Here’s what volunteering at a hospital is really like. And why you should do it.

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Have you ever considered volunteering at a hospital? It’s an important job that’s often overlooked.

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When you think about the work done at hospitals and other care facilities, visions of doctors and nurses are probably first to come to mind. While these healthcare professionals do some of the most important work on the planet (and that’s no overstatement), volunteers are an integral part of the hospital’s ecosystem as well.


Volunteers greet visitors, run groups, provide support to patients, wash and change linens, clean rooms, restock supplies and help ensure that the hospital is running cleanly and smoothly so that those providing medical care can focus on the patient’s physical health and continued well-being.

In short, volunteers are vital. They form real and lasting connections with patients, and help them get better in a clean, comforting environment.

We talked to three people to get their take on what it’s like to work in care facilities, the challenges they’ve faced, and what the work they did taught them about themselves (and it taught them a lot). Read on to find out more.

Alia read to kids at her local hospital. It made her realize the difference a bedtime story could make.

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When she gave birth at 17, Alia was grateful that her child was strong and healthy. At the same time, she realized that other new parents weren’t living that same experience.

“The idea that other families didn’t have that really pained me,” she writes in an email. I wanted to help them.”

Alia would put her son to bed and then, when he was asleep and safely being looked after, drive to Fresno Children’s Hospital, where she’d read bedtime stories to children who didn’t have company and couldn’t sleep at night. She expected the work to make her emotional, but was not at all prepared for the impact it ended up having on her.

“I would cry in my car after all of my shifts,” she explains. “I wasn’t equipped for the emotional weight of children with poor health. I have the utmost respect for people who can bear that weight comfortably.”

It also taught her just how needed volunteers are. They’re the people who fill in the gaps in care, fostering close connections with patients who are going through some of the hardest days and nights of their lives.

“I wish people knew how much need there is,” she writes. “Walking those empty halls at night, you look into rooms and see people who are scared, lonely, and bored. A few more people in the hall making their way to connect with patients is a huge difference.”

“I found the experience rewarding in a lot of capacities. The largest is probably the degree to which it taught me about myself. I valued my son and his health so much. I learned about my emotional limits. And I felt good because I was helping others.”

Author Chuck Miceli helped people living in a long-term care facilities express themselves.

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He co-coordinated a weekly Poetry group for patients and residents at the Southington Care Center, a rehabilitation and health care facility in Southington Connecticut.

In the group, the residents of the center were encouraged to write and share their own poetry, bring in poems that they enjoyed by their favorite authors, or just sit and listen to the work written by people who also lived there. For many, it was a watershed moment in their recovery. It provided a sense of purpose for one resident in particular — allowing her to see that she was still valued and needed.

“A friend of mine approached me to say that a mutual friend from our church, Joan LaRose, was at the facility,” Chuck writes. “I hadn’t seen her in years. Now, she was suffering from advanced Parkinson’s disease and could not lift her head from her chest, but she still expended the time and effort to write poetry.”

“I visited Joan and asked to see her poems. Rather than being bitter or remorseful, they were exceptionally uplifting and beautiful. That motivated me to see if others at the facility might also want to get involved, which prompted the creation of the poetry group.”

The group eventually grew and Joan’s poems were collected and published in a book that keeps her memory alive. The poetry group is something Chuck reflects on as one of the most positive experiences of his life. It’s a reminder of the indomitableness of the human spirit.

“Walking into a nursing or health care facilities can be an intimidating and depressing experience because it is so easy to assume the hopelessness of people’s situations,” he explains. “It is easy to see what is missing: the physicality, the youthfulness, the mobility, the energy. It is what we don’t see, however, that is most important: the potential, the desire to be useful, the lifetime of experience and wisdom, the yearning to be involved.”

“Tapping into what’s possible instead of being debilitated by what’s missing is at once the greatest challenge and the greatest reward.”

Jeaninne Escallier Kato, a teacher and writer, volunteered at hospitals during two points in her life. It taught her to think on her feet and let go of her ego.

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“I have volunteered in hospitals twice in my life,” notes Jeaninne. “My volunteer duties included: distributing food and books, feeding patients, teaching and reading to children, managing the play room and holding babies.”

“It is all about patient care and compassion. When I was given the task to teach a bedridden child with extreme mental disabilities, I didn’t feel like I could handle my emotions. Over time, I let my compassionate nature take over and began to feel the bonds of a strong relationship. That child was so appreciative of my time and attention once a week for three hours, I couldn’t wait to get my Saturday hug.”

