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10 car seat safety tips from an expert. Some of these might surprise the most seasoned parent.

Did you know that car accidents are a leading cause of preventable death for children between the ages of 1 and 13? That's a fact.

But we can keep our kids safer by installing and correctly using car and booster seats. And before you roll your eyes and say, “Yeah yeah. Been there, done that," you need to hear what pediatrician Dr. Alisa Baer, also known as The Car Seat Lady, has to say:


“Studies show that even for parents who are on their fourth kid, car seat installation is one of the few things that people tend not to get better at."

This can truly be a matter of life and death, so buckle up — metaphorically, of course — and take a few minutes to read about these ten extremely important tips from Baer.

1. Keep the car seat straps snug.

Image by NHTSA.

“Most kids are riding around with straps that are too loose," Baer says. Properly secured snug straps, despite protests from some kids, don't cause pain. “If you're going to jump out of an airplane with a parachute, you're not going to think, 'Oh, it's snug! Let me loosen it!'" she explains.

Think of the car seat straps the same way. If you need guidance on how to ensure the straps are snug, check out this video. Also be sure to remove any bulky clothing. Things like winter coats usually make it necessary to loosen straps — which in turn makes them far less effective.

2. Keep kids rear-facing for as long as possible.


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Once your child outgrows an infant car seat — which is always rear-facing — they'll move into a convertible car seat. Those can be used either in a rear- or forward-facing position. But “can" and “should" are two different things. Baer says you should always keep your child rear-facing until age 2 — and ideally longer, until they reach the rear-facing limits of the car seat. That shouldn't happen until your kiddo is at least 2 years old, but even then, if they're below the maximums for the car seat, don't flip them around!

A common misconception among parents is that there's a greater risk for leg injuries in the event of a crash in rear-facing car seats because it appears as though a child's legs are scrunched up. Baer assured me that kids are actually at a greater risk for leg injuries when they're forward-facing because in an accident, their feet make contact with the seat in front of them, which is simultaneously moving backward. The result is a compression injury, something that doesn't happen when the child is rear-facing.

“The leg injuries we see when a child is rear-facing are usually due to a direct impact from the intruding vehicle. At that point, it doesn't matter which way your child is facing," says Baer.

3. When your child becomes too big to rear-face, keep them as safe as possible when forward-facing.

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“The goal now that we've turned your child forward, which makes their brain and spine less safe than when they were rear-facing," says Baer, “is to keep them as safe as we can." You can accomplish that by using the tether strap that comes on every single forward-facing car seat sold in the U.S. The tether secures to a top tether anchor point in your vehicle. This is where you'll need to break out that vehicle owner's manual to find where they're located. Since 2000, all vehicles sold in the U.S. are required to have anchors where you can secure the tethers in at least three seating positions. Got a minivan or SUV? Most of these vehicles do NOT have tether anchors in all the rear seats. Find the tether anchors and always use them for forward-facing car seats.

“Forward-facing protection is greatly enhanced by the tether," Baer explains. “It decreases how far the child's head moves in a crash by at least four to six inches. When you factor in that most seats are too loose, that can mean a difference of 12 inches or more." Because you only want your child's head to hit air in a crash and not the seat in front of them, the tethers on forward-facing car seats are vital.

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LATCH can be confusing. It stands for Lower Anchors and Tethers for Children. LATCH is comprised of both parts on the car seat and parts in the vehicle, Baer explains. The government requires all vehicles model year 2003 and newer in the U.S. to have at least two seating positions with lower anchors and at least three positions with tether anchors. The lower anchors are meant to replace the use of the vehicle's seat belt. Most car seats (not booster seats, but actual car seats that have a five-point harness system) can be secured to the lower anchors in vehicles by using the LATCH belt on the child's car seat.

Illustration by The Car Seat Lady, used with permission.


Baer emphasized that no matter how you install the forward-facing car seat — whether with a seat belt or the lower anchors — you should always use the tether. “If you're forward-facing seat is installed with the seat belt, use the tether in addition to the seat belt," she said. “If your forward-facing seat is installed with lower anchors, use the tether in addition to the lower anchors."

So, one more time, because it's that important: Always use the tether on every forward-facing car seat!

