How getting in trouble for skipping class may have saved this teen’s life.

As a member of the Bloods, Trinidad Ramkissoon never expected to make it to Broadway. Ramkissoon was the youngest of seven children, and while his immigrant parents worked hard to provide for them, the family still struggled, even enduring a bout of homelessness after their Cambridge, Massachusetts, apartment burned down. With his father working 16-hour…

As a member of the Bloods, Trinidad Ramkissoon never expected to make it to Broadway.

Ramkissoon was the youngest of seven children, and while his immigrant parents worked hard to provide for them, the family still struggled, even enduring a bout of homelessness after their Cambridge, Massachusetts, apartment burned down.

With his father working 16-hour days and his only brother in prison for a violent crime, Ramkissoon was on the lookout for role models — and on the streets of Cambridge, gang life was the best option he could see.


“This was a family connection for me for a long time,” he told the Boston Globe in 2012. “Sometimes I [still] wear [the gang flag] just to own that — to, like, acknowledge it.”

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By the age of 12, Ramkissoon had already been arrested, which led to a school suspension.

From the start, he wasn’t set up for success.

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It comes as no surprise, then, that Ramkissoon would be caught skipping class as a high school freshman. But it was a mistake that would change everything.

He and his friends were reprimanded by Elaine Koury, the director of the arts program at Cambridge Rindge and Latin School, who also worked with a local company called Underground Railway Theater. She was struck by how apologetic — and charismatic — Ramkissoon was and decided to recruit him into a youth theater program.

It was there that Ramkissoon began to learn how to let his guard down.

“It opened something up in me,” he says. “And even more it connected me with Vincent [Siders, one of the teaching artists], who took on a father role with me and started saying what I needed to hear — even when the words have been tough and I haven’t liked what he was saying.”

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High school theater programs are known to reduce dropout rates by giving students a shared sense of purpose and responsibility — and a reason to continue attending school.

Theater wouldn’t stop Ramkissoon from dropping out at first, but it did help bring him back.

After about a year out of school, he enrolled in Boston Day and Evening Academy, a unique program that helps students re-engage in academics on a personalized education track.

As a student there, he also discovered the plays of August Wilson through a partnership with another local theater company.

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Wilson was an African-American renowned for “Century Cycle,” a series of 10 interconnected plays that explore the black experience in America, each across a different decade of the 21st century. Ramkissoon was particularly drawn to the character of Troy Maxson in the award-winning play (and now movie) “Fences.”

“I was a high school dropout. I know what it means to feel like you’re on first base,” Ramkissoon said, referring to one of Maxson’s monologues in the play. “I thought it was amazing that [the character] had the courage to want to make it to second base — not to get home, but just to go to second base.”

Ramkissoon got involved in the August Wilson Monologue Competition, a national theater contest organized by Tony Award-winner Kenny Leon.

His performance of Troy Maxson’s moving monologue was good enough to earn him a spot in the national finals — on the set of Leon’s Broadway production of “A Raisin in the Sun,” where he got to perform for people like Denzel Washington.

“For many of our students through the city, being invisible is the way of safety and surviving,” said one teacher from Boston Day and Evening Academy. “Yet these young people [like Trinidad] … find their voices and courageously say, ‘see me and hear the truth that I have to tell.’”

“The fact that my voice gets to be heard on this platform… These are all opportunities that kids like us don’t get,” he told the Boston Globe on the eve of the finals. “I already won.”

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Ramkissoon didn’t end up winning the national competition  — but he did get to be the speaker when he graduated high school.

Students like Ramkissoon who come from lower socioeconomic statuses are more than 30% more likely to pursue a bachelor’s degree if they’ve experienced a high-arts education. They’re also twice as likely to choose a major that aligns them with a professional career, even if it’s not related to the theater.

But, perhaps most importantly, a theater education can mean the difference between a life on the streets and a life fulfilled, where talented people like Trinidad Ramkissoon can live up to their potential and become a part of something bigger than themselves.