“There’s nothing like the feeling of making others comfortable and giving relief. It’s another form of love. My advice to those who are considering this line of work is you have to take your ego out of everything because you will be asked to do some very disagreeable tasks.”

“Don’t do it for you, do it for others. You will soon learn your merit, which resides in the care and love you give freely, because it always comes back two-fold.”

Caring for others in need is something we should all make more of an effort to focus on.

Providing comfort to those going through medical difficulties is one of the best ways to help make the world, a brighter, safer, happier place.

So, if you’ve been thinking of volunteering at a hospital, but had reservation, now might be the time to reconsider. You have no idea how much your efforts will mean to the patients you meet.

Clorox is committed to providing a gentle yet powerful clean, which is why they’ve partnered with Upworthy to promote those same traits in people, actions and ideas. Cleaning up and strength are important aspects of many of our social good stories. Check out the rest in the campaign to read more.

  • The San Diego River is fighting a battle against trash. This team is helping it win.
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    The San Diego River is fighting a battle against trash. This team is helping it win.

    There are many words you could use to describe the San Diego River: beautiful, vital, and majestic only scratch the surface. [rebelmouse-image 19502437 dam=”1″ original_size=”2016×1512″ caption=”All photos in this post courtesy of The San Diego River Park Foundation.” expand=1] If you’ve ever been to San Diego, you’ve likely heard some people refer to the river…

    There are many words you could use to describe the San Diego River: beautiful, vital, and majestic only scratch the surface.

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    If you’ve ever been to San Diego, you’ve likely heard some people refer to the river as an “emerald ribbon.” It’s 52 miles long and winds its way down some of the most vibrant vistas in southern California.


    Walking along the riverbank, you may see one of the hundreds of species of birds that live or migrate through the area including the black-chinned hummingbird, the California condor, and the golden eagle.

    On the ground, you might see a brush rabbit. Or come face-to-face with a grey fox. And, if you’re really having a good animal-spotting day, you may run across a mule deer. You’ll definitely brush by an abundance of vibrant plants.

    Unfortunately, you’ll also likely see trash.

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    While we all know that natural parks and waterways should be treated with respect and care, we still have a tendency to leave our litter without being mindful of it. And it often ends up polluting green spaces like The San Diego River.

    Some of this trash is storm debris that washes its way down explains Juan Salgado, a volunteer leader with The San Diego River Park Foundation.

    Other trash is carried into the river by the wind. But there’s another, less accidental reason trash accumulates in the water and on the riverbank: People toss their garbage from their car windows as they drive by the river. While they may not think much of it, the empty soda cans and chip containers build up, endangering the wildlife that depend on that river.

    It’s the reason Salgado spent over 175 hours last year volunteering with The SDRPF. “I saw the massive amounts of trash,” he says. He knew he had to do something about it.

    The San Diego River Park Foundation is on a mission to restore the river to its original glory. Its volunteers are making that mission a reality.

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    “The San Diego River Park Foundation engages the community to create a better future for our San Diego River,” says Ally Welborn, SDRPF’s Community Engagement Manager. “Our vision includes a 52-mile river-long system of parks, trails, and open spaces.”

    “The San Diego River Park Foundation has a vision of achieving a trash-free river.” This will not only make riparian habitats healthy for plants and animals, but also keep local green spaces beautiful and safe for people to relax and recreate in.”

    Volunteers are a vital part of this goal. To help keep the San Diego River trash-free, the organization appoints volunteers to scout ahead and find trash. Then, the SDRPF mobilizes volunteers to clean up the area. In 2018, they had 2,050 people helping with this work.

    “Between these two tasks, volunteers are out along the River at least four times per week,” says Welborn.

    “Some people come out two or more times a week to haul soggy cushions, dig buried bicycle wheels out of the ground, and load heavy trash bags.”

    And if you want to help the river without actually getting your hands dirty, you can do that, too. All the organization’s trash bags, trash pickers, gloves, and dumpsters come from donations from people who also want to see the river clean.

    The cleaning The SDRPF has done isn’t just important. It’s transformative.

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    At one point, there was so much trash in parts of the river that volunteers had to wade into it hip-deep. These areas now, Welborn says, are nearly trash-free.

    “The difference that dedicated volunteerism and directed enthusiasm can make is astounding!”

    For volunteers like Salgado, it’s rewarding to be able to see the amazing difference he’s made by helping de-trash.

