal “motivation archive.” Every time she achieves something significant, she writes everything down in painstaking detail, from the nerves that paralyze her beforehand to the admiration she receives afterwards.

She keeps a dedicated tab in Notion (this could work equally well in any other digital workspace) called “I can do this,” where she documents her achievements, milestones, and moments when she pushed through fear. By recording these experiences, she’s created a personal evidence file that reminds her of her own resilience whenever self-doubt creeps in.

4. Practice gratitude

Shah swears by gratitude journaling for boosting motivation and happiness. Though initially skeptical, she changed her mind after learning from Sophia Godkin that appreciation is fundamental to happiness. Every night at 8 p.m., Shah opens the Day One app to record the day’s highlights and things she’s grateful for, often adding a photo to capture the moment.


Research shows that daily gratitude leads to meaningful reductions in anxiety and depression symptoms, improved sleep quality, enhanced mood and happiness, and increased life satisfaction. In fact, daily gratitude practices even benefit physical health, with studies showing increased cardiovascular health, improved longevity, an immune system boost, and stress reduction.

5. Automate saving and investing

In this segment, Shah advocates for the “pay yourself first” principle, which automatically stashes money in savings and investments before you can spend it. She automates transfers to saving and investment accounts on payday to ensure that her money grows steadily without requiring willpower or manual effort. This efficient system builds wealth while also naturally curbing impulse purchases.

Investopedia describes the “pay yourself first” method as simply building a retirement account, creating an emergency fund, or saving for other long-term goals, such as buying a house.

6. Get specific

When setting financial goals, Shah recommends being ruthlessly specific. Rather than vaguely promising to “save more,” she suggests concrete targets with straightforward math. For instance, “I’ll save $30,000 by the end of 2027 by setting aside $1,250 each month.” This precision transforms abstract financial goals into actionable items.


7. Audit spending into three buckets

Shah breaks down expenses into three practical buckets:

  • Fundamentals (housing, food, utilities)
  • Fun (dining out, travel, entertainment)
  • Future (investments, savings)

She reframes budgeting not as a restriction but as a tool for clarity: a reasonable budget is like a financial dashboard that shows exactly where your money goes. This practice can be quite liberating! Shah shares her secret—a free spending tracker that helps identify patterns and pinpoint areas of unnecessary spending.

8. Learn something new about money weekly

Financial literacy is an ongoing journey. Your relationship with money began at a young age, and these early experiences shaped everything—from whether you feel confident investing to the jitters you get when you check your bank balance. Luckily, you can rewire these patterns with persistent learning. Master a new investing app, negotiate your salary with confidence, and read up on tax strategies. Dedicate time each week to learning about investing, personal finance, and entrepreneurship. Even 20 minutes a week can lead to significant knowledge over time.


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9. Stop caring about other people’s opinions

Shah stresses that other people’s judgments about your financial choices can derail your progress. Worrying too much about what others think is a common problem, but Shah offers a surprisingly practical tip. When someone’s opinion starts to drag you down, ask yourself: Does this person’s point of view align with where you’re headed? If the answer is no, then redirect that energy back into your own financial goals. This simple filter has allowed her to take significant risks and put herself out there more often, without getting paralyzed by irrelevant criticism.

10. Understand and avoid a ‘yes’ trap

“The Yes Trap is a subtle yet powerful force that pulls us towards overcommitment,” writes Robert Puff. “It’s that nagging feeling that we should always say ‘yes’ to requests, invitations, and opportunities, even when our plates are already overflowing.”

Puff explains that this habit stems from people-pleasing instincts, the fear of missing out, and discomfort with saying "no."


Shah wholeheartedly agrees, calling out the yes trap for what it is: a reflexive tendency to agree to every request, even when you’re already stretched thin. Sure, saying yes feels like the easier option in the moment—less friction—but it quietly leads to burnout, resentment, and the erosion of your agency. How can one avoid this trap? Get clear on your goals and what you’re trying to accomplish; when your destination is sharp and specific, it becomes easier to recognize distractions and politely decline them.

11. Invest in yourself regularly

An overarching theme in Shah's video is the idea of investing in yourself—not just with money, but also with time and attention.

The best investment you can make is backing yourself and dedicating yourself to your own skills, knowledge, and capabilities. Shah recommends starting with a platform like Brilliant, which breaks down intimidating subjects like computer science, statistics, and algorithms into bite-sized interactive lessons that you can tackle on your phone. It’s a tool that makes learning feel like a breeze, rather than homework.


