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Here's how 18 people got over being homophobic, proving there's hope for everyone

"I looked for logical reasons to be and couldn't find any."

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Homophobia? Get over it.

There are many different reasons why some people are homophobic. A lot of them are raised in religious households where homosexuality is seen as sinful and they never get over their indoctrination.

A study from 2018 found that people who foster homophobic attitudes are less intelligent than those who accept people regardless of their sexuality. For the study, researchers asked subjects if they agree or disagree with the following statement: “Homosexual couples should have the same rights as heterosexual couples do.”

After comparing data sets, researchers found that the lower a person's cognitive intelligence, the more likely they are to be homophobic.

An older study from 2016 using an eye-tracking device found that some homophobic men seem to have an impulsive, automatic attraction to other men.

Homophobic attitudes are more prevalent in people with authoritarian personality types. Authoritarians have “submissive attitudes toward strong leaders, a desire to punish all who violate conventional moral codes, and strong fear that conventional morality is breaking down.”


There are also some who believe that humans evolved to be homophobic because it favors the propagation of the species. "In its simplest form, parents who showed a concern for their child’s sexual orientation may have left more descendants than those who were indifferent,” Gordon Gallup, a human sexuality researcher, wrote.

(It should be noted that Gallup formulated his theory in the ‘80s.)

Regardless of how people become homophobic, the good news is that Americans are slowly becoming more accepting of LGBTQ people. A Reddit user by the name of aestheticbear wanted to prove that everyone is capable of losing their homophobic views by asking the subforum, “What happened that made you stop being homophobic?”

According to the posts, growing up and meeting people who are LGBTQ was one of the most effective ways for people to get over their homophobia. It also helped when they got away from religious parents and began to see the world with their own eyes.

Here are 18 of the best ways that people got over being homophobic.

1. 

"I met some gay people. As it turns out they were just people." — moolord

2. 

"Not homophobic, but I woke up at about 10 when my mom said my uncle was banned from coming to our vacation condo by my father because he was gay. Before then I kind of let the arguments and both sides bit wash over me, but that was a crystalization point where I started noticing it as pure bigotry. I'm sorry the nicest dude in the family full of domestic violence and white-collar drug abusers cant come to Christmas because he's gay? You're both cheating on each other, sanctity of what marriage now?" — Robin_Games

3. 

"My mom slapped me and told me everyone has a right to be happy. That was in 9th grade 13 years ago." — Bloodllust

4. 

"Homophobia was the norm when I was growing up, then I got older and the political landscape changed which made me question my belief and I came to the conclusion it just didn't make any sense to be homophobic." — LuciferIsFallen

5. 

"I came out as gay." — pethal

6

"Realised that, fundamentally, being gay is just 'what' you are. It’s not 'who' you are." — Alternative-Rain-718

7. 

"I wasn't super homophobic, just a 'love the sinner, hate the sin' kind of guy. On my last day in high school, someone said 'Why do I care? They're not hurting me.' Cured me in three seconds. I still remember how magical that moment was for me." — Dirgonite

8. 

"Stopped listening to my homophobic family and left their religion. Oh and also realized I myself was pretty gay." — Raidden

9. 

"There are 20 years between myself and my youngest brother. I (and my SO) was raised in an explicitly homophobic/biphobic/transphobic fundamentalist religion (that I left with my SO in my early 20s) so I had a lot of internalized, conditioned, toxic beliefs about the LGBTQ that needed to be deconstructed. My little brother was obviously either gay or bi and it was obvious from the time he was six imho. He came out to my sisters, SO, and I as bi when he was 11 and we were like "tell us something we don't know lol." I think watching him just grow up, it was obvious that he hadn't chosen to be that way, it was just how he was. This false narrative that LGBTQ are somehow defective or sinners became more disgusting to me over time.

I can't remember exactly when it happened but my SO and I were like 'if our future child happened to be LGBTQ, could we teach that child the things we were taught about the LGBTQ?" We were like "no, that would be evil.'

Now, we have an 18yo niece that recently came out as a lesbian and we feel honored to be the only family that she trusts enough to introduce to her first GF. Spending time with her just reaffirms the fact that there is nothing wrong with the LGBTQ, it was our upbringing that was defective." — Jormungandr91

10. 

