Before you share an MLK quote, understand that you’re quoting a proud political radical

Every year around Martin Luther King, Jr. Day, social media feeds get flooded with memes bearing Dr. King’s face and words—snapshots of the man with a snippet of his message, wrapped neatly in a square package, easily digested by the masses. We get bombarded by the “not by the color of their skin, but by…

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Every year around Martin Luther King, Jr. Day, social media feeds get flooded with memes bearing Dr. King’s face and words—snapshots of the man with a snippet of his message, wrapped neatly in a square package, easily digested by the masses.

We get bombarded by the “not by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character” quote we all know and love. We get hit with “darkness cannot drive out darkness” memes that keep us feeling cozy in our comfort zones. We see “I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear,” over and over, and nod our heads in placid agreement. People of all stripes share MLK quotes that give us all the warm fuzzies, and we think, “Wow, what an amazing, peaceful, universally beloved man.”


But there are two big problems with such memes.

1) Sharing one or two sentences drastically dilutes Dr. King’s legacy, turning his core message into a socially neutral, politically palatable, let’s-all-hold-hands-and-skip-together philosophy—one that challenges no one and betrays the radical reality of his work.

2) Such a whitewashing of King’s message enables people to share his words in a way that actually upholds or overlooks the very injustices he was trying to fight.

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For example, I’ve seen people say that people should be “judged not by the color of their skin but by the content of their character” as an argument against Affirmative Action-type programs. I’ve seen people say “hate cannot drive out hate” while mischaracterizing a calling out of racial injustice as hatred. I’ve seen people quote King’s “I have a dream” speech while asserting that talking about racism just perpetuates racism—an assertion King simply didn’t abide.

People frequently twist King’s words to fit their worldview, and in doing so, dishonor the man and his fight for true justice. The radical nature of his message seems to have been watered down into what people think he was—a gentle leader who advocated a non-violent approach to fighting for equality—instead of what he actually was—a passionate disrupter who constantly pushed boundaries and pulled no punches when calling out injustices of all kinds. Many Americans today would undoubtedly call him a “race-baiter” at best, and an “extremist thug” at worst.

We mustn’t forget that King was considered a radical and a criminal, by both the U.S. government and much of mainstream America, during his lifetime. At the height of his activism, nearly two-thirds of Americans had an unfavorable opinion of King. And that disapproval didn’t just come from the openly racist South. After being hit with a rock at a desegregation march in Chicago, King remarked, “I have seen many demonstrations in the South, but I have never seen anything so hostile and so hateful as I’ve seen here today.”

King had strong words for those of us who think we’re not racist. When I first read King’s Letter from a Birmingham Jail—his response to a group of clergymen who agreed with his antiracism sentiments but criticized his “extreme” methods—I was blown away. I remember thinking that my education about Dr. King had been sorely lacking, that I’d never learned how much criticism he’d faced and how frequently he was considered an extremist by white moderates, and that I had no idea how he had directly challenged white Americans of goodwill. (In other words, people like me.)

The least we can do to honor King’s life is to go beyond popular one-liners, take the time to read one of his most important works, and to meditate on the challenges he presented to us. You can read King’s Letter from a Birmingham Jail in its entirety here, but I’ve included some excerpts below that highlight some of its main points.

For example, this passage explaining how peaceful activism doesn’t mean avoiding tension and crisis:

“You may well ask: ‘Why direct action? Why sit ins, marches and so forth? Isn’t negotiation a better path?’ You are quite right in calling for negotiation. Indeed, this is the very purpose of direct action. Nonviolent direct action seeks to create such a crisis and foster such a tension that a community which has constantly refused to negotiate is forced to confront the issue. It seeks so to dramatize the issue that it can no longer be ignored. My citing the creation of tension as part of the work of the nonviolent resister may sound rather shocking. But I must confess that I am not afraid of the word ‘tension.’ I have earnestly opposed violent tension, but there is a type of constructive, nonviolent tension which is necessary for growth. Just as Socrates felt that it was necessary to create a tension in the mind so that individuals could rise from the bondage of myths and half truths to the unfettered realm of creative analysis and objective appraisal, so must we see the need for nonviolent gadflies to create the kind of tension in society that will help men rise from the dark depths of prejudice and racism to the majestic heights of understanding and brotherhood. The purpose of our direct action program is to create a situation so crisis packed that it will inevitably open the door to negotiation.”

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Or this passage about the “timing” of taking action against injustice:

“We know through painful experience that freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed. Frankly, I have yet to engage in a direct action campaign that was ‘well timed’ in the view of those who have not suffered unduly from the disease of segregation. For years now I have heard the word ‘Wait!’ It rings in the ear of every Negro with piercing familiarity. This ‘Wait’ has almost always meant ‘Never.’ We must come to see, with one of our distinguished jurists, that ‘justice too long delayed is justice denied.’”

Many people who praise Dr. King would have called him a criminal if he were still alive today, as he advocated breaking unjust laws:

“One may well ask: ‘How can you advocate breaking some laws and obeying others?’ The answer lies in the fact that there are two types of laws: just and unjust. I would be the first to advocate obeying just laws. One has not only a legal but a moral responsibility to obey just laws. Conversely, one has a moral responsibility to disobey unjust laws. I would agree with St. Augustine that ‘an unjust law is no law at all.’”

He added that a just law can sometimes be applied unjustly, and that how one violates a law matters:

“Sometimes a law is just on its face and unjust in its application. For instance, I have been arrested on a charge of parading without a permit. Now, there is nothing wrong in having an ordinance which requires a permit for a parade. But such an ordinance becomes unjust when it is used to maintain segregation and to deny citizens the First-Amendment privilege of peaceful assembly and protest.

I hope you are able to see the distinction I am trying to point out. In no sense do I advocate evading or defying the law, as would the rabid segregationist. That would lead to anarchy. One who breaks an unjust law must do so openly, lovingly, and with a willingness to accept the penalty. I submit that an individual who breaks a law that conscience tells him is unjust, and who willingly accepts the penalty of imprisonment in order to arouse the conscience of the community over its injustice, is in reality expressing the highest respect for law.”