    “It’s incredibly gratifying after three hours of digging through mud and dirt and lugging 40-50 pound bags of trash uphill, to look back on the space I just worked on and see nothing but the dirt, grass, and water that should be the only things there,” he says.

    “Our efforts have turned something that most people thought was an unlined storm drain into a beautiful bit of nature that runs directly through the center of a huge city.”

    Of course, that feeling of pride sometimes comes with a tinge of disappointment. The battle with trash is never-ending. But it can be won. It just requires all of our support.

    If you want to help keep nature clean, beautiful, and inhabitable, you absolutely can. It just takes commitment, and sometimes, getting a little dirty.

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    “The problem of trash in local green spaces is an ongoing issue,” Welborn says. “For anyone who’s interested in solving this problem, local organizations and dedicated volunteerism can make a real difference.”

    Getting involved is as easy as looking for cleanups in your local area. Or starting one yourself. If you do the latter, Welborn offers this piece of advice: Be prepared for the enthusiasm to be so infectious that you won’t be able to help coming back to continue working to make the green spaces pristine.

    “The atmosphere of a cleanup is so uplifting,” she says. “Everyone is working hard, collaborating, and cracking jokes. Once you come to one, you might get hooked!”

    Clorox believes clean has the power to transforms lives, which is why they’ve partnered with Upworthy to promote those same traits in people, actions and ideas. Cleaning up and transformation are important aspects of many of our social good stories. Check out the rest in the campaign to read more.

  • These men created a support group for fathers. They’re changing what it means to be a dad.
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    These men created a support group for fathers. They’re changing what it means to be a dad.

    Lance Somerfeld and Matt Schneider never meant to start a movement. They were just two dads taking care of their kids full-time. [rebelmouse-image 19534963 dam=”1″ original_size=”750×500″ caption=”Lance Somerfeld, his wife, Jessica, and their children, Jake and Jade. Photo courtesy of Lance Somerfeld.” expand=1] The two men met and became friends when they were public school…

    Lance Somerfeld and Matt Schneider never meant to start a movement. They were just two dads taking care of their kids full-time.

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    The two men met and became friends when they were public school teachers in The Bronx. While they’d already bonded over lesson plans, their love of their work and their students, soon Somerfeld and Schneider were bonding over something else: The fact that they’d become the primary caregivers to their children.


    “My wife works in insurance in corporate America,” says Somerfeld, who became a stay-at-home dad in 2008. “I had a position where I was teaching, and if I took a childcare leave of absence, I was still able to have a secure job waiting for me when I was ready to go back, which is a luxury and privilege these days.”

    “We really wanted one of the two of us to be home with our child,” he adds. “We really wanted to be present and have one of us be on the front lines those first couple of years.”

    Schneider, who became a stay-at-home dad three years earlier, had a similar story. He and his wife knew they would have to strike a balance to make their family work. So the couple decided that Schneider would stay at home while his wife continued her career in investment management.

    Though Somerfeld and Schneider loved taking care of their kids, they noticed something worrying — there wasn’t a lot of support for stay-at-home dads.

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    Traditional parental roles have changed a great deal in the past few decades. According to recent Pew research, more and more dads are seeing parenthood as a central part of their identity. They’re spending more time with their kids (the number of hours fathers devote to childcare has tripled since 1965), and doing what they can (consciously or not) to bust that old trope that dads are just “babysitters giving mom a day off.”

    The going, however, has been slow. While trends are moving towards more balanced parenting, there are still relatively few programs and support groups that target fathers. They were able to attend some of the mommy-centric groups, but they definitely felt some hesitation about them being there coming from the moms. And when you’re traversing scary new territory as a parent, lacking a truly welcoming group can be very isolating.

    In a world where parenting groups are still primarily geared towards women, Somerfeld and Schneider realized that they needed to shift the narrative to be more inclusive

    As primary caregivers, they needed a place where they could share their own experiences and get guidance from other fathers.

    So the dads started a meet-up group for other dads. They never imagined how quickly it would catch on.

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    The initial burst of inspiration came from Somerfeld, Schneider recalls. “He was very proactive in recognizing that there must be more dads than the two of us out there that were home. [Also] there must be other guys out there that may not be at-home dads, but are engaged in their kid’s life.”

    So Somerfeld and Schneider posted an invite to all Dads in New York City on Meetup — a website that helps people organize gatherings. The meet-ups were small at first. The dads went to the park, had playdates, and wandered through the Museum of Modern Art with their babies snuggly fastened in carriers and strollers.

