She’s ‘Legally Obligated’ To Let You Know You’ll Be A Lesbian After Hearing Her. I Like This Woman.

Sabrina Jalees can serve up clever punchlines and hilarious impressions, but the fact that she has a great point to make is probably why they gave her a TED Talk. (Good call on that one, TED!)

Sabrina covers so much ground in her talk, but what she had to say about coming out of the closet is worth sharing:

"So the next step was that I wanted to come out to my extended Muslim family, but my dad was always like: 'Shh, keep it a secret. Secrets are cool, man.'

And I was like, 'Dad, I'm married now. What's your five-year plan with this secret? I keep on showing up to family things with, like, my wife best friend? She loves Ramadan. Pretty soon we've got, like, a little kid best friend? Found him in a well.'

So I finally got my father's permission to come out to them. I decided to do it in an email, and it landed in 28 inboxes and got zero replies.

[...] Coming out can be like cliff jumping. You know, you look over the edge of the cliff, you just hope the water's deep enough. And what I've learned is in the relationships that matter, eventually the water's there. Today, a year later, I am proud to say I have a relationship with a lot of the family members that initially rejected me. So this is my Oprah moment. Imagine a helicopter comes down and I get in it.

No, this is my low-budget Oprah moment. It's just to urge you to be proud of the things that make you different. To live with an open mind, and other people's minds will follow. We're all different and we're all the same. People don't want to hate, they want to love."
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If you're a woman and you want to be a CEO, you should probably think about changing your name to "Jeffrey" or "Michael." Or possibly even "Michael Jeffreys" or "Jeffrey Michaels."

According to Fortune, last year, more men named Jeffrey and Michael became CEOs of America's top companies than women. A whopping total of one woman became a CEO, while two men named Jeffrey took the title, and two men named Michael moved into the C-suite as well.

The "New CEO Report" for 2018, which looks at new CEOS for the 250 largest S&P 500 companies, found that 23 people were appointed to the position of CEO. Only one of those 23 people was a woman. Michelle Gass, the new CEO of Kohl's, was the lone female on the list.

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How much of what we do is influenced by what we see on TV? When it comes to risky behavior, Netflix isn't taking any chances.

After receiving a lot of heat, the streaming platform is finally removing a controversial scenedepicting teen suicide in season one of "13 Reasons Why. The decision comes two years after the show's release after statistics reveal an uptick in teen suicide.

"As we prepare to launch season three later this summer, we've been mindful about the ongoing debate around the show. So on the advice of medical experts, including Dr. Christine Moutier, Chief Medical Officer at the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, we've decided with creator Brian Yorkey and the producers to edit the scene in which Hannah takes her own life from season one," Netflix said in a statement, per The Hollywood Reporter.

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At Trump's 'Social Media Summit' on Thursday, he bizarrely claimed Arnold Schwarzenegger had 'died' and he had witnessed said death. Wait, what?!


He didn't mean it literally - thank God. You can't be too sure! After all, he seemed to think that Frederick Douglass was still alive in February. More recently, he described a world in which the 1770s included airports. His laissez-faire approach to chronology is confusing, to say the least.

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Words matter. And they especially matter when we are talking about the safety and well-being of children.

While the #MeToo movement has shed light on sexual assault allegations that have long been swept under the rug, it has also brought to the forefront the language we use when discussing such cases. As a writer, I appreciate the importance of using varied wording, but it's vital we try to remain as accurate as possible in how we describe things.

There can be gray area in some topics, but some phrases being published by the media regarding sexual predation are not gray and need to be nixed completely—not only because they dilute the severity of the crime, but because they are simply inaccurate by definition.

One such phrase is "non-consensual sex with a minor." First of all, non-consensual sex is "rape" no matter who is involved. Second of all, most minors legally cannot consent to sex (the age of consent in the U.S. ranges by state from 16 to 18), so sex with a minor is almost always non-consensual by definition. Call it what it is—child rape or statutory rape, depending on circumstances—not "non-consensual sex."

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