What can you learn about someone from seeing their bedroom?
There are all kinds of theories about how things like color and clutter can convey everything from romantic viability to mental health and so much more. But suffice to say: Those private places where we rest our heads can sure reveal a lot.
Perhaps a better question is: What can you learn about people in general from seeing lots and lots and lots of bedrooms?
That's what French photographer John Thackwray wanted to know.
As part of that vaguely-defined group of '80s and '90s babies known as "millennials," Thackwray saw firsthand how technology was changing the world at increasingly rapid rates and began to wonder about the impact that was having on his generation all around the world. What was the relationship between internet connectivity and inequality and things like education, women's rights, and poverty?
What better way to find out than to look at people's bedrooms?
A map of everywhere that Thackwray shot a "My Room" photograph. All photos by John Thackwray/My Room Project.
Over a period of six years, Thackwray photographed and interviewed more than 1,200 young people in their bedrooms (or other sleeping spaces) in 55 different countries.
Like him, they were all millennials. Thackwray found his subjects with the help of friends, social media, and local NGOs — although he did occasionally ask random people on the street if he could photograph their bedrooms, which was just as awkward, and as dangerous, as one could imagine.
But it also helped him learn a lot along the way.
"Each person has their own story and they can talk about something that is wider and more universal. [...] such as living into the war, adoptions, the traditional values, the rural exodus, or the African unity for example. I’m trying to do a big story in a small one," he explained.
Take a look at some of Thackwray's personal favorites and see for yourself what kinds of patterns or other surprising things you notice.
1. Room #24: Joseph, 30, an artist in Paris
2. Room #192: Andreea, 24, a civil engineer in Bucharest, Romania
3. Room #205: Gullé, 29, an actress in Istanbul, Turkey
4. Room #219: Maleeq, 28, an entertainer in New York City
5. Room #256: Ryoko, 25, an IT engineer in Tokyo
6. Room #290: Yuan, 22, a seller in Dali, China
7. Room #313: Fha, 20, a farmer in Ban Sai Ngam, Thailand
8. Room #348: Asha, 17, a housewife in Bamansemilya, India
9. Room #385: Pema, 22, a Buddhism student in Kathmandu, Nepal
10. Room #416: Oleg, 24, a telecom engineer in Novosibirsk, Russia
11. Room #458: Zhalay, 18, a high school student in Zhambyl, Kazakhstan
12. Room #466: Élahé, 29, a painter in Tehran, Iran
13. Room #561: Ben, 22, a movie student in Dallas
14. Room #665: Marcello, 18, a high school student in La Paz, Bolivia
15. Room #711: Claudio, 24, an archivist in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil
16. Room #733: Fatou, 17, a seamstress in Thiès, Senegal
17. Room #807: Mohamad, 18, a high school student in Saint Catherine, Egypt
18. Room #867: Ezekiel, 22, a warrior-nomad in Echo Manyata, Kenya
19. Room #915: Josee, 22, an accounting student in Kigali, Rwanda
20. Room #1049: Osia, 18, a shepherd in Ha Selomo, Lesotho
21. Room #1093: Sabrina, 27, a kindergarten teacher in Shatila, Lebanon
These photos are all clearly similar in their bird's eye views of smiling subjects. But they have more in common than one might notice at first glance.
"Most of them share an access to Internet and social network, including Saudi young women and farmers in the African bush. This is definitely the connected generation," Thackwray said. "And something important to keep in my mind is that this is the youth who is designing the world of tomorrow."
They also all have items of personal significance that they keep close to them — which perhaps isn't surprising, but is still a moving reminder that we all fall into the same habits, and seek those small moments of happiness in surprisingly similar ways.
"Many people confuse comfort and happiness," Thackwray said. "Actually I've see more smiles in poor countries, and much more depression in developed countries."
The private places where people sleep reveal a lot about us as individuals. But viewed together, they make a powerful statement about how we all seek solace and serenity, despite our differences in race, religion, gender, career, income, and experience.
There's a reason why some people can perfectly copy accents, and others can't
Turns out, there's a neurodivergent link.
A woman in black long sleeve shirt stands in front of mirror.
Have you ever had that friend who goes on vacation for four days to London and comes back with a full-on Queen's English posh accent? "Oooh I left my brolly in the loo," they say, and you respond, "But you're from Colorado!" Well, there are reasons they (and many of us) do that, and usually it's on a pretty subconscious level.
It's called "accent mirroring," and it's actually quite common with people who are neurodivergent, particularly those with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). According Neurolaunch, the self-described "Free Mental Health Library," "Accent mirroring, also known as accent adaptation or phonetic convergence, is the tendency to unconsciously adopt the accent or speech patterns of those around us. This linguistic chameleon effect is not unique to individuals with ADHD, but it appears to be more pronounced and frequent in this population."
Essentially, when people have conversations, we're constantly "scanning" for information—not just the words we're absorbing, but the inflection and tone. "When we hear an accent, our brains automatically analyze and categorize the phonetic features, prosody, and intonation patterns," writes Neurolaunch. For most, this does result in copying the accent of the person with whom we're speaking. But those with ADHD might be more sensitive to auditory cues. This, "coupled with a reduced ability to filter out or inhibit the impulse to mimic…could potentially explain the increased tendency for accent mirroring."
While the article explains further research is needed, they distinctly state that, "Accent mirroring in individuals with ADHD often manifests as an unconscious mimicry of accents in social situations. This can range from subtle shifts in pronunciation to more noticeable changes in intonation and speech rhythm. For example, a person with ADHD might find themselves unconsciously adopting a Southern drawl when conversing with someone from Texas, even if they’ve never lived in the South themselves."
People are having their say online. On the subreddit r/ADHDWomen, a thread began: "Taking on accents is an ADHD thing?" The OP shares, "My whole life, I've picked up accents. I, myself, never noticed, but everyone around me would be like, 'Why are you talking like that??' It could be after I watched a show or movie with an accent or after I've traveled somewhere with a different accent than my 'normal.'
They continue, "Apparently, I pick it up fast, but it fades out slowly. Today... I'm scrolling Instagram, I watch a reel from a comedian couple (Darcy and Jeremy. IYKYK) about how Darcy (ADHD) picks up accents everywhere they go. It's called ADHD Mirroring??? And it's another way of masking."
(The OP is referring to Darcy Michaels and his husband Jeremy Baer, who are both touring comedians based in Canada.)
Hundreds of people on the Reddit thread alone seem to relate. One comments, "Omfg I've done this my whole life; I'll even pick up on the pauses/spaces when I'm talking to someone who is ESL—but English is my first language lol."
Sometimes, it can be a real issue for those around the chameleon. "I accidentally mimicked a waitress's weird laugh one time. As soon as she was out of earshot, my family started to reprimand me, but I was already like 'oh my god I don’t know why I did that, I feel so bad.'"
Many commenters on TikTok were shocked to find out this can be a sign of ADHD. One jokes, "Omg, yes, at a store the cashier was talking to me and she was French. She's like 'Oh are you French too? No, I'm not lol. I'm very east coast Canada."
And some people just embrace it and make it work for them. "I mirror their words or phrase! I’m 30. I realized I start calling everyone sweetie cause my manager does & I work at coffee shop."