Jameela Jamil's story about getting harassed after rejecting a guy went viral because it’s relatable for all the wrong reasons.
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Nearly every woman has a story of receiving hostility because they rejected a man’s advances.

At best, we receive insults, such as “You should be flattered someone wants to go out with you,” or “Whatever, you’re ugly anyways.”

At worst, it’s physical violence.


The Good Place actress (and internet hero) Jameela Jamil opened up about the time she was punched in the face for turning down someone who was hitting on her. Yup, you read that right.

Jamil posted a story of a time when she received verbal abuse for turning someone down. “Was out at the shops with my friend. Man ogles me. Man then approaches me to give me his number. I explain I have a boyfriend but thank him for the offer. Man then threatens my career, saying I better remember that I rejected him. And then Shouts at me that I’m low class...,” postedJamil.

When women turn down men, we come up with all sorts of excuses. We make up boyfriends. We nervously giggle. We say we’re not looking for someone right now. It’s all a show to avoid getting figuratively (and apparently sometimes literally) punched in the face.

It’s not fair that women have to do this, as one Twitter user commented onJamil’s post. “It’s gross that you had to mention that you were already taken by another man (we’ve probably all done this) to try to ‘let a man down easy’ in order to stay safe and that didn’t even ducking work,” wrote@SnarkyTwin.

The comment promoted Jamil to reveal the reason why she always gives the “I have a boyfriend” excuse.  “I once said no thank you to man when I was 19 and didn’t have an excuse... and he punched me in the face. After that whether or not I have a boyfriend, I say I do. Being a woman is truly, constantly scary. It’s like existing on thin ice,” posted Jamil. Like she’s suddenly going to want to go out with him because he punched her in the face?

Even though Jamil’s stories are, unfortunately, commonplace, we can learn something from these experiences. “Wecneed to teach children about rejection, so that we can change the way we see rejection as a society. We need to destigmatize it, so that it doesn’t feel like the ground is swallowing you up when someone says no, however nicely. This would lessen their need to lash out,” Jamil wrote.

Jamil’s Tweets inspired other women (and men) to open up about their experiences.

It should be enough to say, “Sorry, I’m not interested,” and have it end at that.

We shouldn’t have to make up excuses because we’re afraid of retaliation.

Now that women are speaking out against it, hopefully receiving harassment will be less common in the future.

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If someone were to say "video games" to you, what are the first words that come to mind? Whatever words you thought of (fun, exciting, etc.), we're willing to guess "healthy" or "mental health tool" didn't pop into your mind.

And yet… it turns out they are. Especially for Veterans.

How? Well, for one thing, video games — and virtual reality more generally — are also more accessible and less stigmatized to veterans than mental health treatment. In fact, some psychiatrists are using virtual reality systems for this reason to treat PTSD.

Secondly, video games allow people to socialize in new ways with people who share common interests and goals. And for Veterans, many of whom leave the military feeling isolated or lonely after they lose the daily camaraderie of their regiment, that socialization is critical to their mental health. It gives them a virtual group of friends to talk with, connect to, and relate to through shared goals and interests.

In addition, according to a 2018 study, since many video games simulate real-life situations they encountered during their service, it makes socialization easier since they can relate to and find common ground with other gamers while playing.

This can help ease symptoms of depression, anxiety, and even PTSD in Veterans, which affects 20% of the Veterans who have served since 9/11.

Watch here as Verizon dives into the stories of three Veteran gamers to learn how video games helped them build community, deal with trauma and have some fun.

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Video games have been especially beneficial to Veterans since the beginning of the pandemic when all of us — Veterans included — have been even more isolated than ever before.

And that's why Verizon launched a challenge last year, which saw $30,000 donated to four military charities.

And this year, they're going even bigger by launching a new World of Warships charity tournament in partnership with Wargaming and Wounded Warrior Project called "Verizon Warrior Series." During the tournament, gamers will be able to interact with the game's iconic ships in new and exciting ways, all while giving back.

Together with these nonprofits, the tournament will welcome teams all across the nation in order to raise money for military charities helping Veterans in need. There will be a $100,000 prize pool donated to these charities, as well as donation drives for injured Veterans at every match during the tournament to raise extra funds.

Verizon is also providing special discounts to Those Who Serve communities, including military and first responders, and they're offering a $75 in-game content military promo for World of Warships.

Tournament finals are scheduled for August 8, so be sure to tune in to the tournament and donate if you can in order to give back to Veterans in need.

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