āMary Swangin was working an otherwise ordinary Saturday at a Fort Wayne, Indiana, comic book store when a teenage girl came in looking "absolutely terrified."
Swangin tweeted the encounter later that day, explaining that when she went to help the girl, it quickly became clear that the girl needed more than just a good comic recommendation ā she needed someone to listen and understand her. As luck would have it, Swangin happened to be the perfect person for the job.
Once Swangin started talking to her, she realized the girl must have recently come out of the closet, and Swangin, having also come out around that age, immediately empathized with her.
The girl explained that she's a huge fan of Supergirl's sister Alex Danvers, who recently came out in an episode of The CW show.
In season 2 of "Supergirl," Danvers (played by Chyler Leigh) realizes that she's a lesbian and becomes romantically involved with Maggie Sawyer (played by Floriana Lima), an openly gay cop on the show ā a pairing affectionally known as "Sanvers" by fans.
GIF from "Supergirl."
"We're walking to the Super area when I ask if she watches the show. She smiles a bit and nods. Says Alex is her favorite. I mention that I'm a huge #Sanvers shipper and the poor thing just breaks down in tears. I'm trying to figure out what the hell I did to upset her. She's crying and I'm freaking out. After a minute or so, everything clicks. I'm staring down a crying baby gay. One who was having some big issues. I tell her that it was hard for me when I wanted to come out too. She finally stops crying and asks me if it gets easier," Swangin tweeted.
In the course of their conversation, the girl confessed to Swangin that she had been suicidal and that Danvers' coming out story arc was one of the only things keeping her hope alive in a difficult time.
"I was her at that age. Scared of who I was, and thought I was alone," explains Swangin over a direct message on Twitter. For Swangin, the character she was drawn to was Kate Kane as Batwoman. "She was a military cadet who was expelled under DADT [Don't Ask Don't Tell] and hit rock bottom," writes Swangin. "She had to claw her way up, and if she could do it, so could I."
Which is why she decided to share the whole story on Twitter:
@sapphicgeek After the usual Saturday rush, a teenage girl comes in. She looks absolutely terrified and when I greet her she jumped.ā Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L. (@Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L.)1480796926.0
@sapphicgeek So, I make my way over to her and ask if I can help her find anything. She quietly admits that she was looking for Supergirl.ā Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L. (@Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L.)1480797124.0
@sapphicgeek I mention that I'm a huge #Sanvers shipper and the poor thing just breaks down in tears.ā Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L. (@Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L.)1480797376.0
@sapphicgeek After a minute or so, everything clicks. I'm staring down a crying baby gay. One who was having some big issues.ā Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L. (@Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L.)1480797625.0
@sapphicgeek We sit at the coffee bar and talked for a while. She tells me that after seeing it all over Tumblr she binged SG.ā Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L. (@Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L.)1480798012.0
@sapphicgeek She tells me that she's just wanted to kill herself for so long and that she had tried but just made herself sick.ā Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L. (@Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L.)1480798151.0
@sapphicgeek She didn't want to die anymore. For the first time, she didn't want to die because she got to see Alex be amazing and be queer.ā Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L. (@Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L.)1480798447.0
@sapphicgeek She had no idea gay comic characters were a thing, but wanted to try. I tell her about Batwoman, Midnighter, and Renee Montoya.ā Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L. (@Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L.)1480798745.0
@sapphicgeek I also dug up a copy of the Adventures of Supergirl, just to get her through. Lol.ā Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L. (@Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L.)1480799076.0
@sapphicgeek I was having an internal crisis at that time, because this kid was me years ago. I was barely holding off my own tears.ā Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L. (@Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L.)1480799482.0
@sapphicgeek So, I'm out 60 bucks and I cried in the bathroom for an hour but it was damn worth it.ā Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L. (@Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L.)1480799927.0
@sapphicgeek So, @TheCWSupergirl @SupergirlStaff @chy_leigh and @florianalima the work you do means so much to us. Thank you. So, so, much.ā Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L. (@Mary - Agent of G.I.R.L.)1480800436.0
Sometimes superheroes don't wear capes. Sometimes they wear regular clothes and work in comic book stores.
$60 comics aside, this girl will know forever that she's far from alone in her coming out story.
Even Chyler Leigh, the actress who plays Danvers, responded to the tweet thread to let the girl ā and anyone else feeling alone āĀ know that she, and Supergirl, have her back.
Amazing. Please read this thread from @sapphicgeek This is what a real life #Supergirl looks like. All we need is lā¦ https://t.co/pdK2BInrqPā Chyler Leigh (@Chyler Leigh)1480819689.0
The more that marginalized groups are represented in the media, the more people will feel accepted and connected to a larger community. Like it or not, pop culture has that power, and with that power comes the obligation to be as inclusive as possible.