  • Springer Spaniel accidentally reveals husband’s secret when wife takes him out for a walk
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    There’s a famous novel called The Dogs of Babel. In it, a husband is distraught after the unexplained death of his wife, and spends the entire novel trying to extract information from the only witness to her final moments: their dog. It’s heartbreaking and funny and incredibly poignant.

    However, it may not be realistic. And that’s because when you get down to it, dogs are actually quite bad at keeping secrets. One hilarious viral story shows exactly why.

    Jinky, the Springer Spaniel, has his own social media page, where his doggie parents document his beautiful life in Yorkshire, England.  

    As the photos suggest, he loves playing in the mud. Springers are active, love the great outdoors, and are known for having a lot of energy.

    Recently, Jinky’s mom took him on a walk during a loose-leash training session when he took an unexpected turn that revealed where his doggie daddy had secretly been taking him. Loose-leash training is a method trainers use to teach dogs to walk on a leash with some slack without pulling or going after other dogs.

    Here’s the big reveal that got daddy in the dog house. Jinky’s mom captioned the video:

    “POV: you walk the dog the day after your husband did and now he’s dragging you into the village pub…”

    Cover blown! 

    After Jinky turned to walk into the village pub as if he had done it a million times before, the wife thought it was hilarious and asked her husband to let her know she was on to him.

    “It was really funny,” she told Newsweek. “I sent the clip straight to him.”

    The clip was quite a hit on Instagram, where it has been seen over 5 million times and has over 200,000 likes. Many of the commenters suspected that there were many great friends and treats inside the pub, and that’s why Jinky wanted to go back.

    “My spaniel nearly breaks the door down for the pub, is v embarrassing … but they do give extremely good treats so can’t blame him wanting to go in”

    “My dog does this with yoga studios, she knows where the good pets are”

    “But mum, the ‘ave footy on telly and all the lads are there!”

    “Come on man, don’t be a snitch,” one user joked.

    Others thought the wife should have let Jinky into the pub for a pint or two.

    “Go on lad get him a **** pint”

    “I mean as long as he’s got the first round…”

    “Let the lad have a pint,” another joked.

    “My friend’s dog does this, drags me to all the pubs, even if they’re closed,” another user added.

    Dogs have a fantastic memory, but it works a little differently than ours. Their long-term memory is surprisingly good, but is heavily tied to the associations they make with people, places, and things, according to PetMD. The Instagram theories are probably correct that Jinky associates his visits to the pub with lots of treats, cuddles, and yummy smells. Research shows dogs can remember people, places, and smells for years and years — so it’s unlikely Jinky will be able to pass that pub without wanting to go in anytime soon!

    Which, of course, is great news for Dad on their walks.

    This article originally appeared two years ago ago. It has been updated.

  • Feel like someone’s gaslighting you? A 3-minute test can help you tell if they are.
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    Feel like someone’s gaslighting you? A 3-minute test can help you tell if they are.

    Gaslighting is designed to confuse, and the signs aren’t always super clear.

    The term “gaslighting” has become a popular, everyday term, but there’s still some confusion about what it means. Part of the reason is that the word has been misused so many times that the definition has become fuzzier. But another reason is that gaslighting itself is confusing for the person on the receiving end. Even if you know what gaslighting is, it’s not always clear when or if it’s happening to you.

    To provide a brief explanation, gaslighting is a manipulation technique in which someone purposefully and maliciously makes someone question their reality. Abusers and narcissists will often use gaslighting to wear down their victims’ sense of self as a means of establishing and maintaining control over them.

    In a relationship, gaslighting can look like denying that something happened and telling the person they’re crazy for how they’re remembering it. It can look like flat-out lying about something the victim knows for sure to be true. It can look like invalidating someone’s feelings and telling them they’re overreacting. It can look like being cruel and then claiming it was just a joke or making the victim believe they’re at fault for something the perpetrator did.

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    Sometimes, however, people use gaslighting to describe basic disagreements or arguing from different perspectives, like simply saying, “That’s not what happened,” or “That’s not how I remember it.” Actual gaslighting is intentional in its impact on the victim. People can have different memories of how something happened and disagree vehemently, but if a person isn’t purposely trying to alter someone’s sense of reality, it’s not gaslighting.