    Then the group began to grow. Dads were taking their kids to the zoo en masse, meeting up for ball games, and letting their kids make friends as they forged new connections themselves.

    The activities were fun for the kids, but the camaraderie the dads shared can’t be understated. Soon the dads started planning activities that were just for fathers. They’d meet up for happy hour to talk about their biggest hurdles and accomplishments, exchange tips on how to navigate fatherhood and all that came with it, like essential laundry hacks, and lean on each other for emotional support and guidance.

    Today, that group is known as City Dads, and boasts 13,000 members across 37 cities. They’ve brought New Dad Bootcamps to New York City to help expectant and brand-new dads adjust to their new role (and probably learn more than a few dad jokes). They even have a blog and a podcast, all resources which Somerfeld and Schneider desperately wanted in 2008.

    But it’s not just about outings and meet-ups: they’re giving back to their community, too. Group members regularly get together to donate their time and resources to good causes. For example, City Dads has walked with The Preeclampsia Foundation to help raise awareness, and they’ve collected and sorted baby clothes for the Good+ Foundation, which fights to help families out of poverty.

    Most importantly, members spread the word: It doesn’t matter who you are — as long as you identify as a dad, you were welcome.

    City Dads is redefining what it means to be a dad. And that’s a wonderful thing.

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    The stereotypical image of the American father is now grossly outdated. While many dads work, the idea that fathers are only meant to be tough, stoic breadwinners is one that gets in the way of the truth: that fatherhood is also about being gentle, cooperative, sensitive, and supportive. And that truth is liberating for all parents. It allows for more balance and more equality in relationships.

    Groups like City Dads help dads explore their new identities and find their place in the world all while encouraging them to be vulnerable and real. And it’s obviously a welcome change, because each year more and more dads join City Dads and make connections that will last them a lifetime.

    Being stay-at-home dads gave Somerfeld and Schneider a whole new perspective on life. Getting to share in the big and small moments with their kids is something they wouldn’t trade for the world.

    “It’s the daily, small, wondrous moments that I get to be a part of every single day,” says Somerfeld. “The major milestones, are beautiful, but what’s lovely is the day in and day out. Jokes that I get to be a part of with my kids, the laughs and sometimes the cries that I get to go through with them, the failures of falls, of stitches, that I’m there to give them a kiss or a hug when they need it.”

    “That’s the most beautiful part of parenting for me. That’s something that keeps me plugging away. It keeps me in my role everyday.”

    Clorox is committed to providing a gentle yet powerful clean, which is why they’ve partnered with Upworthy to promote those same traits in people, actions and ideas. Cleaning up and strength are important aspects of many of our social good stories. Check out the rest in the campaign to read more.

  • Sprucing up your community doesn’t have to be complicated. Try these simple tips.
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    Sprucing up your community doesn’t have to be complicated. Try these simple tips.

    We all want to live in clean, well-kept communities—but sometimes humans make that difficult. Garbage happens when we’re not careful. The wind knocks over someone’s unsecured trash bin and the contents blow all over. Someone pulls keys out of their pocket and a gum wrapper falls out. Litterbugs toss fast food wrappers out of their…

    We all want to live in clean, well-kept communities—but sometimes humans make that difficult.

    Garbage happens when we’re not careful. The wind knocks over someone’s unsecured trash bin and the contents blow all over. Someone pulls keys out of their pocket and a gum wrapper falls out. Litterbugs toss fast food wrappers out of their car windows. Whether intentional or not, trash makes its way into gutters, bushes and waterways every day.

    No one likes to walk down the street and see garbage littering the ground or graffiti covering buildings. But it’s not just unsightly. According to Keeping America Beautiful, the largest litter study conducted in the U.S., litter abatement costs more than $11 billion dollars per year.


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    A dirty neighborhood also lowers perceived home values, affects quality of life and can even impact our health. However, something as simple as a community garden can totally revitalize a neighborhood. We all do better when our communities are taken care of.

    While municipalities are usually responsible for trash pickup and maintenance, we can all make a difference when it comes to keeping our communities clean. All it takes is a little cooperation, creativity and commitment.

    Organizing a community cleanup can be super simple, but also loads of fun.

    As a parent with three kids of drastically different ages, it’s often been a challenge to find volunteer work that we can do as a family. But the beautiful thing about a community cleanup is that people of all ages can participate and do a great job in the process.

    A cleanup can be as simple as going for a family walk through your neighborhood, and bringing a glove and a trash bag along with you. But if you want to go bigger, you can plan ahead and invite others to join you in an area of your town that needs some extra attention.

