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Millennial mom shares why Boomer grandparents are the worst with grandkids.

Every generation has taken a different approach to parenting. From Gen X to Boomers to Millennials, each generation has brought up their kids different than the generation before. And for Millennial parents with Boomer grandparents, some have a bone to pick.

TikTokker Phyllis (@motherphyllis) pointed out three of the biggest reasons why she thinks Millennial parents (like herself) think that Boomer grandparents are *the worst* when it comes to helping take care of their grandchildren. The first reason she is calling out Boomer grandparents is because in her experience, they don't really want to help out if needed, and throw a "you need to raise your own kids" argument if asked for help.

"I’m not raising your kids. They’re your kids take care of them yourself even though trust us we don’t want you raising our kids. No thanks 🤣," she captioned the post.

@motherphyllis

I’m not raising your kids. They’re your kids take care of them yourself even though trust us we don’t want you raising our kids. No thanks 🤣 #fyp #fypシ #grandparents #millennial #boomer #mom #sahm #fypage #honest #truth #foryoupage #fyppppppppppppppppppppppp

In the video, she says, "Because y'all couldn't wait to have grandbabies. You were so excited about it. And then when they get here, you *maybe* stop up at the hospital, *maybe* stop over to the house. You stay for 45 minutes, snap a picture, upload it to Facebook and then you gotta get home to the dogs. And then you might not see the baby again until their first birthday."

She goes on to add that Boomer grandparents also like to add in that they are "not raising your kids. 'They're your kids. I raised my kids. Sorry but I'm not doing that'," she says, adding that when Boomer grandparents are asked to do a small favor like watch their grandkids for a doctor's appointment, they use that argument. "Us Millennials are like, 'Wait! We weren't asking you to raise them. We were asking you to keep them for maybe like, an hour or two."

Her second reason why she thinks Boomer grandparents are the worst is that they are irritated/agitated easily with grandkids. "Honestly boomers are so agitated with the grandkids. My grandma would never 🤣😩," she captioned the video.

@motherphyllis

Honestly boomers are so agitated with the grandkids. My grandma would never 🤣😩 #fyp #fypシ #foryoupage #fyppppppppppppppppppppppp #mom #millennial #momlife #boomer #generations

She goes on to explain that Boomer grandparents do "weird sh*t", like "they won't see the kids for a year, maybe because they're long distance, and they come around and are instantly irritated with the kids. They can't even stand it," she says. "It's like, 'Quit talking! Quit jumping! Quit doing that!' It's like, what are they doing? They're just eating Goldfish. 'The crunching is giving me a headache, it's just annoying.'"

Then she gives another scenario, with Boomer grandparents who live 45 minutes away who "act like it's a total inconvenience to see the kids like, I don't know, once a month or once a week even...Boomers be so irritated with the grandkids these days."

@motherphyllis

Just calling to chat about myself… #fyp #fypシ #foryoupage #fyppppppppppppppppppppppp #sahm #mom #millennial #boomer #generations #funny #honest #truth

Finally, she shares that the third reason she thinks Boomer grandparents are the worst is because when they call to check in, they only want to chat about themselves. "Just calling to chat about myself…," she captioned the post.

"You think they're calling to see how you're doing or how the kids are doing or something of that matter besides themselves, but nope...they're just calling to talk about themselves," she says. "They want to talk about the new beach house, they want to tell you about how they're furnishing it. They might start the conversation with, 'How's everyone doing?', and then when you start to explain how everyone's doing they're like, 'Okay well that's enough! I didn't want the whole story. I was just calling to talk about myself.'"

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PR expert gives a fascinating insider breakdown of what goes into a celebrity public apology

"The words that you use need to rebuild and not create more agitation online."

PR expert gives breakdown of celebrity public apologies

At this point in time we're all pretty familiar with celebrity public apologies. Some big name makes a misstep, people ensure the celebrity sees their outrage and within a few days there's a public apology that feels sincere...sort of.

Then there are those that clearly either didn't listen to their PR people or decided to side step them. Those particular PR-less apologies feel disastrous and typically makes things much worse.

The truth of the matter is, people generally aren't taught how to apologize appropriately. Sure as little kids our grown-ups would say things like, "tell your brother you're sorry," sometimes guiding us to name what we are sorry for but that's about it. As you age your infractions evolve from apologizing for hitting your sibling with a toy to something more egregious like accidentally offending an entire community.

But with social media making viral celebrities every day, regular people are given the same opportunity to need to apologize publicly - minus the PR team. That's where Molly McPherson steps in.


Nothing about issuing a public apology sounds in any way delightful. It sounds terrifying, nausea inducing and honestly a bit humiliating to have messed up in such a public way that calls for public atonement. Since most regular folks on social media don't have PR people whispering in their ear, McPherson uses the recent public apology of an influencer to breakdown where they went wrong and how you should handle it. The video should probably be saved on every influencers phone, sort of like a "break in case of emergency" type of thing.

Lunden and Olivia who had been deemed #RelationshipGoals by their social media followers recently got into hot water after Lunden's old tweets surfaced showing frequent use of a racial slur. The firestorm swirled while they were on their honeymoon leaving them a PR disaster to return to. McPherson had a lot to say about what it's like to be in the room with the person needing to apologize before diving into the apology video the duo released.

