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Emma Thompson's bedroom scene in "Love Actually" is a performance for the ages.

It's been over 20 years since Alan Rickman broke Emma Thompson's heart by buying that little office tart a necklace in "Love Actually," and some of us still haven't forgiven him. With its overlapping love stories set during Christmastime, the film has become a holiday classic, despite some controversy on whether or not it's actually any good. Some people love it, some people hate it, but no one can deny that Thompson gives an Oscar-worthy performance in one utterly heart-wrecking scene.

Of the eight "Love Actually" relationships, Harry and Karen (Rickman and Thompson, respectively) is the one that gives the film some serious gravitas. While other characters are pining or shooting their shot with varying levels of success, Harry is pulling a mid-life crisis affair with a modelesque coworker while Karen shuffles their children to and fro and keeps Harry's life running smoothly. We see him lie, we see her start to suspect, but the scene where she opens her Christmas present from Harry—a Joni Mitchell CD, not the necklace she had found hidden in his coat and thought was for her—is when we see Thompson's acting strengths in full view. Like, phew.

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What's so striking about the scene, however, is that it's not dramatic in a typical way. There's no external conflict happening—it's just Thompson excusing herself from the family to emotionally process what she's just discovered in secret. We see and feel her heartbreak—it's so visceral—but that's not what makes the scene so powerful. Heartbreak happens all the time in movies. As Thompson explains in an interview with BBC Radio 1, it's the fact that she can't actually react the way she wants to that pulls at people's heartstrings so hard.

"I think it's just because everybody's been through something like it," Thompson says. "What I think really gets to them though is that she has to pull herself together. It's not that she's upset. That's, you know, ten a penny. But it's that she has to pull herself together."

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It's true. The conflict in the scene is between her wanting to break down and her wanting to keep her family's Christmas memories happy and intact. She is a devastated wife, but she's also a devoted mother who doesn't want to devastate her kids. We feel the tension between those two roles and the way she swallows up her grief in order to get her kids to their holiday concert right after finding out her marriage isn't what she thought it was.

"I think it’s to do with the fact that we’re required in our lives to repress the things that we’re feeling," Thompson explained on TODAY. "So, you can be hit right between the eyes with some terrible piece of news, but you can’t react immediately because you’ve got your children there. It’s that thing of not showing — that’s why it hurts. That’s why it moves us."

"If she went, 'Oh my God! I thought you were going to give me a necklace! And now you've given it to somebody else,' we would not be moved, you know?" she continued. "We're moved because she just goes, 'I'm not gonna do it.' And then she makes the bed, the bed that sort of suddenly feels so empty of meaning. And then she goes down and goes, 'Hello, everyone! Let's go.' That's why people identify."

And the way she plays it is perfect. Any actor can cry, but it's her crying while trying not to cry and how she shows us her inner emotional turmoil without her ever saying a single word that's impressive.

If you've never seen "Love Actually" and want to see the Harry and Karen story, here are just their scenes.

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Some people have asked whether Harry actually physically cheated or not, but "Love Actually" script editor Emma Freud clarified that he did. "DEFINITELY had an affair," she wrote on X in 2015. "I begged richard just to make it a flirtation, but no. the whole way."

And did Harry and Karen stay together in the end? The film doesn't really make it clear, but at the screening Freud answered the question: “They stay together but home isn’t as happy as it once was.” Oof. There's just no non-heartbreaking answer to that question.

This is why we watch films, though, isn't it? To see our humanity reflected back to us? To feel what the characters feel? To have our hearts broken vicariously so we can have a good cry without going through the actual pain ourselves?

People usually watch romcoms for the romance and comedy and happy endings, though. So here's to Emma Thompson and Alan Rickman for giving us one of the most poignant scenes in cinema in one of the most unexpected places.

Even among the hundreds of incredible, moving tributes to Alan Rickman that were penned after the actor's death was announced this morning, Daniel Radcliffe's really stands out.

