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She used to sneak out to see him or hide away to phone him in privacy. Now she's miserable.

A lot of us can probably relate.

Once upon a time, Zaeemah was madly in love with her husband.

Before they were married, she'd find ways to sneak in time with him or hide in her parents' cupboard so she could have a discreet phone call with him.

10 years later, you would hardly know they once loved each other like that. She cries all the time, for herself and for her children. How did they get to this point?


The stresses of refugee life transformed their world. They fled to Jordan, but it is illegal for her husband to work there. He has begun taking out his anger on his wife and children, hitting them all. It has damaged not only her sense of safety but her respect for him as a partner — and now she's pregnant again.

They struggle as it is, and a fourth child will not make it any easier. She has tried to find a way to end the pregnancy, but there are no safe paths to legal abortion care in Jordan.

So what is the solution? For Zaeemah and many like her, the future is uncertain. But in places like Syria, Sierra Leone, and many countries in between, International Rescue Committee is looking to reach men through the people they often respect and listen to most — other men.

In Kenya, Andrew Kusimba is one of those men reaching out to his community to call for an end to domestic violence. After workshopping the concepts with IRC and Rural Women Peace Link, he now brings the message to other men in his city. Knowing that Andrew and other men are committing themselves to being part of the solution offers a glimpse of a hopeful future for women.

“I learned that men stand to gain from a violence-free environment. It challenged and inspired me to believe in myself as a man who can be a part of the solution to ending violence against women in my community, rather than be a perpetrator."

“My wife told me that the next time a similar workshop takes place in our county, I should tell her in advance so that she can alert her friends, who can tell their husbands to attend."

This story first appeared on the author's Medium and is reprinted here with permission.

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This article originally appeared on 04.14.17


I was promoted a few weeks ago, which was great. I got a lot of nice notes from friends, family, customers, partners, and random strangers, which was exciting.

But it wasn't long until a note came in saying, “Everyone knows you got the position because you're a girl." In spite of having a great week at a great company with great people whom I love, that still stung, because it's not the first time I've heard it.

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This blind chef wore a body cam to show how she prepares dazzling dishes.

How do blind people cook? This "Masterchef" winner leans into her senses.

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This article originally appeared on 05.26.17


There is one question chef Christine Ha fields more than any other.

But it's got nothing to do with being a "Masterchef" champion, New York Times bestselling author, and acclaimed TV host and cooking instructor.

The question: "How do you cook while blind?"

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This article originally appeared on 04.09.16


It's hard to truly describe the amazing bond between dads and their daughters.

Being a dad is an amazing job no matter the gender of the tiny humans we're raising. But there's something unique about the bond between fathers and daughters.

Most dads know what it's like to struggle with braiding hair, but we also know that bonding time provides immense value to our daughters. In fact, studies have shown that women with actively involved fathers are more confident and more successful in school and business.

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This article originally appeared on 04.22.15


Gordon Ramsay is not exactly known for being nice.

Or patient.

Or nurturing.

On his competition show "Hell's Kitchen," he belittles cooks who can't keep up. If people come to him with their problems, he berates them. If someone is struggling to get something right in the kitchen, he curses them out.

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This article originally appeared on 01.27.20


From 1940 to 1945, an estimated 1.3 million people were deported to Auschwitz, the largest complex of Nazi concentration camps. More than four out of five of those people—at least 1.1 million people—were murdered there.

On January 27, 1945, Soviet forces liberated the final prisoners from these camps—7,000 people, most of whom were sick or dying. Those of us with a decent public education are familiar with at least a few names of Nazi extermination facilities—Auschwitz, Dachau, Bergen-Belsen—but these are merely a few of the thousands (yes, thousands) of concentration camps, sub camps, and ghettos spread across Europe where Jews and other targets of Hitler's regime were persecuted, tortured, and killed by the millions.

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What I realized about feminism after my male friend was disgusted by tampons at a party.

"After all these years, my friend has probably forgotten, but I never have."

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It’s okay men. You don’t have to be afraid.

This article originally appeared on 08.12.16


Years ago, a friend went to a party, and something bothered him enough to rant to me about it later.

And it bothered me that he was so incensed about it, but I couldn't put my finger on why. It seemed so petty for him to be upset, and even more so for me to be annoyed with him.

Recently, something reminded me of that scenario, and it made more sense. I'll explain.

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