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When people say his TV show is racist, he’s like, ‘I don’t know if you know any of us.’

It's okay if you think his family's entertaining. He agrees.

"Fresh Off the Boat" is one of the hottest shows on TV right now.

The show is based on the real-life story of celebrity chef Eddie Huang, whose parents immigrated to the U.S. from Taiwan.


The breakout star of the show is Constance Wu, who plays Eddie's mom Jessica.

Jessica is quickly becoming a fan favorite, but some people are concerned that her portrayal, and its thick accent, is offensive.

While Huang has mixed feelings about how honestly the show captures the harsher, more complicated aspects of his family's experiences, he's got no patience for people who think it's racist.

Huang's not claiming to speak for every family's experience. Just his own.

When he hears Jessica speak on the show... Well. He hears his actual mother — a complicated, real person with opinions, flaws, goals ... and yes, an accent.

Other viewers take issue with the character of Eddie.

Specifically, his love of hip-hop.

Well, about that...

The two things people always make fun of me for is "you're fat and you think you're black." — Eddie Huang

What bothers Huang the most about these complaints is that they try to define what an Asian family is allowed to be in America.

And he's having none of it.

He's encouraging the shedding of stereotypes — positive and negative — that prevent people from viewing Asian-Americans as whole human beings.

It's natural to worry that a humorous look at a group of people might give outsiders the opportunity to develop fresh, harmful stereotypes.

But if you always worry about that, how can you tell anyone's story without filtering out everything that makes them unique? And in this case, so relatable and funny.

Really, it's a discussion worth having.

Here's Huang's take on it:


We all know that Americans pay more for healthcare than every other country in the world. But how much more?

According an American expatriate who shared the story of his ER visit in a Taiwanese hospital, Americans are being taken to the cleaners when we go to the doctor. We live in a country that claims to be the greatest in the world, but where an emergency trip to the hospital can easily bankrupt someone.

Kevin Bozeat had that fact in mind when he fell ill while living in Taiwan and needed to go to the hospital. He didn't have insurance and he had no idea how much it was going to cost him. He shared the experience in a now-viral Facebook post he called "The Horrors of Socialized Medicine: A first hand experience."

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With permission from Sarah Cooper.

Men and the feels.


Note: This an excerpt is from Sarah Cooper's book, How to Be Successful Without Hurting Men's Feelings.

In this fast-paced business world, female leaders need to make sure they're not perceived as pushy, aggressive, or competent.

One way to do that is to alter your leadership style to account for the fragile male ego.

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Family

Man lists 8 not fun, but very important things you need to start doing as an adult.

"Welcome to being an adult. Maybe you weren't told this by your parents, but this is through my trial and error."

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8 things you should be doing as an adult. Spoiler alert—none of them are fun.

Who among us hasn’t come into full adulthood wishing they had known certain things that could have made life so so so much easier in the long run? Choices that, if made, ultimately would have been much better for our well-being…not to mention our wallets.

But then again that is all part of growing older and (hopefully) wiser. However there is something to be said about getting advice from those who’ve been there, rather than learning the hard way every single time.

Thankfully, a man who goes by @johnfluenzer on TikTok has a great list of things young people should start doing once they become adults. Are any of his suggestions fun, cool or trendy? Not at all. But they are most definitely accurate. Just ask any 30+-year-olds who wished they had done at least four of these things.
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Joy

Her boyfriend asked her to draw a comic about their relationship. Hilarity ensued.

The series combines humor and playful drawings with spot-on depictions of the intense familiarity that long-standing coupledom often brings.

All images by Catana Chetwynd


"It was all his idea."

An offhand suggestion from her boyfriend of two years coupled with her own lifelong love of comic strips like "Calvin and Hobbes" and "Get Fuzzy" gave 22-year-old Catana Chetwynd the push she needed to start drawing an illustrated series about long-term relationships.

Specifically, her own relationship.

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Identity

My wife surprised her coworkers when she came out as trans. Then they surprised her.

She was ready for one reaction but was greeted with a beautiful response.

All photos by Amanda Jette, used with permission.

Zoe comes out to her coworkers.


Society, pay attention. This is important.

My wife, Zoe, is transgender. She came out to us — the kids and me — last summer and then slowly spread her beautiful feminine wings with extended family, friends, and neighbors.

A little coming out here, a little coming out there — you know how it is.

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It started with a simple, sincere question from a mother of an 11-year-old boy.

An anonymous mother posted a question to Quora, a website where people can ask questions and other people can answer them. This mother wrote:

How do I tell my wonderful 11 year old son, (in a way that won't tear him down), that the way he has started talking to me (disrespectfully) makes me not want to be around him (I've already told him the bad attitude is unacceptable)?

It's a familiar scenario for those of us who have raised kids into the teen years. Our sweet, snuggly little kids turn into moody middle schoolers seemingly overnight, and sometimes we're left reeling trying to figure out how to handle their sensitive-yet-insensitive selves.


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