"There's going to be a lot of denial and a lot of anger." McPherson says before pointing to Olivia's face on a green screen behind her. "This face, that's the face of anger. They're angry and they should be because someone curiously timed the drop on Reddit, those tweets, to hit the algorithm just as they were headed off to their honeymoon."

She goes on to explain that in many cases, the people she's working with either know who leaked the information or have a good idea of who leaked it. This is likely why there seems to be a disconnect between visible emotions and what's being said.

@mollybmcpherson

How to Craft a Social Media Apology: Lessons from Lunden + Olivia. Ever wonder how to gracefully deliver an online apology? A brief masterclass breaking down the do’s and dont’s of crafting an apology that works. Mistakes happen, but knowing how to correct them helps with the bounce back. #lundenandolivia #lundenstallings #tweets #crisiscommunication #prlady #pr #prcrisis #socialmedia #fyp #socialmediacrisis #influencer #greenscreen #masterclass

"It's not just understanding what you're going through but also understanding what the aggrieved parties are going through," McPherson states.

The purpose of understanding these initial parts of the apology process and implementing them is to set yourself up to regain trust later. McPherson then goes further in breaking down Lunden's apology step-by-step and providing further expert feedback on what to do differently. The entire video is eye opening on the behind the scenes dissection of the "perfect apology."

Couple investigating noises accidentally awaken a bear.

It's not uncommon to hear something outside of your house, especially if it's close to trash pick-up day. Raccoons and stray cats treat an overflowing trashcan like a holiday dinner, and even if you weren't sure if you heard something or not, the torn trash bags confirm your suspicion.

This is a pretty universal experience in America, so hearing a rustle under your house typically conjures images of a trash panda that got stuck. But for one family, the noises weren't coming from a raccoon at all. In a viral video on TikTok that has over 10 million views, a couple is outside looking for the source of the noises they've been hearing. The woman is filming at a fairly safe distance, while the guy investigates their crawl space.

Everything is going well. They hear what sounds like a hiss and with relief exclaim that it's a raccoon.

They were wrong. Like pee your pants, everyone for themselves, wrong.


As the man tries to move whatever is blocking access to the crawl space, he stands back and sprays something into the small opening. Another man is seen holding a broom to help shoo the little mask-wearing friend on its way, when the panel that closes the area starts to move, right before it busts open from the inside.

In that moment, the man forgot he had a wife and a friend. He ran as he yelled, "Oh, it's a bear!"

If you live in an area that frequently has bear sightings, it's important to remember that bears like to hide in dark cool places, like crawl spaces or under a pool deck. So secure your crawl spaces and other areas around your home that might make a bear think it's a good place to take a long nap. No one wants to explain why they hurdled their kids and stiff-armed their grandma to get back into their house.

Watch the video below:

@badthingswithfunnypeople

Didn’t see that coming!😂🤣#fyp #Fyp #fypシ #foryou #fyppppppppppppppppppppppp #viral #viralvideo #viraltiktok #foryoupage #funny #funnyvideos #funnyvideo #funnyvideos😂 #funnyy #ohno #bear #bears #bearsoftiktok #uhoh #uhohspaghettios #uhohgottago #crazy #crazystory4

No more cleaning mattresses. Mom has a hack for stomach bugs.

Whether you have kids or plan to have kids in the future, you should know that you're going to clean up someone else's bodily fluids and waste. It's just a fact of caring for small children. In fact, you can almost guarantee that you're going to clean up vomit that exits a tiny person's body with more force than you knew possible. Is it fun? No. Does it help that kids are cute and just want cuddles when they're not feeling well? Absolutely.

There are all kinds of tips and tricks to make your little ones feel better during cootie season, which can sometimes feel year-round. Some people swear by homeopathic preventions and remedies while others stock up on vitamin C. But outside of Pedialyte popsicles and keeping a bucket nearby hoping for the best, there's not really a trick to surviving the dreaded stomach bug.

Except, maybe there is. A mom who runs the TikTok account @lovedthishatedthat may have just cracked the code to surviving those long nights when your kid has a stomach bug: an inflatable bed.


What?! This is absolutely genius. In the video, the mom gives a quick look-see at her child's bedroom, complete with a perfectly made bed and a small inflatable bed on the floor.

"Ok, so if your kids have caught every single illness/stomach bug known to man this month, this is for you," she says as she pans down to the floor. "This is an inflatable mattress that we got on Amazon."

She explains that the bed was purchased for travel, but they haven't gone anywhere. Instead, they use it as "the puke bed," alternating it from their kid's room to the floor in their room. Quite honestly, I'm impressed as a veteran mom who has yet to hack the stomach bug roulette. (You know, the game of "Will they make it to the bathroom or will I be up at 2 AM washing sheets and scrubbing mattresses?")

This could be a game-changer for parents. You can line the bed with old towels or sheets, and if your little one doesn't make it out of the bed to revisit their dinner, you can wipe it down with a disinfectant wipe. Easy peasy lemon squeezy.

If there's a shortage of inflatable mattresses on Amazon, it's because of the video below.

@lovedthishatedthat

How many illnesses can my kids catch in a month? The limit does not exist. The puke bed is saving me this sick season. #sickbaby #sickkids #parentsoftiktok #sickness #parenting101 #parentingtips