Have You Seen This Instagram Account? It Makes Me TOTALLY Embarrassed To Be A Man.

We all know not everyone acts like this. But when I showed this Instagram account to some of my girl friends they all say "yep, that happens all the time." Guys, it's not OK to treat women this way.Heads up: some NSFW language below.

Imagine you're a woman. You're single and ready to mingle.

You sign up for your digital dating service of choice. You create a winning profile complete with a photo, your likes and dislikes, accomplishments, and a description of the partner you'd like to date.


Good news! A potential date messages you!

But you're busy right now, so you plan on responding later. When you look at your phone less than an hour later, he's become hostile.

Hey Creepy Creeperson, you can laugh out loud after every sentence all you want, but anyone who gets angry that quickly probably isn't a super fun date. Bye!

No big loss, though, because a guy with a nice jawline has asked you to chat!

But after that first guy told you to jump off a bridge, you're not really in the mood to chat. So you're honest with him.

He's even more hostile than the first guy! And he doesn't even laugh out loud after every message to give the illusion of kindness. Sheesh.

The next day you wake up and find a charmer like this in your inbox.

But after looking at his profile, you realize he's not really your type. Rather than waste his time, you're honest with him.

Well this is confusing. Is he interested or is he not interested? And you're not interested in dating the kind of person who thinks fat is an insult anyway.

When, like, 90% of your online dating interactions involve suddenly hostile suitors, it's no wonder that your reaction to dating may look a little like this:

Because so many times someone messages you, and you think maybe he's the one.

But despite an adorable profile picture, when he opens his mouth, it's terrifying.

So, dudes. Life can be hard for all of us.

But it's never OK to be demeaning to someone who rejects your advances. You don't want to be like this:

Because no one wants to date that guy. And when every guy who sends a nice message can turn hostile at the flip of a switch, it's no wonder women are wary and defensive when guys with even the best of intentions reach out.

Just remember: Don't ever write this to anyone.

Or this.

Because you might be featured on #ByeFelipe, an Instagram account where women call out men who are hostile and bad at taking rejection.

So be nice, or get shamed. And if you're ever thinking about sending a message like the ones above, well...

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