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    With community email lists such as NextDoor, putting out a cleanup call to your neighbors is easy. You can also make it a friends and family affair by combining a service project with a social gathering, like going out to dinner as a group to celebrate a job well done.

    1. Start with an organized plan of attack.

    To organize a trash pick-up, choose an area to tackle. Look around for areas where the wind blows garbage into bushes or ditches or along fence lines. Then, make sure everyone knows the who, what, where, when and how, which should include:

    • The date and possible rain date
    • Meeting location
    • Number of volunteers needed
    • Outline of the work you plan to complete by the end of the day
    • List of supplies you need people to bring
    • List of required permits or licenses you need to secure ahead of time
    • Post-event steps.

    Have everyone bring gloves (gardening or work gloves are more comfortable and less sweaty than plastic gloves) and two bags—one for trash, and one for recyclables. Once you’ve gathered at the agreed upon central location, make a plan of attack, sending teams of two or three to cover specific areas.

    2. Add an extra dose of fun by making your cleanup into a scavenger hunt.

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    Give each team a checklist and see who can find all of the items. There are common types of garbage you’ll find in almost any city or town. Include those things in your list, but add some unique trash items as well. A sample scavenger hunt list might look like this:

    • 10 Soda cans
    • 10 Glass bottles
    • Straw
    • Fast food bag
    • 5 Cigarette butts
    • Plastic lid
    • Candy wrapper
    • Plastic utensil
    • Something metal
    • Something purple
    • Something square, etc.

    3. Think beyond the trash can and look for other ways to beautify your community.

    While picking up garbage is a simple, straightforward way to make a difference, there are other methods of sprucing up a community that you can factor into your cleanup day.

    Take a look around your area. Are there abandoned buildings or lots that could be revitalized? Could they be used for something like a community playground or garden? Maybe you can approach your town officials about organizing a volunteer painting party for that run-down community center. What if you and your neighbors offered to pressure wash the graffiti off of walls? Is there a public space that could use some TLC?

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    The revitalization options in your neighborhood are only limited by your imagination.

    4. Have a plan for Debris Removal

    This is something you don’t want to have to figure out after the fact: you will need a way to get rid of the waste you collect at your community cleanup. Whether your volunteers are picking up debris, painting over graffiti or planting new flowers, you will have trash at the end of the day. Call your city government at least a month in advance and ask about options for scheduling a trash and recycling pickup. If you’re going for a waste cleanup record, consider renting a dumpster.

    Some dumpsters offer their services free of charge to qualifying events around the country. If you would like your community cleanup to be considered for a dumpster donation, fill out this request form.

    5. Keeping our communities clean is an ongoing effort.

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    Anyone who has engaged in a community cleanup project knows the joy of seeing an area looking pristine—as well as the disappointment in realizing that pristine doesn’t last. But that’s simply the nature of cleaning. Just as you have to clean your house regularly to keep it fresh and tidy, a neighborhood or town requires ongoing effort to keep it looking and feeling good.

    Everyone can participate by being helpful stewards of our public spaces. And when we rally others to join in these efforts, we can all share the satisfaction that comes with caring for our communities and seeing them at their best.

    Clorox is committed to providing a gentle yet powerful clean, which is why they’ve partnered with Upworthy to promote those same traits in people, actions and ideas. Cleaning up and strength are important aspects of many of our social good stories. Check out the rest in the campaign to read more.

  • When they saw students acting out, these educators brought ties to school. Here’s why.
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    When they saw students acting out, these educators brought ties to school. Here’s why.

    When teacher Kenneth Joyner and student support specialist Raymond Nelson III started working together they noticed something that worried them. [rebelmouse-image 19397440 dam=”1″ original_size=”750×550″ caption=”All photos courtesy of Boys With a Purpose.” expand=1] What they were seeing in the classroom at Memminger Elementary in South Carolina were kids “cutting the cord” between themselves and their…

    When teacher Kenneth Joyner and student support specialist Raymond Nelson III started working together they noticed something that worried them.

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    What they were seeing in the classroom at Memminger Elementary in South Carolina were kids “cutting the cord” between themselves and their teachers. They weren’t paying attention. They weren’t listening. Overall, there was simply a lack of respect and discipline amongst their young male students.


    In many cases, these kinds of discipline problems would be handled with detentions and suspensions. But Joyner and Nelson didn’t think that yelling or exclusion would solve any of these problems long-term.

    “When you go to my classroom, it says, ‘Connect, Inspire, Teach.’ That’s my philosophy. That’s what I live by,” says Joyner.

