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So, You Voted For President Obama...

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So, You Voted For President Obama...

First of all, congratulations. Take a moment to bask in the glow of a victorious candidate...

...done basking? Good. We've got some work to do.





Now that an agonizingly long presidential campaign that saw 3 billion dollars spent slinging mud, running nonsensical doomsday ads, and sending canvassers to your house during dinner (and it is always during dinner) has finally come to a merciful end, the temptation to check out completely is probably pretty strong right now. In fact, We'll bet you're thinking of clicking away from this page right now, aren't you? We'll drop in a baby animal to keep things interesting. Look at the ticklish baby polar bear!



Adorable. Now, as we were saying, the option of tuning out things that matter for a while is probably looking pretty good right about now, and understandably so. Which is why we're here to give you a few compelling reasons not to.

1.) First of all, we're not doing so good on the climate change front. And when I say "we," I don't mean the Obama administration or the United States as a whole — I mean us as a species. The latest International Energy Agency report indicated a poor showing for the nations of the world in terms of progress towards global climate goals. It appears we're now leaving "my kids can deal with it" territory and entering the realm of "actual consequences within our lifetime." Both major parties were disturbingly silent on the issue during the campaign, which means it is once again up to the people to make sure Obama's long overdue mention of climate change in his election night acceptance speech isn't the last we hear of it for the next four years.

2.) America is an equal nation (if you're a straight, white dude.) But there's a long way to go for equality if you're gay (or anything remotely related to livin' the rainbow life). Or from another country. Or have brown skin. Or speak Spanish. Why is it that in 2012 only a tiny percentage of Americans know what it feels like to truly have every opportunity open to them? We should've had that on lock DECADES ago.

3.) We still have millions of people locked up for hundreds of stupid reasons. America locks up more of its citizens than any other country in the world. There's still a long way to go for the nearly half a million Americans in jail right now for drug offenses, for the victims of gun violence and their families, or for the targets of racial profiling and discrimination. But we don't have to wait for the next mass shooting or Trayvon Martin case to speak out and do something about it.

4.) You know what would be even cooler than ending the war in Afghanistan in 2014? Ending it now. Also, ending the program of drone warfare that routinely kills innocent people with flying hellfire machines. We should probably (by probably, we mean definitely) close Guantanamo, say, yesterday. And defending a nation without invading its citizens' privacy can't possibly be that hard. There are still far too many people dying in our wars around the world for us to just sit back and talk about how awesome Seal Team Six is.

And the list goes on. But you get it. Democracy isn't something that happens to us every four years. It's an ongoing process, and if we truly want change, we need to actively participate in that process each and every day. In the past, far too many voters have made the mistake of looking at a victory for Team Red or Team Blue and thinking to themselves "Hey, my work here is done." But we know better now, and we know you do, too.

Let's do this.

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In 2016, Amita Swadhin, a child of two immigrant parents from India, founded Mirror Memoirs to help combat rape culture. The national storytelling and organizing project is dedicated to sharing the stories of LGBTQIA+ Black, indigenous people, and people of color who survived child sexual abuse.

"Whether or not you are a survivor, 100% of us are raised in rape culture. It's the water that we're swimming in. But just as fish don't know they are in water, because it's just the world around them that they've always been in, people (and especially those who aren't survivors) may need some help actually seeing it," they add.

"Mirror Memoirs attempts to be the dye that helps everyone understand the reality of rape culture."

Amita built the idea for Mirror Memoirs from a theater project called "Undesirable Elements: Secret Survivors" that featured their story and those of four other survivors in New York City, as well as a documentary film and educational toolkit based on the project.

"Secret Survivors had a cast that was gender, race, and age-diverse in many ways, but we had neglected to include transgender women," Amita explains. "Our goal was to help all people who want to co-create a world without child sexual abuse understand that the systems historically meant to help survivors find 'healing' and 'justice' — namely the child welfare system, policing, and prisons — are actually systems that facilitate the rape of children in oppressed communities," Amita continues. "We all have to explore tools of healing and accountability outside of these systems if we truly want to end all forms of sexual violence and rape culture."

Amita also wants Mirror Memoirs to be a place of healing for survivors that have historically been ignored or underserved by anti-violence organizations due to transphobia, homophobia, racism, xenophobia, and white supremacy.

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"Hearing survivors' stories is absolutely healing for other survivors, since child sexual abuse is a global pandemic that few people know how to talk about, let alone treat and prevent."

"Since sexual violence is an isolating event, girded by shame and stigma, understanding that you're not alone and connecting with other survivors is alchemy, transmuting isolation into intimacy and connection."

