Daughters Are Pledging Their Virginity To Their Fathers Like It's No Big Deal

As someone who is not American, I first heard about "purity balls" (eesh, that name) for the first time in 2014. It shocked me that fathers and daughters attend these dances to pledge her "purity" and virginity until she is married, giving her little choice or education on, you know, the importance of her own personal choices.

Then I saw this trailer for the documentary "Daddy I Do," which highlights the bigger issue: the serious lack of sexual education in America. Watch filmmaker Cassie Jaye explore the issue in the video below.

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I pledge my purity to my father, my future husband, and my creator.

It's like a wedding, but with a twist.

Where Dad gets in a tuxedo and the daughter gets in a gown.

She's daddy's little girl there to take a vow of chastity.

And the creation of the conservative Christian movement in America

Whoever came up with the name, "Purity Balls."

There's a lot of funding for abstinence programs. There are organizations that will go to schools and say, "We will come in to your school and we will implement an abstinence program and it will cost you nothing. We'll provide all the training and all the materials." And schools think that's great and they invite them in.

The ultimate goal of the Silver Ring thing is to help teenagers find Christ and end up in heaven.

So Christian kids are coming anyway and that's not even hard. That's autopilot. It's their friend who we want to reach.

You believe what you believe. The question is, should you beliefs be the underpinnings of the law?

It's condom versus abstinence. That's the argument. That's the memo.

If you were to do sex safely, it's premeditated.

Sex prior to marriage is a sin. So why are we telling young people how to protect themselves in sin? I wouldn't tell my daughter to use a condom if she was [having sex].

It is truly frightening.

It doesn't matter if you get married at 18 or if you get married at 28. It's don't have sex, don't have sex, don't have sex, don't have sex. Wedding night, it's have sex. You are free to do anything you want.

You're looking for this special knight in shining armor.

I would have never, ever, ever thought that would have happened to me.

You wonder, am I going to be punished for this?

Once the baby's out of the womb, where is the right to life movement?

I was living in my car pregnant with my youngest son.

My father has 30 children.

It's all based on fear and...

How is it possible that you, as a parent, do not know this?

I was shocked that something so archaic was still being pushed as an agenda today. It is not only me.

There may be small errors in this transcript.

"Daddy I Do" and the bonus features are now available to download online. Or you can buy the DVD. The film examines abstinence-only education vs. comprehensive sex education in America and their influence on the rates of teen pregnancies, abortions, and STDs, as well as poverty and sexual abuse.

Thanks to documentary filmmaker Cassie Jaye for sending this over to me. Jaye was also behind "The Right to Love: An American Family." "Daddy I Do" won multiple awards — including Best Documentary — at the 2010 Cannes Independent Film Festival.

May 19, 2014

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