I read a lot of "banning words is stupid!" comments in my Facebook and Twitter feeds when Lean In launched its #BanBossy campaign. But here's the deal: The focus should be on the bigger picture, which is how many of us are using language like "bossy" in a derogatory way toward young girls who are simply asserting themselves. It may seem like a small issue to some, but the campaign is speaking to the young girls sitting in classrooms right now who are afraid to speak out. Sometimes the seemingly little things can make a big difference to young girls' confidence.So to the young girls online reading this: Beyoncé, Condoleezza Rice, and Jane Lynch have your back.