We don't always know what someone is going through.
Because we don't know what's happening with others, we can sometimes make remarks that are out of place. That's OK. It happens. We just need to remember that things aren't always as they seem.
Enter humor.
This PSA makes a great point about how things appear versus how they are. It starts off funny. The teacher is annoyed with the student. Another student chimes in with a snide remark.
The student cracks a joke.
The teacher responds.
And the student makes a joke at the teacher's expense.
And for the finale: the truth.
But then it gets real. And this is what I meant when I said things aren't always as they appear. The message is strong and important.
"The attitudes people have towards those of us with mental health problems mean it is harder for them to work, make friends and in short, live a normal life.
People become isolated
They are excluded from everyday activities
It is harder to get or keep a job
People can be reluctant to seek help, which makes recovery slower and more difficult
Their physical health is affected
Many people say that being discriminated against in work and social situations can be a bigger burden than the illness itself."
It really is time for change. If you know someone struggling with a mental health disorder, be a source of support if you're able. If you're struggling, there's help. If you're in the U.S., visit MentalHealth.gov.
In 2005 at only 18 years old, Russian rhythmic gymnast Svetlana Putintseva became a world champion, after which she retired and eventually became a mom. Then, in 2011, Putintseva came out of retirement for one special Gala performance.
Little did anyone know that her then two-year-old daughter named Masha would be the key to making that performance so special.
As the story goes, the young child refused to leave her side that night. But rather than stopping the performance, Putintseva did what so many incredible moms do: she masterfully held space for two different identities.
As we see in the video below, Putintseva simply brought Masha onto the dance floor and incorporated her into the routine—holding and comforting her at times, performing impressive moves while she ran around at others…letting it all become a lively, endearing interaction rather than a rote routine. It became something really touching:
Now, a bit of fact-checking as this video has once again started going viral. Despite what many captions say, Putintseva‘s daughter was likely always a planned part of the performance (the tiny leotard is a bit of a giveaway). But that doesn’t really take away from the message behind it: motherhood weaves another soul into one's identity, forever. And one of the biggest lessons it teaches is how to hold someone else steady, all while becoming ourselves.
Every day, moms are engaging in a similar type of “dance”: navigating through the world while guiding and nurturing their little ones. It probably doesn't always feel quite as graceful as what Putintseva put out, and, yet, it is just as beautiful.
Maybe so many thought it was an improvised moment because improvising is a very real parent superpower. That’s certainly the takeaway we get from some of these lovely comments:
“You cannot control life but you can learn to dance with it. 🤍”
"This is beyond beautiful. 🥲"
“If this isn't a metaphor for motherhood. We improvise so much.”
“A mother’s unconditional love 🥹❤️ She just made my whole month.”
“I do this sometimes while deejaying. My daughter comes up so I hit the slicer and let her chop it up. A few chops and she is happy and goes about her business. 🥰”
“I can see my daughter doing this to me soon whenever I get up on stage on perform. She already stares long and hard at me whenever I am onnstage singing. She doesn't take her eyes off me. Sure she would be running up to stand with me when she starts walking 😂😂 i look forward to it tho”
“Sobbing 😭😭😭😭 As a dancer who hasn’t performed since having a kid, this inspires me in so many ways 🥹🥹 So beautiful and it’s clear that she admires her mom so much 🥰”
Though not much is written on Putintseva following this performance, one blog post says that Masha has followed in her footsteps by getting into rhythmic gymnastics. Maybe it all started with this one performance. ❤️
Harry Houdini and Annie Oakley are two examples of metaphors inspired by historically famous people.
People become famous for a gamut of reasons—unforgettable appearances, feats of heroism, good (and bad) reputations. Some simply lived iconic lives that cannot be copied.
So, it's no surprise that historically famous people who have lived extraordinary lives have become the source for many metaphors. Merriam Websterdefines a metaphor as "a figure of speech in which a word or phrase literally denoting one kind of object or idea is used in place of another to suggest a likeness or analogy between them (as in swimming in paperwork)."