"I was in the military during the repeal of don’t ask don’t tell. I wasn’t pro-gay whatever that might mean but sitting in those mandatory command meetings really opened my eyes. There were some legit homophobes trying every trick in the book to justify everything from moving sleeping arrangements to outright violence out in the open with gay people in the room.

I may not have been super sympathetic before that but after I realized just how difficult it was for a gay person just to go to work. Or how many precautions they were taking on a daily basis to keep in the closet. It pushed me from disinterested in the subject to siding with the obviously pragmatic stance of pro-gay marriage and gays in the military." — Pencilowner

11. 

"Went off to college, started meeting gay people, quickly realized that their awesomeness was no different than any straight person’s awesomeness, stopped bothering to “otherize” them as I had in high school." — hailnaux

12. 

"I became good friends with someone who came out to me a year or so after we got to know each other. Turns out he wasn't the abomination that my Christian parents/church had taught me all gays were. Indoctrination of children is a bitch." — Vefantur

13. 

"Honestly I think it was Lady Gaga. I was young and impressionable and she was cool and so LGBT+ friendly that I just started accepting people. And then it turned out I was a lil gay too so things worked out well lol." — plutoforprez

14. 

"I grew up and met some openly gay people." — polkavert

15. 

"I became an atheist. Through a painful experience of getting through serious depression, I came out the other side with a different worldview. As soon as I shed religion I began to question a lot of things including how I really feel about LGBTQIA people vs what I'd been indoctrinated to believe. They are just people trying to go about their normal routine like myself. There's no vast conspiracy or 'gay agenda.'

Years later, I suspect I'm one of them now. I might be asexual but I'm not sure yet." —HonestSummer

16. 

"As a teen I loved to make fun/bash gay people and listen to heavy metal. Then one day Rob Halford from Judas Priest came out as gay. Well, he is fucking Rob Halford and he can do whatever the fuck he wants. He is Rob Halford and being gay did not make him any less amazing in my eyes. After that I stopped caring about people being gay or not. Who am I to second guess or mock Rob Halford's life choices?" — cambeiu

17.

"I looked for logical reasons to be and couldn't find any." — theyellowmeteor

18. 

"I grew up." — jthomas287

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Music’s biggest night took place Sunday, February 4 with the 66th Annual GRAMMY Awards. Now, fans have the opportunity to take home a piece of the famed event.

Longtime GRAMMY Awards partner Mastercard is using this year’s campaign to shine a light on the environment and the Priceless Planet Coalition (PPC), a forest restoration program with the goal of restoring 100 million trees. Music fans are 1.5 times more likely to take action to help the environment, making the GRAMMY Awards the perfect opportunity to raise awareness.

“Through our GRAMMY Awards campaign, we’ve created an opportunity for our brand, our partners and consumers to come together over shared values, to participate during a moment when we can celebrate our passion for music and our commitment to make meaningful investments to preserve the environment,” says Rustom Dastoor, Executive Vice President of Marketing and Communications, North America at Mastercard.

The campaign kicked off with an inspired self-guided multi-sensory tour at the GRAMMY House presented by Mastercard, where people journeyed through their passion of music and educational experience about Mastercard’s longstanding commitment to tree restoration. Then, this year’s most-nominated GRAMMY artist and a passionate voice for the environment, SZA, led the charge with the debut performance of her new song, Saturn.

Mastercard’s partners are also joining the mission by encouraging people all over the country to participate; Lyft and Sirius XM are both offering ways for consumers to get involved in the Priceless Planet Coalition. To learn more about how you can support these efforts, visit mastercard.com/forceofnature.

While fashion is always a highlight of any GRAMMY Awards event, SZA’s outfit worn during her performance of Saturn was designed to make a statement; made of tree seeds to help spread awareness. Fans can even comment ‘🌱’ and tag a friend on Mastercard’s designated post of SZA’s GRAMMY House performance for a chance to win a tree seed from the performance outfit*.

“SZA has a personal passion for sustainability – not just in forest restoration but in the clothes she wears and the platforms and partners she aligns herself with. It was important to us to partner with someone who is not only showing up big at the GRAMMY Awards – as the most GRAMMY-nominated artist this year – but also showing up big for the environment,” says Dastoor.

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How often do you change your sheets?

