This explanation of men’s emotional needs will encourage you to compliment the guys in your life more often.

Over the past several decades, there has been a massive movement – rightfully so – to be consciously encouraging to girls and women.

They’ve been told they can do anything and be anything and taught to get an education and take care of themselves, all of which is wonderful and necessary.

While boys and men may not need to be reminded as often to peruse their dreams, they need to be told that their emotional needs are valid.


The belief that boys and men need to be stoic and stay guarded in order to be a “real man” helps create many of the emotional issues they face.

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This conditioning is damaging, and one Tumblr user’s post about how she takes care of her boyfriend’s emotional needs is really putting things into perspective.

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Others are responding with their own stories about how they remember to take care of the men in their lives, not just physically, but emotionally, and how much they need the nurturing.

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The fact that women can feel unsure or uncomfortable when handing out compliments, sympathy, or encouragement to men is only proof that toxic masculinity affects everyone in our culture, not just men.

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Take care of your boys, yes.

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Or, you know…take care of each other. It’s the only way we’re all going to make it.

This article was originally published by our partners at Humans of Tumblr and was written by Trisha Leigh Ziegenhorn.

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If the past year has taught us nothing else, it's that sending love out into the world through selfless acts of kindness can have a positive ripple effect on people and communities. People all over the United States seemed to have gotten the message — 71% of those surveyed by the World Giving Index helped a stranger in need in 2020. A nonprofit survey found 90% helped others by running errands, calling, texting and sending care packages. Many people needed a boost last year in one way or another and obliging good neighbors heeded the call over and over again — and continue to make a positive impact through their actions in this new year.

Upworthy and P&G Good Everyday wanted to help keep kindness going strong, so they partnered up to create the Lead with Love Fund. The fund awards do-gooders in communities around the country with grants to help them continue on with their unique missions. Hundreds of nominations came pouring in and five winners were selected based on three criteria: the impact of action, uniqueness, and "Upworthy-ness" of their story.

Here's a look at the five winners:

Edith Ornelas, co-creator of Mariposas Collective in Memphis, Tenn.

Edith Ornelas has a deep-rooted connection to the asylum-seeking immigrant families she brings food and supplies to families in Memphis, Tenn. She was born in Jalisco, Mexico, and immigrated to the United States when she was 7 years old with her parents and sister. Edith grew up in Chicago, then moved to Memphis in 2016, where she quickly realized how few community programs existed for immigrants. Two years later, she helped create Mariposas Collective, which initially aimed to help families who had just been released from detention centers and were seeking asylum. The collective started out small but has since grown to approximately 400 volunteers.