12. Build multiple income streams

Millionaires don’t rely on a single paycheck; they stack income streams. Welcome to diversification, which means spreading your money across a mix of investments to smooth out your returns. The idea is that different types of investments perform differently over time, so it’s critical to invest across the three main asset classes (a.k.a. asset classes): cash, fixed income, and equities.

For Shah, that looks like money pulled from brand deals, affiliate commissions, YouTube ads, investments, and selling her own products. This way, if one stream dries up, the others are there to keep you afloat. Don’t know where to start? She advises beginning with one stream that matches what you’re already good at or genuinely curious about, then slowly adding new streams.

13. Simplify decision-making

It’s time to stop making the same decisions over and over. The path to financial freedom is paved with discipline: set clear rules for spending, saving, and investing, then let those guidelines do the heavy lifting.

Shah seeks to reduce decision fatigue by optimizing her life in small ways. Instead of agonizing over what to wear each morning, she maintains a slight rotation of work clothes. Apply this principle to any area of your life where you’re burning mental energy on autopilot tasks.

14. Network with intent and add value

Shah points to Chris Donnelly, the founder of Verb Brands. This digital marketing agency works with luxury brands like Jimmy Choo and Creed Fragrances. Within his first year, Donnelly pulled in $10 million, and largely credits the "who factor."


“He went through a phase where he was reaching out to 50 or more people a month, or asking other people to introduce him to someone,” Shah explains, recounting a recent conversation with Donnelly. “He stressed the importance of the Who Factor in everything that we do.”

15. Take action before feeling ready

Making mistakes is how you learn, and waiting around until you suddenly feel “ready” is a lost cause. Most of the time, that moment of clarity never really arrives. Successful people start before they’re ready and figure it out as they go. Trust your gut and take that first step, even if you’re winging it.


16. Have open money conversations

While 66% of Americans believe that open conversations about money are the key to financial freedom, over six in 10 Americans (62%) don’t talk about money, according to Empower. In addition, the financial site finds that people would rather discuss politics (43%) and death (32%) than their own finances (24%). Seemingly, there’s no one to open up to: 75% of respondents say they don’t discuss finances with their friends, family (63%), or even their spouse/partner (46%).

Shah encourages people to talk about money: break the taboo and share what’s working for you and what isn’t. The point is to normalize the conversation so it stops feeling like an off-limits topic.

17. Apply the 1% progress rule

There’s no need to overhaul your entire financial life; just aim to get better by 1% each month. Save a little more, spend a little less, earn a little extra. While none of this feels dramatic in the moment, these tiny improvements add up to real financial momentum.


Your financial transformation starts now

Shah's journey from corporate burnout to millionaire content creator proves that financial freedom is real, tangible, and within your reach. Which habit will you start with today?

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Kids in the 1970s pretending to cook

"What's for dinner?" has been asked by kids for millennia, probably, and the most common answers depend on both where and at what time in history it was asked. In ancient times, people were limited to what they could hunt or gather. Medieval recipes look different than what people ate in the 19th century. And what our grandparents ate when they were children was different from what our kids eat today.

Obviously, people couldn't DoorDash Chipotle in the '70s, but when someone on Reddit asked people born before 1970 what they ate for dinner most weeks, there were some standard meals a lot of Americans clearly ate regularly growing up. Lots of meatloaf and beef stroganoff. Pork chops and chop suey. Convenient assistance from Shake n' Bake, Hamburger Helper and TV dinners. Canned fruits and veggies. So much Jell-O.


Here are some of the most popular responses:

"Overcooked pork chop, minute rice, canned green beans, canned fruit cocktail

Spaghetti with ground beef and sauce made from a packet (Durkee?)

Pot roast (whatever cut of meat was on sale) cooked with Lipton onion soup mix. Frozen peas. Canned peaches.

Meatloaf with mashed potatoes and canned green beans. Canned pears

Shake n bake chicken and scalloped potatoes from a box. Canned fruit of some kind.

On awesome days Chef Boyardee pizza mix from a box.

I liked LaChoy chop suey.

Always with a jug of milk on the table."

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"So I think many of our moms went to the same home ec classes. Our house also had on rotation:

Goulash: It wasn’t what I have come to understand is Hungarian Goulash, but ground beef/spices/tomatoes.

Chicken Diane: Way overcooked chicken with rosemary, thyme and other seasonings.

Meatloaf: Yes, ketchup on top.

And the ever-present rice. Dad bought an aluminum rice cooker from his time in Japan and we had rice (he added soy sauce on top) 3x per week. The other side was baked potatoes.

