She’s ‘Legally Obligated’ To Let You Know You’ll Be A Lesbian After Hearing Her. I Like This Woman.
Sabrina Jalees can serve up clever punchlines and hilarious impressions, but the fact that she has a great point to make is probably why they gave her a TED Talk. (Good call on that one, TED!)
Sabrina covers so much ground in her talk, but what she had to say about coming out of the closet is worth sharing:
"So the next step was that I wanted to come out to my extended Muslim family, but my dad was always like: 'Shh, keep it a secret. Secrets are cool, man.'
And I was like, 'Dad, I'm married now. What's your five-year plan with this secret? I keep on showing up to family things with, like, my wife best friend? She loves Ramadan. Pretty soon we've got, like, a little kid best friend? Found him in a well.'
So I finally got my father's permission to come out to them. I decided to do it in an email, and it landed in 28 inboxes and got zero replies.
[...] Coming out can be like cliff jumping. You know, you look over the edge of the cliff, you just hope the water's deep enough. And what I've learned is in the relationships that matter, eventually the water's there. Today, a year later, I am proud to say I have a relationship with a lot of the family members that initially rejected me. So this is my Oprah moment. Imagine a helicopter comes down and I get in it.
No, this is my low-budget Oprah moment. It's just to urge you to be proud of the things that make you different. To live with an open mind, and other people's minds will follow. We're all different and we're all the same. People don't want to hate, they want to love."