In addition, he pointed out that some of history’s most unjust acts were legal, while some of the most righteous acts were illegal:

“We should never forget that everything Adolf Hitler did in Germany was ‘legal’ and everything the Hungarian freedom fighters did in Hungary was ‘illegal.’ It was ‘illegal’ to aid and comfort a Jew in Hitler’s Germany. Even so, I am sure that, had I lived in Germany at the time, I would have aided and comforted my Jewish brothers. If today I lived in a Communist country where certain principles dear to the Christian faith are suppressed, I would openly advocate disobeying that country’s antireligious laws.”

One of the most important points King makes in this letter is how white moderates who put law and order over justice do as much, if not more, harm to the cause of justice as outright racists:

“I must confess that over the past few years I have been gravely disappointed with the white moderate. I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro’s great stumbling block in his stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen’s Counciler or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate, who is more devoted to ‘order’ than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says: ‘I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I cannot agree with your methods of direct action’; who paternalistically believes he can set the timetable for another man’s freedom; who lives by a mythical concept of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait for a ‘more convenient season.’ Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. Lukewarm acceptance is much more bewildering than outright rejection.

I had hoped that the white moderate would understand that law and order exist for the purpose of establishing justice and that when they fail in this purpose they become the dangerously structured dams that block the flow of social progress. I had hoped that the white moderate would understand that the present tension in the South is a necessary phase of the transition from an obnoxious negative peace, in which the Negro passively accepted his unjust plight, to a substantive and positive peace, in which all men will respect the dignity and worth of human personality. Actually, we who engage in nonviolent direct action are not the creators of tension. We merely bring to the surface the hidden tension that is already alive. We bring it out in the open, where it can be seen and dealt with. Like a boil that can never be cured so long as it is covered up but must be opened with all its ugliness to the natural medicines of air and light, injustice must be exposed, with all the tension its exposure creates, to the light of human conscience and the air of national opinion before it can be cured.”

How about this bit about “the appalling silence of the good people”?

“We will have to repent in this generation not merely for the hateful words and actions of the bad people but for the appalling silence of the good people. Human progress never rolls in on wheels of inevitability; it comes through the tireless efforts of men willing to be co workers with God, and without this hard work, time itself becomes an ally of the forces of social stagnation. We must use time creatively, in the knowledge that the time is always ripe to do right.”

And finally, some words about law and order and the role of the police in “preventing violence”:

“Before closing I feel impelled to mention one other point in your statement that has troubled me profoundly. You warmly commended the Birmingham police force for keeping ‘order’ and ‘preventing violence.’ I doubt that you would have so warmly commended the police force if you had seen its dogs sinking their teeth into unarmed, nonviolent Negroes. I doubt that you would so quickly commend the policemen if you were to observe their ugly and inhumane treatment of Negroes here in the city jail; if you were to watch them push and curse old Negro women and young Negro girls; if you were to see them slap and kick old Negro men and young boys; if you were to observe them, as they did on two occasions, refuse to give us food because we wanted to sing our grace together. I cannot join you in your praise of the Birmingham police department…

I wish you had commended the Negro sit inners and demonstrators of Birmingham for their sublime courage, their willingness to suffer and their amazing discipline in the midst of great provocation. One day the South will recognize its real heroes.”

As King’s daughter, Bernice, pointed out on his birthday, January 15, “The authentic, comprehensive King makes power uneasy & privilege unhinged.” Such a description makes one wonder how Dr. King would be regarded today if he had lived and continued to directly call out the racial injustice that still exists in our society.

  • The science behind ‘soft socializing’: Why Gen Z is ditching bars
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    The science behind ‘soft socializing’: Why Gen Z is ditching bars

    Imagine a puzzle competition held at a friend’s house, jigsaw pieces flying in a flurry. Or a beautiful Saturday morning flower-arranging class, the air fragrant with seasonal blooms, with no pressure to make small talk. What about a nature walk through local woods, where chatting with new people can happen naturally—or not? These enticing options…

    Imagine a puzzle competition held at a friend’s house, jigsaw pieces flying in a flurry. Or a beautiful Saturday morning flower-arranging class, the air fragrant with seasonal blooms, with no pressure to make small talk. What about a nature walk through local woods, where chatting with new people can happen naturally—or not?

    These enticing options are part of a growing trend: “soft socializing.” It represents a significant cultural shift in how we connect, prioritizing shared activities over forced conversation and social performance.

    @eventbrite

    Small talk is out. Shared hobbies are in. From reading hours to coffee tastings, we’re building rituals around what we love. It’s not introversion, it’s intentional gathering! How are you soft socializing this year? #intentional #rituals #hobbies #community

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    Eventbrite’s 2026 Social Study surveyed 4,051 adults in the United States and the United Kingdom. It found that for today’s younger generation, socializing isn’t the main event: 58% call it “somewhat important, but don’t want it to be the focus.” Another 45% prefer control over when and how they interact, and 41% want the option to observe without small talk. Past generations might have labeled this “antisocial,” but Eventbrite calls it a redefinition of what it means to be social today.

    What soft socializing actually means

    Soft socializing means low-pressure, activity-based events where connection happens as a secondary outcome, not the main goal. The idea draws from parallel play, where children play side by side, absorbed in their own activities and comforted by others’ presence. Adults apparently feel the same way.

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    Soft socializing provides a comfortable, neutral environment for activities. Photo credit: Canva

    Parallel play, as researchers describe it, provides “a comforting middle ground where participants can enjoy the presence of others without the demands of conversation, leading to reduced stress and anxiety.”

    In tea-tasting ceremonies or silent book clubs—popular, low-key socializing activities—participants share space and experience without the need for ongoing conversation. The activity itself serves as the anchor for connection. Conversation may unfold naturally, or it may not—both are absolutely welcome.