4. Don't start using a booster seat too soon — and don't stop using a booster seat too soon.

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For a child to safely use a booster seat, they must be at least 4 years old, weigh 40 pounds, and be mature enough to sit properly in the booster — “no slouching, no leaning over, and no playing with the seat belt." Because of that, Baer says that most kids are generally around 6 years old before they're ready for a booster seat.

When it comes to letting kids dump their booster seats, Baer notes that many parents are doing it too soon. “The goal of a booster is to keep the belt property positioned on a child's body, specifically so the lap belt stays in position on the child's lower hips during a crash."

Baer says that there's a pattern of injuries resulting from children being in accidents while not in booster seats that, while not always fatal, are life altering — things like lower spinal cord injuries resulting in paralysis and bladder and bowel injuries.

The way to prevent those? Keep your kiddo in a booster until the seat belt fits exactly the same without the booster as it does with it. (Check out the five-step test for guidance.) Most kids are 10 to 12 years old before they can ride safely without a booster.

5. Make sure everyone in the car is buckled up.

Besides keeping all of your adult passengers alive, ensuring everyone in the vehicle is wearing a seat belt means they can't become human torpedoes in the event of an accident. “Studies show that if an adult rides in the back without a buckle, the other people in the car are up to three times more likely to die in the same crash because the unbuckled adult is now a human missile," says Baer.

That sounds rather gruesome — and that's because it is. If a car seat is covering a seat belt buckle, for example, reinstall the car seat so that the buckle is available for the adult. It's about everyone's safety.

6. After you install your child's car seat, have it checked by a trained technician.

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While many people think they can swing by a fire or police department to accomplish this, “not even 50% of them have someone trained" to do that, Baer says.

Instead, go to seatcheck.org, where you can enter your zip code to find a trained technician near you.

7. Remember that the center seat is generally the safest spot in the car for kids.

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Children in the center seat won't take a direct hit in an accident, and there's less to hit their head on when they're in a forward-facing car seat. If you have more than one child, remember that your oldest is typically the least protected. “A newborn, for example, is more protected because they're rear-facing," Baer explains. The middle seat often doesn't have the lower anchors, which means you'll need to use the seat belt to secure the car seat (or if your child is in a booster, they'll be using the belt anyway). And remember: If your kiddo is in a forward-facing car seat, use the tether!

8. Don't text or talk on the phone while driving.

“We're not going to make a dent in fatalities until we decrease distracted driving," Baer notes. “We have an obligation to make sure not only our children, but everyone else's children are safe on the road."

9. Car seats expire!

It's not that the car seat industry is out to get your hard-earned cash, Baer says, but rather that "car seats are made of plastic, and plastic is a material that gets brittle with age. You need a seat to be strong enough to withstand an crash." Different car seats have different expiration dates, although they typically last six to eight years. Be sure you know when yours needs replacing — particularly if you're using it with more than one child.

Speaking of which, be sure to put a lot of thought into borrowed or hand-me-down car seats. You should never buy a used car seat online. If you're going to share with friends or use it for more than one child, infant seats that are in good condition are better candidates for sharing than convertible car seats or boosters, which are used for longer and generally experience more wear and tear.

10. If you've been in an accident, there's a good chance that your car seat needs replacing.

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This holds true regardless of whether your child was in the car seat when the accident occurred because even an empty seat still absorbs some of the force of the crash. Baer says most manufacturers advise that the car seat requires replacement no matter the severity of the crash, but some seats have a “minor crash protocol." You can check her website to learn more.

The top three most common mistakes Baer sees are car seats that are too loose in the car, kids that are too loose in the car seats, and children who are graduated too soon (from rear-facing to forward facing or car seat to booster, for example). With some effort and care, we can all avoid those mistakes and more. It's a lot of info to absorb, but we're talking about our kids' lives.

1970s, '70s, generations, food, meals

Kids in the 1970s pretending to cook

"What's for dinner?" has been asked by kids for millennia, probably, and the most common answers depend on both where and at what time in history it was asked. In ancient times, people were limited to what they could hunt or gather. Medieval recipes look different than what people ate in the 19th century. And what our grandparents ate when they were children was different from what our kids eat today.

Obviously, people couldn't DoorDash Chipotle in the '70s, but when someone on Reddit asked people born before 1970 what they ate for dinner most weeks, there were some standard meals a lot of Americans clearly ate regularly growing up. Lots of meatloaf and beef stroganoff. Pork chops and chop suey. Convenient assistance from Shake n' Bake, Hamburger Helper and TV dinners. Canned fruits and veggies. So much Jell-O.