    Similarly, telling someone to calm down and not take things personally may not be a sensitive way to respond to a person who’s upset, but it doesn’t automatically equate to gaslighting, either. Gaslighting requires a malicious intent to manipulate and control.

    As Dr. Robin Stern, author of the book The Gaslight Effect (2007) describes gaslighting on Psychology Today:

    “Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse where one person’s psychological manipulation causes another person to question their reality. Gaslighting can happen between two people in any relationship. A gaslighter preserves his or her sense of self and power over the gaslightee, who adopts the gaslighter’s version of reality over their own.”

    Gaslighting also isn’t confined to a one-time event, but is more a pattern of behavior. The gaslighter’s repeated distortions and denials wear the victim down over time, making them doubt themselves and question their reality. That’s part of what makes it hard to spot from the inside, since someone being gaslit is likely to question whether it’s really happening.

    If you detect an unhealthy dynamic in your relationship, it’s important to seek professional help from therapist, especially if you suspect gaslighting may be at play. But having a tool to clarify what you’re experiencing and help determine what kind of help is needed can be useful.

    Psychology Today offers a 20-question online self-test to help you assess whether gaslighting might be a problem in your relationship. The test takes about three minutes and includes statements like “This person makes me feel like I’m unstable,” “This person tells me that other people are not trustworthy,” and “I choose my words carefully when I’m with this person.” After responding to each statement with one of five answers ranging from Always to Never, the test tells you how likely it is that gaslighting is an issue in that relationship based on your answers. Possible outcomes include no signs, few signs, some signs, strong signs or very strong signs of gaslighting.

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    The test results page also provides more detail about what gaslighting is, things to watch out for so you can spot it, and tips for what to do if you are being gaslit in you relationship.

    “The healthiest course of action, in most cases, is to end the relationship or significantly reduce contact,” the site states. “Leaving a gaslighting relationship is challenging but possible. Confrontation is rarely effective; instead, trust your instincts, gather evidence, reduce or cut off contact, and seek help from friends, family, or a therapist.”

    Find the Psychology Today gaslighting self-test here. (And if you need a therapist to help you with your relationship struggles, you can search by location, insurance, and specialty on the website’s “Find a Therapist” database of providers here.)

    This article originally appeared two years ago. It has been updated.

  • Parents are sick and tired of explaining why they ‘never want to bring the kids over’ for a visit
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    It’s a good news/bad news situation for parents of young kids. The good news? Everyone wants to spend time with the kids! Grandparents, aunts and uncles, friends. They all want a relationship and lots of special moments with the little ones. It’s why people assume if you have family nearby that you’re “so lucky,” and that you’re overrun with free babysitting offers. Ha! If only.

    The bad news comes down to one phrase: “When are you bringing them over?” Parents have been frustrated by the expectations of orchestrating stressful visits for generations — loading the kids in a car or on an airplane only to spend hours chasing them around in an un-baby-proofed environment and watching routines go to hell.

    Now they’re sounding off on social media and airing their grievances.

    Why visiting grandparents and other relatives is so challenging for parents

    A mom recently took to Reddit to vent about everyone in her life wanting her to “bring the kids to them.”

    “My parents live 30 mins away and always bug me about not coming to visit them,” she writes. They constantly ask, “Why don’t you bring our granddaughter to come see us?”

    The post struck a nerve with parents, who chimed in with hundreds of passionate comments. The fascinating discussion highlights a few things that make arranging visits with young kids a potential nightmare for parents.

    Grandparents’ houses are rarely childproofed

    Grandparents love their breakable decor! Ceramic doo-dads, glass vases everywhere. They can’t get enough. In fact, they like to dedicate massive pieces of furniture only to housing their fine china, which they never use, but which is also extremely valuable and sentimental.

    And while they should be able to decorate their house however they see fit (they’ve earned the right!) that doesn’t make it a good environment for toddlers and babies.