    That relaxed structure is key. Traditional socializing pressures people to perform: be charming, interesting, engaged, and instantly happy. Low-pressure socializing shifts the focus from individuals to the activity.

    The numbers behind the shift

    Data from Eventbrite’s survey paints a striking picture of where people are showing up. Over the last two years, low-pressure events have seen remarkable growth:

    • Flower-arranging events saw a 282% increase in attendance.
    • Puzzle competitions grew by 151% in the U.S.
    • Music bingo attendance increased by 149%.
    • Caffeine tastings (like coffee, tea, and matcha) became more popular, with an 80% increase in events and a 49% rise in attendance.
    • Silent events, such as silent discos and book clubs, saw a 14% increase in attendance.

    These numbers show a desire for creative, low-pressure events that connect people with less effort.

    The psychology of being present together

    There’s solid science behind why soft socializing works so well.

    A 2024 study in the journal Motivation and Emotion found that “intrinsically motivated silence” promotes greater closeness and satisfaction. It suggests that, in the right context, quiet that comes from emotional connection—not social obligation—can connect people more effectively than conversation.

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    Shared activities increase oxytocin in the brain. Photo credit: Canva

    Similarly, research shows that shared activities increase oxytocin, a hormone linked to trust, empathy, and bonding. Stanford University researchers have found that oxytocin plays a significant role in social interactions, including everyday ones. Soft socializing activities—walking, crafting, or cooking—involve people moving and creating together, an effective way to build connections.

    For those with mental health challenges, soft socializing can be vital. Nearly two-thirds (65%) of Gen Z reported expe­ri­enc­ing at least one men­tal health prob­lem in the past two years—especially with social anxiety—making the rise of soft socializing particularly important. When the activity takes center stage, social pressure drops.

    Soft socializing and the loneliness epidemic

    This discussion takes place against the backdrop of a loneliness crisis that the former U.S. Surgeon General has declared a national epidemic. In a 2023 advisory, Dr. Vivek Murthy warned that a lack of social connection carries health risks comparable to smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day. Those risks include a 29% increased chance of heart disease, a 32% increased risk of stroke, and a 50% greater likelihood of developing dementia among socially isolated older adults.

    Loneliness statistics are startling. In a 2025 survey, about half of American adults reported feeling lonely. A 2024 poll found that among those aged 18–34, 30% said they feel lonely daily or several times a week. According to Murthy’s advisory, between 2003 and 2020 average monthly time spent alone increased by 24 hours, while time spent with friends dropped by 20 hours.

    But here’s a startling twist: despite these feelings of disconnection, a 2026 Eventbrite study found that 79% of adults aged 18–35 want to attend more live events. As Eventbrite CEO Julia Hartz put it, “The most social generation in history is redefining what it means to be truly present.”

    This signals a shift: people aren’t withdrawing—they’re craving meaningful bonds and growing disenchanted with traditional ways of forming them.

    How to plan a soft socializing hang

    Are you willing to give it a try? Here’s what you need to plan a successful soft socializing hang:

    • Lead with activity

    The key rule? Build the event around a shared activity, not conversation. Think craft nights, puzzle competitions, guided hikes, silent book clubs, board games, or cooking classes. Any format that gives people something to engage with—besides each other—works. The activity itself takes the conversational pressure off attendees.

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    Flower arrangement classes can be a great soft socializing option. Photo credit: Canva
    • Choose the right venue

    The right setting sets the mood before the event even begins. Think neighborhood cafés, local breweries, bookshops, and parks—venues with a naturally relaxed atmosphere.

    • Interaction should be optional

    Plan activities for small groups of three to five people. Try arranging seats side by side instead of face to face to ease the pressure of direct conversation. You can offer conversation starters, but don’t make them mandatory. Let people arrive and settle in at their own pace.

    • On the day of the event, make your welcome warm but brief

    Have materials ready so attendees can start immediately, avoiding awkward waits. Keep background music low and ambient. Close with a natural social moment—such as a snack or a group photo—for those who want to linger.

    Rebuilding connection on your terms

    As one 31-year-old told Business Insider, “We have to retrain ourselves to be social again.” Let soft socializing help. It lowers the stakes, removes social pressure, and allows connections to develop organically. Say goodbye to forced icebreakers.

    The former surgeon general urges us to prioritize social connection as we would any major public health issue. While soft socializing is not a complete solution to loneliness, it marks a vital first step—shifting our approach from forced interaction to genuine, low-pressure connection through shared activities.

  • Woman shares amazing 5-year singing transformation and obliterates the concept of ‘I can’t sing’
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    Woman shares amazing 5-year singing transformation and obliterates the concept of ‘I can’t sing’

    Some people can sing, and some people can’t. A beautiful voice is a gift and you either have one or you don’t. At least, that’s always been the prevailing wisdom. However, like many pieces of prevailing wisdom, it may not be correct. According to NBC News, an estimated 10–30% of people believe they “can’t sing”…

    Some people can sing, and some people can’t. A beautiful voice is a gift and you either have one or you don’t. At least, that’s always been the prevailing wisdom. However, like many pieces of prevailing wisdom, it may not be correct.

    According to NBC News, an estimated 10–30% of people believe they “can’t sing” because they have difficulty carrying a tune. However, further research cited by CNET shows that only a minuscule 2% of the population physically lacks the skills needed to perform a song well. These individuals may not have the required control over their vocal cords, or may have difficulty hearing pitch accurately. Everyone else simply lacks the training and practice.

    Learn how to sing

    A woman who goes by Jeska fm on social media recently took to YouTube to show her own proof that it’s possible to learn how to sing.

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    Becoming even a half-decent singer can take years of practice. Photo credit: Canva

    In a video titled “MY SINGING TRANSFORMATION: no autotune or reverb, just real progress,” Jeska begins with a few words of inspiration:

    “I just wanted to start this off by saying that I’m only making this video because I wish I had seen something like this when I was a little girl who wanted to sing. It might have changed the entire course of my life. If you’re someone who dreams of being able to sing but just doesn’t think it’s possible for you, this video is for you.”