Here are some of the most popular responses:

"Overcooked pork chop, minute rice, canned green beans, canned fruit cocktail

Spaghetti with ground beef and sauce made from a packet (Durkee?)

Pot roast (whatever cut of meat was on sale) cooked with Lipton onion soup mix. Frozen peas. Canned peaches.

Meatloaf with mashed potatoes and canned green beans. Canned pears

Shake n bake chicken and scalloped potatoes from a box. Canned fruit of some kind.

On awesome days Chef Boyardee pizza mix from a box.

I liked LaChoy chop suey.

Always with a jug of milk on the table."

1970s, '70s, generations, meals, meatloaf Meatloaf was a staple dinner.Photo credit: Canva

"So I think many of our moms went to the same home ec classes. Our house also had on rotation:

Goulash: It wasn’t what I have come to understand is Hungarian Goulash, but ground beef/spices/tomatoes.

Chicken Diane: Way overcooked chicken with rosemary, thyme and other seasonings.

Meatloaf: Yes, ketchup on top.

And the ever-present rice. Dad bought an aluminum rice cooker from his time in Japan and we had rice (he added soy sauce on top) 3x per week. The other side was baked potatoes.

The big treat!!!??? Chef Boy Ar Dee pizza from a tube on Friday once per month. Mom had a round aluminum baking pan and make dough, spread the included sauce on the dough, add the Parmesan Cheese (in the included packet). That was the biggest treat - and in all honesty I would go back to that day cause I miss my mom. Best pizza ever."

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"Hamburger patty or braised round steak, green salad, canned vegetable (peas, beans, corn, beets). Occasionally a baked potato. Sometimes my mom would toss chicken in a flour/seasoning mix and bake it and we'd have oven fried chicken--maybe once every couple of weeks. We got beef from a cousin so it was cheap, and chicken was expensive.

Mom also made spaghetti with ground beef, and beef stew with the tougher cuts of the cow. Oh--and liver--God how I hated liver night.

We always had cheap grocery store 'ice milk' in the freezer for dessert."

1970s, '70s, generations, food, meals, spaghetti Spaghetti is still a classic.Photo credit: Canva

"Sunday - Spaghetti/macaroni and homemade spaghetti sauce and a salad.

Monday - Roast chicken, a side (potatoes, Rice-a-Roni), and a veg.

Tuesday - Pork chops, a side (potatoes, Rice-a-Roni), and a veg.

Wednesday - Spaghetti/macaroni and homemade spaghetti sauce and a salad.

Thursday - Rump or sirloin steak, a side (potatoes, Rice-a-Roni), and a veg.

Friday - breaded and fried fish (ugh--haddock, halibut, or cod if the latter was on sale), a side (potatoes, Rice-a-Roni), and a veg.

Saturday - Rump or sirloin steak, a side (potatoes, Rice-a-Roni), and a veg.

Dessert would be supermarket ice cream (carton, usually Neopolitan), Jello chocolate pudding, Table Talk pie (usually apple)."

1970s, '70s, generations, food, meals, pork chops Why were pork chops so popular?Photo credit: Canva

"Typical meals: stroganoff made with ground beef and egg noodles. Pot roast. Swiss steak. Chicken cacciatore. Fried chicken. This was in California, but my parents were from the Midwest so pretty meat-and-potatoes. There was always a side vegetable and a starch. Rarely bread or rolls. Occasionally salad but not always until the 1980s. No formal/planned dessert except for special occasions like birthdays and holidays, but sometimes there was ice cream in the freezer or there were cookies (store bought; my mom wasn't a baker). In the late 70s my mom loved Julia Child and started to be more adventurous with cooking; later she took Asian cooking classes too."

"Beef stroganoff, fried bologna, weiners wrapped in bacon and then broiled, baked beans, (from scratch) liver.

Jello 1-2-3 (so space age!) Bundt cake, canned fruit salad, canned pears, canned peaches."

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"When we had some money (early in the pay period):

Spaghetti with sausages and homemade sauce

Liver and onions

Chop suey

Spare ribs and sauerkraut

Pork chops with mashed potatoes and gravy

Beef stew

Boeuf bourguignon

Beef stroganoff

When we were short on money:

Spam & scrambled eggs

Homemade macaroni & cheese

Cold cereal

That’s all I can think of right now.

