Donald Trump has a long history of supporting men accused of sexual assault. He’s done so by mocking women that have come forward with allegations while treating the men as victims.
“It is a very scary time for young men in America, where you can be guilty of something you may not be guilty of,” Trump said, in support of then-Supreme Court nominee, Brett Kavanaugh.
Kavanugh has been accused of multiple acts of sexual misconduct from attempted rape to exposing himself.
"This is a very, very — this is a very difficult time. What's happening here has much more to do than even the appointment of a Supreme Court justice,” he told reporters on the White House lawn on October 2.
“It's a very scary situation where you’re guilty until proven innocent,” Trump said, not realizing that Kavanaugh wasn’t on trial, but going through a confirmation process. “You could be somebody that was perfect your entire life and somebody could accuse you of something.”
Trump has been accused by nearly two dozen women of sexual misconduct.
Dancer, choreographer, and singer-songwriter Lynzy Lab destroyed Trump’s comments with a hilarious and poignant song called “A Scary Time.”
The ukulele-backed tune calls attention to the the many reasons women have to fear men, from being raped to belittled for speaking out about abuse.
It's also a great explainer on male privilege.
“A Scary Time” by Lynzy Lab
I can’t walk to my car late at night while on the phone
I can’t open up my windows when I’m home alone
I can’t go to a bar without a chaperone
And I can’t wear a mini skirt if its the only one i own
I can’t use public transportation after 7 pm
I can’t be brutally honest when you slide into my DMs
I can’t go to the club just to dance with my friends
And i can’t ever leave my drink unattended
But it sure is a scary time for boys
Yeah gentlemen! Band together, make some noise
It’s really tough when your reputation’s on the line
And any woman you’ve assaulted could turn up anytime
Yeah, it sure is a scary time for guys
Can’t speak to any women or look them in the eyes
It’s so confusing, is it rape or is it just being nice?
So inconvenient that you even have to think twice
I can’t live in an apartment if it's on the first floor
I can’t be wearing silk pajamas when I answer the door
I can’t have another drink even if I want more
I can’t make you feel invalid, unseen, or ignored
I can’t jog around the city with headphones on my ears
I can’t speak out against my rapist after 35 years
I can’t be taken seriously if i'm holding back tears
and I can’t ever speak earnestly about all my fears
But it sure is a scary time for dudes
Can’t text a girl repeatedly asking for nudes
Can’t make her have sex when she’s not in the mood
And what gives her the right to give you attitude?
Yeah, it sure is a scary time for men
Girls like to act like you’re to blame and they’re the victims
Her dress was short and she was drunk, she’s not so innocent
Thank god your dad’s the judge and you won’t be convicted
Oh wait...that’s right…
It’s not such a scary time for boys
They’ve always had the upper hand, they’ve always had a choice
It’s time for women to rise up,
Use our collective voice
The day to vote’s November 6, so let’s go make some noise
Men try to read the most disturbing comments women get online back to them.
If you wouldn't say it to their faces, don't type it.
This isn’t comfortable to talk about.
Trigger warning for discussion of sexual assault and violence.
in 2016, a video by Just Not Sports took two prominent female sportswriters and had regular guys* read the awful abuse they receive online aloud.
Sportswriters Sarah Spain and Julie DiCaro sat by as men read some of the most vile tweets they receive on a daily basis. See how long you can last watching it.
*(Note: The men reading them did not write these comments; they're just being helpful volunteers to prove a point.)
It starts out kind of jokey but eventually devolves into messages like this:
Awful.
All images and GIFs from Just Not Sports/YouTube.
These types of messages come in response to one thing: The women were doing their jobs.
Those wishes that DiCaro would die by hockey stick and get raped? Those were the result of her simply reporting on the National Hockey League's most disturbing ordeal: the Patrick Kane rape case, in which one of the league's top players was accused of rape.
DiCaro wasn't writing opinion pieces. She was simply reporting things like what the police said, statements from lawyers, and just general everyday work reporters do. In response, she received a deluge of death threats. Her male colleagues didn't receive nearly the same amount of abuse.
It got to the point where she and her employer thought it best for her to stay home for a day or two for her own physical safety.
The men in the video seemed absolutely shocked that real live human beings would attack someone simply for doing their job.
Not saying it.
All images and GIFs from Just Not Sports/YouTube.
Most found themselves speechless or, at very least, struggling to read the words being presented.
It evoked shame and sympathy.
All images and GIFs from Just Not Sports/YouTube.
Think this is all just anecdotal? There's evidence to the contrary.
The Guardian did a study to find out how bad this problem really is. They combed through more than 70 million comments that have been posted on their site since 2006 and counted the number of comments that violated their comment policy and were blocked.
The stats were staggering.
From their comprehensive and disturbing article:
If you can’t say it to their face... don’t type it.
All images and GIFs from Just Not Sports/YouTube.
So, what can people do about this kind of harassment once they know it exists?
There are no easy answers. But the more people who know this behavior exists, the more people there will be to tell others it's not OK to talk to anyone like that.
Watch the whole video below:
.This article originally appeared nine years ago.