Ellen Page Discusses Her Coming-Out Experience With Ellen DeGeneres In A Remarkable Segment

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In early 2014, Ellen Page came out to the world during an inspiring speech for the Human Rights Campaign. A couple of months later, she visited another awesome Ellen to discuss the experience and how her life has changed since her speech.

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Ellen Degeneres: I saw you at Guy's party, after the Oscars and we spoke for a little while.

Ellen Page Yeah.

Ellen Degeneres: And I was congratulating you because I am so proud of you for coming out. And I am happy for you. I know what a scary thing that is. Your speech was incredible. I just thought it was the most brilliantly written speech.

Ellen Page Thanks.

Ellen Degeneres: I want to show a little tiny bit of it right now.

Ellen Page Here I am. An actress representing at least in some sense an industry that places crushing standards on all of us. Standards that, I hate to admit, have affected me. And I am here today, because I am gay. And because...

Ellen Degeneres: I know how scary that is. Do you still get emotional?

Ellen Page Yeah.

Ellen Degeneres: I can see that you're emotional just watching that. I was like that for a couple years after I came out. It's a scary thing to verbalize. To say it out loud. How nervous were you?

Ellen Page The most nervous I've ever been in my life, for sure. I think my biggest fear of doing it was even just having a panic attack, quite frankly. But I was just so ready to do it and, quite frankly, so excited to do it, so it was a combination of just such thrill to finally be at that place in my life where I was able to do that, and grateful to have that moment, and grateful to you, because you did it at a time when it was much harder and much scarier.

Ellen Degeneres: It doesn't feel like it at the time, but it's a very selfish thing to do. It really is just the most... I could speak forever on it. But how do you feel since you've done it?

Ellen Page You know, I knew I would be a happier person. I knew that I was going to feel better. And I did not anticipate just how happy I would feel and just every aspect of my life... Just an ease and a comfort. It's really been quite extraordinary to feel just the shift. It was pretty much overnight, too.

Ellen Degeneres: Yeah. It is, because you're releasing shame.

Ellen Page Yes.

Ellen Degeneres: And anyone, it doesn't matter what it is, what you're carrying around that's your secret. Everyone has something that you're carrying around that you're ashamed of. And to carry shame around is a-, first of all, it causes disease... It's a horrible thing to be ashamed of yourself.

Ellen Page Yes, it's toxic. And I think we've talked about this a bit where you think you're at a place where you're like, "Oh, I'm happy to be gay. I'm so comfortable being gay. I love being gay." And honestly, it wasn't until making that choice and doing that where I realized like, no, I was carrying around a tremendous amount of shame and guilt for not being out and I felt isolated from the LGBT community. And now I don't.

Ellen Degeneres: Yeah. I think you seem more relaxed and I think there's something about just not having to worry about somebody catching you in a lie. I know what that's like when you're on a show and you just feel like you're just waiting for someone to go, "You're gay!"

Ellen Page Yeah!

Ellen Degeneres: "I know you are!"

Ellen Page Yeah. Yes, absolutely. It's so nice just to be at work and talk about an ex or get to wear what you want and not have a conversation about it and to feel like you're being yourself and then connect with people in the world. It's so nice to have people come up to me and tell me their story or say, "Hey, I'm closeted. Do you have advice?" You know, those are really beautiful moments to get to share with people.

Ellen Degeneres: Yeah, and to know that you're another face that someone has hope for, because there are a lot of teenagers out there, you talked about in your speech, that are getting bullied every single day or taking their own lives because they can't handle it. And, so, it's a really cool thing.

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Ellen DeGeneres and Ellen Page are two completely amazing people. This clip is from "The Ellen DeGeneres Show," but I first saw it on The Mary Sue. Did you miss the video of Ellen Page coming out in her Human Rights Campaign speech? Well then get on over here and watch it!

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