They asked 100,000 men what makes the 'perfect' woman. Ellen chimes in.

She is the best.

Want to know what men are looking for in a woman?

TV shows and magazines and even some dating sites would have us believe women realllllly care about that. I'm not so sure.

But for those of you who are on the edge of your seat trying to figure out what the "perfect" woman looks like from the standpoint of 100,000 dudes, What's Your Price (a dating site that actually lets dudes bid money on dates with women. ... I'm not joking) sorta looked into it. Keyword sorta. And I'm just gonna tell you now: It's a wee bit ridiculous.

They surveyed 100,000 dudes and asked them what traits make the "perfect" woman.

Drumroll, please:

  1. blonde hair
  2. blue eyes
  3. slender body
  4. non-smoker
  5. social drinker
  6. graduate degree

Yawn. Really?

I wanted to point out how tired those results were, but I think Ellen actually beat me to it. She knows.


Awww, feelings.

She's not claiming to be an expert, but she does know a few good things to look for in a relationship.

AND still let you win at Bananagrams. Oh yeah.

Being empathetic is a very good thing.

And you accept them for them!

Ooooh burrrrrrn.

Ellen gets it. Ellen gets me.

I appreciate her calling out just another dating survey that focuses on a lot of the wrong things, 'cause there is so much more to a person than what they've deemed most important. We gotta keep fighting these outdated beauty standards and encourage each other to stop judging only on the surface, ya know? You don't want to be the person Ellen calls out next. She will win.

Watch the video below:

This story first appeared on the author's Medium and is reprinted here with permission.

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