A research expert says dad jokes aren't just delightful, they're great for child development
Dads, you were right all along. ๐๐
Whatโs brown and sticky? A stick.
How do you get a country girlโs attention? A tractor.
My wife asked me to stop singing โWonderwallโ to her. I said maybeโฆ
Dad jokes tend to be simple, inoffensive attempts at humor that are often puns and never funny. Except, of course, to the dad who tells them. But he usually gets more of a kick out of the embarrassment it caused his children than the joke itself.
According to a new essay, thatโs the exact point.
Marc Hye-Knudsen, a humor researcher and the lab manager at Aarhus Universityโs Cognition and Behavior Lab, wrote an article in the British Psychological Society that explains how dad jokes teach children how to be resilient.
The articleโs title is an embarrassing dad joke in and of itself: โDad jokes? Thatโs the way eye rollโฆโ
In the article, Hye-Knudson shows how dad jokes are an extension of a fatherโs more aggressive parenting style. Dads are often the parent to initiate playfighting, which seems social at first glance, but on a deeper level, helps to train kids to be stronger, more resilient and discover personal boundaries.
In the same way, dad jokes work to teach children how to handle embarrassing situations for themselves and their parents.
โIdeally, fathersโ rougher style of joking fulfills a similar function: by teasingly striking at their childrenโs egos and emotions without teetering over into bullying, fathers build their childrenโs resilience and train them to withstand minor attacks and bouts of negative emotion without getting worked up or acting out, teaching them impulse control and emotional regulation,โ Hye-Knudson quotes Dr. Peter Gray.
This badgering is even more helpful when children reach adolescence and are more prone to embarrassment. โIn this sense, dad jokes may have a positive pedagogical effect, toughening up the kids who are begrudgingly exposed to them,โ Hye-Knudson writes.
The term โdad jokeโ may have originated in America, but the same concept exists in other cultures, suggesting that the parenting strategy may be deeply rooted in human psychology.
In addition to toughening up children by exposing them to embarrassment, it also shows a willingness to be embarrassed on the dadโs behalf. This is another way for a father to model how to handle embarrassment and show that itโs not that big of a deal to be the butt of a joke.
The joke makes the subtle point to the child that if an adult can handle mild humiliation, they can, too.
Ultimately, the dad joke appears to be a way for fathers to teach their kids that itโs OK to put yourself out there in the world without worrying about what other people think. And, if you happen to fail, thatโs OK; get back on the proverbial horse and try again. Itโs a valuable lesson for kids because resilience will play a big role in the childโs future success, whether in relationships, creativity or professional life.
"By continually telling their children jokes that are so bad that theyโre embarrassing, fathers may push their childrenโs limits for how much embarrassment they can handle,โ Hye-Knudson writes. "They show their children that embarrassment isnโt fatal."
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