The big treat!!!??? Chef Boy Ar Dee pizza from a tube on Friday once per month. Mom had a round aluminum baking pan and make dough, spread the included sauce on the dough, add the Parmesan Cheese (in the included packet). That was the biggest treat - and in all honesty I would go back to that day cause I miss my mom. Best pizza ever."

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"Hamburger patty or braised round steak, green salad, canned vegetable (peas, beans, corn, beets). Occasionally a baked potato. Sometimes my mom would toss chicken in a flour/seasoning mix and bake it and we'd have oven fried chicken--maybe once every couple of weeks. We got beef from a cousin so it was cheap, and chicken was expensive.

Mom also made spaghetti with ground beef, and beef stew with the tougher cuts of the cow. Oh--and liver--God how I hated liver night.

We always had cheap grocery store 'ice milk' in the freezer for dessert."

1970s, '70s, generations, food, meals, spaghetti Spaghetti is still a classic.Photo credit: Canva

"Sunday - Spaghetti/macaroni and homemade spaghetti sauce and a salad.

Monday - Roast chicken, a side (potatoes, Rice-a-Roni), and a veg.

Tuesday - Pork chops, a side (potatoes, Rice-a-Roni), and a veg.

Wednesday - Spaghetti/macaroni and homemade spaghetti sauce and a salad.

Thursday - Rump or sirloin steak, a side (potatoes, Rice-a-Roni), and a veg.

Friday - breaded and fried fish (ugh--haddock, halibut, or cod if the latter was on sale), a side (potatoes, Rice-a-Roni), and a veg.

Saturday - Rump or sirloin steak, a side (potatoes, Rice-a-Roni), and a veg.

Dessert would be supermarket ice cream (carton, usually Neopolitan), Jello chocolate pudding, Table Talk pie (usually apple)."

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"Typical meals: stroganoff made with ground beef and egg noodles. Pot roast. Swiss steak. Chicken cacciatore. Fried chicken. This was in California, but my parents were from the Midwest so pretty meat-and-potatoes. There was always a side vegetable and a starch. Rarely bread or rolls. Occasionally salad but not always until the 1980s. No formal/planned dessert except for special occasions like birthdays and holidays, but sometimes there was ice cream in the freezer or there were cookies (store bought; my mom wasn't a baker). In the late 70s my mom loved Julia Child and started to be more adventurous with cooking; later she took Asian cooking classes too."

"Beef stroganoff, fried bologna, weiners wrapped in bacon and then broiled, baked beans, (from scratch) liver.

Jello 1-2-3 (so space age!) Bundt cake, canned fruit salad, canned pears, canned peaches."

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"When we had some money (early in the pay period):

Spaghetti with sausages and homemade sauce

Liver and onions

Chop suey

Spare ribs and sauerkraut

Pork chops with mashed potatoes and gravy

Beef stew

Boeuf bourguignon

Beef stroganoff

When we were short on money:

Spam & scrambled eggs

Homemade macaroni & cheese

Cold cereal

That’s all I can think of right now.

We very rarely ever had dessert and almost never ate out. We never had fast food, the only fast food chain in town was Burger King, and McDonald’s was a town away and only open about six months of the year."

Here's to all the meals that nourished us in every era of our lives.

Culture

Woman from Denmark shares 'normal' things that are considered rude in Nordic countries

It's fascinating how "common courtesy" can differ so much from place to place.

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Scandinavian countries find certain things rude that are perfectly acceptable elsewhere.

The saying, "When in Rome, do as the Romans do," has been around since ancient times and is still a good reminder that customs and habits vary wherever you go. One of the best things about traveling to another part of the world is discovering how things you think are normal or standard are not universally so, and seeing how different cultures function broadens your ideas of the human experience.

That's why a woman from Denmark explaining "normal" things that are considered rude in Nordic countries has caught people's attention. People are often fascinated with Denmark, Finland, Sweden, and Norway, largely because they regularly top lists of "happiest countries in the world" (which is always a little surprising considering the weather in that part of the world alone).


Here are the 13 behaviors and habits Kelly Louise Killjoy says Nordic countries consider rude in her experience:

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1. Being late to anything

Of course, being late is rude in a lot of places, so this one may not be surprising, but punctuality is a culturally specific expectation. There are places where it would be considered rude to show up early, and other places where "fashionably late" doesn't exist. In Killjoy's experience, Nordic folks like to be as close to exactly on time as possible. "Like five minutes early or five minutes late, no more, no less," she says. "Preferably exactly on time." And they will often apologize for even being one minute late.

