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Have You Seen This Instagram Account? It Makes Me TOTALLY Embarrassed To Be A Man.

We all know not everyone acts like this. But when I showed this Instagram account to some of my girl friends they all say "yep, that happens all the time." Guys, it's not OK to treat women this way.Heads up: some NSFW language below.

Imagine you're a woman. You're single and ready to mingle.

You sign up for your digital dating service of choice. You create a winning profile complete with a photo, your likes and dislikes, accomplishments, and a description of the partner you'd like to date.


Good news! A potential date messages you!

But you're busy right now, so you plan on responding later. When you look at your phone less than an hour later, he's become hostile.

Hey Creepy Creeperson, you can laugh out loud after every sentence all you want, but anyone who gets angry that quickly probably isn't a super fun date. Bye!

No big loss, though, because a guy with a nice jawline has asked you to chat!

But after that first guy told you to jump off a bridge, you're not really in the mood to chat. So you're honest with him.

He's even more hostile than the first guy! And he doesn't even laugh out loud after every message to give the illusion of kindness. Sheesh.

The next day you wake up and find a charmer like this in your inbox.

But after looking at his profile, you realize he's not really your type. Rather than waste his time, you're honest with him.

Well this is confusing. Is he interested or is he not interested? And you're not interested in dating the kind of person who thinks fat is an insult anyway.

When, like, 90% of your online dating interactions involve suddenly hostile suitors, it's no wonder that your reaction to dating may look a little like this:

Because so many times someone messages you, and you think maybe he's the one.

But despite an adorable profile picture, when he opens his mouth, it's terrifying.

So, dudes. Life can be hard for all of us.

But it's never OK to be demeaning to someone who rejects your advances. You don't want to be like this:

Because no one wants to date that guy. And when every guy who sends a nice message can turn hostile at the flip of a switch, it's no wonder women are wary and defensive when guys with even the best of intentions reach out.

Just remember: Don't ever write this to anyone.

Or this.

Because you might be featured on #ByeFelipe, an Instagram account where women call out men who are hostile and bad at taking rejection.

So be nice, or get shamed. And if you're ever thinking about sending a message like the ones above, well...

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Leah Menzies had no idea her deceased mother was her boyfriend's kindergarten teacher.

When you start dating the love of your life, you want to share it with the people closest to you. Sadly, 18-year-old Leah Menzies couldn't do that. Her mother died when she was 7, so she would never have the chance to meet the young woman's boyfriend, Thomas McLeodd. But by a twist of fate, it turns out Thomas had already met Leah's mom when he was just 3 years old. Leah's mom was Thomas' kindergarten teacher.

The couple, who have been dating for seven months, made this realization during a visit to McCleodd's house. When Menzies went to meet his family for the first time, his mom (in true mom fashion) insisted on showing her a picture of him making a goofy face. When they brought out the picture, McLeodd recognized the face of his teacher as that of his girlfriend's mother.

Menzies posted about the realization moment on TikTok. "Me thinking my mum (who died when I was 7) will never meet my future boyfriend," she wrote on the video. The video shows her and McLeodd together, then flashes to the kindergarten class picture.

“He opens this album and then suddenly, he’s like, ‘Oh my God. Oh my God — over and over again,” Menzies told TODAY. “I couldn’t figure out why he was being so dramatic.”

Obviously, Menzies is taking great comfort in knowing that even though her mother is no longer here, they can still maintain a connection. I know how important it was for me to have my mom accept my partner, and there would definitely be something missing if she wasn't here to share in my joy. It's also really incredible to know that Menzies' mother had a hand in making McLeodd the person he is today, even if it was only a small part.

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Found out through this photo in his photo album. A moment straight out of a movie 🥲

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“It’s incredible that that she knew him," Menzies said. "What gets me is that she was standing with my future boyfriend and she had no idea.”

Since he was only 3, McLeodd has no actual memory of Menzies' mother. But his own mother remembers her as “kind and really gentle.”

The TikTok has understandably gone viral and the comments are so sweet and positive.

"No the chills I got omggg."

"This is the cutest thing I have watched."

"It’s as if she remembered some significance about him and sent him to you. Love fate 😍✨"

In the caption of the video, she said that discovering the connection between her boyfriend and her mom was "straight out of a movie." And if you're into romantic comedies, you're definitely nodding along right now.

Menzies and McLeodd made a follow-up TikTok to address everyone's positive response to their initial video and it's just as sweet. The young couple sits together and addresses some of the questions they noticed pop up. People were confused that they kept saying McLeodd was in kindergarten but only 3 years old when he was in Menzies' mother's class. The couple is Australian and Menzies explained that it's the equivalent of American preschool.

They also clarified that although they went to high school together and kind of knew of the other's existence, they didn't really get to know each other until they started dating seven months ago. So no, they truly had no idea that her mother was his teacher. Menzies revealed that she "didn't actually know that my mum taught at kindergarten."

"I just knew she was a teacher," she explained.

She made him act out his reaction to seeing the photo, saying he was "speechless," and when she looked at the photo she started crying. McLeodd recognized her mother because of the pictures Menzies keeps in her room. Cue the "awws," because this is so cute, I'm kvelling.

A simple solution for all ages, really.

School should feel like a safe space. But after the tragic news of yet another mass shooting, many children are scared to death. As a parent or a teacher, it can be an arduous task helping young minds to unpack such unthinkable monstrosities. Especially when, in all honesty, the adults are also terrified.

Katelyn Campbell, a clinical psychologist in South Carolina, worked with elementary school children in the aftermath of the Sandy Hook shooting. She recently shared a simple idea that helped then, in hopes that it might help now.

The psychologist tweeted, “We had our kids draw pictures of scenery that made them feel calm—we then hung them up around the school—to make the ‘other kids who were scared’ have something calm to look at.”



“Kids, like adults, want to feel helpful when they feel helpless,” she continued, saying that drawing gave them something useful to do.

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I almost didn't create this post this week.

As the U.S. reels from yet another horrendous school massacre, barely on the heels of the Buffalo grocery store shooting and the Laguna Woods church shooting reminding us that gun violence follows us everywhere in this country, I find myself in a familiar state of anger and grief and frustration. One time would be too much. Every time, it's too much. And yet it keeps happening over and over and over again.

I've written article after article about gun violence. I've engaged in every debate under the sun. I've joined advocacy groups, written to lawmakers, donated to organizations trying to stop the carnage, and here we are again. Round and round we go.

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