You can't be surprised when a night salsa dancing turns spicy.
If you've been there, you know a new baby tends to get in the way of romance. The tiny, cute, attention-hoarding time sinks are a delight but leave little room for anything else. So when a new bundle of joy arrives, and you do manage to find the time and energy for a date, you want it to be an amazing night of reconnecting with your loved one. It isn't hard to imagine, then, how one man might have felt on one such precious evening escape when he returned from the bathroom to find his wife dancing with another man. Still, the Reddit community, where he shared his story, was not at all in agreement on whether or not he was in the right.
"My wife and I went salsa dancing for date night the other night, something we rarely get to do since having our first baby 18 months ago," the man, who goes by Quirky_Bad_499 shared in the r/AITAH subreddit. With no nearby family to help with childcare, he and his wife only managed to eke out two dates since their newborn's arrival.
"We were having a great time, but at one point, I went to the washroom. I was gone for no more than five minutes, and when I came back, I saw her on the dance floor, dancing with another man."
“I threw my hands up, like, ‘What the hell?’” he wrote. Instead of stopping, his wife smiled and continued dancing.
Feeling hurt, the man approached the other dancer, who immediately apologized and left. But this gesture upset his wife even more. She called him controlling and spent the rest of the night sitting at the bar instead of dancing with her husband. “I told her I thought it was disrespectful to dance with someone else while on a date with me, but she wasn’t having it,” he shared.
The husband also clarified that the venue wasn’t a typical salsa hall where it’s common to switch partners. Instead, it was a club setting where people generally stick with the person they arrived with. In his view, his wife could have declined the dance, especially since it was a special evening for just the two of them.
As is the tradition in the /AITAH subreddit, the man asked if he was the asshole in this story.
Community weighs in on what date nights mean for couples
The story resonated with many, particularly parents who understood the importance of rare nights out as a couple. Some argued that date nights are crucial for rebuilding a relationship after having kids, and they supported the husband's feelings of disappointment. One commenter, tkydo, pointed out that "the point of date nights is supposed to be reconnecting romantically. Being focused on time with eachother [sic]." For parents, these moments are a chance to focus on each other and reignite the bond that can get lost in the busy day-to-day of parenting.
"The point of date nights is supposed to be reconnecting romantically. Being focused on time with eachother."
— tkdyo | Reddit
Several commenters believed that her behavior signaled deeper issues in their relationship, suggesting a conversation was needed to address how they both felt about the evening.
Reactions to the wife’s behavior spark further debate
Some users pointed out that the reaction would likely have been very different if the roles were reversed. They argued that if a wife had walked out of the bathroom and found her husband dancing with another woman, the reaction would have been far more critical of the man. This double standard led to a broader discussion about boundaries in relationships and how both partners must communicate and respect each other's feelings, especially on special occasions like date nights.
"I’d consider a deeper conversation with her on why she thought it was ok and how would she feel if the situation was reversed."
— Living_Impressive | Reddit
On the other hand, a few commenters noted that in salsa culture, it’s common to switch partners and dance with others, making the wife’s actions more understandable. However, these users still felt that the real issue wasn’t the dance but how she handled the situation afterward. Instead of acknowledging her husband's feelings, she chose to disengage, which many saw as the real problem.
User Odd_Mud_8178, who took the time to point out that she herself is a woman, shared her two cents. "And then she went and ruined the rest of the night by acting like the victim and just sitting drinking at the bar. Like ma’am, why can’t you apologize and go dance with YOUR HUSBAND!?"
"Like ma’am, why can’t you apologize and go dance with YOUR HUSBAND!? ETA: Woman here."
— Odd_Mud_8178 | Reddit
Communication and boundaries are key
The overwhelming consensus was that communication is crucial in situations like these. For couples—especially those who are new parents—having clear expectations and boundaries on rare nights out is important. While some defended the wife's choice to dance with someone else as harmless, most agreed that her reaction to her husband's feelings created unnecessary tension.
Many commenters encouraged the couple to have an open conversation about their needs and expectations during future nights out. As they navigate parenting challenges, it's essential to find ways to reconnect and ensure both partners feel valued and respected during their limited time together.
At the end of the day, this story highlights the need for understanding, communication, and empathy in any relationship, especially when it comes to maintaining a connection in the demanding early years of parenthood. And maybe, if you don't want a spicy evening, avoid salsa dancing.
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An Irish woman went to the doctor for a routine eye exam. She left with bright neon green eyes.
It's not easy seeing green.
Did she get superpowers?
Going to the eye doctor can be a hassle and a pain. It's not just the routine issues and inconveniences that come along when making a doctor appointment, but sometimes the various devices being used to check your eyes' health feel invasive and uncomfortable. But at least at the end of the appointment, most of us don't look like we're turning into The Incredible Hulk. That wasn't the case for one Irish woman.
Photographer Margerita B. Wargola was just going in for a routine eye exam at the hospital but ended up leaving with her eyes a shocking, bright neon green.
At the doctor's office, the nurse practitioner was prepping Wargola for a test with a machine that Wargola had experienced before. Before the test started, Wargola presumed the nurse had dropped some saline into her eyes, as they were feeling dry. After she blinked, everything went yellow.
Wargola and the nurse initially panicked. Neither knew what was going on as Wargola suddenly had yellow vision and radioactive-looking green eyes. After the initial shock, both realized the issue: the nurse forgot to ask Wargola to remove her contact lenses before putting contrast drops in her eyes for the exam. Wargola and the nurse quickly removed the lenses from her eyes and washed them thoroughly with saline. Fortunately, Wargola's eyes were unharmed. Unfortunately, her contacts were permanently stained and she didn't bring a spare pair.
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Since she has poor vision, Wargola was forced to drive herself home after the eye exam wearing the neon-green contact lenses that make her look like a member of the Green Lantern Corps. She couldn't help but laugh at her predicament and recorded a video explaining it all on social media. Since then, her video has sparked a couple Reddit threads and collected a bunch of comments on Instagram:
“But the REAL question is: do you now have X-Ray vision?”
“You can just say you're a superhero.”
“I would make a few stops on the way home just to freak some people out!”
“I would have lived it up! Grab a coffee, do grocery shopping, walk around a shopping center.”
“This one would pair well with that girl who ate something with turmeric with her invisalign on and walked around Paris smiling at people with seemingly BRIGHT YELLOW TEETH.”
“I would save those for fancy special occasions! WOW!”
“Every time I'd stop I'd turn slowly and stare at the person in the car next to me.”
“Keep them. Tell people what to do. They’ll do your bidding.”
In a follow-up Instagram video, Wargola showed her followers that she was safe at home with normal eyes, showing that the damaged contact lenses were so stained that they turned the saline solution in her contacts case into a bright Gatorade yellow. She wasn't mad at the nurse and, in fact, plans on keeping the lenses to wear on St. Patrick's Day or some other special occasion.
While no harm was done and a good laugh was had, it's still best for doctors, nurses, and patients alike to double-check and ask or tell if contact lenses are being worn before each eye test. If not, there might be more than ultra-green eyes to worry about.