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    “Last week was the last straw, I took my daughter to my parents and of course she went EVERYWHERE! flooded their toilet, broke a vase, and tried multiple times to climb their furniture,” the Reddit mom writes.

    Parents in a foreign environment are on constant safety duty and can rarely sit down

    Let’s be honest. Sometimes these “visits” are hardly worth the effort. After all, it’s hard to get much catch up time when you’re dutifully chasing your kid around.

    “They don’t understand that my 3 yo … is absolutely wild,” writes another user in the thread. “She has no self preservation and nothing we do works. She doesn’t listen, she throws, she bites, she refuses to use the potty. It’s exhausting and then … they expect us to entertain them, when I’m trying to just keep my kid from jumping off the stairs and into an ER visit.”

    A visit at the grandparents’ house is often not a fun catch-up time for mom and dad. It’s rare to get to sit down and have an adult conversation when they’re busy trying to play Safety Police. It’s common to leave one of these visits frustrating and like it wasn’t really a visit at all. 

    Even just putting the kids in the car for a 20-minute drive is more work than it seems

    Taking the kids out of the house requires packing a bag, bringing extra clothes, loading up on snacks, etc.

    It seems easy to “pop over” but it actually absorbs the majority of the day between prep, visit, and aftermath. In the case of the OP mom and her parents that are “just” 30 minutes away, that’s an entire hour of just driving, not counting any visiting time. If anyone’s ever driven with young kids, you know that’s an eternity! For a drive like that, you need snacks, you need entertainment. You may have to clean up spills, deal with traffic tantrums, or pull over to break up a fight. It’s really a lot of work.

    Naps and routines go to hell

    Parents with babies and toddlers know all too well — there is a price to pay for taking the kids out of the house for too long.

    Chances are, the baby won’t nap in a strange environment and then you’re stuck with a cranky kid the rest of the night. You can and will try, bringing your little pack-and-play and your best intentions, but the process will be draining and probably unsuccessful.

    And then guess what? You’re totally screwed when you go home later, yay!

    Kids with special needs require even more consistency

    Kids with autism or ADHD can really struggle outside of their zone of safety. They might become severely dysregulated, have meltdowns, or engage in dangerous behaviors. This adds even more stress to parents and makes the visits even less fun and satisfying in the end.

    Explaining and mediating the generational divide

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    Why is this a conflict almost all parents can relate to?

    Is this a Boomer vs Millennials thing?

    Some experts think that generational values and traditions might play a role.

    “Many Boomers were accustomed to more traditional, hierarchical family dynamics, where visiting grandparents was a way for the younger generation to show respect,” says Caitlin Slavens, a family psychologist.

    But that’s not to say this is a new problem. I can remember my own parents driving me and my brothers over an hour to visit my grandparents seemingly every other weekend, but very few occasions where they came to visit us. It must have driven my parents nuts back then!

    Plus, it’s easy to forget that it’s hard for older people to travel, too. They may have their own issues and discomforts when it comes to being away from their home.

    “But for today’s parents, balancing careers, kids’ routines, and the demands of modern parenting is a much bigger undertaking. Grandparents might not always see how childproofing their space or making the trip themselves could make a huge difference, especially considering how travel and disruption can impact younger kids’ moods and routines,” Slavens says.

    “So yes, this divide often comes down to different expectations and life experiences, with older generations potentially not seeing the daily demands modern families face.”

    Is there any hope for parents and grandparents coming to a better understanding, or a compromise?

    “First, open conversations help bridge the divide—explain how much of a difference it makes when the kids stay in a familiar space, especially when they’re very young,” suggests Slavens.

    “Share practical details about the challenges, like childproofing concerns or travel expenses, to help grandparents see it from a parent’s perspective. You might even work together to figure out solutions, like making adjustments to create a more child-friendly space in their home or agreeing on a shared travel plan.”