And although they're no longer with us, their memories continue to live on in daily conversations. On Reddit, people shared their favorite metaphors inspired by historically famous people. These are 15 of the most intriguing.
"Yeah, she thinks she’s Marilyn Monroe (a sexy woman)." - Bo-Jacks-Son
Evel Knievel
"He’s a regular Evel Knievel (a daredevil)." - Bo-Jacks-Son
John Hancock
"John Hancock - Associated with your signature. Yes, just for people who don't know, on the Declaration of Independence, John Hancock's signature is the largest and very central, and everybody else's is smaller and somewhat squeezed in. He signed it first, or at least early, before it became clear how much room people would have. So sometimes a signature is referred to as a John Hancock--like 'Put your John Hancock right there!'" - GabbyWic, Effective_Pear4760
Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers
"I think Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers are often mentioned (in the US anyway) when you're trying to say someone's a great dancer." - Effective_Pear4760
"Keeping up with the Joneses. 'There was an actual Jones family who built a 7,690-square-foot mansion in Rhinebeck, New York, a summer vacation spot for well-heeled, wealthy families from New York City. Elizabeth Schermerhorn Jones commissioned the formidable brick-and-slate structure in 1853...'." - BabySlothDrivingFast
Saint Thomas
"A Doubting Thomas is named after the apostle who doubted Jesus." - ThimbleBluff
Judas Iscariot
"Judas, the apostle who betrayed Jesus. His name has become a synonym for reviled traitor." - NonspecificGravity
Albert Einstein
"Einstein has become a synonym for genius, often used ironically. When your roommate burns popcorn in the microwave, you might yell 'Hey, Einstein!'" - NonspecificGravity
Albert Einstein's name is often used as a metaphor.Image via Wikimedia Commons
Queen of Sheba
"This is an old one but any time a woman was feeling herself, my grandma (who was born in 1912) used to say, 'she thinks she’s Queen of Sheba'. The Queen of Sheba is based on a scriptural character (both Jewish and Christian, also Islamic) character who visited King Solomon because she heard he was so amazing she had to meet him and test his knowledge. She brought tons of gold, spices, etc. They established trade routes and other political alliances. She is known as a very powerful and wealthy ruler. The phrase your grandmother (and many other women) used is an insult, as if the subject was overly glitzy, even fake. I think that's sad, because he Queen of Sheba was the Bible's most powerful women. I'd be happy to be referenced as a Queen of Sheba!" - Optimal_Management_7, pioneercynthia
Bonnie and Clyde
"Some of our American gangsters fit here…Bonnie and Clyde to describe any modern crime duo." - Optimal_Title3359
Vidkun Quizling
"Calling someone a quizling. Named after Vidkun Quisling who was a Norwegian Minister and Nazi collaborator during WW2. It's come to mean a citizen or politician of an occupied country who collaborates with an enemy occupying force; it may also be used more generally as a synonym for traitor or collaborator." - cleanrato
Beyond the epic CDs and cartoons, the '90s were also defined by specific scents. Gen Xers and Millennials on Reddit recently discussed the nostalgic smells of the decade—from specific foods like banana-flavored Runts to the distinct scent of roller-rink carpet and classic Bath & Body Works fragrances. Here's what they had to say:
‘90s bath & body works scents WITH the ‘90s label 🥹 the nostalgia hit so hard and I’m so happy #90s #bathandbodyworks
"Cigarettes and this [roller rink] carpet….Ahhhhh memories." - Battlerapschef
"And teen spirit." - UbermachoGuy
"5 year old Runts in the quarter vending machine. Banana." - 9829eisB09E83C
"Cucumber Melon and Camel Lights." - Heatherjjjjjjjj
"This nasty [Glad Country Garden] potpourri spray. I can hear the very specific sound that spray made with its thick *ss pressed button. CHSHHHHH." - abby-rose, Constant-Net-4652, D4FF00
"[Victoria's Secret] Love Spell." - a_solid_6
" McDonald's happy meal toys had a certain smell that I can remember to this day. Probably poison." - ogmoss
"CK one everywhere." - snn1326j
"Clove cigarettes and espresso. Especially for goths." - Lost_Balloon_, Vesper2000