    These educators, who have had positive experiences with mentoring in the past, knew they could give the boys in their school a chance to become active participants in their education. So before the 2015 holidays, they decided they’d team up and get to work.

    On January 6th, 2016, Nelson and Joyner brought ties to school and offered them to any boy who might want one. It seems like a small gesture, but it made an impact.

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    The ties Nelson and Joyner brought in actually belonged to them. They were, the men recall, too big and too long for third, fourth and fifth graders. But that didn’t matter. The two men were helping kids put them on and teaching them the beginnings of a perfect knot.

    And the boys didn’t care that the ties didn’t fit or that colors clashed. They didn’t care that putting a tie over their regular clothes might look silly. All they cared about was that the ties helped them feel confident, more professional and more grown-up. The ties gave them an opportunity to see themselves differently than they had been before.

    “A lot of the boys in the school were maybe labeled as trouble makers, maybe labeled as not good kids, maybe labeled as not academically on par,” says Joyner.

    “People have to see themselves differently if they’re going to change. When they begin to see themselves differently, that’s when they begin to act differently.”

    Nelson and Joyner note that many kids get in trouble because of the perceptions and conditions of worth that have been placed upon them. If a kid gets a reputation for being a fighter, then that kid may have a harder time proving he’s more than that. Or say a kid works hard academically, but doesn’t feel intelligent because only kids who got 100% on their math tests are called “smart.” As a result, he may not make an effort to improve.

    With the ties, Nelson and Joyner wanted to send the kids an important message: You don’t have to fit into the narrow confines of the roles you may have been pushed into. You can clean up your act, soften your defenses, be both tough and vulnerable. If just putting on a tie made a decided difference, what happens if you adjust your whole image?

    Proud of this new confidence the boys were emanating, Nelson and Joyner posted pictures to Facebook. The response made it possible for their small act to become “Boys With a Purpose,” a full-fledged leadership program.

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    Within days of the photos going up on social media, Nelson, Joyner and the boys went viral. Soon, big names started calling. Eventually, Steve Harvey flew five of the boys out to be on his show.

    Many of them had never been on a plane, and they certainly hadn’t been on a TV show. It was another opportunity to see themselves differently; an opportunity to see the future they could have.

    When Nelson, Joyner and the boys returned to school, they were bombarded with donations. People sent ties, then shirts and pants to go with the ties. Nelson and Joyner even received full suits for the boys. This outpouring of generosity allowed the teachers to give clothing to any boy who needed or wanted it.

    Eventually they started an after-school program. Nelson and Joyner meet with the boys three afternoons a week, and on Thursdays, everyone dresses up.

    While there was initially a misconception about the program — that it was only for kids who didn’t have fathers or positive male role models in their life — Joyner notes that’s not the case.

    “Any young man who doesn’t have a positive male role model in his life, this program is for him,” says Joyner. “Any young man who does have a positive male role model in his life, this program is for him, because he needs to continue to grow, to learn, to instill those values in himself.”

    Today, Boys With a Purpose is giving more and more kids a chance at a limitless future.

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    The College of Charleston offered the group a place to meet on their campus, giving the boys yet another opportunity to see themselves differently: as future college students.

    Nelson and Joyner also regularly bring in lawyers, doctors and community leaders to inspire the boys. They’ve even started working with robotics and they’re learning how to code.

    “What I wanted to make sure that they understood is that everybody is not going to the NBA, NFL, and major league baseball,” says Joyner. “I’m happy if you do, but it may not happen, so in the meantime, I need you to work your academics. I need you to use every bit of your brain power that you can to focus. Not just to play video games, but to learn how to make video games.”

    Of course, the program still focuses on the basics — the boys learn about confidence, self-respect and respect for others. They learn social skills. They learn the importance of living life with integrity. As a result, many of the boys have improved their grades, improved the quality of their social connections and become leaders. Many of them are now role models for their siblings and other students.

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    These are the things, Nelson and Joyner say, that may take the boys even further than a degree — although, of course, they’re hoping that they get one of those, too.

    First, though, they hope that Boys With a Purpose’s mission catches on across the country, becoming a powerful, positive inspiration for many more sparkling bright futures.

    “We’re just hoping that we can get people to see the importance,” says Joyner. “Because [if] you start off with the boys at an early age, you can plant the seed early.”

    “That’s what we’re working on. Trying to plant the seed early, so when they get older, they can already have the tools necessary to be successful.”

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