This is something that Amita knows and understands well as a survivor herself.

"My childhood included a lot of violence from my father, including rape and other forms of domestic violence," says Amita. "Mandated reporting was imposed on me when I was 13 and it was largely unhelpful since the prosecutors threatened to incarcerate my mother for 'being complicit' in the violence I experienced, even though she was also abused by my father for years."

What helped them during this time was having the support of others.

"I'm grateful to have had a loving younger sister and a few really close friends, some of whom were also surviving child sexual abuse, though we didn't know how to talk about it at the time," Amita says.

"I'm also a queer, non-binary femme person living with complex post-traumatic stress disorder, and those identities have shaped a lot of my life experiences," they continue. "I'm really lucky to have an incredible partner and network of friends and family who love me."

"These realizations put me on the path of my life's work to end this violence quite early in life," they said.

Amita wants Mirror Memoirs to help build awareness of just how pervasive rape culture is. "One in four girls and one in six boys will be raped or sexually assaulted by the age of 18," Amita explains, "and the rates are even higher for vulnerable populations, such as gender non-conforming, disabled, deaf, unhoused, and institutionalized children." By sharing their stories, they're hoping to create change.

"Listening to stories is also a powerful way to build empathy, due to the mirror neurons in people's brains. This is, in part, why the project is called Mirror Memoirs."

So far, Mirror Memoirs has created an audio archive of BIPOC LGBTQI+ child sexual abuse survivors sharing their stories of survival and resilience that includes stories from 60 survivors across 50 states. This year, they plan to record another 15 stories, specifically of transgender and nonbinary people who survived child sexual abuse in a sport-related setting, with their partner organization, Athlete Ally.

"This endeavor is in response to the more than 100 bills that have been proposed across at least 36 states in 2021 seeking to limit the rights of transgender and non-binary children to play sports and to receive gender-affirming medical care with the support of their parents and doctors," Amita says.

In 2017, Mirror Memoirs held its first gathering, which was attended by 31 people. Today, the organization is a fiscally sponsored, national nonprofit with two staff members, a board of 10 people, a leadership council of seven people, and 500 members nationally.

When the pandemic hit in 2020, they created a mutual aid fund for the LGBTQIA+ community of color and were able to raise a quarter-million dollars. They received 2,509 applications for assistance, and in the end, they decided to split the money evenly between each applicant.

While they're still using storytelling as the building block of their work, they're also engaging in policy and advocacy work, leadership development, and hosting monthly member meetings online.

For their work, Amita is one of Tory's Burch's Empowered Women. Their donation will go to Mirror Memoirs to help fund production costs for their new theater project, "Transmutation: A Ceremony," featuring four Black transgender, intersex, and non-binary women and femmes who live in California.

"I'm grateful to every single child sexual survivor who has ever disclosed their truth to me," Amita says. "I know another world is possible, and I know survivors will build it, together with all the people who love us."

To learn more about Tory Burch and Upworthy's Empowered Women program visit https://www.toryburch.com/empoweredwomen/. Nominate an inspiring woman in your community today!

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Eight years a go, a grandfather in Michigan wrote a powerful letter to his daughter after she kicked out her son out of the house for being gay. It's so perfectly written that it crops up on social media every so often.

The letter is beautiful because it's written by a man who may not be with the times, but his heart is in the right place.

It first appeared on the Facebook page FCKH8 and a representative told Gawker that the letter was given to them by Chad, the 16-year-old boy referenced in the letter.

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When a pet is admitted to a shelter it can be a traumatizing experience. Many are afraid of their new surroundings and are far from comfortable showing off their unique personalities. The problem is that's when many of them have their photos taken to appear in online searches.

Chewy, the pet retailer who has dedicated themselves to supporting shelters and rescues throughout the country, recognized the important work of a couple in Tampa, FL who have been taking professional photos of shelter pets to help get them adopted.

"If it's a photo of a scared animal, most people, subconsciously or even consciously, are going to skip over it," pet photographer Adam Goldberg says. "They can't visualize that dog in their home."

Adam realized the importance of quality shelter photos while working as a social media specialist for the Humane Society of Broward County in Fort Lauderdale, Florida.

"The photos were taken top-down so you couldn't see the size of the pet, and the flash would create these red eyes," he recalls. "Sometimes [volunteers] would shoot the photos through the chain-link fences."

That's why Adam and his wife, Mary, have spent much of their free time over the past five years photographing over 1,200 shelter animals to show off their unique personalities to potential adoptive families. The Goldbergs' wonderful work was recently profiled by Chewy in the video above entitled, "A Day in the Life of a Shelter Pet Photographer."