We very rarely ever had dessert and almost never ate out. We never had fast food, the only fast food chain in town was Burger King, and McDonald’s was a town away and only open about six months of the year."

Here's to all the meals that nourished us in every era of our lives.

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Photo credit: 'Wheel of Fortune' YouTube screenshot via muza / Photo credit: Canva, anlomaja (text box)

These "Wheel of Fortune" contestants struggled to solve this "slang" puzzle.

Few TV moments are as satisfying as a Wheel of Fortune blunder. They usually go viral because of a wildly goofy answer, like the 2024 classic "Treat Yourself A Round of Sausage." But every once in a while, it's hard to figure out who made the mistake: the contestant or the show's producers, who green-lit a puzzle that may have been…well, too puzzling.

Which brings us back to 1993, with one of the most bizarre moments in Wheel of Fortune history. The category was "Slang," and three contestants were presented with one nine-letter word. It took them more than three minutes to solve as the studio filled with awkward laughter, and it's fair to debate whether they really got it.


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"There, you said it! You said it the second time!"

It's a slow reveal: a pair of "T"s, an "S," a "B," an "N"—all with no guesses. Finally, upon the reveal of a "K," someone takes the first stab: "Buttinsky" (pronounced like "butt in sky"). Nope. Then comes a "Y." Another "Butt in sky." Even when we get the full word, "BUTTINSKY," no one can pronounce it to the producers' liking. Finally, one contestant runs through a handful of variations, and host Pat Sajak, seemingly eager to move on, jumps in: "There, you said it! You said it the second time!" It's a close call. You be the judge.

It appears none of the contestants had ever heard the word "buttinsky," which, according to Merriam-Webster, is a noun meaning "a person given to butting in" or "a troublesome meddler." "We cannot say who was the first wit to add the common last element of some Slavic surnames to the term butt in," the dictionary company wrote, "but we can tell you that the word has been in common use since the beginning of the 20th century."

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"I actually saw this when it aired. I've never forgotten it."

So what does the general public think about this puzzle? Here are some notable YouTube comments:

"Pat: 'Yeah, what do we have there?' Contestant: 'Buttinsky, jack—'"

"Producer was like, I don't even know how to pronounce that."

"Weirdest puzzle in WoF history"

"Nope...that is clearly "Butt in sky'"

"This was pretty much the final nail in the coffin for the Slang category--it offered one of the most difficult puzzles on the show, much like how Megaword had ones that had mostly uncommon letters and were very hard to pronounce."

"I actually saw this when it aired. I've never forgotten it. I'd hate to have my butt in sky :P"

"The producers were needling WAY too much on the pronunciation here. Wow, that was excruciating to watch lol"

"After something like that, they should have invited all three of those guys back or did a do-over puzzle and thrown it out."

"Buttonsky, Battensky, Buttansky, Bittensky, Bettinsky, Bottinsky, until we get to Buttinsky. Very funny."

"No wonder that category was retired."

On the latter note: According to the Wheel of Fortune Fandom site, "Slang" was introduced on September 7, 1992, and retired on June 19, 1995.

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Andrew Huberman and a woman sleeping.

There is nothing worse than lying in your bed, with your mind racing, and you can’t fall asleep. The longer you lie in bed, the more anxious you get about falling asleep, which makes it even harder to catch some ZZZs. You've tried clearing your mind, but can’t. You’ve tried counting sheep but reached 100. What do you do now?

On a recent Real Time with Bill Maher, neuroscientist Andrew Huberman made an off-the-cuff remark about a sleep hack that he swears by, and it's based on brain research. Huberman is a Stanford University neuroscientist and tenured professor of neurobiology and ophthalmology. He's also the host of the popular podcast Huberman Lab, which focuses on health and science.


How to fall asleep fast

“In fact, if you wake up in the middle of the night and you're having trouble falling back asleep, try just doing some long, extended exhales. And get this, this sounds really weird, but it has a basis in physiology. Keep your eyes closed and just move your eyes from side to side behind your eyelids like this, back and forth,” Huberman told Maher as he moved his eyes from side to side as if he was surveying a vast landscape. “Do some long exhales. I can't promise, but I'm willing to wager like maybe one pinky, that within five minutes or so, you'll be back to sleep.”