2. Showing up unannounced

Some countries have a distinct "dropping by" culture, but the Nordic nations aren't among them. Even close friends and family call or text before arriving at someone's house, as it's considered rude to just show up. "With Nordic people, it's all about respecting our time," Killjoy says. "We often plan our time very carefully, according to when we're meeting you. And these meetups are often scheduled weeks or months beforehand. So the door may be open, but it doesn't mean the schedule is."

3. Canceling plans last minute

"Unless you have a serious reason, this is more rude than saying no up front because you don't feel like it," Killjoy says. "Again, Nordic people plan their time around you for weeks, if not months, so respect our time and we will love you for it."

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4. Speaking to people without a practical purpose

Even though not everyone loves it, small talk is considered normal in American culture. Not so much in Scandinavia. If you're just running errands or going through your normal daily life activities in Nordic countries, people don't just shoot the breeze with you. "If you talk to us, we will assume there's a reason, otherwise we get confused and awkward," Killjoy says. "If you've ever had a conversation with a Nordic person where you thought, 'Why didn't they like me?' or 'This got awkward very quickly,' it's because that Nordic person was more than likely trying to figure out what you wanted out of that conversation."

5. Being overly polite

Killjoy says this is another area where Americans and Nordic people often misunderstand each other. The idea of politeness being rude even sounds like an oxymoron, but for Nordic folks, it's really about being asked questions you don't want to give real answers to. The example Killjoy gives is asking people, "How are you?" That's standard for Americans, and it's understood that you're not asking someone to spill all of their emotions in the moment. But Nordic folks take questions at face value, so it feels personal and invasive.

6. Speaking loudly in public places

One thing that people sometimes pinpoint with Americans visiting other countries is that we tend to speak loudly. In a public place like a restaurant, where lots of people are talking, it's not really much of a consideration for us. But it is for Nordic folks (and a lot of other European countries, Killjoy points out).

7. Sitting next to someone when you don't have to

"This is a classic Nordic meme, but it's true," Killjoy says. "We do not like people sitting next to us when we can see there's space around for them to divide themselves upon." If you sit next to a Nordic person on a mostly empty bus, they'll think something is wrong with you or that you might wish them harm. (To be fair, this is likely true most places. But there are some friendly folks who like to chat with strangers and will take the opportunity when they see it.)

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8. Using formal titles

"Unless you're addressing the king or queen, don't," says Killjoy. Although titles like "Mr." or "Mrs." or "Dr." are used to show respect in a lot of places, Nordic folks tend to see them as impersonal and distant. "Even doctors and teachers will think it's weird if you use formal titles with them," she says.

9. Bragging

"This ties into the people being loud part as well," Killjoy says. "Nordic culture is a very conflict-avoidant and don't-stand-outish kind of culture." She says there's even a Danish word for this social norm that heavily discourages standing out and favors humility and equality: Janteloven. "Bragging just goes heavily against that," Killjoy says.

10. Tipping

"Tipping cultures are very awkward to Nordic people," says Killjoy. "Like, I don't understand why you can't just pay your employees." (Same, honestly.)

11. Not taking off your shoes in someone's home

This one is more of a household-by-household preference in the U.S., it seems, but in Scandinavia, it's the norm to take off your shoes in the house. Most Nordic homes have mudrooms for this very purpose.

12. Honking your car horn

Go to any major U.S. city, and you'll hear no shortage of car horns. Killjoy says in Denmark it's illegal to honk your car horn for any other reason than as a danger warning or if someone hasn't seen you. "If you honk, someone will assume there's something wrong," she says, so don't honk there out of impatience.

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13. Jaywalking

Killjoy calls jaywalking "kind of rude," primarily because Nordic folks tend to be rule-followers. It's not that they will never jaywalk, but generally, they only do it when no one is really around or would notice.

Of course, these "considered rude" behaviors are coming from one person, and some commenters from Nordic countries added some clarifications in the comments (such as the "no dropping by" rule being something newer or more specific to urban than rural areas). But many fellow Scandinavians corroborated the things on this list. It's good to know, though, what people from one of these countries might find rude when you meet them.

And if you ever find yourself in Denmark? Do as the Danes do.

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Andrew Huberman and a woman sleeping.

There is nothing worse than lying in your bed, with your mind racing, and you can’t fall asleep. The longer you lie in bed, the more anxious you get about falling asleep, which makes it even harder to catch some ZZZs. You've tried clearing your mind, but can’t. You’ve tried counting sheep but reached 100. What do you do now?