    Jeska explains that she did choir in high school and learned a few fundamentals. But while she never thought she was a bad singer per se, she didn’t believe she had the talent to sing the way she wanted to as a songwriter.

    “There were things about my voice that I hated,” Jeska says.

    However, the one thing she had going for her was a refusal to give up. She begins the transformation video by showing clips of her early attempts dating back to 2016. Even in 2021, when she was just beginning to train and practice her vocals intentionally, her singing is flat and lacks power and consistency. Her voice strains to produce volume and hit high notes, and it regularly cracks during attempts at vocal runs.

    Jeska explains how she spent years working with teachers, doing self-instruction and exercises, and practicing and performing. The final clip of her performing five years later is almost unrecognizable. The power, accuracy, and clarity are all improved several times over. All Jeska’s hard work had paid off, and she was far better positioned to perform her own music and pursue singing in other ways.

    The full transformation has to be heard to be appreciated:

    So many kids grow up dreaming of becoming singers or musicians

    However, we as humans tend to drastically underestimate how much time and work it takes to succeed.

    The “planning fallacy” is a psychological concept that suggests people often have an overly optimistic view of what it will take to complete a task. In practice, it’s one thing to pick up a guitar and realize just how difficult it is to maneuver your fingers with the accuracy and speed required. But when it comes to the original instrument—our voice—many people assume that if they have talent, it will present itself naturally.

    “Singing’s actually very different, as everyone can produce a sound,” researcher Sean Hutchins tells The Guardian. “Even if people don’t learn the technique behind how to sing, you use your voice for the purpose of speech so everyone’s reasonably adept at controlling it. The key thing which separates good singers from bad isn’t so much natural talent but getting the training to use it in the right way.”

    He also adds that the limiting belief people develop when their first attempts aren’t magically perfect—“I can’t sing”—causes many to give up on their dream. Hutchins says the worst singers he’s studied are often the ones least likely to practice.

    “My main takeaway from this whole singing journey is that it’s never too late to pursue your interests,” Jeska says at the end of her video. “You never know how far you’ll go.”

    She’s also brutally honest about how much work it really takes to perfect your vocal control. For most people, it takes years. The idea that someone can become a brilliant professional singer overnight with no training and little practice is mostly false. But so is the idea that none of us is capable of honing at least a karaoke-worthy voice, and maybe far more than that.

  • Gen Xers and Boomers share what air travel was like in the ’80s and ’90s. The differences are wild.
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    Gen Xers and Boomers share what air travel was like in the ’80s and ’90s. The differences are wild.

    From smoking sections on planes to saying goodbye at the gate, so much has changed.

    Airline travel has always been an evolving business, from the first commercial flight in 1914 to the thousands of passenger flights in the air at any given moment in 2026. Those of us who lived through 9/11 as adults remember a very different time in air travel.

    On Reddit, someone asked Gen Xers and Baby Boomers what airline travel was like in the ’80s and ’90s, with specific questions like: “What was security like? What was the actual process of getting plane tickets before the internet? Was it hard to arrange rides with pay phones only? Did people smoke on planes? Did you use pay phones to call your loved ones back home and let them know you landed safe?”

    The folks on the r/AskOldPeople subreddit delivered answers, and it’s a trip down memory lane for those who lived it.

    Buying flights was a whole process before the Internet

    Today, we hop on Google Flights to compare ticket prices and book flights on airline websites right from the comfort of our couches in a matter of minutes. Back in the day, we didn’t have that luxury. Booking a flight meant making a long phone call or hoofing it to an office or kiosk, then receiving a paper ticket you had to keep track of.

    “You could either call and buy a ticket over the phone or buy it at the airport.”

    “Got a paper ticket. Mailed or picked up at airport or airline kiosks/offices at various locations (shopping malls, etc).”

    “Tickets were really precious things and you had to take care of them. They were hand-written even.”

    “Tickets were purchased directly from the airline or through a travel agent. Prior to the internet, it was much harder to research and book trips, so you hired an agency to help you.”

    “We would use travel agents in our town. You would tell them where and when and they would give you your options.  You. Would pick up your tickets at their office. They could set up your hotel and car rental.”

    Airport security was much less of a process

    It’s hard to imagine a time when you didn’t even have to show your ID to hop on a plane, but it happened. Many security measures were implemented after 9/11, though they had already been increasing incrementally before then.

    “Airport security was just a metal detector that you walked through that anyone could walk through and go to the gate to send off or greet the departing/arriving passengers. No need to be a ticked passenger, no ID check, or anything.”

    “I travelled a lot for work from about 1993 onwards. I remember flying Sydney to Chicago with a full tool case as hand luggage, a Gerber pocket knife in my pocket, no scanners hardly any security, just turn up and get on the plane.”

    “Security was easy. Just toss your stuff in a basket and go through a metal detector. I used to fly with a swiss army knife and it was no problem at all.”

    “Security was basic and relaxed. You really could run madly through the airport to catch a flight and nobody cared. You passed through a metal detector arch that was tuned way down to avoid false positives. It wouldn’t notice car keys, pens, or even small pocket knives (I once realized I had accidentally tested that).”

    “In about 1988, I bought a round trip airline ticket from NY to San Francisco off of Craigslist from a Chinese guy with a very Chinese name. Now I am as white as Wonder Bread, but I used that ticket and no one batted an eye. No ID. No questions. Nothing.”

    Smoking on airplanes was allowed through the ’80s

    Kids today can’t fathom how ubiquitous smoking was before the mid-’90s. Smoking wasn’t banned on domestic flights until 1990, and it wasn’t banned on international flights until 2000. Before that, planes had “smoking sections” with nothing separating them from the rest of the cabin. Ridiculous in hindsight, but that’s how it was.

    “Yes you could smoke on a plane…there was smoking and non smoking sections.”