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Andrew Huberman’s hack is based on neuroscience

Huberman explained the exercise in greater detail on Mark Bell's Power Project podcast. In his appearance, he discussed the interesting connection between our eyes and their connection to the amygdala, an almond-shaped part of the brain that controls our emotional response. “Eye movements of that sort actually do suppress the amygdala [to] make people feel calmer, less fearful,” Huberman said. He adds that when we are on a walk, we move our eyes from side to side, to analyze the terrain ahead of us, and the amygdala calms down.

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“But for most people who are sighted, moving your eyes from side to side for 10 to 30 seconds is going to calm you down," Huberman said. "And this makes really good sense because, from an evolutionary perspective, an adaptive perspective, we've always been confronted with interpersonal threats and animal to human threats. Forward movement is the way that you suppress the fear response."

Americans aren’t getting enough sleep

Huberman’s video is important because many Americans need to get more sleep. A 2022 Gallup poll found that only 32% of Americans said they got “excellent” or “very good” sleep; 35% described their sleep as “good”; and 33% said their sleep was “fair” or “poor.”

Sleep is essential to maintaining good health. Getting at least seven hours of sleep a night is great for your memory, focus, emotional regulation, appetite, muscle recovery, and tissue repair. It also reduces the risk of chronic conditions like heart disease and diabetes. It’s great that Huberman shares his hack, which few people would have come up with without a background in neuroscience, to improve their sleep. It’s also another exciting way to show just how interconnected the body is, from eyes to brain and beyond. Sweet dreams.

This article originally appeared last year.

Wellness

Doctors explain the science behind 'eargasms,' or why sticking things in your ear feels so good

You're not supposed to use cotton swabs in your ears, but there are other ways to capture this feeling.

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If you're not supposed to put cotton swabs in your ears, why does it feel so amazing?

Back in the 1920s, a man named Leo Gerstenzang observed his wife as she gave their baby a bath. To clean the child's ears, she would stick cotton balls on each end of a toothpick. It worked great, but Gerstenzang was concerned about the sharp ends—one slip could be extremely dangerous. So, he worked up a safer version, spending the next several years designing a machine that could make and package cotton swabs "never touched by human hands."

He called them "Baby Betty Gays," after his daughter, and then just "Baby Gays." Later, he developed the idea for the brand name "Q-Tips". The product caught on quickly, and for many years it was a popular choice for both adults and kids to remove earwax, among other uses. However, in the 1970s, the company added a warning to the package that the cotton swabs were not meant to be inserted into the ear.


Today, ENT professionals advise against using cotton swabs in your ear. Yet, many people continue to do it. One reason? It feels absolutely amazing.

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Sure, none of us want wax buildup in our ears, but it's become extremely clear that cotton swabs aren't actually all that great at removing wax. Outside the risk of perforating your ear drum by pushing the swab in too far, experts say cotton swabs are more likely to push wax deeper into the ear rather than pull it out. That's pretty counter-productive.

But by and large, people report that the feeling of twisting a cotton swab around inside your ear feels incredible. There is, believe it or not, a quasi-medical term for this sensation: an eargasm.

Dr. Karan Rajan recently created a now-viral video on TikTok covering the topic in-depth. He says that, for some people, the Vagus nerve-endings inside the ear are extremely sensitive. The Vagus nerve is a "branchlike structure that runs from your brain to your butt," according to Men's Health, and carries information about touch and sensation. When stimulated, you may experience a pleasurable feeling anywhere the nerve impacts, "including your heart, belly, and even reproductive areas."

"This leads to a parasympathetic response and a calming effect, similar to the other type of 'gasm. This is why, for many, ears are an erogenous zone."

He adds that the erectile tissue in your ears can get engorged when stimulated, giving you...you guessed it...an "ear boner." Add to this that the inside of your ear is not touched very often and can sometimes get itchy or irritated, it's no wonder rubbing it with a cotton swab feels so dang amazing.

One fun fact, or a not-so fun fact depending on your perspective, is that some people have what Rajan calls the "cough glitch," where stimulation of the inner ear makes them feel like there's something in their throat and may trigger a cough. Vice versa, a tingling in the throat may be felt in the ear. It's just another funny response by the Vagus nerve, but a much less pleasurable one.