On a recent Real Time with Bill Maher, neuroscientist Andrew Huberman made an off-the-cuff remark about a sleep hack that he swears by, and it's based on brain research. Huberman is a Stanford University neuroscientist and tenured professor of neurobiology and ophthalmology. He's also the host of the popular podcast Huberman Lab, which focuses on health and science.


How to fall asleep fast

“In fact, if you wake up in the middle of the night and you're having trouble falling back asleep, try just doing some long, extended exhales. And get this, this sounds really weird, but it has a basis in physiology. Keep your eyes closed and just move your eyes from side to side behind your eyelids like this, back and forth,” Huberman told Maher as he moved his eyes from side to side as if he was surveying a vast landscape. “Do some long exhales. I can't promise, but I'm willing to wager like maybe one pinky, that within five minutes or so, you'll be back to sleep.”

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Andrew Huberman’s hack is based on neuroscience

Huberman explained the exercise in greater detail on Mark Bell's Power Project podcast. In his appearance, he discussed the interesting connection between our eyes and their connection to the amygdala, an almond-shaped part of the brain that controls our emotional response. “Eye movements of that sort actually do suppress the amygdala [to] make people feel calmer, less fearful,” Huberman said. He adds that when we are on a walk, we move our eyes from side to side, to analyze the terrain ahead of us, and the amygdala calms down.

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“But for most people who are sighted, moving your eyes from side to side for 10 to 30 seconds is going to calm you down," Huberman said. "And this makes really good sense because, from an evolutionary perspective, an adaptive perspective, we've always been confronted with interpersonal threats and animal to human threats. Forward movement is the way that you suppress the fear response."

Americans aren’t getting enough sleep

Huberman’s video is important because many Americans need to get more sleep. A 2022 Gallup poll found that only 32% of Americans said they got “excellent” or “very good” sleep; 35% described their sleep as “good”; and 33% said their sleep was “fair” or “poor.”

Sleep is essential to maintaining good health. Getting at least seven hours of sleep a night is great for your memory, focus, emotional regulation, appetite, muscle recovery, and tissue repair. It also reduces the risk of chronic conditions like heart disease and diabetes. It’s great that Huberman shares his hack, which few people would have come up with without a background in neuroscience, to improve their sleep. It’s also another exciting way to show just how interconnected the body is, from eyes to brain and beyond. Sweet dreams.

This article originally appeared last year.

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A woman is angry at her husband.

Dealing with people who can't admit they're wrong can be aggravating, especially when you present them with facts and they still refuse to budge. What makes it worse is that we are psychologically wired to hold on to incorrect beliefs even more strongly when they are challenged by credible evidence.

What should you do when you have to get through to someone who never admits they are wrong? Jefferson Fisher, a lawyer and communications expert who offers tips "to help people argue less and talk more,” has a strategy that can help you get through to hard-headed people. Or, at least, give them irrefutable evidence that they're being completely unreasonable.


@justaskjefferson

when they are never wrong 😑

Here are the 3 phrases to use when speaking to someone who won’t admit they are wrong.

Phrase 1: “Maybe you're right”

“Not because you actually think that they're right. In fact, you know that they're wrong, but you've reached a point in your life that you're not gonna let someone who's committed to being wrong disturb your peace. It's a more powerful tool if somebody's trying to convince you that the sky is purple. You can easily put an end to it and say with a quick ‘Yeah, maybe you're right.’”

Phrase 2: “What information would change your opinion?”

“If they answer ‘No, nothing's gonna change my mind,’ then you know it's a quick dead end. Thank you, you can now leave the conversation.”

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Phrase 3: “Are you willing to think differently, or at least see it from my point of view?”

“If the answer is ‘no,’ then that's not someone you should be in conversation with. So try that.”

The last two phrases do a great job at giving you a leg up in the interaction because the stubborn person has to admit they are unwilling to change their mind, regardless of any information you bring to the table. We can all agree that no one knows everything, so by admitting they won’t even listen to new information, they expose themselves as completely opposed to reason. Therefore, they are not worth your time.

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Why won’t some people change their minds?

It can be frustrating to deal with people who won’t change their minds because we assume they are rational. However, in many cases, especially if the beliefs are political, cultural, or religious, it could be more of an emotional and social decision. Therefore, it can be incredibly difficult to get someone to change their mind because, to them, it feels like social suicide.