    Ultimately, it’s a good thing when grandparents, friends, and other relatives want to see the kids. We all have the same goal. Just look at how incredible it can be when everything goes right:

    “It’s helpful to approach the topic with empathy, focusing on everyone’s goal: more quality time together that’s enjoyable and low-stress for everyone involved. For parents, it’s about setting boundaries that work, and for grandparents, it’s about recognizing that flexibility can really show the parents that you are … willing to make adjustments for their children and grandchildren.”

    Enjoyable, low-stress quality time is something everyone can get behind.

    This article was originally posted two years ago. It has been updated.

  • A pageant winner boldly calls out her abuser in the audience during her final interview
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    A pageant winner boldly calls out her abuser in the audience during her final interview

    “I took back my power—not just for myself, but for my dreams and everyone watching and listening.”

    Domestic violence survivors cheered on the winner of the 2024 Miss Kansas competition after she stood on stage and called out her abuser who showed up to the pageant. Before Alexis Smith was chosen from 26 participants in the state competition on June 8, 2024 to represent Kansas in the 2025 Miss America contest, she was asked to speak on stage about her Reclaimed Respect initiative.

    “My vision as the next Miss Kansas is to eliminate unhealthy and abusive relationships,” Smith said. “Matter of fact, some of you out in this audience saw me very emotional because my abuser is here today. But that’s not going to stop me from being on this Miss Kansas stage and from representing as the next Miss Kansas. Because I, and my community, deserve healthy relationships. We deserve a domestic [violence] free life.”

    Watch:

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    Respect Reclaimed is about reclaiming your power and standing firmly in it. On the night of Miss Kansas, my journey took an unexpected turn when someone I have been healing from tried to disrupt my peace. Instead of falling into silence, I chose to live out my vision for a better world. I took back my power—not just for myself, but for my dreams and everyone watching and listening. This isn’t about shunning others; it’s about turning our pain into purpose and channeling it in a way that unifies and uplifts. I’m ready to use my story, tools, and resources to end unhealthy relationships in all forms. My voice and advocacy will empower everyone to reclaim their own power in their own unique way. I might be small in stature, but I stand tall in strength, purpose, and power with hopes of inspiring others to do the same. #fyp #abuse #miss #misskansas #missamerica #pageant #awareness #me #relationship #respect #tiktok

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    In the video shared on TikTok, the freshly-crowned Miss Kansas wrote, “Respect Reclaimed is about reclaiming your power and standing firmly in it. On the night of Miss Kansas, my journey took an unexpected turn when someone I have been healing from tried to disrupt my peace. Instead of falling into silence, I chose to live out my vision for a better world. I took back my power—not just for myself, but for my dreams and everyone watching and listening.”

    She wrote that it wasn’t about shunning anyone, but about “turning our pain into purpose and channeling it in a way that unifies and uplifts.”

    “I’m ready to use my story, tools, and resources to end unhealthy relationships in all forms,” she wrote. “My voice and advocacy will empower everyone to reclaim their own power in their own unique way.

    I might be small in stature, but I stand tall in strength, purpose, and power with hopes of inspiring others to do the same.”

    People who have experienced abuse themselves applauded her advocacy.

    “As a victim of domestic violence I applaud you for speaking out!! I watched this 10 times!! I’m still getting bullied by his parents even with a no contact order. I plan on helping women like us as well.”

    “WHAT A WOMAN. This is absolutely incredible. From one survivor to another, I am SO SO proud of you for reclaiming this moment for yourself. You will do amazing things “

    “Incredibly brave of you. You just made a statement for all women. I appreciate you so much.”

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    “As an old survivor…I’m so damn PROUD OF YOU!! Love, A Stranger “

    “We got to see you ACTIVELY showcasing your platform LIVE IN PERSON! My utmost respect to you Miss Alexis. This is beyond any crown, I cannot wait to watch your journey. As someone who grew up around domestic violence, I have chills watching you. You will always have a supporter in me. You absolutely ate that. “

    “YAS GIRL! As a fellow survivor, you are an inspiration and I’m so proud of you for using your voice and showing your strength.”