@dr.karanr

Eargasm @wtfaleisa


It's not just cotton swabs that can make your whole body feel amazing via the nerves in your ears.

If the vibrations are just right from music or any other sound or physical sensation that makes the ears tingle, a similar eargasm effect can occur.

This could be one reason people love ASMR, or autonomous sensory meridian response, videos. The whispering and other soft sounds can create a pleasurable, euphoric, tingling sensation throughout the body and trigger feelings of relaxation and reduced stress.

Medical News Today adds, "The sensitivity and power of the ears may explain why they can feel erogenous for many people. Whispering into the ear during intercourse can stimulate nerve endings and enhance feelings of intimacy. Physically stimulating the ears by massaging, licking, or gently biting them may also enhance feelings of arousal and closeness."

When you add in the emotional element that music, in particular, can create in us, the eargasm feeling can become extraordinarily powerful.

Music reporter Allison Hagendorf says that when a song swells in an emotional, triumphant crescendo, it can be a euphoric experience.

"Scientists call it frisson, French for 'shivers', and it's this full body reaction when music, emotion, and surprise collide all at once. It's that surge you feel when something in a song takes you somewhere unexpected."

Though not strictly related to a stimulation of the Vagus nerve, music that hits just right can flood your brain with dopamine, the neurochemical responsible for feeling love, joy, and awe.

Fascinatingly, only about half of all people have the capability to experience these "musical chills."

The reason a little stimulation in and around our ears can feel so amazing goes far beyond just that "scratching an itch" sensation. There's legitimate neuroscience behind why the ears may be the key to full-body pleasure and euphoria in many people.

Again, doctors advise against sticking cotton swabs in your ears for a variety of health and safety reasons. But if you find yourself tempted to do it because it feels so good, consider yourself lucky that you're among those capable of powerful eargasms. Luckily, there are other, safer ways to explore your auditory superpowers.

Pop Culture

22 hobbies folks claim are surefire ways to meet super-friendly people in real life

"Boxing. Yeah, I know it’s not the stereotype, but try it, you’ll be surprised."

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Two women enjoying a boxing class.

Solo hobbies are great for establishing some quality alone time, but there’s something to be said for enrichment activities that add to our physical wellbeing, provide a creative outlet, or give a recreational boost while also helping us build our own little tribe of like-minded weirdos.

Still, it can be a little intimidating to know where to start. That’s why a good old-fashioned crowdsourced list can come in handy.


Recently, folks on Reddit answered the question, "What hobbies attract the most friendly people?" and it’s filled with out-of-the-box answers that can provide a little bit of inspiration and encouragement.

From unique art meet-ups to sports that are surprisingly welcoming, here are some of our favorite answers:

1. Sewing/Crocheting

hobbies, unique hobbies, irl hobbies, meeting new people, boxing club, meet ups near me, clubs near me, making friends, ask reddit A group of crocheters. Photo credit: Canva

"My very introverted and not-too-social mom picked up crocheting some time after turning 50. She found the most wholesome and friendly group of people that she is now super close with."

“The crochet community is pretty friendly, supportive, and incredibly talented.”

"I’ve had multiple instances where I’m shopping for yarn and another fiber artist will start a cute little 'whatcha makin'' convo. Then we trade advice and opinions, and I always feel like I just made a new friend. :)"

2. Archery

hobbies, unique hobbies, irl hobbies, meeting new people, boxing club, meet ups near me, clubs near me, making friends, ask reddit A person getting ready to shoot a target with an arrow. Photo credit: Canva

"Archery is pretty awesome, even just going to the public range. Everyone is friendly for sure."

"Something that always turned me off from other sports was when people would get overly emotional and angry when playing. The archery range is so peaceful."

3. Arcades

hobbies, unique hobbies, irl hobbies, meeting new people, boxing club, meet ups near me, clubs near me, making friends, ask reddit A group of friend enjoying games at an arcade. Photo credit: Canva

"Playing pinball or gaming in vintage arcades. Everyone there is usually pretty polite, civil, and just having a good time."

4. Rock Climbing

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"Very laid back, active people in reasonably good shape, social, and eager to help with problems or just make small talk."

"If you live near a climbing gym, look into beginner classes. Many gyms offer a six- or eight-week program that teaches you how to belay and do everything safely. It's a great way to meet other people who are getting into climbing."

