Former teacher shares the funny 'secret code' she used when talking to parents
βYour son is going to make a great lawyer" is code for: "Your kid wonβt stop arguing with me."

Sometimes a secret code is a gentler approach.
There are many things that teachers think but cannot say aloud. Teachers have to have a certain sense of decorum and often have strict rules about how they speak about their students, especially to their parents.
Plus, itβs a teacherβs job to educate, not judge. So, they find ways to kindly and sincerely say whatβs on their minds without having to resort to name-calling or telling the (sometimes disparaging) truth about a student.
Jess Smith is a former teacher who goes by the moniker Miss Smith as a stand-up comedian and on her podcast, Hot Mess Teacher Express. She decided to have a little fun with euphemisms, or the βsecret codeβ she had to use when speaking to parents about their children.
The video went viral on TikTok after being shared by the Bored Teachers page.
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"We have a code when we email parents," Smith said in her video. "When we use phrases like, βYour child is very social,β that means they wonβt stop talking," she explained. β'Their excitement in the classroom is contagious,' translates to 'They will not calm down,'" Smith said, adding that a "natural born leader" is a polite way of saying "super bossy."
The post struck a chord with parents and teachers who shared secret codes theyβve heard or used.
βMy sonβs pre-k teacher told me he was the most scientific kid sheβs ever had, she prob meant he asks a million questions allll day long," TinaMarie wrote. βIn kindergarten, I got βis overly helpfulβ when my parents asked the teacher said I was finishing my test and giving answers out so we could play,β Tallulahthegreat added.
βWhen I first started teaching, I was told to tell parents their child is βspiritedβ if they never stop talking and canβt sit still," Allie commented.
ββYour son is going to make a great lawyer,β which is code for: your kid wonβt stop arguing with me," C added.
However, the post wasnβt a hit with everyone. Some believe teachers should speak to parents in a straightforward manner and avoid using euphemisms.
βAs a parent. I would rather a teacher just tell me, instead of using codes. We know our kids. We live with them and you have them for 8 hours," happily_married wrote in the comments.
βItβs time to start saying it like it is. Why are we so afraid of laying the truth on the line?" QYMSC added.
In an interview with the TODAY show, Smith assured everyone that when she was a teacher, she had no problem being straightforward when necessary. βIf a serious conversation needed to happen, I didnβt sugarcoat it,β Smith said. But the code was a way for her to share difficult information politely, in a non-confrontational way.
βConnecting with the parents was always important to me, and I never wanted them to feel like, βThis is your problem to take care of.β No, this is something we can work on together. Iβm here to help your kid,β Smith said. βI found that parents just responded better to the code.β
This article originally appeared two years ago.
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