"Let's not forget Drakkar Noir." - Technical-Donut-7354
"Electronics. The smell of cathode ray monitors and TVs, Blockbuster VHS tape boxes, the inside of Nintendo cartridges when you blew the dust out, etc." - oceanicwhitetip
"Fresh vinyl from blowup furniture." - Asterclad
"Herbal Essence." - barcham22
"The 90's had a number of unique smells. Especially if you were a kid. Lots of toys had these weird off gassing smells, like the creepy crawlers set. Sort of a sweet plastic smell. We also had the blessing of grandparents old Christmas decorations that smelled different from the stuff manufactured overseas today. The things our grandparents stored were probably slightly toxic but had a very, very nostalgic energy to them. You could almost smell the past." - TrillDough
"Like dew evaporating off the pavement." - zekerthedog
"Nautica, Cool Water, Hugo Boss, Curve and Polo Sport." - GurrenLagann214
"Apple shampoo, mall food courts, and movie theater popcorn." - thatmattschultz
The smells of our childhood 🥰 #90s #2000s #millennial #nostalgia
"Elizabeth Arden Sunflowers or Gap Grass." - Apprehensive-Stay196
"The smell from traffic…inescapable. Before catalytic converters were regulated you could smell transportation on you. Go stand in a busy covered parking garage and you will get a hint of what the cities smelled like." - h1storyguy
"LEMON PLEDGE!!!!!" - BlackDynamite58990
"I remember many girls almost choking us with their vanilla perfume. God it was sickening." - fettoter84
"Little incense candles inside incense warmers. Bong hits filtered thru a shampoo bottle stuffed with dryer sheets. Ralph Lauren Polo. JOOP! Any cologne/perfume sample from a magazine. Marlboro Lights. Empty Busch Light cans. And the sweet sweet smell of slacking..." - Live_Past_8978
"The inside spine of a plastic VHS tape cover." - canoe4you
"Wet JNCO's and wet barefoot sandals with a mix of Polo or Pear Berry Splash and cigarette smoke." - xxMalVeauXxx
"Fruitopia." - No_Tart686
"Go into a old school bowling alley and that's exactly what 90's smelled like." - ItsBal707
"And Extra chewing gum." - Ill-Emu-1121
"Sbarro pizza in a mall. That weird smell of water from a hose in the heat. Sunblock. The smell of a new Gameboy game." - Eris_Balm
Not all dogs are created equal. Some don't get the best start in life and end up in situations where they need rescuing. That was the case for an elderly golden retriever named Duke, who had been returned to a rescue so many times that he was nearly labeled unadoptable. His "bad dog" reputation wasn't due to aggression or destructive behavior. Instead, some might say Duke simply has sticky paws.
The golden retriever is something of a canine kleptomaniac, constantly stealing objects from around the house only to put them in his dog bed. He's not eating them, burying them, or even playing with them. Duke is a collector of sorts, a trait his previous owners couldn't get used to. But his current owner, Cathy Hoyt, understands the pup's strange behavior and rolls with it.
According to Hoyt, the sweet rescue originally came from a home with domestic violence, which likely left Duke with lasting trauma. Dogs, like humans, can be affected by trauma in ways that surface through behaviors others may find confusing. While some dogs become skittish, aggressive, or have accidents when they are nervous, others engage in resource guarding, as Duke does. Although resource guarding typically involves food, the behavior this elderly golden retriever displays is still classified as such.
Duke doesn't steal sandwiches or other edible items. Instead, the pooch absconds with household objects that make little logical sense for a dog to want.
"Duke has very severe resource guarding," Hoyt tells GeoBeats. "Most dogs have it with food, but Duke does not have it with food. He has it with the items he steals. Household items."
In clips shown in a video by GeoBeats, Duke can be seen trotting away with his dad's pants before the footage cuts to him carrying something else. Hoyt explains:
"He steals electronics, my Kindle, my phone, laptops. He has stolen a lamp, framed poster art, a cooler. He took a teapot. He took creamer, a sugar bowl. Just the oddest items. He just places them on his bed. He guards them. We've spoken to professionals about this, but because of his age, it's very difficult to reverse."
