32 hilarious, sad, perfect tweets that nail what small-town life is like for gay people.
1. As a gay person, growing up in a small town can have its downsides.
2. It's tough.
3. For starters, your gayness seems to be the one defining thing about you.
4. And it's even harder if there's something else that's "different" about you too.
Eternally relevant memo: LGBTQ people exist across all communities in every country on Earth (including small towns!).
5. You're constantly being asked "the question."
Not to mention its cousin: "You're still single?"
(*screams with rage into the abyss*)
6. If you're out and proud, you might be flaunting it like nobody's business...
7. ...until you remember that's not always safe, depending on where you are.
Image via tchaikovsgay/Tumblr.
"You know what’s great?" this Tumblr user captioned the photo above. "Putting some gay stickers on your car and promptly remembering Missouri hates gay people."
8. Spotting another gay couple out in the wild is always pretty exciting.
9. There's not a whole lot do to in town already — but there's even less to do than if you were straight.
10. A lot of the time, it can feel like the world is against you.
11. Being gay in a small town is almost like being famous. Almost.
12. Big family events can become needlessly complicated.
13. But you'll work hard to find pride in yourself wherever you are.
14. If you're out of the closet, your dating options can be ... limited at best.
15. And meeting other people on dating apps is exponentially more challenging.
16. Like, really challenging.
Image via mywickedway/Twitter.
*yells into megaphone* "Is anybody out there?"
17. Because the dating struggle is real when you're a small-town gay in need of some serious gas money.
18. Even finding like-minded friends can be hard.
19. You definitely know what it's like to crush on someone who doesn't return the feelings.
20. And you look for signs that you'll be accepted wherever you go.
Literally any sign will do.
21. Like, even this poster for a scary movie about clowns is a fierce artistic inspiration to a small town gay.
22. Sometimes it feels like those scary movie monsters are the only ones that get you, actually.
Which, yes, is very sad. Do better, Hollywood.
23. Your neighbors likely disagree with your political viewpoints.
24. If more of us felt supported in small towns, there would be no bounds to the good we could do politically.
25. Maybe the most difficult thing about being gay in a small town is the feeling that no one truly understands you.
26. But here's the thing: Sometimes your small town might surprise you in the best ways.
27. Even in small-town Middle America, there are places that will love and accept you.
28. Being able to connect with pop culture outside your town definitely helps a lot, though.
29. And thank goodness for the rebellious teachers who give you the courage to be who you are.
30. Not to mention those life-changing art and drama classes where you found safety and comfort.
31. Because for all their flaws (and there are many), small towns don't always deserve their reputations.
They can be pretty damn great.
32. Hopeful even.
Image via Tumblr user Mo-Mosa/Tumblr.
"You guys know what I just realized? Despite living in a Republican small town, I — a queer, Native-Afro-Latina — was voted Homecoming Queen in the fall and class president of my senior class. I was also one of the leads in my school's musical. Three years ago, I thought I'd never be accepted and that I'd never have friends. I was scared to speak up and scared of being seen. There is hope, y'all. Things get better."
— Tumblr user Mo-Mosa
🏳️🌈 Positive change can't come soon enough. 🏳️🌈
Fortunately, there are many organizations fighting the good fight with state and local chapters in your own backyard, should you want the support:
- PFLAG is a nonprofit committed to strengthening the bonds between LGBTQ people, their families, and allies in their communities. Its work is crucial in smaller cities and towns across America.
- The Trevor Project is an LGBTQ youth suicide prevention group helping kids who feel as though they have no one to turn to. They save lives in small towns.
- GLSEN is a national organization aiming to make schools across the country as LGBTQ-friendly and inclusive as possible. Because our small-town schools (and all of our schools, really) need improving.
- The Genders and Sexualities Alliance (formerly the Gay-Straight Alliance) brings LGBTQ students and their straight, cisgender peers together to build bridges and understanding.
This post was updated 12/14/2017.