    “The first time I went on a plane (mid 80s) was with my mom to go visit family, I don’t remember how old I was, but I distinctly remember there were still ashtrays in the arm rests.”

    “They used to put a complimentary four-pack of cigarettes on every meal tray. My father had at some point allowed me a puff of his cigarette through my bubble pipe, which I did not enjoy at all. So shortly after my meal tray arrived, my 4-year-old self yelled, ‘Stewardess, you can take these cigarettes away, because I quit smoking three weeks ago!’”

    “First international flight in 1997 I smoked all the way over. Pity the poor non-smokers, because even with a smoking section the smoke was all through the plane.”

    No luggage fees (but no luggage wheels, either)

    Ah, the good old days of free checked luggage. (Paying for checked luggage is actually pretty new. All airlines let you have one free checked bag prior to 2008.) But luggage was also a whole different animal. We used to have to carry suitcases. And people didn’t generally carry on suitcases with clothing in them because they’d end up smelling like smoke by the end of the flight.

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    Suitcase wheels are a relatively new invention. Photo credit: Canva

    “Nobody was dragging their carry-on baggage throughout the terminal – checking bags was always free and everybody checked their bags. But the downside of no baggage security checks was that stuff sometimes got stolen from your bags by baggage handlers – so you always locked your bags. that is why those hard-sided Samsonite suitcases with the combination lock latches were popular.”

    “Luggage didn’t even have wheels back then!”

    “I remember the early wheeled suitcases were so awkward and top-heavy like an elephant riding on the top of a London bus. They had wheels on the bottom and a ‘leash’ attached to the top front. It was better than carrying, but if you went anything other than perfectly straight, it would topple over.”

    People dressed up to fly

    It’s not at all unusual to see people boarding flights in sweats or other uber-casual attire. On a redeye, you’ll see people basically in their pajamas. Comfort has definitely overridden traditional airplane-attire etiquette, which some people love and some people hate.

    “People dressed well, not fancy but nice. I once flew ‘standby’ (my sweet Dad was an aircraft mechanic) and I had to wear my ‘nicest’ dress just in case I got bumped to first class! And I did! It was very nice. One way, the other way i was in coach, but everyone was still dressed nicely, including me. :)”

    “Can confirm. I flew to Germany as a kid in the 80’s and my parents made me wear my ‘Church clothes’ on the plane.”

    “Night and day. It was a privilege to fly, people got dressed nice to fly, now flying like taking a bus. It’s a zoo in the air and people crazy.”

    Pick-up and drop-off happened right at the gate

    Gen Xers and Boomers who flew remember saying goodbye right before boarding the plane and greeting loved ones just after exiting the jetway. That can’t happen now. Security increases after 9/11 meant that only ticketed passengers could fully enter the terminal. At least it makes terminals less crowded?

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    Goodbyes now take place before going through security. Photo credit: Canva

    “Everyone could go to the gate and hang out. We used to go to the airport and watch the planes taking off and landing.”

    “Some time in the late 90s, I went to pick up my mother from the airport, and I brought a friend with me. They let us both go wait at the gate with no issues. We probably had to go through a metal detector but it was pretty easy.”

    “Pick up and drop off was a ton easier. Whoever was coming to get you parked somewhere and came to the gate to wait for you. For drop offs they either pulled right up to the terminal and let you out where there was a porter waiting to take your bags (hopefully to the correct flight), or you parked in the airport short term lot and walked in together —all the way to the gate if the goodbye was a difficult one.”

    “I’m glad this isn’t allowed anymore. Anytime I’ve flown, the gates have been full and I end up standing off in the walkway waiting to board. I can’t even imagine adding ‘hey, let’s all hang out with Grandma before she leaves’ into the mix.

    Another thing I remember about this was trying to get OFF the plane. People would crowd around the gate to greet their arriving family just like they do around the baggage carousel. And of course when grandma walked out the door, they’d run up and do their hugs and handshakes right there with everyone else trying to get around them. It was maddening, especially at the holidays.”

    You had to use a pay phone if you needed to call someone

    These days, nearly all airlines allow you to text for free even when you’re up in the air. The first thing many people do when the wheels touch down is text someone to let them know they’ve landed. Gone are the days of having to find a wall of pay phones or waiting until you got to your hotel to call someone.

    A wall of payphones
    Airports had walls of pay phones like this. Photo credit: Canva

    “Airports used to have huge banks of payphones all over, but I think most people would call from their hotel phone when they got checked in.”

    “There were plenty of pay phones to call people, and plenty of shops that would make change for you if you needed.”

    “Airports would have large banks of payphones, but they would also have kiosks with courtesy phones, that were basically hotline phones with no keypad that automatically dialed, this could be the shuttle bus operation, a taxi service, or your hotel that may operate their own shuttle service. Picture a kiosk near luggage pickup with a sign for Holiday Inn Airport and a phone with no number pad that directly connects you to the front desk at the nearby Holiday Inn so they could dispatch the shuttle van driver to pick you up.”

    “You didn’t call anyone when you landed, people met you at the airport. You arranged in advance. If the flight was delayed, they waited. Nobody was paying for parking at airports.”

    Other than the secondhand smoke, flying was more comfortable

    Before 1978, the government set flight prices. Since airlines couldn’t compete on price, they competed on service and passenger experience. That focus spilled over into the ’80s, but as price competition grew, so did a desire for cheaper flights. Now we pay less, but we also get less.

    “The planes were more comfortable. The seats and legroom were better in economy/coach and you got an included meal and in-flight movie on longer flights.”

    “In the ’80’s it was much nicer. Larger planes, more room, bigger seats, better food, more luggage allowed. Plus few carry on restrictions. In the 90’s airlines had begun tightening up a bit but you could still expect at least a non-alcoholic drink and a snack on anything longer than a puddle jumper flight even in economy or business. Anything longer than that and you could count on a meal.”

    “The planes were less full and seats had enough legroom even economy.”

    “Seats had more leg room because they weren’t cramming in as many as possible on discount flights.”