    “”I experienced emotional and psychological abuse for a very long time,” Smith shared with KMUW, “and it was recognizing that I was losing control over my own personal emotions, trying to save the emotions of someone else, and so to be able to save myself. I recognize that we don’t want to both go down together. I need to be able to leave this relationship. That way, I’m able to pursue a future, because you just never know what can happen to your partner or happen to yourself when you’re in those relationships.”

    According to The Wichita Eagle, Smith uses her 19 years of experience as a ventriloquist to teach kids about healthy relationships with puppets as part of her Reclaimed Respect initiative. She also works full-time as a cardiothoracic ICU nurse. And she went on to compete at Miss America 2025 in Orlando in January, where Miss Alabama Abbie Stockard was crowned.

    This article originally appeared two years ago. It has been updated.

  • Happiness expert shares the 7 habits of people who are happy and healthy later in life
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    No one wants to be unhappy or unhealthy at any age. But as we get older, health and happiness arguably play an outsized role in our quality of life. Sketchy health habits we may have gotten away with when we were younger catch up to us later in life. And what once made us feel happy may no longer be an option as we age.

    So how do we stay both happy and healthy throughout our lives?

    Dr. Arthur C. Brooks, a social scientist at Harvard University and a leading researcher on happiness, has studied this question. Thanks largely to the 85-year-long Harvard Study of Adult Development, the longest-running study on happiness, we can better understand which qualities and habits are associated with being both happy and healthy as people age.

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    Measuring health and happiness basically separates people into four quadrants. In an interview with Dr. Rhonda Patrick, Brooks shared that people who fall into the happy-healthy (or happy-well) quadrant tend to share seven habits in common.

    The four physical habits associated with happiness and health

    The first four have to do with our physical health and are ones that most of us might guess.

    “Diet, exercise, smoking, and drinking,” Brooks said, adding that happy-well people are “very moderate” when it comes to substance use. “None of them were addicts, or if they had trouble with it, they quit,” he said.

    Brooks shared that he smoked into his 20s and, even then, knew it was stupid. “But I still think about it every day,” he said. “I do. I love nicotine. I got addicted to it when I was 13 and quit when I was 26. And it was a relationship for me, right? But the whole point is no, because lifelong smokers have a 7 in 10 chance of dying from a smoking-related illness, and that is an unhappy way to go. You’re not going to be healthy and you’re not going to be happy dying of emphysema.”

    As far as diet goes, Brooks said the happy-healthy people eat a “normal, healthy” diet. And for exercise, it’s really about moderation and the obvious things like walking and staying active.

    “If you don’t exercise at all, you’re not happy and well,” he said. “And if you’re an exercise maniac, you actually will do some mechanical ill to your body, but actually you’re probably not happy and some compensation is going on.”

    Three psychological and emotional habits associated with health and happiness

    The other three habits aren’t quite as obvious.

    “No. 1 is continuing to learn,” Brooks said. “And people who are life-long learners, they are healthier and they are happier. That’s usually a lot of reading, but curiosity is how that comes about. It’s just really really important.”

    The next is having a technique for dealing with setbacks.

    “You’ve got to get good at it,” he said. “You need skill at dealing with life’s problems. And if you don’t get good at it, you’re going to be bad when things actually crop up. And so maybe you’re good at therapy. Maybe you’re good at prayer, maybe you’re good at meditation. Maybe you’re really good at journaling. But all the happy and well people have their way to deal with it and they’re highly skilled in doing it.”

    And the seventh habit, which Brooks calls “the biggie,” is simply love. “People who have the best lives, who are happy and well when they’re older, they have a strong marriage and/or close friendships,” he said. “That’s it. There’s no substitute for love. Happiness is love, full stop.”

    Brooks shared other thoughts about the value in boredom and the pitfalls of social comparison in this segment, but the whole interview is filled with fascinating insights into what makes people happy and healthy.

    You can watch the full Found My Fitness episode featuring Dr. Arthur C. Brooks here:

  • She reached out to her husband after a ‘rough week.’ His loving response was everything.
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    She reached out to her husband after a ‘rough week.’ His loving response was everything.

    “Marry him. I don’t care if you’re already married, marry him again.”

