What does it look like when someone is "ideal" looking?

I don't know that answer, but I'll let you decide what it means for you. For many she is "ideal." Her name is Gail Chovan. Gail is a mom, a wife, and a fashion designer. After listening to her talk, she's someone I'd totally like to get to know. She's confident, and she offers good advice through her lived experiences.

She's had some ups and downs and like many of us, and she feels vulnerable and sad at times.

And she finds strength in her family, and that makes her happy.

Gail recently lost her ovaries and both of her breasts.

Like many woman who've had mastectomies, Gail had to think about her "new ideal." She did not want to see her breasts go, but she is content inside of her body both with and without her breasts.

Gail's story may seem rare, but it's not. Hundreds of thousands of women have undergone the same process. In fact, post-mastectomy clothing is even growing into its own place in the fashion world.

What is ideal? Again, I don't know, but what I do know is every body is normal. Gail has some great quotes and thoughts about life, how we see ourselves, and each other. If you can't listen to her entire video, you can read the transcript below.

This article originally appeared on 09.06.17

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Poor Brody was only able to get four signatures in his yearbook, two from what appeared to be teachers and one from himself that said, “Hope you make some more friends."

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She posted about the incident on Facebook.

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