If you were to ask a random group of people, "How often do you wash your sheets?" you'd likely get drastically different answers. There are the "Every single Sunday without fail" folks, the "Who on Earth washes their sheets weekly?!?" people and everyone in between.

According to a survey of 1,000 Americans conducted by Mattress Advisor, the average time between sheet changings or washings in the U.S. is 24 days—or every 3 1/2 weeks, approximately. The same survey revealed that 35 days is the average interval at which unwashed sheets are "gross."

Some of you are cringing at those stats while others are thinking, "That sounds about right." But how often should you wash your sheets, according to experts?

Hint: It's a lot more frequent than 24 days.

While there is no definitive number of days or weeks, most experts recommend swapping out used sheets for clean ones every week or two.

Dermatologist Alok Vij, MD told Cleveland Clinic that people should wash their sheets at least every two weeks, but probably more often if you have pets, live in a hot climate, sweat a lot, are recovering from illness, have allergies or asthma or if you sleep naked.

We shed dead skin all the time, and friction helps those dead skin cells slough off, so imagine what's happening every time you roll over and your skin rubs on the sheets. It's normal to sweat in your sleep, too, so that's also getting on your sheets. And then there's dander and dust mites and dirt that we carry around on us just from living in the world, all combining to make for pretty dirty sheets in a fairly short period of time, even if they look "clean."

Maybe if you shower before bed and always wear clean pajamas you could get by with a two-week sheet swap cycle, but weekly sheet cleaning seems to be the general consensus among the experts. The New York Times consulted five books about laundry and cleaning habits, and once a week was what they all recommend.

Sorry, once-a-monthers. You may want to step up your sheet game a bit.

What about the rest of your bedding? Blankets and comforters and whatnot?

Sleep.com recommends washing your duvet cover once a week, but this depends on whether you use a top sheet. Somewhere between the Gen X and Millennial eras, young folks stopped being about the top sheet life, just using their duvet with no top sheet. If that's you, wash that baby once a week. If you do use a top sheet, you can go a couple weeks longer on the duvet cover.

For blankets and comforters and duvet inserts, Sleep.com says every 3 months. And for decorative blankets and quilts that you don't really use, once a year washing will suffice.

What about pillows? Pillowcases should go in with the weekly sheet washing, but pillows themselves should be washed every 3 to 6 months. Washing pillows can be a pain, and if you don't do it right, you can end up with a lumpy pillow, but it's a good idea because between your sweat, saliva and skin cells, pillows can start harboring bacteria.

Finally, how about the mattress itself? Home influencers on TikTok can often be seen stripping their beds, sprinkling their mattress with baking soda, brushing it into the mattress fibers and then vacuuming it all out. Architectural Digest says the longer you leave baking soda on the mattress, the better—at least a few hours, but preferably overnight. Some people add a few drops of essential oil to the baking soda for some extra yummy smell.

If that all sounds like way too much work, maybe just start with the sheets. Pick a day of the week and make it your sheet washing day. You might find that climbing into a clean, fresh set of sheets more often is a nice way to feel pampered without a whole lot of effort.

5 surprising ways THC Seltzers enhance relaxation

Cycling Frog offers a Unique Beverage Experience for modern drinkers

In a world where relaxation often feels like a luxury, THC seltzers are emerging as a refreshing solution. With the buzz around cannabis products reaching new heights, these fizzy beverages are making waves for their unique ability to blend relaxation with enjoyment. Among the pioneers in this burgeoning market is Cycling Frog, a brand that's not just hopping onto the trend but leaping ahead with its innovative offerings.

By infusing the calming properties of THC into delicious seltzers, Cycling Frog is offering modern drinkers a whole new way to unwind. This article will explore five surprising ways these THC seltzers enhance relaxation, demonstrating how Cycling Frog stands out in this effervescent field.

Enhanced Relaxation

THC, the natural compound found in cannabis, is no stranger to its reputation for promoting relaxation and easing stress. But what happens when this age-old relaxant meets modern innovation? Enter Cycling Frog's THC seltzers, a delightful twist on traditional methods.

These seltzers encapsulate the essence of relaxation in a can, offering a convenient and contemporary approach to unwinding. Whether you’re looking to de-stress after a long day or seeking a gentle chill during a weekend hangout, these seltzers are the perfect companions, providing a subtle, soothing experience that fits seamlessly into our fast-paced lives.