There isn't much Duke's new parents can do to reverse a behavior that has likely been with him for most of his life. Thankfully, the Hoyts understand his condition and meet him with patience. They don't punish him for snagging things that aren't his, nor do they try to force him to give the items up. Instead, Hoyt says they simply wait until Duke is ready to allow them to retrieve the item from his bed.
"So we give him space. He will just have them around him, especially the household items. He just takes such comfort in them. It's really remarkable," Hoyt shares.
Hoyt says that while some people have suggested Duke's item collecting could be a sign of canine dementia, she insists his behavior is intentional. Duke isn't confused. Hoyt believes that after leaving behind so many people and belongings throughout his life, he has developed what she calls a "hoarding personality." By collecting items around the house, even ones that make no sense to anyone else, Duke creates a sense of safety and security for himself.
"We'll never really know, but he's happy doing it, so we let him do it," Hoyt exclaims.
People who've watched the video can't get enough of Duke's bizarrely sweet behavior.
One person gushes, "Poor Duke. Sweet boy. He's an emotional hoarder. Poor guy. I'm so grateful he's found acceptance and safety with you. Thank you for not allowing him to be abandoned once again!"
Someone else shares, "He is seeking stability. These things represent you and he's trying to keep you. Poor old fella. So happy you are kind. Let him have this. Very loving."
One woman points out Hoyt's calming voice, writing, "I've seen a few videos of this dog. I love how mom speaks to him with such a kind, soft voice all the time even when he's taking something she really doesn't want him to have. Her tone of voice never communicates anger…perhaps bewilderment at times but never anger. Great mom!"
The study spanned five years as PhD student, Hannah Salomons and the rest of the Duke team partnered with a national service dog organization, Canine Companions. They were joined by other organizations to assess the cognitive abilities of puppies from eight weeks to 20 weeks of age. The puppies were tested every two weeks until they hit the age threshold of 20 weeks.
All 100 puppies involved in the study were golden retrievers and golden retriever mixes. The team of scientists set out to discover how dog intelligence was developed. They wanted to know whether abilities were developed in different chunks or if they developed together as general intelligence. The results were fascinating to the team. Salomons tells Duke Today, “There hasn't really been a study of this size at this fine scale of detail done on puppy cognitive development before. It was a big undertaking."
Training time: Puppies learning tricks with their trainer.Photo credit: Canva
What they found is that dogs have an ability to "read minds"—or anticipate what a command will be. This cooperative communication skill develops remarkably early, much earlier than anticipated by those completing the study. Duke Today writes, "Skills such as understanding simple human gestures emerged early, alongside basic skills like working memory." Turns out that this communication skill is unique to dog puppies. Salomons explains to the school's digital outlet that wolf puppies do not display this level of understanding of cooperative communication with humans at such a young age.
"Molly is exceptionally intelligent. She picks up on everything, and she doesn't forget," Jamie Tan tells WBZ News Boston, an affiliate of CBS, about her one-year-old rescue dog. "She's very emotionally intelligent."
In the news segment, they show how the puppies participated in the study, explaining that the dogs had to find treats with only non-verbal cues.
One puppy fell asleep on the job, still inside the clear tube with a treat right in front of his nose. Being a puppy is hard work, especially when they are essentially expected to read minds to find a piece of kibble.
Salomons explains to WBZ News Boston, "They are really tuned in to our communication, and they are prepared to look to us for information. We tested how they look to humans and make eye contact to maybe make a connection or ask for help."
According to the scientists who conducted the study, there's no need to do anything extra to apply this new information. The puppies in the study that were exposed to hundreds of students and staff on any given day at Duke University displayed the same level of socialization skills as a puppy raised within a family unit.
"You're enough for your dog, and giving them a nice, loving home is going to help them develop really well, and [that] your dog is looking to you for information," Salomons shares with the news outlet.