    Some changes in air travel have been good, and others not so great. But flying definitely isn’t what it used to be.

  • Woman ticketed for driving with phone in her ‘right hand’ has a huge surprise for police officer
    A woman hands her license to a police officer. Photo credit: Canva

    Distracted driving is a dangerous issue that police officers are taking more seriously. But when Katie, who runs the social media page Slightly Off Balance, was pulled over for the offense, she had questions. The officer writing the citation insisted that she was driving with her phone in her right hand. That didn’t make sense to her.

    The woman uploaded a clip of the interaction in which she asks the officer for clarification. According to the officer, he witnessed Katie committing the driving infraction. Katie asked for clarification several more times because it would be impossible for her to hold a phone in her right hand. Why? She doesn’t have one.

    police, traffic ticket, traffic stop, pulled over, amputee, distracted driving
    Police car seen through the rearview mirror. Photo credit: Canva

    In the video, which has been viewed nearly eight million times, Katie pokes fun at the situation. “Turns out you can still get a ticket for driving with a device in your right hand, even if you don’t have a right hand,” she says, holding up her arm. Clearly, the entire lower part of her right arm is missing.

    After cutting to the bizarre interaction between herself and the officer, Katie shows herself attempting to hold a phone with her nonexistent hand. Spoiler alert—it doesn’t work. In the video, the officer can be heard saying, “If you want to take it to court, option five on the back of the ticket. That’s how you take it to court.”

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    A police officer stops a driver. Photo credit: Canva

    Taking it to court is exactly what she plans to do. In a follow-up video, she shares that her court date is scheduled for mid-April. Commenters are not only gobsmacked that she could be cited for this particular infraction, but they’re also completely invested in her court case.

    @slightlyoff.balance

    Low key thought I had two hands for a minute 🤦🏻‍♀️ #palmbeach #cops #PBSO #floridaman #pulledover

    ♬ original sound – slightlyoff.balance

    One person begs, “Please take us to court with you, I want to hear the judge.”

    Another writes, “I’m glad you recorded him saying it was the right hand otherwise I guarantee he would have lied later on and claim he never said that.”

    “Ok but how would you ve able to drive with a phone in ur LEFT hand anyway,” someone questions.

    “Oh I wanna see a part 2. I know it sucks tho, cause you shouldn’t have to take time off work/life just to prove a cop wrong,” a person laments.

    One commenter shares a cheeky way Katie could have handled the situation, writing, “I would have said ‘ok I’ll see you in court’ and waved with your right hand to get his reaction. And then still gone to court to let the judge know he was lying.”

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    A woman being pulled over. Photo credit: Canva

    Some people wonder why she didn’t inform the officer on the spot that she didn’t have a right hand. But others argue that the officer had already proven to be untrustworthy and would likely change his story. Katie didn’t respond to those questions, but the officer could likely see that she didn’t have a hand while looking directly into her window.

    Katie appears to have a sense of humor about missing a hand, liking several comments that joke about her limb difference.

    “I would have held my right hand out for the ticket. So glad you got that admission recorded,” someone writes.

    “Cutting your hand off to get out of a traffic ticket is wild,” another jokes.

  • People were asked to share their culture’s most delicious ‘filling wrapped in dough’ snacks and they didn’t disappoint
    One thing brings all people together: a filling wrapped in dough.Photo credit: Canva

    When reading the words “filling wrapped in dough,” what pops into mind? Dumplings? Empanadas? Hostess Fruit Pies? An Instagram post has people discussing the near-universality of cultures around the world having their own version of a tasty filling encased in delicious dough.

    No matter where a person comes from, it seems like there is some form of “filling wrapped in dough” food in every country. Folks from different nations flocked to Reddit to discuss their favorites:

    “Sambousek. We make it filled with minced meat, onion, and pine nuts all mixed together with some pomegranate molasses.” (from Lebanon)

    “Cornish pasties. Or maybe sausage rolls. Then again, beef wellington is basically ‘filling wrapped in dough.’” (from the United Kingdom)

    “Pastel. Very thin and crispy dough, deep fried. National favorites include heart of palm, and cheese & ham. My favorite is shrimp.” (from Brazil)

    “Calzone.” (from Italy)

    “My French-Canadian grandma makes tourtiere in a hand pie format every Christmas and they’re incredible. I look forward to them every year.” (from Canada)

    “Here’s a curry goat patty.” (from Jamaica)

    “Pierogi, my beloved.” (from Poland)

    “Pitepalt. A potato and barley dumpling the size of a tennis ball. It is filled with salt pork and served swimming in butter and lingonberry jam.” (from Sweden)

    “Irish sausage rolls… Not to be confused with a sausage in a roll.” (from Ireland)

    “I have a steak and cheese pie for breakfast most mornings.” (from New Zealand)

    “Give me one of them handheld dessert pies from the gas station and I’ll be all over them.” (from the United States)

    Pro chefs share their favorite “filling wrapped in dough” foods and recipes

    Many professional chefs and food experts who spoke to Upworthy shared their favorite versions of dough-wrapped foods and the stories behind them.

    “I’ve rarely met a dough stuffed with filling that I didn’t like, and I also think it’s fun to reimagine popular foods and let their worlds collide,” said award-winning pastry chef Katherine Sprung. “I was a winner of the show Chopped Sweets, where our challenge was to create mash-up desserts. For my first round I made a cheesecake egg roll, made a raspberry cheesecake mixture, enclosed in an egg roll wrapper, and fried, which, luckily, the judges really loved!”

    Sprung also said that making those cheesecake egg rolls on TV inspired her to create another simple recipe: cashew butter and jelly rolls.

    “Spinach fatayer are portable and are perfect for picnics, potlucks, and special occasions,” said cookbook author Luay Ghafari. “My grandmother used to prepare them on the weekends so they would be ready to go into our school lunchboxes come Monday.”

    If you want to try this savory hand pie, Ghafari kindly provided a recipe. Ghafari said that fatayer can also be made for meat or cheese lovers.