Unique Flavors

Cycling Frog's THC seltzers aren't just about relaxation; they're a carnival of flavors waiting to tantalize your taste buds. Imagine sipping on the tartly sweet Ruby Grapefruit, a perfect blend of citrus zing that invigorates as it relaxes. Or dive into the bold, award-winning Wild Cherry, a flavor that's as playful as it is soothing. And for those seeking a tropical escape, the Guava Passionfruit is like a mini-vacation in every can, offering a serene taste of paradise. Each flavor is a unique adventure, ensuring every sip is a moment of relaxation and an exploration of delightful tastes.

Quality and Sustainability

A deep-rooted commitment to quality and sustainability is at the heart of Cycling Frog's ethos. They're not just creating THC seltzers; they're cultivating a better future. By embracing sustainable farming practices and performing rigorous testing for quality control, Cycling Frog ensures that the hemp in their seltzers is grown with care and respect for the environment. This hemp is 100% pesticide-free, guaranteeing a pure, unadulterated experience in every can. That’s why all our packaging contains a QR code that directs consumers directly to ourtesting results.This dedication to quality doesn't just impact the environment positively; it elevates the sipping experience, ensuring that each fizzy drink is enjoyable and responsibly crafted. With Cycling Frog, you're not just tasting a seltzer; you're savoring a commitment to a healthier planet and a superior product.

Health and Wellness

In today's fast-paced world, finding a moment of tranquility can be a treasure. That's where THC seltzers, like those from Cycling Frog, step in. Not only do they offer a delightful taste experience, but they also bring health and wellness benefits. THC is known for its potential to ease stress and anxiety, making these seltzers more than just a refreshing drink. They're a gentle nod to self-care, a way to help quiet the mind and soothe the soul in natural, enjoyable sips. It's relaxation, reimagined for our busy lives – a small, fizzy step towards better mental well-being.

Delivered To Your Door

Getting your hands on a Cycling Frog THC seltzer is as easy as a few clicks. Their user-friendly online store brings relaxation right to your doorstep. Just browse, select your favorite flavors, and voilà – a box of serene, bubbly bliss is on its way to you. This convenience means no more store runs, just pure relaxation delivered. Whether at home or planning a get-together, these seltzers are just a few taps away, ensuring that unwinding with Cycling Frog is always within easy reach.

Visit Cycling Frog to learn more and experience THC Seltzers for yourself.

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NICU nurse adopts 14-year-old patient who delivered triplets alone

“I knew it would be impossible to find a foster home that would take all four of them. No one was going to take a teen mom and her preemie triplets.”

NICU nurse adopts teen with three babies.

Having your first baby is a scary experience. Everything is new—you've quite literally never done this before—not to mention an entire human is going to be removed from your body one way or another. Childbirth, no matter how your baby leaves your body, is not for the weak. But imagine giving birth alone to not just one baby, but three, all at the same time. Then imagine doing that feat at the age of 14.

Shariya Small experienced that scenario in a hospital in Indiana, and her nurse Katrina Mullen took note. Small's babies were premature, born at just 26 weeks, when the average gestation for triplets is 33 weeks, according to ReproductiveFacts.org. Due to their early birth, the babies, Serenitee, Samari and Sarayah, had to stay in the NICU at Community Hospital North in Indianapolis for more than five months, according to Today.com.

During their time in the NICU, Mullen noticed the young mom visited her babies alone, not appearing to have much of a support system. “She’d be there alone for days at a time sitting at her babies’ bedside,” Mullen told Today.com.

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Discover the artisanal approach and deep-rooted wisdom behind today’s most innovative herbal solutions

In a world where wellness often comes bottled in synthetic formulas, WishGarden Herbs stands out like a breath of fresh mountain air. Established in 1979, this family-owned gem has been quietly revolutionizing the herbal supplement industry with its artisanal approach and a deep-rooted wisdom that only comes from decades of dedicated practice. Nestled in the lush landscapes of Colorado, WishGarden Herbs is not just another supplement company; it's a beacon of hope for those seeking a more natural path to health and well-being.

So, what makes them so unique? From their handcrafted, small-batch production methods to their commitment to sustainability and community, each reason is a testament to their unwavering dedication to redefining herbal wellness. Get ready to be enlightened, inspired, and, perhaps, pleasantly surprised!