    An ideal partner isn’t just someone you can celebrate with. They’re the person who makes the bad times feel just a bit better. One husband is getting a lot of praise online for doing just that. 

    In a Reddit post titled “My Husband’s Response to My Really Bad Week Made Everything Just a Bit Better,” a wife explained how she had really been having a “rough week” on multiple levels. Not only had she faced a setback at work, but she also “accidentally ripped off a fingernail.” Talk about adding injury to insult.

    Needing to vent, she texted her husband, saying, “I think I’m having a bad day 😕 like, I’ll be fine. I just wish I could curl up on the couch and feel all the feelings and also nap for three days 😅.”

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    What followed was a text that had viewers saying she should “marry” her husband all over again. 

    From the start, her husband both validated her emotional state and reminded her that it was temporary.

    “My sweetheart,” his message began. “I know you’re going through a lot, both emotionally and physically with how draining the last week has been. I also know you’re resilient as heck and you’ll be fine, but that doesn’t make those feelings right now any less real.”

    That alone earned him major brownie points, but then he sweetened the deal—literally, with ice cream. 

    “But we’ve got a pint of Ben and Jerry’s at home…and a lot of Critical Role to catch up on,” he wrote, referencing one of their beloved television shows. “I’m all for the curling up part of your plan.” 

    Then he asked, “In the meantime, want to meet up for lunch today?”

    It’s easy to see why this response won over so many. It was emotionally aware, attentive, and generous, leaving many to call him a “certified keeper.”

    “The ‘curling up’ part of the plan is elite support honestly.”

    “Man, when someone is happily willing to just slow down with you for a bit and not find more and more reasons to be busy or not available, that’s someone that really sees you and wants to be there for you and with you. It makes it feel like it’s ok to take care of you instead of feeling guilty and like you’re just lazy.”

    Marry him. I don’t care if you’re already married, marry him again.”

    “This is what love should look like.”

    “Having a love like that is truly a blessing!” 

    On a wholesome note, it also inspired many others to share some love for their equally attentive and supportive partners. 

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    “I have one like this and it’s nearly impossible to describe to other people how very much I love and appreciate him without looking like I’m a boasting a*****. I’m just so glad you have one too.”

    “Same. I wish I could clone mine and give him out as gifts to friends I love, because I wish everyone could experience this kind of amazing love and support. It is sadly so so rare.”

    “Legends like this are one in a million!! I’m lucky enough to have one too.”

    This is what everyday romance looks like: rough weeks turned into cozy date nights, solitary struggles made more manageable by knowing someone is in your corner, and challenges transformed into opportunities for connection. It’s not necessarily the kind of romance we see in the movies, but it’s magical nonetheless.

  • Mom says changing one communication rule in her home made it more peaceful
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    Mom says changing one communication rule in her home made it more peaceful

    “Our home is the dress rehearsal, and the world is the stage.”

    Some believe responding “What?” when your name is called is rude. Parents are often fond of responding to a child saying “what” with a good old-fashioned “Don’t ‘what’ me.” Others aren’t too bothered by it and think a more polite response is a bit too formal.

    Angelica Daniell, 38, currently stationed at Fort Bragg in North Carolina, says teaching her children to respond to their names with “Yes?” has brought more peace to her home. She was raised in a “What?” family, and changing the rule in her home has made a big difference.

    Are you in a “what” family or a “yes” family?

    “When you guys were growing up, and your parents would call you, and they’d say your name, would you say, ‘What?’ Because I grew up like, ‘what?’ You know?” she began her TikTok video.

    “Ever since my kids could talk, my husband taught our kids to say ‘yes.’ So if we call Ray, he’d say, ‘Yes.’ And then he needs to come—like, yes, I hear you, but I’m coming. You don’t stay in that place and talk to you from downstairs, and you’re upstairs,” she said. “I don’t know, I just thought that’s such a special and precious thing. And I love when I call my kids, and they say, ‘Yes?’ and they come to me. I can’t tell you what that does for me.”

