He told her she was only a good actress when she looked attractive. She asked if he would tell his daughter that.

When comedian Melissa McCarthy met one of her critics, she didn't back down. She faced him head on and calmly explained why making those remarks are so hurtful, especially to young girls.

"Every time you write stuff like that," she told him, "every young girl in this country reads that and gets a little [part of themselves] chipped away."


But good news! She thinks it actually got through to him:

This double standard has followed all sorts of comedic actresses throughout the entertainment business.

McCarthy is one of the funniest voices of our generation. She's even earned an Academy Award nomination for "Bridesmaids" — something very rare for a comedic actor. Unfortunately, as a woman, her performances are often critiqued on what she looks like. She's not alone.

Here are a couple of very revealing quotes from other women facing similar battles in the industry:

The first comes from Carol Burnett.

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When she proposed the TV classic "The Carol Burnett Show" to the powers that be, they didn't think a woman could carry her own variety show:

"Yeah, Carol, you know, it's really, variety is a man's game. ... It's Gleason, Milton Berle. It's Dean Martin. It's Sid Caesar. You know, women. We've got this great sitcom we'd love you to do called 'Here's Agnes.'

Can't you just see it? Heeeeere's Agnes!" — Carol Burnett

The other from Mindy Kaling.

A woman from The Hollywood Reporter asked her what is the most asinine question people have said to you?

"'I think it's great that you deign to be on camera when you're so unappealing!'

I don't ... I mean, my fans and friends on the show are lovely and wonderful, and it moves me to tears to interact with them. It's always ... it's a backhanded thing people who actually identify as feminists who will say something that you're like, 'That is a very rude thing to say! How dare you!'" — Mindy Kaling

It's true. People think they can just say whatever they want to a famous person. It gets even worse when you're a famous woman.

It's not only up to women like Melissa McCarthy, Carol Burnett, and Mindy Kaling to point out when people have gone too far.

It's up to regular folks like you and me to point out when people are out of line, anywhere we hear it. Take Melissa's word for it:

"It's easy to take a swipe. And I'm like, just go the other way. Build it up. ... Put a little love and kindness in the world, and it does good things when you do that."

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Leah Menzies had no idea her deceased mother was her boyfriend's kindergarten teacher.

When you start dating the love of your life, you want to share it with the people closest to you. Sadly, 18-year-old Leah Menzies couldn't do that. Her mother died when she was 7, so she would never have the chance to meet the young woman's boyfriend, Thomas McLeodd. But by a twist of fate, it turns out Thomas had already met Leah's mom when he was just 3 years old. Leah's mom was Thomas' kindergarten teacher.

The couple, who have been dating for seven months, made this realization during a visit to McCleodd's house. When Menzies went to meet his family for the first time, his mom (in true mom fashion) insisted on showing her a picture of him making a goofy face. When they brought out the picture, McLeodd recognized the face of his teacher as that of his girlfriend's mother.

Menzies posted about the realization moment on TikTok. "Me thinking my mum (who died when I was 7) will never meet my future boyfriend," she wrote on the video. The video shows her and McLeodd together, then flashes to the kindergarten class picture.

“He opens this album and then suddenly, he’s like, ‘Oh my God. Oh my God — over and over again,” Menzies told TODAY. “I couldn’t figure out why he was being so dramatic.”

Obviously, Menzies is taking great comfort in knowing that even though her mother is no longer here, they can still maintain a connection. I know how important it was for me to have my mom accept my partner, and there would definitely be something missing if she wasn't here to share in my joy. It's also really incredible to know that Menzies' mother had a hand in making McLeodd the person he is today, even if it was only a small part.

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Found out through this photo in his photo album. A moment straight out of a movie 🥲

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“It’s incredible that that she knew him," Menzies said. "What gets me is that she was standing with my future boyfriend and she had no idea.”

Since he was only 3, McLeodd has no actual memory of Menzies' mother. But his own mother remembers her as “kind and really gentle.”

The TikTok has understandably gone viral and the comments are so sweet and positive.

"No the chills I got omggg."

"This is the cutest thing I have watched."

"It’s as if she remembered some significance about him and sent him to you. Love fate 😍✨"

In the caption of the video, she said that discovering the connection between her boyfriend and her mom was "straight out of a movie." And if you're into romantic comedies, you're definitely nodding along right now.

Menzies and McLeodd made a follow-up TikTok to address everyone's positive response to their initial video and it's just as sweet. The young couple sits together and addresses some of the questions they noticed pop up. People were confused that they kept saying McLeodd was in kindergarten but only 3 years old when he was in Menzies' mother's class. The couple is Australian and Menzies explained that it's the equivalent of American preschool.

They also clarified that although they went to high school together and kind of knew of the other's existence, they didn't really get to know each other until they started dating seven months ago. So no, they truly had no idea that her mother was his teacher. Menzies revealed that she "didn't actually know that my mum taught at kindergarten."

"I just knew she was a teacher," she explained.

She made him act out his reaction to seeing the photo, saying he was "speechless," and when she looked at the photo she started crying. McLeodd recognized her mother because of the pictures Menzies keeps in her room. Cue the "awws," because this is so cute, I'm kvelling.

A simple solution for all ages, really.

School should feel like a safe space. But after the tragic news of yet another mass shooting, many children are scared to death. As a parent or a teacher, it can be an arduous task helping young minds to unpack such unthinkable monstrosities. Especially when, in all honesty, the adults are also terrified.

Katelyn Campbell, a clinical psychologist in South Carolina, worked with elementary school children in the aftermath of the Sandy Hook shooting. She recently shared a simple idea that helped then, in hopes that it might help now.

The psychologist tweeted, “We had our kids draw pictures of scenery that made them feel calm—we then hung them up around the school—to make the ‘other kids who were scared’ have something calm to look at.”



“Kids, like adults, want to feel helpful when they feel helpless,” she continued, saying that drawing gave them something useful to do.

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Mozart was known for his musical talent at a young age, playing the harpsichord at age 4 and writing original compositions at age 5. So perhaps it's fitting that a video of 5-year-old piano prodigy Alberto Cartuccia Cingolani playing Mozart has gone viral as people marvel at his musical abilities.

Alberto's legs can't even reach the pedals, but that doesn't stop his little hands from flying expertly over the keys as incredible music pours out of the piano at the 10th International Musical Competition "Città di Penne" in Italy. Even if you've seen young musicians play impressively, it's hard not to have your jaw drop at this one. Sometimes a kid comes along who just clearly has a gift.

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