Tradition Meets Innovation

At WishGarden Herbs, the past and future of herbalism blend seamlessly. Born in the heart of the herbal renaissance of the late 70s, this trailblazing company has its roots firmly planted in traditional herbal wisdom. It's not just about herbs; it's about a legacy of healing, and a deep understanding of plant power passed down through generations.

But don't think that WishGarden is stuck in the past for a second. They're leading the charge with modern innovation, like crafting condition-specific blends that are as unique as the individuals they help. This fusion of time-honored knowledge with cutting-edge science isn't just revolutionary—it's changing the game in herbal supplements, making ancient wisdom accessible and relevant in our modern world.

Artisanal Quality in Every Bottle

In a world where mass production is king, WishGarden Herbs stands out with its commitment to artisanal craftsmanship. Each bottle of their herbal extract is crafted with the kind of personal touch that only small-batch production can offer. Their herbalists blend each formula with a meticulous eye for detail, ensuring that every drop holds the essence of nature's healing power.

This isn't your run-of-the-mill, factory-line supplement. It's a labor of love, where quality trumps quantity every time. In every bottle from WishGarden, you're not just getting an herbal supplement. You're experiencing the culmination of care, expertise, and passion. This unwavering dedication to artisanal quality sets each of their products apart as a true testament to the power of handcrafted perfection.

Pioneering Specific Condition Blends

WishGarden Herbs isn't just mixing herbs for the sake of it; they're pioneers in creating specific blends for specific conditions. It's like having a herbal concierge for your health. Whether it's a blend to soothe your stress, boost your immune system, or enhance your sleep, they've got an herbal remedy tailored just for that.

This isn't a one-size-fits-all approach. Each blend is a symphony of ingredients chosen for their targeted efficacy and safety, working harmoniously to address your unique health needs. With formulations for the whole family—kids, pregnancy, postpartum and adults—this thoughtful, precise formulation makes their products not just supplements but personalized herbal solutions. With WishGarden, you're not just taking herbs. You're embarking on a wellness journey.

Commitment to Sustainability

WishGarden Herbs isn’t just about what’s inside the bottle; their heart beats for the planet, too. In a world crying out for sustainability, they're not just listening—they're leading. WishGarden Herbs ensures every single ingredient is sustainably sourced, respecting the earth and the delicate balance of our ecosystems. And in 2023, their peerless commitment to green practices was officially recognized by the Nutrition Business Journal, which awarded WishGarden Herbs their prestigious Supply Chain Integrity Award.

At WishGarden Herbs, sustainability is more than just a business model; it's a pledge to Mother Nature. By choosing wild-harvested and organic herbs, WishGarden is tapping into the pulse of what conscious consumers crave today—products that heal us and the planet. So, when you pick a WishGarden product, you're not just choosing your health. You're also choosing the Earth's well-being.

Community and Education Focus

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It's not just about buying herbs; it's about understanding them, too. They empower their customers with knowledge, transforming them from mere consumers into informed, health-conscious community members.

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Ready to join the herbal revolution? Click here to dive into WishGarden Herbs and discover the blend that speaks to your health needs. It's more than a supplement; it's a step towards empowered, natural wellness. Choose WishGarden, where every bottle promises purity, potency, and planetary love.
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What would happen if all the Earth's ice melted?

There will be serious problems on both U.S. coasts.

What would happen if all the ice melted?

Ten percent of the land area on Earth is covered with glacial ice, which includes ice sheets on Greenland and Antarctica, ice caps and glaciers. Unfortunately, 750 billion tons of Earth’s ice is melting yearly due to climate change.

If climate change isn’t stopped, this will lead to disastrous consequences for the entire planet.

"As a result of this, ice around the world is melting and raising the planet's sea level. The oceans already rose 6 centimeters during the course of the 19th century. But they rose by 19 centimeters during the 20th century, over 3 times faster than they rose in the previous century,” says a video produced by Real Life Lore. “NOAA estimates that global sea level could rise by up to 2.5 meters by the year 2100. Which would have devastating consequences."

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Sweetness stitched into every bit of this story.

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His daughter didn’t only sew up the jacket, but left her own cheeky bit of “11th grade advice” in note hidden in the coat’s pocket.

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