The default reaction to seeing yourself in the mirror should not be to recoil in horror. I'm pretty sure you're not a sludge-monster from the depths of the Black Swamp. And even if you are, you probably have sludge-monster children, and they shouldn't be taught to hate themselves for being sludge-monsters either. You don't have to love your body, but no one should be taught to hate hers by watching you hate yours. Give yourself a break!