Well Being

Graphic helps identify what triggers you emotionally in relationships

Knowing your triggers helps you manage your emotions.

Graphic helps identify what triggers you emotionally in relationships
via Blessing Manifesting / Instagram

Learning your emotional triggers on your own is one thing but figuring out your triggers in a relationship adds another layer of intensity. Maybe you're afraid of being abandoned or want to feel the need to push the other person away but you don't know why.

If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. It's why artist and mental health advocate Dominee Wyrick created a graphic to help you identify what triggers you in relationships.


If you've survived trauma or live with a condition like borderline personality disorder (BPD), relationships can be difficult at first. You may find yourself suddenly angry at a friend when they decline a social invitation or feeling like you don't matter if your therapist says the wrong word in a session.

These intense reactions are usually triggered by an underlying emotion.

Your friend canceling might make you feel unloved or lonely. The trick to managing intense emotions in relationships is identifying those triggers.

Inspired by a post Wyrick saw on social media from the Gottman Institute, which focuses on relationships, she created a graphic titled "What Triggered Me" to help you get to the bottom of what you're feeling.

The graphic includes phrases like, "I felt powerless," "I felt frustrated," "I felt lonely" and "I felt forgotten" to help you identify what you might be feeling in your relationships.

By pinpointing what you're feeling in the moment, you'll be able to communicate what you need more effectively.

In addition to her triggers list, Wyrick creates a wide range of charts, graphics, workbooks and tools to help you manage your mental health and prioritize self-care.

Her work is bright and colorful on purpose to encourage people to think differently about mental health.

RELATED: The first razor designed to shave other people is great news for millions of caregivers

"It can be difficult to talk about our mental health challenges," Wyrick told The Mighty. "By sharing cute and colorful graphics I aim to make mental health topics less shameful and more shareable! The same thing goes for self-care. While self-care includes things like spa days and massages there are other aspects to it as well."

Wyrick's website, Blessing Manifesting, includes a variety of mental health- and self-care-themed worked. You can share one of Wyrick's self-care cat graphics or check out her self-care journaling prompts if you get stuck in your writing.

She also created a series of workbooks, including one for getting through a break-up and another for managing your anxiety. Wyrick said her favorite project is designed to broaden how we think of self-care, a self-love workbook and planner she has been creating for seven years.

RELATED: 12 non-threatening leadership strategies for women

"The most impactful resource I've created so far has been my Self-Love Workbook + Planner," Wyrick said. "There's a misconception around self-care being all about pampering and indulgence so it's important to talk about the other aspects like learning how to set social boundaries, discovering how to process emotions in a healthy way, and that reaching out for help sometimes can be hard yet worth it."

By creating engaging and helpful resources, such as the "What Triggered Me" list to help you identify emotional triggers in relationships, Wyrick hopes others will also be inspired to embrace self-care as an important aspect of supporting your mental health.

"I didn't fully understand how transformative self-care could be until it started to affect my anxiety and depression," Wyrick said. "Learning how to love and care for myself on every level changed my life and I hope to inspire others to love themselves just as fully."

This article was originally published by our partners at The Mighty and was written by Renee Fabian.

True

It takes a special type of person to become a nurse. The job requires a combination of energy, empathy, clear mind, oftentimes a strong stomach, and a cheerful attitude. And while people typically think of nursing in a clinical setting, some nurses are driven to work with the people that feel forgotten by society.

Keep Reading Show less

Yuri has a very important message for his co-workers.

While every person with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is different, there are some common communication traits that everyone should understand. Many with ASD process language literally and have a hard time understanding body language, social cues, exaggeration and cultural cues.

This can lead to misunderstandings that result in people with ASD appearing to be rude when it wasn't their intent. If more neurotypical people (those without ASD) better understood these communication differences, it’d be much easier for everyone to get along.

A perfect example of this problem and how to fix it was shared by Yuri, a transmasc person who goes by he/they, who posts on TikTok about having ADHD and ASD. In a post that has more than 2.3 million views, Yuri claims he was “booked for a disciplinary meeting for being a bad communicator.”

Keep Reading Show less

Courtesy of Elaine Ahn

True

The energy in a hospital can sometimes feel overwhelming, whether you’re experiencing it as a patient, visitor or employee. However, there are a few one-of-a-kind individuals like Elaine Ahn, an operating room registered nurse in Diamond Bar, California, who thrive under this type of constant pressure.

Keep Reading Show less
Photo by Greg Rosenke on Unsplash

Coming into land… what does this joystick do?

Being a pilot is arguably one of the most demanding jobs in the world. People trust you with their lives and there is virtually zero margin for error. Yet professional pilots do it with seeming ease. If you have ever had the privilege of being in a cockpit while someone’s flying, you'll know they make it appear like it’s a task anyone with any amount of video game knowledge can do. Of course, it’s not that simple. Flying a plane takes up to a year of hands-on training depending on the type of aircraft you’d like to fly and the training program you attend.

Learning to fly a plane is almost always a voluntary decision, except in this one truly noteworthy instance.

Keep Reading Show less

Emily Calandrelli was stopped by TSA agents when she tried to bring her ice packs for pumped milk through airport security.

Traveling without your baby for the first time can be tough. And if you're breastfeeding, it can be even tougher, as you have to pump milk every few hours to keep your body producing enough, to avoid an enormous amount of discomfort and to prevent risk of infection.

But for Emily Calandrelli, taking a recent work trip away from her 10-week-old son was far more challenging than it needed to be.

Calandrelli is a mom of two, an aerospace engineer and the host of the Netflix kids' science show "Emily's Wonder Lab." She was recently taking her first work trip since welcoming her second child, which included a five-hour flight from Los Angeles to Washington, D.C. Calandrelli is breastfeeding her son and had planned to pump just before boarding the plane. She brought ice packs to keep the milk from spoiling during the flight, but when she tried to go through airport security, the TSA agents refused to let her take some of her supplies.

Keep Reading Show less