Black men tell you all about dating outside of their race.

"And I was like, you think that's a compliment?"

Black men tell you all about dating outside of their race.

Dating is the worst.

You're at your most vulnerable, sensitive, and defensive. You're equal parts brutal and fragile. It's crazy-making.

Now let's add a whole other dimension.

Say you're out at a bar, having a great time. Then someone comes up to you. This person is very attractive and is way, way into you. You start hitting it off, making jokes. One thing leads to another. The person leans in and says: "I'm not usually into your type, but you're different than the rest."

Sounds pretty odd, right? It's like that person is saying, "Usually I think people like you are hideous, but somehow you've proved me wrong."

They might have meant it as a compliment, but isn't it really a hint of something very troubling?

The guys in this video give some eye-opening explainers on how it feels to receive that kind of comment (and much, much more):

Have you ever experienced one of these "insults in disguise" while dating? Share your story! Who knows ... it might just make dating the not-worst.


If the past year has taught us nothing else, it's that sending love out into the world through selfless acts of kindness can have a positive ripple effect on people and communities. People all over the United States seemed to have gotten the message — 71% of those surveyed by the World Giving Index helped a stranger in need in 2020. A nonprofit survey found 90% helped others by running errands, calling, texting and sending care packages. Many people needed a boost last year in one way or another and obliging good neighbors heeded the call over and over again — and continue to make a positive impact through their actions in this new year.

Upworthy and P&G Good Everyday wanted to help keep kindness going strong, so they partnered up to create the Lead with Love Fund. The fund awards do-gooders in communities around the country with grants to help them continue on with their unique missions. Hundreds of nominations came pouring in and five winners were selected based on three criteria: the impact of action, uniqueness, and "Upworthy-ness" of their story.

Here's a look at the five winners:

Edith Ornelas, co-creator of Mariposas Collective in Memphis, Tenn.

Edith Ornelas has a deep-rooted connection to the asylum-seeking immigrant families she brings food and supplies to families in Memphis, Tenn. She was born in Jalisco, Mexico, and immigrated to the United States when she was 7 years old with her parents and sister. Edith grew up in Chicago, then moved to Memphis in 2016, where she quickly realized how few community programs existed for immigrants. Two years later, she helped create Mariposas Collective, which initially aimed to help families who had just been released from detention centers and were seeking asylum. The collective started out small but has since grown to approximately 400 volunteers.