    Spinach fatayer. Photo credit: Luay Ghafari

    A “filling in wrapped dough” started a career

    These filling-wrapped-in-dough foods aren’t just favorites springing from a chef’s imagination or family roots. In some cases, they can even inspire lifelong vocations.

    “My favorite ‘filling in wrapped dough’ food is the Himalayan momo,” said Jessica Randhawa, chef and recipe developer at The Forked Spoon. “I never knew what a momo was until my boyfriend, now husband, and I traveled to Asia for six months in 2011. Those travels are what initially got me into cooking classes and schools abroad and writing about them.”

    Jessica Randhawa and a classmate learning to make momos in Kathmandu.
    Photo credit: Jessica Randhawa

    “When I got back to Kathmandu, I had to take a cooking class to learn how to make them, which was one of my first experiences learning to cook from professionals,” she added. “So, momos are really special to me because learning about them and how to make them 15 years ago inadvertently kicked off a long and winding road that led to growing one of the largest recipe websites in the world.”

    Wrapped in dough, wrapped with love

    Celebrity chef Mariko Amekodommo told Upworthy that her upbringing and her travels while training to be a chef were filled with dough-wrapped delights.

    She recalled learning how to make handmade ravioli by watching her mom and grandma as a child. Among many other foods, she said she learned to cook and eat tamales, bánh cuốn, samosas, and ovocné knedlíky while living in Los Angeles, Vietnam, India, and the Czech Republic. While all of those dishes use different ingredients, Amekodommo saw many similarities.

    “What strikes me, having lived and cooked professionally across multiple countries, is that these aren’t really different dishes,” said Amekodommo. “They’re the same dish built from whatever the land provided—wheat in Europe and North India, corn in Latin America, rice in Southeast Asia.”

    “The form is universal because it solves the same problems everywhere: stretch protein with starch, make it portable, feed a lot of people from not very much,” she added. “And they became holiday food everywhere for the same reason—you can’t really make them alone. They require hands, time, and people around a table. That part never changes.”

    It seems that “filling wrapped in dough” brings people together, whether worldwide or within your own household.

  • Woman makes a country song out of her dad’s voice texts, and it’s an accidental hit
    A dad's failed voice-to-text attempts strike musical comedy gold.Photo credit: Canva
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    Woman makes a country song out of her dad’s voice texts, and it’s an accidental hit

    “Cowboy Gary has stolen the hearts and brought tears of laughter to MILLIONS.”

    Anyone who’s ever used voice-to-text has felt the frustration of a phone hearing things very, very wrong. This is especially true for those among us with thick accents.

    However, this frustration can apparently make for musical comedy gold.

    Just ask Bri Hill, who used failed voice-to-text attempts from her father, affectionately known as “Cowboy Gary,” and turned them into a country song that’s not only hilarious but also kinda slaps.

    “This is my greatest creative achievement to date,” bragged Hill.

    And honestly, despite the fact that she’s an art teacher, she ain’t wrong. Gary’s twangy voice really lends itself to the genre. Even something as mundane as asking his sister if she’s coming to the family reunion (“Harold and Wanda will be there. Oh, and Lindsey!”) magically feels perfect.

    And of course, there’s a bit of an, ahem, misunderstanding when the phone tries to transcribe Gary talking about the BULLS on his farm. Three guesses as to what word the device thinks he’s saying.

    Watch:

    “Never know what the phone’s gonna print when I’m talkin’ to it,” Gary laments in the tune. We know your pain, Gary! He then brings it all home by saying, “I will talk to ya later when I have time to talk on the phone instead of talk to the damn phone!”

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    Without a doubt, it was an instant hit online. People praised Hill for writing a bona fide honky-tonk bop and empathized with Gary’s exasperation—so everybody found something to love.

    “You, ma’am, have written the perfect country song. David Allen Coe would be proud!”

    “Can I find this on Spotify? 🤘🏻 🎶 🤠”

    “This is a hidden gold mine.”

    “I love this! My phone constantly voice texts ridiculous things, and I say all the time, ‘Siri doesn’t speak Texan.’ I always thought I didn’t have an accent until I attempted voice texting.”

    “It sounds like text conversations with my dad! Love it!!!! my siblings, and I do a monthly recap of our text messages with our father.”

    “​​I have tears rolling down my face from laughing.”

    “As someone who voice texts, this is a very accurate conversation.”

    “Submit this to the waffle house juke box 🤣”

    “This why I don’t use voice to text. 🤣”

    As Hill put it in her caption, Cowboy Gary has stolen the hearts and brought tears of laughter to MILLIONS.”

    Getting your phone to understand your accent

    According to a survey conducted by Guide2Fluency, Southern and Texan dialects are two of the five U.S. regional accents most commonly misunderstood by AI, ranking first and fourth, respectively. Joining them are New York, New Jersey, and Boston accents. And that’s without even going into the challenges that ethnic and cultural dialects and accents face when it comes to errors.

    That said, there are ways to reduce some of these mistakes, even if they don’t disappear entirely. One is to change the specific regional dialect (e.g., British English vs. American English) in your settings. Another is to update your system’s voice recognition software to ensure better accuracy.

    Or, you could just use it to make a song. Whatever floats your boat. 

  • Man gets wave of support after tearful confession that a friend called him ‘too poor’ to get invited anywhere
    A man gets a wave of support after sharing how a friend excluded him for being “poor.”Photo credit: @father_vs_world/TikTok

    Recently, a man went on TikTok to tearfully recount being called “poor” by a close friend. He was overwhelmed by the amount of support he received from total strangers.

    On February 12, Andrey Borul explained in a video that he had fallen into medical debt after spending two weeks nearly dying in the hospital. Now, he’s “working almost twenty hours a day trying to recover.”

    Borul isn’t alone in this struggle. Studies estimate that approximately 100 million Americans have some form of medical or dental debt, with total outstanding debt around $220 billion.

    And yet, Borul’s family has tried their best to keep their spirits up and “make it work.” They’ve always managed to “bring a gift” to whatever parties they were invited to.