Persuasion expert Robert Cialdini says there is one way to encourage people to change their beliefs after they’ve been proven incorrect: offer them a way out of the belief that helps them save face. He uses the example of getting someone to admit they made a poor choice when voting for a political candidate: “Well, of course, you were in a position to make that decision in November because no one knew about [insert future development].”

Some other graceful phrases to give someone a graceful exit from an incorrect belief include:

“Given what we know now, it makes sense to update our thinking.”

“At the time, it made total sense.”

“A lot of people thought that back then.”

It can be hard to change some people’s minds, but by seeing things from their perspective and allowing them to exit their belief with dignity, they may be more open to reconsidering their opinions. But if there’s nothing that would change their mind, you probably don’t need to consider their views in the first place.

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Baby Boomers share their favorite memories and foods from cafeteria-style restaurants, like Piccadilly.

Baby Boomers and Generation Jones (a microgeneration of Boomers born between 1954 and 1966) grew up eating many foods that defined the 1970s. From potluck dishes like fondue and quiche to home-cooked casseroles, they were served at dinner parties and family tables.

And a specific type of dining was also popular during the era: cafeteria-style restaurants. At cafeterias, trays were loaded with nostalgic main dishes, sides, and of course, desserts.


Boomers and Generation Jonesers on Reddit reminisced about the cafeteria-style restaurants that they frequented back in the 1970s. Plus, they shared their favorite meals and dishes that still make their mouths water to this day.

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"In Kentucky, at least, it was Morrison's cafeteria. I fondly remember their beef liver and onions." - Unlikely-Chair-2025

"We had Piccadilly here in Louisville, along with Blue Boar. We also had Banquet Table, but that was a smorgasbord, not cafeteria style." - lysistrata3000

"Luby’s!!! Always ate there with my grandparents in Texas. 'Let’s go to Luby’s. That way everyone can find something they want.' - Grandma. Char broiled steak, mac and cheese, mashed potatoes, fried okra...and then seconds !" - krybaebee, Couscousfan07

"Furr's Cafeterias in New Mexico. Fresh baked breads/dinner rolls/green chile cornbread. Sadly, all closed in 2021. It was always so damn good and the customers were of all generations, many times seeing great grandparents there with 4 generations at their table." - RebeccasRocket

"Bishops Buffet. I have fond memories of their French Silk pie." - Any_Screen_7141, EitherHighlight5986

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"I remember two from my area: York Steak House and The Jolly Troll Smorgasbord which had Scandinavian and American food." - LaLunaLady1960

"I used to go to Sholl's Cafeteria in Downtown DC every Friday night with my AA sponsor before a meeting on 23rd Street. The food was...what you'd expect. I don't think they had blue Jello." - AndOneForMahler

"Clifton’s in downtown L.A. was amazing." Unusual_Memory3133

"I miss these restaurants! You can get the experience in a hospital cafeteria, but I really miss these! There was a small one for so many years in St. Joseph, MO. It was Jere Anne’s cafe. Awesome mile high pies! I was bummed when the finally closed. There was a Wyatt’s for a while, too. It was far larger but no one could beat the pies at Jere Anne’s!" - Happy_Raspberry_6299

"K&W. 1 meat, 2 vegetables, 1 bread 5.99. I would stop in the way home from middle school and the old lady that rang me up would always give me a free drink and dessert." - DullSentence1512

"One of our Kmart stores had a cafeteria in it!" - r1veriared

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"Does Ponderosa count? Upstate NY." - NES_Classical_Music

"Minneapolis had the Forum Cafeteria, which closed in the 1970s. As a kid, it was a real treat to go there." - I_am_Partly_Dave

"Soupplantation!!! I miss it so much." - No-Win-8380

"MCL was the best." - IAMImportant

"Cafeteria style is different than buffet style. Most are saying all-you-can-eat (mostly self serve) but cafeteria style is when you go down the line and say I want x, y, and z then you pay for it at the end of the line just like a school cafeteria. Both now are disgusting to me but as a kid it was great. In STL we had Miss Sheri’s (still open) and Garavaglia’s for cafeteria style and Old Country/Hometown buffet style." - Just-aquick-question

"There was one in south Texas called Bonanza, we used to love it as kids because they had a huge desserts section… it was later replaced by a Golden Corral but it was not as good tbh." - User Unknown

"The south had Morrison’s, Piccadilly and S&S cafeterias. Oh the food was so good. The yeast rolls, carved roast beef, the real stuff, the desserts, and Salisbury steak and mashed potatoes, macaroni and cheese. If i could go back in time, I’d make a visit to any of them but especially S&S." - RuleNo8868