Woman shares texts showing the difference between a healthy and a controlling relationship
Is it a healthy or controlling relationship?
Saving old text messages from exes can sometimes be an asset when you need to remember exactly why you left them. Alternately, sometimes digital relics from old relationships are a good reminder of how much good we have in our lives currently.
At least, they did for the Twitter user May Larsen, who recently posted screenshots of two text threads with two very different men.
The conversation on the left shows how an old conversation went down with an emotionally manipulative ex. While the other screenshot is a prime example of what communication in a healthy partnership looks like.
The emotional dynamics of this exchange are full of red flags.
The unhealthy don’t cheat text.
Pic cropped from Twitter post.
This ex (boyfriend, hookup, whatever he was) went from 0-100 in no time. In fact, the ONLY way this kind of freak out would be excusable would be if they had prior plans she ditched on. Alternately, if he was doing a performance art bit where he embodied Drake's 0-100 via text message. Outside of those possibilities, this type of reaction is nothing short of manipulation and emotional abuse.
The second text message showed how Larsen's current partner responds to a simple night out.
The healthy let me know when you’re home safe text.
Pic cropped from Twitter post.
The difference between these responses to a simple night out on the town is night and day. When comparing the two messages, the red flags really pop.
People on Twitter had a LOT of thoughts about the texts.
Some women shared similar experiences with possessive partners.
You\u2019re reminding the one on the left not to cheat. He already has his guard up. The one on the right is just doing the minimum— X \u00c6 A-12 Musk (@X \u00c6 A-12 Musk) 1533905239
A lot of people assumed the texts were from two guys she's currently dating.
Nah dude check the first one she cropped the time and allat out of it. You was right at first— Dee (@Dee) 1533873487
That quickly got shut down.
Meanwhile, others were caught up with the fact that her current dude wears a cowboy hat.
YEEHAWW— \u2764\ufe0f\ud83e\udd0d\ud83d\udc7c \u0142\u2c64\u0142\u0246\u20ae\u2c64\u0142\u2c60\u2c60\u0142\u0246 (@\u2764\ufe0f\ud83e\udd0d\ud83d\udc7c \u0142\u2c64\u0142\u0246\u20ae\u2c64\u0142\u2c60\u2c60\u0142\u0246) 1533883789
Regardless of whether the rest of us are pro cowboy hat (I'm pro if you can pull it off), it seems they've got a healthy situation going. Communication is key, in any kind of relationship.
This article originally appeared on 04.10.19
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