    The big problem people have with using “what” as a response to a family member calling their name is that it makes them sound annoyed. It’s like they mean to ask, “What are you bugging me about?” or “What do you want?” By contrast, saying “yes” signals that you’re welcoming the request or favor and are ready to help.

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    Not everyone agrees. “I definitely grew up as a ‘what’ type of family. I still don’t see anything wrong with it. I’m not sure why people find it disrespectful,” one person said in the comments.

    “My mom always said, ‘Don’t what me,’” another added.

    “Even hearing ‘what’ even from other adults.. feels disrespectful,” said another.

    The discussion also pointed to a bigger issue. “Genuine question for adults currently in/raised in a ‘what’ household… do y’all answer ‘what’ at work when someone calls you!?” a commenter asked.

    Daniell believes that when children are polite in the home, it follows them throughout their lives. “Our home is the dress rehearsal, and the world is the stage,” she told Newsweek. “If our kids say ‘yes’ to us, our hope is they will also say it to their teachers, friends [and] coaches.” 

    Napoleon Hill, author of the mega-bestseller Think and Grow Rich, believed that it’s important for parents to be polite to their children as well.

    “Politeness to others is usually born out of respect for the individual, which you learn as a child,” Hill wrote. “When you are treated with respect by other members of the family, you learn to respect them as well. The self-esteem that results from being recognized as a unique person by the people who matter most to you helps you develop the confidence necessary to succeed later in life. Politeness and consideration for others are habits that—once developed—usually stay with you for a lifetime.”

    When people debate whether it’s better to live in a “what” or a “yes” family, it’s important to recognize that manners start at home. Even though the “what” folks may think the “yes” folks are being too formal, the habits formed at home will help define a child’s life in the real world. Finding manners in school or the office is a lot harder when you never had them at home. 

  • She worked as a janitor at Yale hospital for 10 years. Now, she’s returning as a doctor.
    Shay Taylor-Allen worked as a janitor at Yale New Haven Hospital before becoming a doctor there.Photo credit: Shay Taylor-Allen/GoFundMe

    Shay Taylor-Allen’s dreams came true on March 20. The Howard University College of Medicine student was matched into the anesthesiology residency program at Yale New Haven Hospital—the same hospital where she was born and later worked as a janitor for 10 years.

    In an emotional clip on TikTok, Taylor-Allen shared the moment she found out she had been matched at Yale. “#1 match and so happy to come back not as a janitor this time but as a doctor!” she captioned the video.

    She told ABC News, “I was jumping up and down to the point I [thought] the concrete was going to break!”

    Taylor-Allen’s mom inspires her journey

    Back when she was just 18, Taylor-Allen took a job as a janitor at Yale New Haven Hospital to earn extra money. At the time, she didn’t know she would later pursue a career as a doctor.

    “I was working full-time as a janitor because around that time also my mom got sick, and she was in and out of hospital,” Taylor-Allen told People. “They couldn’t figure out what was going on with her.”

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    #1 match and so happy to come back not as a janitor this time but as a doctor! #matchday #medstudent #doctorsoftiktok

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    After years on the job, Taylor-Allen leveraged a connection she had made with the hospital’s CEO—whose trash she once emptied—according to ABC News. She reached out directly to ask for help with her mother’s care and finding a diagnosis.

    “She got back to me literally within that same day because she knew me from cleaning her room,” Taylor-Allen said. “She was like, ‘We’re going to do whatever we can to help your mom. Let me figure out what’s going on with the team.’ And within the next week, they figured out that she had a vocal cord dysfunction and everything completely changed. It was just night and day.”

    She decides to become a doctor herself

    The experience led her to pursue a career as a doctor and future patient advocate. “I started Googling how to become a doctor and I just went on from there,” she added.

    Taylor-Allen was accepted into Howard University College of Medicine in 2021 and is set to graduate in May 2026.

    “I could have never imagined that I would be going back to the same hospital that I was not only born at, but a janitor at, to be a doctor,” she told ABC News.

    To support Taylor-Allen in her journey, check out her GoFundMe.

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