5. Improv

hobbies, unique hobbies, irl hobbies, meeting new people, boxing club, meet ups near me, clubs near me, making friends, ask reddit An improv class. Photo credit: Canva

"I took a couple of improv classes a few years ago and had an absolute blast! Everyone should try it at least once in their life. I think it’s really helped me work with people and be a better teacher."

6. Birdwatching (birding)

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"I'm a bird watcher! In my experience, most birders are just goofy nerds that love going 'oooh is that a [insert bird name here]???' It's great fun!"

7. Robot Combat

hobbies, unique hobbies, irl hobbies, meeting new people, boxing club, meet ups near me, clubs near me, making friends, ask reddit A hand-built robot. Photo credit: Canva

"The community is thriving, and people are helping each other all the time and sharing ideas. 15% of the spare parts I pack when going to meet-ups are meant for other people, and we gift away the broken bits of our robots to our opponents as trophies. Sometimes we even travel and Airbnb together."

8. Beekeeping

hobbies, unique hobbies, irl hobbies, meeting new people, boxing club, meet ups near me, clubs near me, making friends, ask reddit A friendly beekeeper. Photo credit: Canva

"It's a lot of older people who are interested in sharing knowledge."

9. Woodworking

hobbies, unique hobbies, irl hobbies, meeting new people, boxing club, meet ups near me, clubs near me, making friends, ask reddit Two woodworkers. Photo credit: Canva

"The woodworking community is really supportive. All it takes is one tablesaw mishap to humble you a bit and decide you'd rather not see that happen to anyone else, lol."

10. Boxing/Capoeira/Martial Arts

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"Yeah, I know it’s not the stereotype, but try it, you’ll be surprised."

"Capoeira. The people are almost too friendly."

“I've wanted to do some kind of martial arts since high school and only managed to work up the courage to finally try it in my 30s. As a woman, it's such a masculine, intimidating environment. Once I got over the initial nerves (which took a while) and got to know some people, it was the warmest, most supportive, and authentic community I've been in."

11. Book clubs

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"I joined a book club, and everyone is really cool!"

12. Gardening

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"Gardeners are the most generous, friendliest people I've ever met. Optimistic too."

13. Hiking

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"I’ve never joined a group that wasn’t full of the kindest people. The one I’m in now is lovely."

14. Miniature Painting

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"The miniature painting community is one of the most supportive/friendly communities on Earth. You could probably shit on a mini and throw some glitter on it, and someone who's been painting for 25 years and is essentially a genius artist will be like, 'I love the color scheme, welcome to the hobby!'"

15. Horror Conventions

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"I've met so many nice people at horror conventions. Polite, friendly, enthusiastic, and curious."

16. Scuba Diving

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"The scuba community is super supportive. I think it’s inherent to how the sport works. Good communication, mutual respect, and caution are instilled in you during the education process. You need to be able to meet someone for the first time and potentially trust them with your life as a dive buddy. That requires a certain level of built-in trust. On top of that, there’s an extra layer of camaraderie that you get from diving in odd spots or at unusual times of the year. I once dove in a quarry on the absolute last day of the season, when it was cold enough that my wet gear froze to the table, but I had a blast chatting up the handful of other people unhinged enough to be out on the water that day."

17. Skateboarding

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"It’s literally like a family everywhere you go."

18. Beer Brewing

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"I'm sure most people would assume it's just a bunch of pretentious craft beer bros. However, people are incredibly cool and very positively constructive with their feedback. As a result, everyone who has gained some confidence is thrilled to share their beer and have people genuinely appreciate them."

19. Competition shooting

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"Believe it or not…people are very kind to each other and we love to nerd out over our builds. Safety is almost always our #1 priority and I honestly feel more safe at the range than I do at a car meet!"

20. Mountain Biking

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"If you're sitting on the side of the trail, everyone who passes will stop to ask if you're OK. People will share food, parts, tools, directions, advice, etc."

"You can literally pull up to a brewery, grab a beer, and sit down with other mountain bikers you've never met and instantly become friends by sharing stories or talking about how your ride went."

21. Disc Golf

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"Disc golfers are generally friendly and chill."

Last but not least…

22. Fishing

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"Every time I've joined a fishing club or just met someone while out fishing, we share stories and tips and enjoy the experience. Good people."