More Mom influencers are refusing to show their children on the internet and for good reason
Privacy and consent are huge factors along with the rise of AI.

Mom influencers are not showing their children on the internet
In the late 2000s there was an explosion of mommy bloggers, suddenly moms who cared for their children full time were able to have an outlet sharing relatable content about their motherhood. The bonus to this was brands wanted to give them money to promote things they were likely already using or wanting to try anyway. Nobody really knew what would come of it so more people jumped on board before the phase fizzled out.
This was still in the early days of the internet, when social media wasn't really popular yet and no one really understood the implications of exposing your children's details online. As social media sites picked up interest and people were becoming millionaires from YouTube, mommy bloggers morphed into "mommy vlogs," "family vlogs" and "momfluencers."
There was money to be made by sharing relatable content and amassing large followings. But kids don't stay kids forever and some of those very first mommy blogger kids have a lot of opinions on having their information online without their consent.
That's not all, technology is changing. Parents are becoming more cognizant of not only possibly violating their children's trust and privacy, but their safety as well. While many influencers, mom or not, attempt to be careful with details that they post, people's internet savvy has surpassed what it was in the early days.
Locations can be found from information pulled from pictures and videos posted online. One influencer had a fan show up after giving a fun apartment tour. Another influencer in Japan was located through the reflection of her address in her eyes. For fun, one influencer likes to try to figure out where people got their delicious looking food from so he can try it, all from looking at their videos and publicly available information.
Given the deeper understanding of how the internet works along with privacy and safety concerns, some parents are opting to just avoid sharing images of their children online. The content is still the same, just minus the visual of the child you hear in the background.
A few mom content creators talked to PBS about their decision to either stop showing their children online opening up a conversation about the risks of doing so.
"I was getting a lot of interaction under my videos that were just specifically pertaining to my daughter," Deja Smith tells PBS. "I always wanted to base my content around me. That's my whole point of it's centered around me, you know? So when people are starting to center it around my daughter, that's when it got uncomfortable for me."
Brittany Balyn explained to the broadcasting station, "One thing that really kind of triggered something was meeting another mother at a kids class and her, instead of coming to me first, meeting my daughter, saying her name, knowing things about her. And there was no ill intent from the mother. It just made me realize in the wrong hands, this information can be used in a very sinister fashion."
Even influencers with extremely large followings like Elyse Meyers are opting out of showing their children's faces. But parents who share images of their children online outside of their close friends and family may have other, more concerning things to worry about.
AI is prompting concern as images of child sexual assault material (CSAM) has been generated using the new technology. Taylor Swift is the most famous example of the use of AI for deep fake inappropriate images and according to Recon, middle school students from a small town in Alabama have also fallen victim. Thankfully, the law is moving much faster on keeping up with this side of AI technology as the protection of children from sexual exploitation is a solidly bipartisan issue.
The DEFIANCE Act was introduced in January 2024 by Senators Dick Drubin (D-IL), Lindsey Graham (R-SC), Amy Klobuchar (D-MN) and Josh Hawley (R-MO). The name of the act stands for Disrupt Explicit Forged Images and Non-Consensual Edits Act of 2024 and is "legislation that would hold accountable those responsible for the proliferation of nonconsensual, sexually-explicit “deepfake” images and videos," according to the press release.
So while the "momfluencers" who are now choosing not to show images of their children may still be in the minority, it seems as more parents become aware of the potential dangers, that may soon be changing. Technology is almost always several steps ahead of the average person so being vigilant and taking extra precaution to protect your children may not be a bad idea.
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There's a reason why some people can perfectly copy accents, and others can't
Turns out, there's a neurodivergent link.
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Have you ever had that friend who goes on vacation for four days to London and comes back with a full-on Queen's English posh accent? "Oooh I left my brolly in the loo," they say, and you respond, "But you're from Colorado!" Well, there are reasons they (and many of us) do that, and usually it's on a pretty subconscious level.
It's called "accent mirroring," and it's actually quite common with people who are neurodivergent, particularly those with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). According Neurolaunch, the self-described "Free Mental Health Library," "Accent mirroring, also known as accent adaptation or phonetic convergence, is the tendency to unconsciously adopt the accent or speech patterns of those around us. This linguistic chameleon effect is not unique to individuals with ADHD, but it appears to be more pronounced and frequent in this population."
Essentially, when people have conversations, we're constantly "scanning" for information—not just the words we're absorbing, but the inflection and tone. "When we hear an accent, our brains automatically analyze and categorize the phonetic features, prosody, and intonation patterns," writes Neurolaunch. For most, this does result in copying the accent of the person with whom we're speaking. But those with ADHD might be more sensitive to auditory cues. This, "coupled with a reduced ability to filter out or inhibit the impulse to mimic…could potentially explain the increased tendency for accent mirroring."
While the article explains further research is needed, they distinctly state that, "Accent mirroring in individuals with ADHD often manifests as an unconscious mimicry of accents in social situations. This can range from subtle shifts in pronunciation to more noticeable changes in intonation and speech rhythm. For example, a person with ADHD might find themselves unconsciously adopting a Southern drawl when conversing with someone from Texas, even if they’ve never lived in the South themselves."
People are having their say online. On the subreddit r/ADHDWomen, a thread began: "Taking on accents is an ADHD thing?" The OP shares, "My whole life, I've picked up accents. I, myself, never noticed, but everyone around me would be like, 'Why are you talking like that??' It could be after I watched a show or movie with an accent or after I've traveled somewhere with a different accent than my 'normal.'
They continue, "Apparently, I pick it up fast, but it fades out slowly. Today... I'm scrolling Instagram, I watch a reel from a comedian couple (Darcy and Jeremy. IYKYK) about how Darcy (ADHD) picks up accents everywhere they go. It's called ADHD Mirroring??? And it's another way of masking."
(The OP is referring to Darcy Michaels and his husband Jeremy Baer, who are both touring comedians based in Canada.)
Hundreds of people on the Reddit thread alone seem to relate. One comments, "Omfg I've done this my whole life; I'll even pick up on the pauses/spaces when I'm talking to someone who is ESL—but English is my first language lol."
Sometimes, it can be a real issue for those around the chameleon. "I accidentally mimicked a waitress's weird laugh one time. As soon as she was out of earshot, my family started to reprimand me, but I was already like 'oh my god I don’t know why I did that, I feel so bad.'"
Many commenters on TikTok were shocked to find out this can be a sign of ADHD. One jokes, "Omg, yes, at a store the cashier was talking to me and she was French. She's like 'Oh are you French too? No, I'm not lol. I'm very east coast Canada."
And some people just embrace it and make it work for them. "I mirror their words or phrase! I’m 30. I realized I start calling everyone sweetie cause my manager does & I work at coffee shop."