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The "Harry Potter" star argues that Rickman's single greatest trait was not his immense talent (although, yes, also his talent), but the utterly respectful and generous way he treated those who looked up to him.

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Here's what Radcliffe wrote (emphasis mine):

"Alan Rickman is undoubtedly one of the greatest actors I will ever work with. He is also, one of the loyalest and most supportive people I've ever met in the film industry. He was so encouraging of me both on set and in the years post-Potter. I'm pretty sure he came and saw everything I ever did on stage both in London and New York. He didn't have to do that. I know other people who've been friends with him for much much longer than I have and they all say 'if you call Alan, it doesn't matter where in the world he is or how busy he is with what he's doing, he'll get back to you within a day'.

People create perceptions of actors based on the parts they played so it might surprise some people to learn that contrary to some of the sterner (or downright scary) characters he played, Alan was extremely kind, generous, self-deprecating and funny. And certain things obviously became even funnier when delivered in his unmistakable double-bass.

As an actor he was one of the first of the adults on Potter to treat me like a peer rather than a child. Working with him at such a formative age was incredibly important and I will carry the lessons he taught me for the rest of my life and career. Film sets and theatre stages are all far poorer for the loss of this great actor and man."



Rickman didn't have to be a good dude. But he was — by choice.

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Even though Radcliffe was, nominally, the star of "Harry Potter," and Rickman played a supporting role (albeit a critical one), back in 2001, Radcliffe was a mostly untested, 11-year-old kid who had never been in much of anything, and Rickman was ... already kind of a big deal.

It would have been easy for the veteran actor to be condescending, impatient, or arrogant. It would have been even easier to simply ignore the kids on set.

Instead, Radcliffe insists, Rickman went out of his way to be a mentor and treat his younger co-stars with respect.

There's a big lesson for most of us in Radcliffe's eulogy.

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Pretty much every single one of us regularly interacts with at least one person who looks up to us. Maybe it's your child, niece, or nephew. Maybe it's a younger sibling. Maybe it's a student. Maybe it's your college-aged intern, or an entry-level employee in your office. Maybe it's someone just starting out in your field seeking professional guidance.

Don't be a jerk. People remember.

Instead, be kind. Be generous. Be patient. Even when it's easier not to be.

That's what really stays with people. Even long after you're gone.

Last year, Alan Rickman teamed up with a tortoise for a very important role.

Specifically, this tortoise.


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The goal was to create a viral video to raise money for refugees living in the U.K.

The 30-second video features a teeny-tiny tortoise eating a strawberry — that's it. While the miniature star of the screen chomps away, Rickman — who you may know from his roles as Severus Snape in the Harry Potter series and so much else — provides a voiceover explaining how this all works.

Here's Rickman at the premiere of "Harry Potter and The Deathly Hallows: Part 2" back in 2011. Photo by Ian Gavan/Getty Images.

So how does it work anyway? It's simple, really. You watch the video, and that's it.

The way it works is that the more views the video gets, the more advertising dollars its creator — OneClickGiving, a charity created by students at Oxford University — makes from YouTube. OneClickGiving then donates the ad revenue to Refugee Council and Save the Children. You are helping them raise that money — all just by watching a cute little video. Make sense?

These refugees were crossing through Hungary into Northern Europe. Photo by Christopher Furlong/Getty Images.

This morning, the world learned that Rickman had died at the age of 69. Many are honoring his memory.

There'll be no shortage of tributes circling around the Internet, with fans in mourning and reflection, remembering him for the big roles he played on the stage and screen during his lifetime.

Rickman is joined by Tom Felton, Emma Watson, Daniel Radcliffe, Rupert Grint, and Matthew Lewis at the New York premiere of "Harry Potter And The Deathly Hallows: Part 2" on July 11, 2011. Photo by Stephen Lovekin/Getty Images.

But just one video lets you help the refugees in the process.

Watch and share the video below.