    “Too poor” to get invited

    So when, at one of these parties, a friend said that Borul and his wife don’t get invited anywhere because they’re “too poor,” he was “dumbfounded.”

    Things only seemed to get worse when, presumably at the same party, couples were talking about “buying houses.” Borul’s wife suggested making a group trip to the mountains so the kids could enjoy the snow together. Again, a friend immediately “shot down” the idea, saying, “You can’t afford that.”

    Tears welling up in his eyes, Borul admitted, “It’s true—we can’t.” He then shared how, the next morning, he drove up to the mountains himself to bring down some snow for his kids to play with.

    @father_vs_world

    Daughter been praying for snow and since Idaho had zero snow days i made a secret trip high into the mountains to bring snow for them to play in

    ♬ Snow Day – Tabitha Meeks & Ryan Corn

    “After our bills are paid, we have so little left over for entertainment,” he said. “I’ve been working nonstop to dig ourselves out of this financial hole…being poor sucks.”

    Borul ended his clip saying, “I feel so alone. We haven’t been invited for three months anywhere.”

    Thankfully, Borul was met with a wave of support from viewers 

    A few people shared that they had found themselves in equally disheartening situations.

    “Most of us in North America are in your shoes.”

    Many chimed in to remind him what real friendship looks like.

    @father_vs_world

    Replying to @Sandyyy.R. How can so called close “friends “ be so crule.. just thinking about it makes me cry 😭

    ♬ original sound – father_vs_world

    “Bro, you literally went to the mountain and brought your kids back snow…you’re working 20 hours a day for your family…you are THE MAN. Do not let those types of people make you feel any sort of way. Run from them. You’re the kind of guy I would be honored to call my friend.” 

    “You almost died, lost two weeks of income, and those people did not help you? They are not your friends.” 

    “This broke my heart and angered me because I’ve been in between blessings before and I remember when we planned a trip and our friends knew we were in between blessings. They ended up paying for the trip and once we got back on our feet, that’s when we paid them back (they wouldn’t take it). My point is friendship is about support (not necessarily financial), love, and grace. As hard as it’s going to be it may be time for you and your wife to leave them where they are at. Sending you love.”

    “You should not be wasting your time and energy on these people. You are richer than them in the most important way.”

    “If they were your friends, they would ask how to help you, not leave you out because you don’t have the money.” 

    And perhaps most encouraging of all, donations began pouring into Borul’s GoFundMe to help cover some of those exorbitant medical bills and give him some room to breathe. So far, a little over $30,000 has been raised, inching closer to the overall $35,000 goal.

    Understandably, Borul was overwhelmed by all the support 

    “I woke up with a total lightness in my chest,” he said. “Total strangers showed me more compassion than my own friends. I am so beyond grateful.”

    Hopefully, Borul can take solace in knowing that he does have a friend group, even if it wasn’t who he was expecting.

    If you’d like to donate to Borul’s GoFundMe page, click here

  • Generation Jones is showing off their Farrah Fawcett feather hairdos from the ’70s in all their voluminous glory
    Generation Jones shows off their Farrah Fawcett–inspired hair from the 1970s.Photo credit: Reddit/Asleep-Cow-6367 & Wikipedia

    Television in the 1970s was packed with unforgettable variety shows and iconic late-night talk shows that showcased some pretty incredible performances. One TV show that had a seismic impact on pop culture in the late 1970s was Charlie’s Angels, which debuted in 1976 and starred the gorgeous Farrah Fawcett.

    It was Fawcett’s legendary coif that set off a major 1970s hair trend. Baby Boomers and Generation Jonesers took cues from Fawcett, opting for feathered shags and voluminous hairstyles that defined the decade.

    On Reddit, users shared photos and discussed the glory of the hair trend back in the day.

    Generation Jones on their feathered hairdos

    Redditor Asleep-Cow-6367 shared a photo of her feathered ‘do, along with a few funny comments. “I wanted to look RAD! 😅,” she wrote. “I didn’t know WTH I was doing, but I had that comb in the back pocket of my H.A.S.H. jeans! Haha. Oh, that blow dryer and round brush.”

    Another Redditor commented on her ‘do: “Nice! You had your hair ‘trained’ as they used to say back when.” She replied, “Kinda. I didn’t like hairspray, so I had that mirror in my locker door, and that comb in my back pocket! Every class break, I am checking my look! LOL.”

    She inspired other Gen Jonesers to share their nostalgic thoughts and memories:

    “Some of us guys pretty much had it too….lol.”

    “I loved my Farrah feather.”

    “I had shorter hair so I had the Dorothy Hamill. I think 90% of the girls were having one or the other.”

    “God the time and hair spray spent on these hairdos!! I looked exactly the same. I’m 63 now.”

    “The wild thing about this hairstyle is it worked on guys and girls. I’m a 64 year old man and I had that exact hairstyle in 1978.”

    “I remember getting the Farrah Fawcett hair style in Junior High. I cried when I washed my hair because it was the first time I had any type of bangs and thought I was bald. Haha I wore that style for several years as a teenager. My 8th grade school picture had the FF hair cut and the ugly baby blue eye shadow. I was next level using the dark blue mascara too.”

    Farrah Fawcett hair history

    Hairstylist Allen Edwards is credited with creating Fawcett’s signature hairdo.

    “The layers around the face are shorter,” Edwards told Stylelist in an August 2009 interview, according to the Huffington Post. “What made it different was that it wasn’t full on top. It was flatter, and the ‘Farrah’ part was the edges, which went flipping back. She had a very strong, squarish jaw, and with her hair long cut [and] moving away from her face, it took your eye away from it.”

    Edwards also told Access Hollywood that he had always wanted to style Fawcett’s naturally curly hair, and that the two finally met through mutual friend Jane Brolin in the mid-1970s.

    “When she came to me they were overbleaching her, and it was dry and didn’t have the luster I gave to it,” he quipped.

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